Maybe not sexual harrassment, but certainly

• What would you do? Sexual Harassment?- - violated
  • personally i wouldn't have thought twice about it... but - Deb
    • OMG, are you sure that's not the same store? - sm
  • Not to digress, but I thought stores never - refunds on bras. I'm surprised. nm
  • No biggie. - clhmt
  • Totally inappropriate, but I think I would probably ignore it. - nm
  • To violated - I mt
    • Yes this is getting out of hand.... - OP
      • I agree with you... - l
        • THank you for taking the time to see that my intentions were good ones...I - OP
  • You are totally correct and it was inappropriate. - sm
  • harrassment - mt
  • No, definitely not -- if this had been a woman - sm - XXX
    • Excuse me...didn't he say I thought you were pretty?!? - sm
      • Actually no MAN would have said that - she's embellishing the story a tad - c'mon now
    • Thanks for your input too.....I - OP
    • Normal question but odd to leave own customers to come ask about a person's bra! - me - see msg
  • This is sooooooooooooo not a big deal! - He was just being friendly.
    • Finally - a voice of reason in the wilderness! - Thank you!
    • Thanks for your comment- I am just checking to see if others thought it was 'more' than it sho - OP
  • Not - nn
    • Maybe not sexual harrassment, but certainly - Wannie
      • I would - nn
      • I have.. - l
        • Yeah but did you say to the guys, "Hey *handsome*....did you find the right size?" lol - nm
          • No, but I did call them "Hun, Sweetie, dahling suga pie" - l
  • I personally don't consider this harassment - sm
    • Additional details to consider ........ - OP
      • I can't believe you would waste a minute of time obsessing about this. - Please grow up.
    • I think someone liked the attention - IMO
      • And I think someone is jealous, what's wrong, no male attention for you? lol - sm
        • Hardly the case, Princess. I don't need to imagine that men are checking me out. - and then need to tell strangers about my vivid ima
          • Imagine that men are checking me out? Hardley the case! Starved for attention? Nope just asking a qu - OP
          • You hit a nerve?...that's hysterical! Surely I did! - nm
            • Ah, I get it - let's play WHO GETS THE LAST WORD! - okay, here's my posting- YOUR TURN!
      • Looking for inappropriate comments? I don't think so! (sm) - OP
        • Are you hoping to milk a sexual harrassment lawsuit out of this? - What exactly do you want?
        • "Did you find one that fit" is inappropriate? I don't think so. - nice try though
          • That's what I am looking for- opinions from others. Thank you for your comment. - OP
            • Obviously some people didn't read *or get* the whole post about the followup phone call ;) - nm
              • Obviously some people have enough substance in their lives to see that this is a drama queen looking - IMO
                • Drama Queen- for asking a question that... - OP
                • No wonder people say most MTs are not too bright.... - sm
                  • ''people'' say... - sm
                    • Sooooo wrong, but nice try...you have no idea who I am. LOL - nm
                  • Catty, immature, bored women like yourself are exactly the reason. - I agree
                    • Just speaking the facts, ma'am, ;) - nm
                      • Okay, here's my posting! Go ahead and post your LAST WORD! - You predictable little thang you! LOL
                        • nope....LOL - nm
                          • Your turn - yep!
  • my 2 cents - V
  • If it were me....sm - Georgia gal
  • Foot-in-mouth-disease - l
  • I think I would let it go too - melissa
    • Thank you for your replies.... - OP
  • Personally, I would let it ride. Cost a man his job and reputation for a lifetime over this? - Nahh, I don't think so
    • I have to respectfully disagree with you on this. If it - Wannie
      • ok and if the man loses his livelihood over it....R U - ready for the repercussions from that????...sm
        • We'll just have to agree to disagree on this. I still - Wannie
        • yeah, there's a term for revenge of this kind-it's - called *going postal*.......n/m

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I need opinions on an extremely akward thing that just happened to me while at the store.......I think a store employee made a comment to me that is classified as sexual harassment. I feel sick over the whole thing. Please help me figure this out as I need some good advice right now.

To make a very long, ackward story short.......My 2 children finally went to sleep this evening and hubby was watching football. I needed a few things at the store so I decided to run out. (Hubby is never happy about late night shopping adventures because of the crazy world we live in, but he knows that I enjoy the quiet time so he tries to not worry much.) Anyways, I went to a very popular department store (open 24-hours and is still very busy no matter what hour) and I returned a bra that did not fit me at the service desk. The mid-twenties young man seemed normal and returned my money to me without any problems. I then shopped and decided I was ready to go, so I took my purchases to the regular check-out counter where a young lady checked me out. Then this young man (an employee) walked over to me and said "hey, did you find one that fits?" I was a little confused at first and I looked at him like I didn't know what he was talking about. He then proceded to say "the service desk, your return..." OH- This guy was the one who was behind the service desk when I made the bra return. Why in the world is this weirdo worried about whether or not I was able to find a bra that fits. (I am probably close to the same age as this guy, I am well-endowed, yet I do not flaunt it. Even if I was wearing a low-cut shirt (which I was not) I feel very strongly about the fact that it was inappropriate for him to be asking a question pertaining to my breasts! Please correct me if I am wrong for thinking this way!!!!????)

I walked out of there feeling pretty sick about that comment. I sat down in my car for a second and decided that I should probably report it. I called and asked to speak to the manager on duty and this guy said that he was an assistant manager. I explained the situation to him and explained to him that I did not have the name of the guy but I could semi-describe him and this guy started sounding very shakey and said "I am very sorry ma'am, I am the one who said that. I think you are pretty and maybe I was being over friendly to you. I can take care of this issue for you. I am very sorry I said that. I don't want to get in trouble. I will take down your information." I said "No, that is okay. I would prefer to give that infomation to the Store Manager tomorrow when I call back to discuss this incident with her/him." I cannot believe this guy actually thought I would leave further details with him! Like he would really forward them to the appropriate person and get himself in trouble!  

So, I need advice about this. Hubby was sound asleep when I got home and I'm going to wait til tomorrow to tell him as I am sure that he would go out there tonight to "talk" to the guy! I will try to wait to tell him anyways, it is really kinda bothering me and I feel like I need his comfort.

My hope is that someone on here might have some advice. Hopefully your advice and understanding will give me the answers and comfort that I need tonight so that I can get over this ackward feeling until I can atleast talk to hubby about it and contact the store manager about it.

Thanks so much. :)