Maybe if she sees the baby, she'll decide not to have it sucked out of her and thrown away like t
Posted By: deb on 2007-03-27
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Changes of a Down syndrome baby go up with age, though. You'll need to decide if an amnio & its
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How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now. He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now (when i say now, we would wait until after marriage). He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
and neither one every sucked their thumb though - sm
my youngest (7) does now in times of stress and when she is upset, started this about a year ago; luckily does not do it much though (once a month maybe) so I don't think it will ever become a habit for her. Both my kids will probably need braces just due to some slight crooked teeth on the one, and my other is missing 2 teeth (the ones on either side of her top front teeth) so there is a gap between the front teeth and the canines, she looks like a little vampire. I know 8-y/o that are getting braces now but I think that is too soon as the 12-y/o molars will probably just screw up the alignment all over again and they will have to have braces twice (my neighbor's kid will have them 2 x but she already well aware of this). What a racket the dentists have going now.
Anyone thrown in the towel?
Has anyone here who has run a successful business thought about -- or already has -- closed the doors after hitting too many rough spots?
I'm talking about people like me who pay rent, pay lawyers, pay staffers, pay freelancers, pay... well, pay everyone first and pay yourself last.
If you think you get paid first as a business owner, please don't reply.
I want to hear from people who have lost too many accounts, been sued, partners or employees stole from you, rents too high, revenue too low, getting too old, etc.
I'd like to hear what would push you over the edge to quit, or if you have quit, I'd like to know what you're doing now and how you feel about "working for someone else". Yes, I know you're always working for someone else.
But now you don't have to pay the bills, fix the computers, put up with childish and inexperienced workers, non-paying clients, etc.
Yes, as you can tell, I'm thinking about calling it quits and taking the easy way out: taking a staff job with benefits.
He sucked on Dancing w/the Stars, too.
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And you can get thrown off this board for just what you said a minute ago
that being correcting me about how I structured a sentence. I was talking about a situation outside of this board and outside of work this morning and you are calling someone to task about my being rude? In a nice way I can correct and usually do. I can see where your name comes from.
I have thrown in the towel with kids, grandchildren
Know this sounds harsh but I just got tired of trying. I am the kid's paternal grandmother and never came close to the love and affection they showered on their maternal one even though I tried and tried. They were taken as small infants mostly to her home and I came in a far second even though we lived close by one another. They are now 16 and 18 and I rarely see or talk with them and I have a wonderful life and it really doesn't bother me anymore like it once did. Such are the facts of life. My son (their father) apparently was engulfed by the other side and did not stand up for me. That is life. I just wish them well.
Mine was on my wedding night and it sucked.
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I got sucked in too! This thread is dominanting almost this whole page!
It really disturbs me too. If the son is such a good kid, why is it so important that he gives his key back? It's all very disturbing to me. I need to stop reading a lot of these huge threads! LOL!
Ladies, just a joke, some humor thrown into a mostly unfulfilling job we do
I thought we were all adults here. I know others have experienced similar things and if I offended you, then I apologize. I find nothing that I posted risque and things I have seen on here much more unprofessional than this. Such simple things as hanging clothing out on clothes lines wind up in people being uncivil to others. If the moderator finds it offensive, then they can take it down. I have no problem with what I said and sorry if you do. Life happens and this was just things I thought of in mine.
3 movie must sees...sm
The Great Debaters (Denzel Washington), Bucket List (Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson) and I Am Legend (Will Smith). I'd like to see your reviews.  Cat
The Boy Who Sees Through Sound
Its on TLC and repeating right now about a 14-yera-old who lost his sight to cancer at a young age, but he "clicks his tongue and can see" its AWESOME and if you get a chance to see it on repeat, I recommend it
I am so glad that someone sees this
besides me - my SIL had the nerve to call me selfish - like he has any idea how much I gave up for DD before he came along. Right now I am waiting for an apology from him before I do anything else. This was over me not being at a baby shower his mother was giving because I have to work.
Am I only the one who sees it differently?
I think your daughter has every right to be upset. You just took in a stranger (and let's face it, he's an adult) and took away your daughter's friend. Is this 18-yo working or still in high school? Did his parents ask you to house him or did he move in because he didn't want to go with his parents?
If this 18-yo is working and didn't go with his parents because he didn't want to live with them, then he should be adult-enough to stand on his own two feet. Your daughter comes first. At 16, I had girlfriends staying over almost every weekend. Why should she have to give up her "childhood" because of this stranger. Perhaps this 18-yo can visit his parents on the weekend, so your daughter can have her friends over.
As an aside, if this 18-yo continues to stay there, then you should sit both the 16-yo BF and the 18-yo down for a long talk. It's obvious his parents aren't doing their job and they've just left it to you. I think there's more to this story then we're getting here (and I don't mean that to be rude). It's very noble that you would take this 18-yo in, but you need to remember that your family comes first. Good luck to you!
He probably sees his reflection and is
defending his territory from the "other" bird.
Love my feathered friends. What kind of woodpecker, do you know?
I have a psych doc who sees a lot of kids...sm
with encopresis. He *insists* that we type poop, pooped, pooping, etc. I just love typing things like: "The patient has not pooped his pants since the last visit."
Makes me feel soooo professional.  (Not!)
Right?! It's like what the last thing a mouse sees.
 14 pounds eh? She's just big boned! Those vet bills are killer, aren't they?! Our boy, Norman, the MaineCoon look-alike who went missing, twice had crystals or ash in his urine that required 2 emergency vet visits and catheterization or else his bladder would have ruptured. Those bills combined were over $800...and the darned cat was a STRAY we picked out of the dumpster of the apartment building we were living in at the time. Nosiree...ain't nuthin' for free I tell ya! They are so worth it though and I really do think they appreciate all that we do for them.
My sister sees a chiropractor and
the main reason she has to see him is that she sleeps with her arm over her head! He suggested she stop doing that, but she said it was the only way she could sleep. He said, "Okay, but it sure is making me money!"
I also remember a friend who would aften wake up with bruised knuckles and she didn't know why. She finally woke herself up in the middle of the night after she threw her hand over her head (again!) and cracked the headboard with her knuckles.
You might consider sewing cloth straps to your jammies, both the hem of the top and the long sleeve wrist fabric. Then you could tie them together before going to bed. At least with one arm. :o>
Very well put. I loved the movie and I'm sure anyone who sees
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Yes, probably the only person on here that sees hypocrisy
Yesterday my husband mentioned about my spending quite a bit of money on the kittycat food. I asked why did he mind and he said I was spending our money. I asked him where he got that from. I consider my money mine and his his. I make my own, never use his and the same for him. You do know she had a high priced job before, don’t you. Quit hating on the first lady.
like a cow, he does what the guy in front of him does; sees it in the media, thinks it's real
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Does that make sense if the doctor sees patients?
My mom is supposed to get a hysterectomy. Her PCP has referred her to a doctor - she was looking him up in her directory to make sure he was covered under her insurance.
I'm so confused! ha
Intervention, Parking Wars, and Cheaters are our "must sees"
We TiVo them so we can watch them together when I'm not working. I'm a sucker for reality shows that depict people in precarious situations (or trying to argue their way out of a parking ticket, lol!!!).
Let us know what you decide - nm
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I think you should tell them and let them decide what they want to do.
My husband died six months ago suddenly and unexpectedly. My niece, who just turned 12, has always been extremely close to my husband and me, and spends a lot of time at our house. LIke your children, she had never experienced death in a close relative before. The day he died, my brother and sister-in-law picked her up from school and broke the news to her. She was sad of course and she cried for quite a while.
Her parents gave her the choice of what she wanted to do in regards to go to the funeral home and/or attend the funeral. She chose to come to the funeral home and sit with me, and to attend the funeral.
She later wrote on the subject when the class had to write an essay at school about a life altering event. She wrote about how much she loved her uncle and she felt that was her last chance to say goodbye, as she didn't get to say goodbye before he died. She was sad that he died suddenly and she didn't know ahead of time, and that seemed to hurt her a lot, even though nothing could change that.
As for me, her presence at that time made me feel a little better. My husband's death has made she and I even closer. She's very smart and mature for her age. She knows sometimes when I get a little sad, that I'm thinking of my husband, and she totally understands, cause she still misses him too.
I know this is kind of rambling, but I hope it makes sense. I think kids want to be a part of our experiences, the good and the bad, and I think to exclude them, even when you think you're protecting them, makes them feel left out.
Good luck to you and your family. My prayers are with you.
So then why take any drugs at all? Or why not let's just decide which
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Couldn't decide whether to
laugh or vomit with that story!
if you decide to give
my suggestion would be to get something bigger than 0-3 months. they go through that stage so quickly and lots of people give that size.
Easy for men to decide
Some guys are good dads - willing to pitch in and help take care of the child's needs, and give it plenty of time and attention.
There are quite a few guys out there that like the IDEA of a child - as long as it doesn't cramp their style. This means it all devolves upon the mother - care of the child 24/7, criticism from him and his family if you aren't doing it their way, but of course any bragging rights are all theirs.
Then there are the demands of academia - when your child gets sent home with a backpack full of paperwork to review on a nightly basis, whose job will that be?
Another thought is the possibility of divorce down the road - what happens then? Quite a few dads who let mom do all the work suddenly become superdad when the thought of child support comes along, and they will do anything to win custody so that YOU have to pay THEM. Even if you win custody, the head games with visitation schedules, daddy's new girlfriend pushing her way into the picture, etc. never end.
Be careful. Having a baby to stroke a man's ego can get very messy very fast. Its a huge responsibility and too often the mother does all the work and the father takes all the credit. Take the worst case scenarios into consideration before you decide.
So who gets to decide what is illegal and what is not? You? sm
That's a slippery slope. Like the poster below who wants sugar taxes - actually that's not a bad idea since sugary drinks and snacks are making our kids fat. Let's see - then we should tax fast food or control the amount that fatties can eat, right?
Where does it end?
Still trying to decide whether to have a hysterectomy. See message
I posted last week about my dilema about whether to have a hysterectomy or not after my left ovarian cyst (which was removed along with ovary) came back with a pathology report stating papillary serous tumor, borderline. Doctor says I should have hysterectomy for "insurance" and preventative measures. However, according to their group discussion, my tumor was borderline, but "more on the benign side". I am so confused. I'm 42 and I don't want to have a hysterectomy, but yet, I don't want to have a problem with cancer either. I have the option to follow every six months. Is this safe? Am I better off getting a hysterectomy? I just don't know what to do!!!!
So even animals help decide our fate???
Where did you read this or learn about this? I've never heard that animals will speak for or against us on judgement day...interesting. Guess I'm in the clear, I don't do animals, don't own them, don't abuse them, don't like 'em!
Be careful if you decide to wean
and hand feed with formula and syringe. Don't know about your type of birds, but I have a parrot that I hand fed with a syringe and the breeders instructed me and watched me do it myself to be sure I was doing it correctly before they let me take him home. Apparently you can kill them if it goes down the wrong way, but it was really easy feeding him. Maybe there's somebody in your area who is a bird expert you could talk to?
I re-read, so you do live together - you have to decide if he is (sm)
going to function as a dad or not, and if so, you need to BOTH be involved in decisions, not just him. If he is not going to function as dad, he should not be involved in conferences at all.
Mercy is for God to decide - she should rot where she lays
I posted below - but have more to say. She needs to rot where she lies. That may sound harsh but I have no compassion for her and anyone else involved in those horrendous crimes they committed. "Charles Mansion brainwashed me" or whatever it is she claims. Oh brother - let me get my violin out. She knew what she was doing. You would think at some point while she is in the act of doing the horrendous things she did she would think somewhere in her pea brain - wait a minute, this is not right, and she could have easily sneaked out or called the police or something. I lived across the whole country (east coast) and still felt the horror that happened to them. It was hard growing up knowing that those pieces of garbage were out there and it could have happened to any of us just as easily. They just happened upon that house. I had nightmares because of it. Between that and the Hillside strangler and all the other creeps out there, it was hard not to have nightmares. She committed the crimes and she needs to do her time. She had no mercy for Sharon Tate and her unborn child and she so much as said so. Why she would think the court should have mercy on her. Brain tumor? Good and I hope its a very painful death for her. I always say do unto others. If she committed torture, then she should be tortured. The only one she should be asked Mercy for is from God. Maybe she should contact Roman Polanski and ask him if he thinks she should be let out early. "I would like to be out one day" Give me a break! I'm sure Sharon Tate and the other people would have liked to live. They should tell her and her family that they have no right in asking to be let out. I don't care if she can't sit up in bed. That is her problem. In fact I think they should post all the crime scene photos in her cell and let her look at those day after day and say until she dies and tell her this is why you are not being let out. Besides, if she has brain cancer who knows what she will be thinking as it progresses. Well I'm glad she's "not the same person than when she went in". But then again that's what all the prisoners say too. She did the crime - do the time (and I hope she suffers. I have no tolerance for what she did).
Is that good? I can't decide whether this would be tasty or not? nm
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Well in my mind lust is when you decide
to give in to something and enjoy it, which I have not and will not do in this case.
The puzzlement for me is how the attraction comes out of nowhere like that, and of course this time when it happened it is more troubling because he is so young. It must be pheromones. I think that's the best explanation.
Yep, some oldies decide on invitro
to have kids but I don’t want to have a kid in college just when I would like to retire. I see advanced maternal age listed all the time when the mother is only 34 or so, so wonder what category 41 falls under. Too many birth defects possible as the mother ages. Others can have their kids if they want at past 50, just not my cup of tea.
funny thing about when you decide to give up...
on men/relationships...That is when the right one comes along! That's how it happened for me. I, like you, had decided I was done with men, too many bad experiences, and then I met THE right guy for me. That was almost 11 years ago and we have been married for 7-1/2 years. We have a happy marriage and a beautiful little 15-month-old girl. It's when you stop looking that the right one comes along!
The most important thing, though, is to trust your instincts. They will never steer you wrong. From your description, it sounds like a good thing, but if there is a doubt that nags at you, don't dismiss it. Just don't let prior bad relationships cloud your judgment, because they are all different.
when u decide on a city, suggest contacting....
I'd call the Chamber(s) of Commerce of whatever city you decide to stay in and ask them the condition(s) of the area(s) post-Katrina.....just my opinion.
Have fun on vacation!!! :)
I just don't see why any parent would just allow a child decide to move out
It makes no sense to me. He is 16 years old and still a child. I guess I just don't understand how you have no problem with him deciding to move out and not even try to do anything about it other than take his house key. It sounds as though this 16-year old is running the show here. The whole thing is very disturbing to me.
Hi, Kelly, in case you decide to use Rogaine,
please check with your doctor first because of your thyroid issue!
thanks! :) I'll see if he'll ask some female friends SM
Thank you everyone! It has been great reading all of your responses! Goodnight!! "See" you all tomorrow!
Hugs,
Chickadee
DH not happy = his prob. Let him leave or stay or decide
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I'm 36, married 5 years, and still can't decide. I wish I had an answer for ya. But you're
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stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
How old is your child/children and when did you decide he wasn't worth the effort? nm
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New baby on the way.
Congratulations!!!!!! Hope you have a beautiful, healthy baby. I lost my first baby and it was 4 years before I tried again. I also think about the baby I lost, I don't think that ever goes away. I am proud to have two girls now to enjoy. Take pleasure in each moment. Enjoy!
I just want him to baby me
I am a female have been married to my husband for a year and 7 months, (no kids yet) and ever since I have been married I feel like I am babying him. I am more affectionate to him, I always want to cuddle with him, always worried about him and feel like I don't want to lose him. we have a great relationship open and honost. But sometimes I want him to run after me, to show me affection, to take care of me to feel like he is scared to lose me. I want him to tell me that I wanna go out with you with out any friends just the both of us, I just want him to baby me like I baby him. what do I do? trust me I have tried talking to him, but you see I don't want to tell him these things I want him to do it on his own. I go to school 2 times a week in the evenings and I always have to beg him to pick me up from school, I want him to tell me that he wants to pick me up. how do I go about? please help.
The baby's name is
Dannylynn Hope Marshall Stern. I think the move to Bahamas was Stern's idea and I think he is sly like a fox, i.e. the main players mother and son out of the way and now the baby who he is laying claim to with the name of Marshall in there (deceased husband's name). If you are the real father, you would demand to have paternity testing- we all know this is something he has tried (unsuccessfully thank goodness) to stop. The courts supposedly giving DNA results this past Tuesday but nothing yet. It would be a big shocker if the husband who died (Marshall) turned out to be the really father, wouldn't it? Can we say invitro?
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