Maybe he was freaking out about germs

Posted By: during today's incident on 2007-12-31
In Reply to: Thanks everyone for your comments (sm) - OP

You're sick with a cold or maybe the flu, right? So maybe he's thinking that he is cooking today so you're not getting germs on the food everybody else is going to eat. Then, with germs on his mind, he calls you to the table and you start touching things and he thinks about germs spreading and freaks out. I had a pretty snotty control-freak boyfriend who was also paranoid about germs, and this sounds exactly like something he would do. Not saying its right, just saying its how he justified the whole thing to himself.

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I'm sick & husband is being mean...just so tired of it - sm - crying all morning, just venting
- I HAVE A BRAINSTORM - nana
  - That was funny - thanks! LOL - he's nicer today (of course) sm - OP
    - Be careful of the cycle. He is in the gift mode. - HolidayMT
  - Don't you get drunk quicker while in the air? - HolidayMT
- Been there - heck, there now!... - The Other Sunshine
  - One tiime, say yes and go. See how he reacts to - that. nm
- been there done that - ginny
  - It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm) - OP
- Thanks everyone for your comments (sm) - OP
  - Calling AA will do you no good. You need to call Al-Anon. - latecomer to thread
  - GOOD FOR YOU! But, think of yourself first. call the domestic violence hotline FIRST. - Holiday MT
  - Maybe he was freaking out about germs - during today's incident
    - That one is highly unlikely! LOL! He doesn't believe in germs! LOL! - nm OP
- your hubby - spring
- So he's out drunk and with a gun. S/l a recipe for - huh
- Why don't you appreciate the fact that he cooks??? - Mt
  - Uh, what? Cooking makes up for meanness? - tnmt
  - He messed up the pan on purpose...to be mean n/m - OP
- I just wanted to say I feel bad for you. - sm
- I am so very sorry, my heart is with you. - HolidayMT
  - Thank you...do you really think they will listen to me (sm) - OP
    - Of course they will listen. Mental abuse is extremely prevalent - HolidayMT
      - wow - mimiskids
- Well, he sounds like a control - Me
- I'd kick him out. I would not enable him to keep doing what he is doing - pc
  - How can I kick him out? I have told him to leave many times (sm) - seriously - OP
    - you do the leaving - mimiskids
      - Thank you...can I ask you (sm) - OP
        personality/alcohol - mimiskids
    - If you are serious about leaving, you need a plan. SM - bunny buncher
      - Do NOT stay just because of the age of your kids. - MslaMT
        You may want to shoot me, but SM - bunny buncher
    - Order of protection, change locks and be prepared - to call police. nm
    - Call womans shelter/police and ask them where to - start. nm
- bull, he was not too drunk he has a girlfriend. See the writing on the wall. nm - Minding your Business
  - Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm) - OP
    - Sorry to hear all this; here's my advice - sm
      - This is basically what I have been doing the last few years (sm) - OP
  - you don't know that for sure. He says he thinks he's an alcohol. - she needs to start there. n/m
- You choose to stay in this situation. Until you make - decision to change this, it will continue, no surp
  - do you know how alcoholism works? - n/m
    - I know if SHE doesnt get proactive and take charge - her and children's situation, nothing will chan
- if he states he thinks he may be an alcoholic, he is asking for help - there is help out there; utilize it.
  - Would he still act like this even when sober? (sm) - OP
    - alcoholics have personality changes; talk to AA group - get info on it. n/m
      - Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without - really being alcoholic? nm
        if he quits drinking and changes for the better, you have your answer - n/m
        This may sound crazy sm - Seasoned Survivor
        Thanks...and I drink almost never...I occasionally buy (sm) - OP
        Let us know sm - Seasoned Survivor

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I say let kids be exposed to all kinds of people and situations. I'm not saying let them roll around in dog feces, or anything that drastic, but don't worry that germs will harm them. There are many doctors who will tell you the strongest, healthiest kids are the ones whose immune systems are well worked out. Those whose immune systems don't ever get a workout are the ones whose immune systems attack them with allergies and eczema and all sorts of maladies. After all, an immune system has to find something to do.

That one is highly unlikely! LOL! He doesn't believe in germs! LOL!
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I FREAKING KNOW!
Please don't correct people on these boards. It's rude.

I am 30 years old and have my first cavity - I am freaking! sm
I've never had a needle in my mouth, does it really hurt? I hate needles! It's a small cavity and he said it would be done in 15 minutes?!

My dog just chewed up a second freaking headset!

I'm so aggravated. She's seems to know when to make her move! My daughter came home from a slumber party tonight throwing up and I had to quickly take my headphones off to answer the door and get her to the bathroom and because I was hurried, my headset slipped off my desk top and of course my dog saw her opportunity and totally mangled my headset while I was tending to my daughter.

She did the same thing a few weeks ago when my husband cut his hand and I had to rush him to the ER. Again, I had to take off my headset and throw it on my desk when me husband came in from the garage dripping blood. Of course, I get back from the ER to a chewed up headset!

I usually have my favorite headset and spare and now I'm down to none! Now I'll have to go into the office and beg for a new headset until I can order another one, which if you know anything about hospitals, cost centers, and departmental budgets, you know I'm going to have to do a lot of justifying!

I just thought I would rant a little bit! TGIF! My shift is over in two hours!