Maybe folks think you are upset because you keep yelling
Posted By: -gsp on 2008-01-08
In Reply to: Wrong - GF
Ultimately it is your decision whether or not to give someone the key to your home, or once they have it to let them keep it. You have to do what you are comfortable with. I have keys to my parent's home, my siblings' homes, and my cousin's home. Two of my brothers have keys to my home. We are all comfortable with that arrangement.
As a side note, you posted here about the entire situation knowing that everything in your post would be open to comment. If you did not want folks to comment on aspects your situation, then there really was no need to divulge so many details. You simply could have said, "My son is moving out of my home. I asked for the keys to my house. My mother felt this was objectionable." Then you could have asked for opinions or what other folks do.
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I am not yelling at you. --sm
I just wanted you to see how terribly naive your post was concerning not having birth control back then. You DID have a choice and you chose to have sex, but did not want the consequences that came with it. You also chose to kill a child, so your life could be more convenient and you would not have to deal with it. All I was trying to say was that perhaps you should have abstained from sex in the first place so that you may have WANTED a child later in life and not have had to resort to abortion as a means of birth control. However, you have to live with your decisions and since you show not one bit of remorse for the lives you took, I pray for you. JMO
It's by far better than yelling at them all day!
Something about engaging their caving instincts. Read that somewhere. They have their comforters and bones in there so it's super comfy, gives them something to do, and the rule is if 2 reprimands in 10 minutes, I yell "crate" and off they go. They run in their crates, do their mandatory 3 spins, and tuck in their noses. :o)
Stop yelling.
Just because your dog is your best friends, doesn't mean you should bring it everywhere you go. Wow. Try breathing deep and relaxing. I said I don't normally care, but if I had a slipper dog, I wouldn't bring it where it doesn't belong personally.
You are yelling more than my own mother did,
calm down!! It happens and so?? At least I am not like 1 of the women I read about on here, a single mom, unable to make a living having to raise kids by myself. Whatever mistakes I made, I took responsibility and never had to rely on others for the things I did....
To GF: Do you realize that the all caps is yelling?
I think you should realize that first before you get upset with everyone here.
You are yelling through your all cap typing.
My husband yells at me for yelling at them.
He says I sound evil. I told H then he should cook and clean the house after he works all day and not do anything enjoyable. I will just throw my crap on the floor along with the kids and that is were it will stay until he picks it up. I wonder how bitter and evil he would sound.
I have told my kids in a calm voice that if I have to pick up these toys it will go in the garbage and you are not going to get anymore. I have followed through. It may sound mean but then again, it isn't right for them to treat me this way. They will expect others to pick up after them too and you know that isn't going to happen.
Read up on writing etiquette. It is yelling.
It comes across as hateful
I heard the voice yelling out about broken record
and I figured Kara was saying similar statement as she had for previous round. Had no idea Megan's brother. I, like you, could not believe how she was acting and basically think she shot her own self in her foot. What music producer would take a wannabe and try to make a star out of that? Besides do not consider her that talented at all.
I made concious effort to stop yelling & pointed that
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Don't know why folks would even ask
such a thing! If they do, tell them you don't need a gift just for them to come, eat, enjoy the company and check out your new digs. Never heard of such a thing and would not appreciate it if I were a guest. I always take a perishable gift anyway...wine, plant, food. It is not that big of a deal!
I went and took a lot of folks
Ok, there were 3 adults and 4 kids and I paid for everything down to everyones clothing. I got the jumper pack, I believe is what they called it. Got there Saturday, started Sunday at Universal all day and then Monday through the following Friday we went every day to at least 2 parks and 1 day went to a water park. It cost an arm and a leg but the kids were two 8 year olds, two 11 year olds and then the adults who were kids also. What a blast. The entire trip from next state up to there with rental van and everything probably cost over 10,000 for the time. What wonderful memories though.
thanks folks!
will have to check this other one (Kimkins) out too.
i so hope i can get myself reined in before i come up with diabetes or something...
Tell him different strokes for different folks.nm
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Old folks get bored. sm
My 86-yo dad is the same way. Sticking his nose into my business. He also constantly rags on me about my son not mowing the grass, etc. I have explained to him that I LIKE to mow the grass and to please drop it and he just keeps on and on. One day he walked in my office and shook his finger at me and said, "You just wait, you just wait, y'all are drinking way too much pop." This because I buy it when it's on sale and it lasts a very long, long time. And, by the way, neither my son nor I are overweight. Older people just can't (anyways he can't) realize I am 53 years old and have lived on my own without his valuable input for a long time. He just doesn't have anything else to do.
The thing that really bugs me is when he comes over and just plops down in here when I am working and I tell him he can't be in here when I'm working and he gives me all kinds of excuses ("I can't see read what you're typing") and I have to just keep the screen minimized until he goes. He just doesn't get it. The other day I told him to go over and check on my cousin's new fence, and that got his train of thought going in a different direction and off he went. He called me one day and told me not to commit to the big diocesan pledge thing that's going on, that I am to tell them I am a single parent just barely scraping by, etc., etc., and I wanted to tell him I am not quite that destitute yet, but I just agreed.
Oh, and I have an extremely screwed-up sister, too, who Dad thinks can do no wrong and her son is the greatest, etc., etc. Oh, the stories I could tell about her! Well, it was me who gave him a place to live after Katrina and it was me who gave him my couch for his new house because he didn't have one (another delusional idea, he thinks he is broke), not her, so I just keep quiet and keep civil and remind myself he's old. When it gets to be too much I tell his sisters, who tell him to back off then he does for a while. All part of life.
Denver folks out there?
I have posted before and do not want to get into WWIII but supposed to go on vacation next week to Salt Lake City, Wyoming and the like, leaving from Denver and wanted to know if anyone can suggest sights, restaurants for my last day of vacation before returning home.
Thanks for the feedback folks....sm
The 15-year-old now doesn't like ya'll but they'll get over it! I only posted it because they thought it wasn't fair to not give them the same amount of money. "Too bad" is what I said - we live on a budget and buy what is necessary not just what is wanted around here because we're paying off some bills.
Oh ya, folks definitely know I'm 'from away'
as soon as I open my pie hole. Some people don't mind that we're 'from away' (their endearing term for us outta stata's), but some folks get down right nasty about it. I suppose it's like anywhere though....I guess folks in Florida don't like the people from New England either because I once saw a bumpah stikah that said, "Keep the south beautiful, put a yankee on a bus" or something like that. It was a long time ago and my memory isn't what it used to be.
Why don’t folks use their brains
Ladies going to psychiatrist. He is on the wanted list now- had them to undress, pulling their blouses, shirts up and you would think some one would have enough sense to say WHAT? This does not come under psychiatry. No, these women get on television and tell about how they pulled them up. I would be ashamed to let people know I was that stoopid.
my folks go every year x55 yr?
to the same place. Pacific Grove/Carmel "by the sea"...It is breathtaking beauty, quaint village, great food, free beaches. Nearby trails in the woods...Clint Eastwood country :) I don't think the beaches could possibly be more beautiful anywhere else.
I am so upset...
Just need to express a little;
On my way home from a nice lunch with my DH, I saw a horrible car accident where a teen girl T-boned a car and killed the driver of the car. I am beside myself with emotion right now. The poor girl flipped out when she learned that the other driver was dead, literally running across 4 lanes of traffic and collapsing in a fastfood restaurant parking lot. My heart is breaking still for her as well as the other driver's family and friends.
I have a teen daugther chomping at the bit to get her license and I DONT WANT HER TO...just because of stuff like this.
Please remember these families in your prayers. This young girl has a long, hard road ahead of her I'm sure...not to mention the other driver's family...
I am so upset
Vehicles are not necessary or permitted at U.S. Naval Academy where son went until beginning of senior year. Daughter went to self-contained college campus in Maryland. Family member helped w/transportaiton when necessary. Raised 5 children. Shelter, food, clothing necessary expenses, vehicles & exhorbitant insurance for teens not necessary. Check the stats on young drivers ages 16-25. Then decide if you want your your teen driving. It helps a lot if they pay their own way or at least part. Def driving helps some. Raised 5 children. Lot of parents want the kids to drive so they don't have to be bothered.
I would be VERY upset...
and I'd let her know it too...whatta scrooge! Like the other poster, I'd go to the principal about this. She way overstepped her boundaries on this one. I am so sorry this happened right here at the holidays. Hope y'all enjoy Christmas anyway!
does this upset you? then do something about it.
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Like I'm not upset enough. . LOL
Hey everyone, HELP me! I had a bat hanging on the edge of my sofa when I came down from my break at 12:30 p.m. to go to the mall for my iced tea. I called the guy down in the apartment downstairs and he came up and let's just say took care of it. I was in tears! Don't like anything to be hurt, but I floze out about such things. I have bad eyes, and when I came down the steps I thought, what's that black sock doing on the side of my sofa. Then I remembered socks don't have wings! Beam me up! I'm still upset! LOL!!! This past week has been the week from
H E double hockey sticks!!!!! I need an Ativan the size of a hub cap! Just wanted all my MTs to know if could get worse. . . IT JUST DID.
The guy who helped me is so tall he kinda looks like Herman Munster without the bolt, which is scary enough!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is nice, though and thank goodness he was there. Have a good day, guys! 
Yes, and she was VERY UPSET
about what?? Cause she got caught? DUH. Man o Man. I cannot understand this at all. Well she should be going to jail like Paris did but for longer. Anyone of us in this same situation would still be in jail right now and would be going to jail for years with the drug possession charges from now and in May. Cannot wait for this to go to trial.
You have every right to be upset
but what is done is done and the best thing to do would be to take her to a GYN, get her on birth control, talk openly about safer sex practice and you can still let her know your disappointment but don't dwell on it. She may feel he is the "one" for her, but if he truly is a loser, she will figure that out in time, especially with the help of her friends...peer pressure is what gets them into the situation in the first place. I don't think you sound controlling...you just sound very disappointed for your daughter. Good luck.
Upset
I'm upset and never thought about that.....I just want my kids to be happy.....but he seems to think that the grass is greener on the other side, but once he finds out that it is not....he will back....but in the meantime....he will not have a key to my house to come and go as he pleases.....thanks for responding....
I for one do not see why others get so upset by
screaming and yelling in every situation. I understand the basic concept and the I-net rules and stuff, but honestly one or two words capped in a paragraph IMO hardly consistute yelling and screaming. I took it more as a way to stress a word or phase. Everyone needs to chill a little I think, including the OP.
Why are you getting so upset?
You stated a fact and apparently do not wish to hear what others are saying about how credit plays a big part in job situations (your credit probably pulled on a job before to check you out) and other parts of life. The bank does not have a part in your son's lack of money and being unable to pay his bills. Those are their rules and why you should continue to blast others for telling it like it is, I don’t know.
Why am I so upset?
Because you posters are equating being unemployed with being a thief or an embezzler. You'd be upset too if people called your son a thief.
I have never come across the problem with checking credit because my husband's and mine has always been excellent. I guess you learn something new every day, about life and about people who can be so vile while hiding behind a computer.
I would also be upset,
and I don't think you are being selfish at all. I have no advice or suggestions. I just wanted to let you know that I think you have every reason to be upset. With blessing across the miles, I pray for you. :)
You have every right to be upset....sm
And yes that has happened to me. Not all the time but it has. I have an 11 year old son and last year he did not wish me happy mothers day and didn't want anyone to take him to get me a card or anything. But when fathers day comes he always tells his dad happy fathers day and asks me to take him to buy him a gift. Yes, it hurts my feelings but I know my son worships his dad. I'm just mama. BUT this year, my son was different. He asks my mom to help him get me a gift and she did. He told me happy mothers day so I was happy. My husband wished me HMD but didn't get a card or nothing.
Yes, it hurts my feelings and I let my husband know it did but oh well. My husband can be a real a-- sometimes and then again he can be the nices guy ever. He has 2 different personalities.
to the possible phisher/phishing folks....
or known names that should be used for animals
1. JSG, Jonathan Livingston Seagull
2 Guido.
3. Kira or Kyra.
4. Frank or Felix.
5. Todd.
6. Domino.
7. Angela.
8. Raff.
9. Lily.
10. Shaman.
Dont hate on me folks but
tomorrow I am going with my daughter to see our latest, the new Panda at the Atlanta Zoo. I am so excited. She was just put on display this past Friday so hopefully I will be able to get a glimpse of her tomorrow. She is a little over 100 days old, just beautiful and gosh looks like you could just give her a big bear (ha) hug but don’t know that would be a good idea, after all she is a wild animal. They just look so adorable and cuddly and next to my cats, she is probably the prettiest thing going. Wish you all could come along.....
Hold on, now - not all old folks have that smell
I have an aunt who is 89 and she always smells so good, likes her really nice perfume and never a stinky. She is in 80 group. I am quickly getting to that ole folks age but I also love smelling nice although I don’t do the perfume as I love those nice shower gels.
If I had been asked at such a delicate (as some folks put it)
age, I think my mother would be quirky, invading my space- after all she has her own to keep up with. The 2 posts above are saying they do jot them down. That to me is creepy. I would think the girls at that age would have been taught to be responsible and LET the parent know if they did NOT have one. That is just too weird for my thinking. My mother nor myself with my daughter (grown now) ever kept a diary of when each others periods were/are.
Cannot believe folks don't read these correctly
I NEVER said anything about how the companies perceive us to be.... where did that come from? Another below posted about the same. I am saying TRANSCRIPTIONISTS here are always complaining because they are not taken as professional, i.e. people calling them expecting them to run errands (being as you are home, others think you don't really have a job), telephone, husbands complaining. I post 1 thing and people talking about something else. It is a constant complaint on this board about TRANSCRIPTIONISTS taken for granted. The companies could care less what you or I either 1 wear.
You are talking about grown-a.. folks
By goodness, you do not even see where you are going wrong, do you? What happens if you die suddenly? Do you think they would starve, I doubt it. They would get off their lazy behinds and make do. Why don’t you just let them move in on you and make it 1 big happy home? I do not just dole out money without a person trying to help themselves. You are making them both invalids but wait, you still have the grandkids to go. Lucky you. Don’t gripe when you are to blame for their not working and trying to live on their own. Look in the mirror.
one my folks probably thought was the worst...
but was young enough i didn't stress over it then -- and laugh about it now....the backdrop is a 'granny' who was an alcoholic, already well along when all the family arrived. We mingled and visited with one another, expecting to eat within a couple hours...and my dad asks his mom, 'hows the turkey coming mom?' and she has this blank look on her face -- like she's trying to remember, and he says, let's go take a look...and she says on the way to the kitchen, 'well dear, i guess i better take it out of the freezer!!' Needless to say, there were some frayed nerves -- so we had "Chicken Delight -- which stays open all night" !!
I agree with you. I just wondered if all the folks
speaking out in defense of the bible being there would feel the same if it was another religious document that was not in line with their beliefs.
Out of curiosity, do they have bibles in public school libraries? I honestly don't know.
Some of the same folks Obama wants to give
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I can see why some folks are giving up their pets
I just took Spot and Nerys to the vet for routine senior kitty blood checks. I also got Nerys a refill on her prednisalone. It cost $325.
Those furballs had better appreciate it tonight when I shove pills down their throats.
Old folks hating toddlers?
I am older and just glad they are not around. Don’t want to fool with them, put up with their crying, screaming, making messes, pouting, crying. I want my golden years to be just that, without the brats.
Most common sense folks on here would know that
some get all riled up when you start talking about moochers! Now, this lady is a plain out and out moocher. She now has 14 mooching babies, of course, through no fault of their own but their mother's greedy selfish ignorance.
I tried to have a rational discussion about moochers on welfare ther other day and for the life of me couldn't get one poster to get her mind wrapped around the fact that there are truly JUST moochers out there, who do not work, do not contribute to societ; they just take,take, take, and do nothing productive. She thought I knew nothing and that welfare was ONLY for those TRULY in need. This is exactly what I was talking about. I see it every day in my community, the baby making factories who refuse to work, sit on their butts, and have more babies, all paid for by the taxpayer. This is a perfect example.....same situation only she had 8 at one time instead of one by one until she finally got to 14.
Maybe the poster will get a picture of what moochers I was talking about and stop acting as if she were being targeted.
Since this lady is on disability, all her 14 children will also receive a monthly disability check. Now, multiply that times ALL the illegal babies here with all their illegal parents also getting assistance and you wonder why this country is going down the tubes and why California is going belly up?
No, but I think some of the folks dicating are drunk. NM
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Oh geez folks, light up...
it was funny!
No, it's okay! I wasn't upset or anything,
just was confused when I couldn't find it. I wanted to post all that so hopefully anyone having these problems could maybe try the same thing.
Firefox is letting me into every site I use though, so crossing my fingers it continues.
Thanks for the tip about the degfrag. I haven't done it and will. :)
Not upset here. Just said I thought
it was RUDE and I could care less if he is or isn't gay. I do not care if it was planned ahead of time or not.
I turn this show on for the talent aspect, but it is becoming less and less of the American Idol show but more about a popularity contest, putting people down, etc, etc. It is all about RATINGS and frankly the whole show is becoming a big JOKE. JUDGES and all
Well, I think she might be upset enough to stroke out or something (sm)
That's good enough for me!
I know you are upset about this and it is your decision
true enough. I probably would not like a 16-year-old to have the keys either. First of all, unless living there, lots are not responsible enough or use good logic but I was hurt, I was grown and could be trusted then and now and I would let me children have, but they are grown.
Me too!! I was so upset when I thought
he was demoted by that day rat. (sorry day shift people). I work over night shift and thoroughly love the comments about different shifts. Man that show is good. We just went on vacation with the kids to the Star Trek Museum (yes we are nerds)and stayed at the Hilton. We love the opening every time CSI Vegas comes on. We try to figure out where the hotel is and all the different things are. LOL. We are truly ill here. We flip between CSI and 2 Law and Orders every evening, and on Saturdays watch the tapes.
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