Marilyn...you are a big-hearted
Posted By: tinkerbell on 2007-11-07
In Reply to: hungry - marilyn
woman and a positive role model for those children. I applaud you for stepping in.
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Marilyn:
Saw your post further down earlier and I was one of those who chose to say nothing. I am so sorry for that and for what you are going through. Your current post made me realize I should have done this immediately. Maybe you can Google for support groups in your area, some of the nonmedical people really get to where they know quite a lot and they certainly know what you are going through. Will pray for you both. L
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I too have noticed the offending posts. No matter how lighthearted, someone puts a damper on things. Either that or makes downright rude comment.
However, with this thread, there does seem to be something "inside" about it. Others don't know what the conversation is all about and it is rude to carry on a conversation just opened to a few. More inclusivness is needed. Hope you understand.
i have a Marilyn (sp?) bridge and it
works great. had a partial for a long time and hated it. had to take it in and out like dentures and was terribly embarrassed. the bridge also didn't cost as much. i've been told that there are drawbacks to bridges though, so might want to ask about that. good luck. i didn't smile for a long time.
Thanks Marilyn. I believe anything is possible. If I were say that my life is 100% perfect, I'd b
lying but having this man in my life is a true blessing. I've had to deal with the aftermath of raising 2 children that lived in the dysfunction. My daughter has issues due to the abuse she also suffered and no one would ever believe what we have gone through with this child (she is almost 20 and still a handful)..I pray somedays she will come to terms with everything and realize it wasnt her fault. I blamed myself for staying so long. My son is now 26, and at times, I see his father in him in regards to how he treats his GF with jealous fits, controlling etc.. and right then and there I have lined him out. As long as I am alive he will NEVER treat a female the way I was treated. I point blank told his GF that she should nip it in the bud NOW and not be so passive, because once you give them that power, you will have lost yours. She has slowly been standing up to him, and the more I have talked with him, the more he understands that what I really endured was abuse (he worships his dad). My daughter and I got the brunt of the abuse because we're female and all females are ...well you know the rest (in his opinion)... So, needless to say, my new husband (well not so new...5 years) and the love of my life has stood by me through all the awful teenage years and more. I have stories to tell...trust me.. but he loved me and stayed there. I still work 80-90 hours a week. I became a work alcoholic after years of being single and a single mom and am not sure how to stop. Obviously, my husband does not work but he is the house husband. He does all the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc..AND..he adopted my youngest son who was just a baby when we met..I just feel like God finally heard me..all those days and nights when I didnt think I could take another breathe and I prayed for it to end...he heard me..and brought me my angel.. Okay..that's my deal for the day.. back to work.. LOL Thanks for listening to my long, long story.
What a good-hearted boy he is!
I'm sure he will grow into a fine man and some lucky girl out there will hit the jackpot, husband-wise!
Congratulations on raising a fine son!
Broken hearted. SM
Last Wednesday evening I called the police regarding dog barking right next to my house. It was just terrible all day, 12 hours the dog was at the door and they did not let it in, then they left. I kept leaving the house and coming back to avoid it. It was day off. This has been a problem with these people,who have beautiful dogs. Some days not bad at all, some just terrible. I finally could not take it any longer. I waited for the police to come out in front of theh house and the neighbor and his wife drove up shortly afterwards. When the neighbor first saw the police he apologized for his barking dog, which was still going crazy. When I, trying to be upfront and honest, told him I called and was sorry for doing so, things got bad. He was swinging his arms around, denying everything, etc. He said the next time my car is stuck in the snow I can just remember what I did to him. I never ask for anyone's help, but a few times he helped get my car out. I take care of myself and never, ever ask anyone for help. Now it is silent next door. I love dogs more than anything and just wanted the police to help me speak to him. The policeman said that the guy handled it very immaturely and told the guy he was blowing this out of proportion. I am sad and feel terrible living here now. Please help.
I just want to say what a kind-hearted post this was!! (sm)
If only everyone in the world could be so understanding of each other!
I still find it hard hearted...
Comparing your father in law to a father is not the same thing. This woman is an adult and her father was there while she was growing up. I just think that raising children earns a little compassion and respect. Call me silly. I also think that it is a little unfair that we only get one side of the story. I just hope that she does not write him off and live to regret it. Heaven forbid we act as caring people during the holiday season.
it seems awfully hard hearted for people to say to ignore him...
After all, he is your dad. I do not know what you should do, but I don't think that cutting him out of your life is going to help him any. Sometimes, I think people do things for attention because they need attention.
Some of us are fortunate enough to NOT be cold-hearted shrews!
who care only for themselves and nobody else. We care deeply about our loved ones and it is extremely difficult to turn them out, even if it is the right thing and only thing left to do! It's not about backbone, lady! Where's your compassion? This is painful for her. She is watching her father sink further and further into mental illness and she feels helpless. She wants to fix him, take care of him, and make him better, but she is realizing she can't. That's a painful realization -- the realization that no matter how much you love them, no matter how much you try to help, it will never be enough, you will never succeed, and the only thing left to do is save yourself.
Curious Girl, will eventually do what she needs to do, but doing what is right can be just as painful as something that is wrong. What she needs are shoulders to cry on and people around her to tell her she's a good person NOT criticize her and tell her she needs to grow a backbone!
How do you deal with unreliable but kind-hearted friend? (sm)
I have a friend who is so sweet and kind, wouldn't hurt a fly, but never has her act together. Chronically having financial issues, phone turned off, electricity turned off, borrows money, phone back on, phone back off, etcl, still more financial issues. Always cancellig plans at the last minute, sometimes with no call, because of course, phone is turned off. She has a fairly good job, and although I know money is tight, it seems she keeps overextending herself. But she is so nice and good-hearted. But I am still frustrated with all the no-shows and cancellations and constant issues. Have you ever had that type of situation and do you just keep dealing with them because they are sweet people or do you just stop dealing with it? Does dealing with it make you an enabler?
Rose, the good-hearted, animal-loving ditz!! But with
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