Male menopause
Posted By: just me on 2008-09-17
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Is anyone's signifant other going though male menopause, mid life crisis (or whatever it is called). If so, how old are they and what is it they're going through (or better yet what are you going through). Mine is not bipolar or depressed (although he's making me depressed). Just wondering what others are facing with their husbands.
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I'm not in menopause, but (sm)
I have atypical migraines to where my speech goes wonky, I have paresthesias, my head spins, and I can't walk right. I have problems with them premenstrually as well. The thing that has helped me the most was the overall change in my diet. That might not be much help, but that is my personal experience. Medications didn't do much for me. Once in a while the caffeine makes migraines worse but it usually helps.
I hope you find relief soon.
menopause
All natural here too though I did try the usual OTC herbal remedies which didn't help. I finally went on Prozac just to have some sanity. Perimenopause if I recall lasted roughly 1-1/2 years before the periods stopped altogether.
menopause
It is clear that no one takes hormones for perimenopause symptoms. It seems pretty clear that the upset posters are taking antidepressants for their perimenopause.
So I don't even think this is a debate about natural menopause. I think this has become a debate about antidepressants, which I don't care to have.
The original question was to people who were going through natural menopause.
Menopause
I went through premature menopause (started going through it before age 35, am now 39), and I have not once taken replacement hormones. I've only experienced mild hot flashes and only mild sweating on the back of my neck at night. I'm not sure how long I was in perimenopause, as my diagnosis was made after my periods had completely stopped for 7 months...my first GYN refused to believe it was menopause at such a young age, but my new GYN ran every test imaginable to make sure it wasn't something worse, then did the "big test" and it came back showing I was in full menopause. I starting having "problems" at around age 29 though (irregular periods, etc.). I was actually happy because now I was free to make vacation plans without worrying about "mother nature" showing up unexpectedly.
menopause - and it's pleasures
I have been having my own personal summers now for 10 years ever since having a hysterectomy and removal of my ovaries (the dr wasn't supposed to remove them but he did - and the next patient got my bladder suspension - it was a big mess). Anyway - I tried some herbals from time to time - nothing really worked. I have been on estradiol injections every 2 weeks for the past 9 years - and this is the only thing that comes close to helping. It was nice in the winter - i would sleep with the heat off and especially when it was down in the teens, I could count on a goodnight's sleep with my room temperature sitting around 45-50 - and sleeping with as few clothes on as possible. I wish I had an answer for you - I would get out of MTing and sit back and enjoy my billions - but I don't think anyone has the answer. You might try some Ambien (the regular not the CR) it at least keeps you asleep - you just wake up with wet clothing and sheets in the mornings but you don't realize that you are sweating during the night. In fact, you won't even remember anything that you do or say after about 15 minutes after swallowing that little pill.
perimenopause/menopause
Anyone here go through the perimenopause/menopause without hormones. No birth control pills or HRT?
Mostly, how long did the perimenopause last before the year without the period?
Dear Menopause...
Thank you for no hot flashes and no warning of your arrival. Thank you for the worst of this being a certain amount of brain fuzz, especially when I am tired. Thank you for not bothering me with heavy or irregular gifts from Mother Nature. Thank you for showing up just when I had run out of Tampax anyway. Most all, thank you for coming right in time for my 48th birthday and bringing the gift of keeping pretty panties pretty permanently.
HAHAHA- Wait until you hit menopause.SM
forgetfulness - returns in middle age to late middle age - happens to many/most w/menopause - you will become forgetful....*lolol*
and there is no escape unless, of course, you CHOOSE to take hormonal replacement therapy - which many have not and do not today due to the other very severe problems HRT causes...
YO - but a shout out to you - BEST OF LUCK IN YOUR MID 40s-50s......and 60s-70s w/that forgetfulness. *roflmao* and it doesn't get better into your 80s and 90s either. THINK ABOUT IT....*lol*
Your problem seems to be that you leave ABSOLUTELY no room for error, and it's all gonna come back and slap you in the face in a decade or two or three. I promise this - I don't wish it on you.....but it's KARMA -
KARMA - very much like a kinahura (spelling is wrong but YOU know what I mean) equates to what goes around, comes back around, and bites you right on the face (or in the tuchas.......take your pick)......
  
Yes, especially if you're around that menopause time, too. This was
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To poster below on insomnia and menopause
Oprah will be a very informative show today on us women going through menopause. Dr. Christine NOrthrup is the guest and she's wonderful - there'll be lots of good tips for eating right, controlling our hormones, sleeping well, etc. It's all about the mind/body connection which I wholeheartedly believe in too. Catch the show if you can.
I started a soy menopause tablet
recently. I also changed jobs because I now have no tolerance for sitting at home doing one thing. With my new job I am constantly moving, working with other people, half men, half women, get to be outside in the sunshine, and we laugh and joke all day. I haven't faced the ugly week yet, but I'm hoping it will be better. For a while there I was alternating between just sleeping the day away or screaming in frustration.
My sister has PMDD and does great on Prozac, but the only thing I'm taking now is 1/2 a clonazapam at night to sleep and multivitamin with minerals and extra D and the soy menopause stuff. But I can't tell you how it's lifting my spirits to be doing physical stuff, even sitting and kneeling on the floor of a greenhouse pulling weeds or sweeping the floor, laughing and joking with other people. It's not good for me to be inside, working all alone.
I just read 2 books on menopause sm
Apparently once you miss your first period, it takes on average 4 years for the peri- and full-blown menopause to be completed. Some get through faster, some slower. I'm 50 and have only missed a single period so far, but the mood swings are horrendous already, as well as the increased bleeding. EEEK - this is not gonna be fun!
Google Dr Christiane Northrup; she's written extensively about the process.
Losing your sex drive with menopause is
part of the natural progression of our biology.
Way past menopause, surgical back in the
89s, but my hair loss mostly due to the thyroid problem. Know age can play a part but diagnosed as coming from the problem with hormones.
I've had thinning hair every since menopause...
It's not like it comes out in gobs but just is thinning out really bad, basically can't do a ponytail anymore. My NP just said, yeah that's just the breaks with menopause and didn't want to do any testing. I finally went to a dermatologist, who ran thyroid tests and also iron tests, because he said in his experience hair loss was often associated with low ferritin. I know that I don't get much iron in my diet and took vitamins without iron since menopause, so switched to a vitamin with iron, seems to be a little better but maybe just my imagination... my ferritin was on the very low edge of normal, almost into low range. My thyroid tests came back okay.
Also about docs prescribing certain meds,I do know some veternarians who got bonuses, prizes, etc. for presribing so much of certain drugs... like quite NICE prizes. Wonder if this happens with doctors and prescribing certain drugs when they insist on a certain one...don't know but sometimes makes one wonder.
mine's been going through menopause his entire life nm
wal-mart...polaroid dvr...ebay...okay dokay
sounds like a menopause sneak attack
Your call on how to handle it, but it sounds hormonally motivated to me....the crying inappropriately about a child you are not raising kind of gives it away.
Depression/Menopause/Decreased Sex Drive
I was wondering if any has any suggestions for increasing a woman's sex drive. I have been on Wellbutrin and trazodone for years and now I am going through menopause on hormone replacement. (I am 47 and had an ovary removed last year which caused me to go into menopause.) The last few years my sex drive has decreased to almost nil. Any suggestions/information would be much appreciated.
male
I have not seen a female yet - the males come to my porch and eat .. mostly on days like today when it is cold and snowy. . I love to see them.
It's a male...sm
I have a big orange tabby right now who is a male and I had one about 15 years ago, who was also a male. BTW, the mother of this litter is a calico and I have a female calico in the house.
My male kitty
when he first came to live with us he was a mere 6 weeks old, and he would drink from the water bowl while "standing" on the edge of the bowl (front paws only) which looked silly but cute too! Then, he rapidly grew and grew and began to tip the water bowl over when doing that, so thankfully he stopped, but now I notice him sliding his paws (slowly) in a digging motion before drinking and can't help but notice how noisey he is when he drinks, he sounds like a dog lapping or a bird taking a bath! Boys!
My male cat Curly sometimes
tries that with my female cat Ophelia, who is his mother! Its just scandalizing. ;)
Would you happen to be a male
Because any female knows how hard it is to go to school while having your period, especially having your FIRST period. And the thought of her using a tampon at that age I am sure freaks the poor child out. My DD is 17 and she still doesn't use tampons. I never used them until I had my 3rd child, over the age of 30. Only a male (I hope) would make such an uneducated response...more power to ya Mom, stick up for your DD 100%... the teacher was absolutely wrong in the way this situation was handled and should be confronted about it...good luck!
This is why I have mostly male friends.
I really hope you don't take too much into the mean ones and listen to the positive input.
Walk a mile in someone else's moccasins, people...
More upset with male, although I see your SM
point. If male, would be more about him. My ex did cheat on me for years. I felt deceived, but would have felt even more so if he cheated with men and probably scared silly about disease, which, I know, could have been passed on by women.
Wish people didn't have affairs and if they want a divorce, just get one and then date whomever you want. Yes, I am very naive.
male nipples
I can't remember where I read it, but I did read somewhere that the reason males have nipples is because during development the "blueprint" for nipples is there before male or female genitalia are formed. Now whether or not this is actual fact is anyone's guess. I have also heard that if men are given hormones they could produce milk and breastfeed.
Every living breathing male does if they can.
Only most don't codemn it. THAT is what I would have a problem with. :)
Male harassement vent....
I wasn't sure were to post this...
My sister was just at the bank and while she was leaving she noticed a male banker staring at her. A couple of minutes later she gets a phone call from this banker telling her if she ever needs anything to call him. She asaked if he does this with all the people that bank and he said no just the pretty ones.
He did NOT help her when she was there so he had to have had the banker that helped her reopen her account and get ALL of her information. This is soooooo BAD ! She lives alone. How can this man do this I believe he was a manager or something not just a regular employee. UUUHHHHHH!!!!!! My mom use to be a banker so I told my sis to call her and see what she should do but my mom is pretty passive so I'm not sure what she will say. This makes me so angry to think that he has ALL her information UHHHH! This is sooo wrong!
My sis is only 21 and lives alone. She has already had one scare at her apartment and I'm sure she will feel unsafe once again. I don't know why this man thinks he can do this!
I just had to get this out.
Oh, my, did not know you included a male as being a pregnant
person, thought surely a we were pregnant meant another female, just call me old fashioned but when I grew up only females got pregnant, carried the babies, had the babies. Just have never heard of a male being pregnant but will take your word for it. I guess times have changed.
I have two cats, one male and one female-
the female's name is Ophelia, a.k.a. Miss Thing, a.k.a. feefee, feebee or feegirl.
My baby boy's name is Curly, a.k.a. Curls, a.k.a. fattyboy, crybaby boy, or kittyboy. I once decided he should have a Native American name so his full name is Curly Purrsloud Longtail Kittyboy. :D Although now the poor baby has just been diagnosed with diabetes so I may need to make that Curly Purrsloud Longtail takes-insulin-well Kittyboy. :)
First ever male furkid here and yuck!
I have a neutered male cat who is about 2 years old now, love him so but I wondered where the big stink was coming from and turns out it is him, his behind to go into detail. I have 2 other furkids, his brotheI and female and neither one of these are smelly. He nor his brother spray on the furniture or walls, have never seen that happen but can anyone tell me why he might be so smelly- are there glands in the rear I am totally unaware or ?? Being as he is over 20 pounds probably I will have to take him to be groomed but the question is why?? He is in good health as far as I am aware. Thanks.
typical male response
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Male psychologist on CNN stated SM
he was powerful man who was afraid to discuss his feelings with his wife and "just wanted a hug". Pretty expensive, ahem, hugs.
No, nothing personal. They can ask for female or male.
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Male grizzly bears, for one. (sm)
Snakes. Male porcupines. Reptiles (Oops, that's a whole group of creatures, all living alone). Spiders. Female sea horses. Great white sharks. Most fish (oops, another group).
Dear All You Male People
PUT YOUR $#@!& dishes IN the dishwasher. NOT in the sink. NOT on the counter. NOT left on the table. Are you mow-rons handicapped? Am I the only one in the house with the capability of actually being able to do the latch, lower the door, slide out the rack, and place dishes inside? A complex task, I understand, but one would think that after years and years of training, one would get the hang of it.
HUGE SIGH OF FRUSTRATION.
LY, BTW.
Mom
Male or female so I will know if I am interested. NM
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And I think someone is jealous, what's wrong, no male attention for you? lol
I totally agree with the OP. I too have been inappropriately treated by men, uncomfortable staring or smiling or flitatious comments and it gets a little tiresome. The problem is that men never grow up. They would do this into their 90s if they could still see!
Need secret Santa ideas for male.....
My husband needs some secret Santa ideas for under $2 for a new male teacher. He really does not know very well. As an emergeny I sent a bag of homemade cookies the first day. Any neat unique ideas?
Get a 2nd opinion, preferably from a woman if your doc is male. nm
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Yep, it was. There goes the best looking male professional dancer ever on the show....sm
Alec is some serious eye candy.
My female chihuahua mounts our male
cat who is a lot bigger than she is and when I say "what have I told you about doing that in public" she jumps down and looks at me with a real innocent "what?" look.
puleeze-you never met a male DRAMA QUEEN??
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male Blues are much darker in coloration
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Why is that about the male child? I have noticed that in my own family
Great advice by the way on the journal. There are so many things in this life that we cannot comprehend "in the thick of it", but later become crystal clear.
actually they DO cast out their male children as teens
often times if they do not "comply" with the religious teachings. There is an entire group of "Lost boys" all over Utah and the surrounding areas where FDLS and other religious off-shoots have cast out their teen boys. Really really sad. I lived in Utah and have known quite a few current and former FDLS members and also know a couple of men who as teens were "cast out" by their families. I think also the older men don't particularly care for the younger teen boys being "competetion" for them as far as the young girls go...it's disgusting religous fanatacism at its worst.
It really doesn't matter if it was a male or female
Whey the He!! are we discussing whether or not a female would ever do this. What happened was horrible! Plain and simple. Whey even bring the sex of the person into this? If that is what you are concerned about then you are totally missing the point of the story!
I love her; she looks like my male shepard/dobie mix, Scooby; and...
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The other board got me chuckling about male/female names. Can you name the sm
strangest male/female names that you've come across according to gender. For example, I once typed on a Frank and it was a woman born a female from birth!
What are some parents thinking???? I've also heard of Shirely for a man.
Smilin' Bob for Enzyte - Natural Male Enhancement sm
I especially hate the Christmas one where the girl gets all simpering and flirty b/c she hears about him... ewww.
Do you think infant male circumcision is child abuse?
Would you say that its child abuse?? Never thought of it that way before. Came across this article that discusses this question, interesting read. See link below.
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