MTs who have husbands that work midnights sm
Posted By: country bumpkin on 2008-10-21
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i'm curious as to how your day goes with a hubby working midnights. mine has been on midnights for four years now. he has a really good job, but can't get on days yet. it's so tough with having two kids that are in elementary school. when i'm ready to get on and work, he wants me to set with him and spend time with him. we're just not on the same page and it's really getting to me. he's not a communicator either.
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My husband work midnights until recently.
He would get home at 8 a.m. By then, I had been up and working for a few hours and was ready for a small break. We would talk while I ate breakfast. He would go to bed and I would continue with work. By the time, he got up around 4 or 5 p.m., I would be done working. We were able to spend time with the kids together and have dinner together before he went to work again. He has been on night shift at different times during our marriage, the last time for 4 years. We've never had any problems as far as my working. I just adjust my work time accordingly.
If your husband is sleeping days and your kids are in school, what type of problem are you having getting work done?
Maybe they sent you and your husbands....
separate. Going by the last 2 digits in the SS #. Maybe one of you got it and then the other will get yours later.
Why do husbands
get special guy weekends but women can barely get to the grocery store alone.
Question about husbands
Do any of your husbands ever take vacation days from their jobs with plans of doing things around your house, i.e. clean up the yard, get rid of junk, etc.? My husband always says he's going to do this when he takes a vacation day, but then he says, "It's a vacation day, and that is exactly what I'm going to do." I've always been one that does what I say I'm going to do, no excuses, and this is driving me crazy!!!!! Who wants to sit inside on their behinds on a beautiful day and not take advantage of it? Argggghhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! 
Husbands and money
I keep a spreadsheet of our income and expenses for a two-month time span. That way, I know in advance how much, if any, extra cash is left over on payday and can plan for any unusual expenses that might be coming up. Every couple of weeks, I sit hubby down in front of computer and together we look over where the money is going and how much cash we have until the next payday.
I update it every other day as we spend pocket money, unexpected expenses etc., and keep him informed if we are broker than expected. It's never richer than expected unfortunately!
I also take care of all the bills, etc., so it is easy for him to fall into a state of ignorant bliss. But I am an organized computer nerd at heart, so I like playing with the numbers.
But I think if your husband had concrete numbers of your financial situation, he would realize what a difference that $3 can make. Or even see that if he didn't drive home, he would save a gallon of gas a day, x5 days = $20 bucks or whatever.
that's how all husbands should behave..nm
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my husbands says this constantly
I think he was joking.
Call me heartless, but if he cannot pay or put out....?
What fun is that?
Easy to say but in reality husbands do not
understand everytime a baby comes in, some can feel threatened by the new one, some can be jealous. You should never ignore your hubby just to give attention to your child. Make sure both have what each needs. One day the child will be grown and out and you might (just minght)be stuck with the same man - although now days not a sure thing!
Most women who kill their husbands SM
get life in prison without parole, whether they deserve it or not.
I usually take the woman's side in this, since I too was an abused wife, but her getting a lenient sentence due to her husband supposedly making her dress up in sexy outfits?
Outcome is debatable. I do always think if all abused wives murdered their husbands and I imagine many deserve it, the streets would be littered with dead husbands.
PS
After my divorce found wonderful man that I thank God for every day.
And then some husbands have their wife spoiled
and give them any and every thing their little heart desires and I am one of those lucky ones. By the way, I don’t even have to cook- he does all that. I am spoiled rotten and loving it.
So THATS how the other women get those nice husbands! (nm)
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My husbands check went up a whole dollar - nm
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That is precious. It really is. Too many husbands not involved these days! nm
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these boys sound like good husbands. .
Ladies. . sounds like you have raised some relly nice young men - - really good husband material . . . the girls are going to gobble them up. . . and be pretty happy . . I applaud you. . .any guy that respects and treats his mom well . . and enjoys being with her and doing things with her. . . has to be a pretty good guy. . .
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
Everyone has to work once in a while!
Normally in this industry, you are paid an incentive to work "holidays". When I was in-house, I was offered a day off other than the holiday I worked, which was great. I was also offered to only work a 4 hour day, in-house. At home, you should also be given an incentive for those holidays! Some people think that Martin Luther King Day is more important than Christmas because they may celebrate Kwanzaa. Some people feel that April Fool's Day is important, so they are willing to work Easter. It goes on and on... There will be times in your life when you have to make a choice, "one day off" or a career in the "medical field". I would have to agree that we are important especially on those holidays. For example, most hospitals and emergent care units are staffed with one doctor, so it should really be only STATs you are typing. It is hard to "choose" when you want to be "sick". Hence, our salary!!!!!!! Most people will work all kinds of crazy schedules to accomodate their own lives, so why be so uptight about working Christmas because your employer requires coverage. On the other hand, this should be rotated amongst a pool of typists. I worked with a lady that would always volunteer for Thanksgiving (she had no family), so she could have Christmas off just to make us all mad! She'd say "well, I've worked the last 10 Thanksgivings, so I deserve Christmas off! It was so sad! Hmmmpphh! :) Good luck! Have a nice holiday (no matter how you spend it)! 
He did see my dog and work him up sm
and everything came back negative. I'm going to push him more on Tuesday when I call him. I like our vet a lot-have been using him for years with all of my dogs and so far he hasn't steered me wrong. I'm just not sure I want to wait much longer on getting him some medication. The poor little guy suffers so and it just scares the heck out of us. I mean, there isn't anything we can do but hold him and ride it out and just be there when he comes out of it. I just haven't had to deal with anything like this before.
Nah, I do it, too, the more I work, the more I do it.
on vacation, notsomuch!
Does this work?
testing
Both will work actually.
For people who want to learn about something, anything, Google is a great tool. If you want to get into semantics about it though, personally I have real-life, first-hand experience with these critters called OTTBs. That stands for off-track thoroughbreds. They live until their late 20's and sometimes into their 30's and that is rarely taken into consideration by the racing industry, who I feel should kick in a little cash at birth, for every single horse they register with Jockey Club, to ensure that these animals can be cared for, for the rest of their lives. Oh wait...that would put a crimp in the breeders bottom line though, wouldn't it.
I used to work
with someone who would say the quirkiest things. got on my nerves.
And I used to work with someone who had
a stick up their rectum and made everyone's lives mundane.
No, not every day and get this- I only work
part-time. She is always available when I want her to come over, can stay the night if I am working later, whenever I want her. You are probably going to start throwing rocks but my pay to her is anywhere from 50-75 dollars a day, depending on what she does, any extra things I have her do like cleaning the closets, putting up seasonal clothes, other than the regular clothes washing and the house cleaning (she does not iron on a regular basis but if I need something special, she would do that)- she used to cook for us but my hubby does that now. I DO NOT want to quit even my part time position- heck my husband might think I had the time to do housework too and ugh!!
Never during work...
I don't get that. They could buy a lot more if they only shopped on the off hours ;)
That might work if
He would actually go. I can only do so much to make him go. He is the most stubborn man in the world!!
It might work
to cover the parts of the couch they are scratching because cats tend to return to the same spot. If you cover the couch completely, they may go under the cover unless it's secured. If you prefer the cats stay completely off the couch, you could use Scat Mats. They give a little shock from a battery when touched.
Good luck. I've declawed cats before to save the furniture, and they never have the same muscle strength in their upper body after they lose the claws. I've switched to dogs because dogs listen, LOL.
I do work for PS and this is the one - sm
operation she does not like doing, says it leaves horrible scars. She does them but shows many before/after pics and actually has the patient talk to others that have had it done before she will do it for them. They go into it with their eyes wide open. So if you do get it re-done be prepared (that is if a Dr. will re-do you anyway).
How did that work
with insurance? I have one in my left armpit that really bugs me because it is so visible when I wear sleevless tops. My doctor told me that insurance would not cover removing it because it would be cosmetic purposes.
They do work, but -
You have to keep replacing them when their nails grow, or sometimes they just come off. I have all mine trained now not to touch the furniture. In fact, in the 25 years I have had cats I have never had a problem with my furniture being ruined (and I even have leather). I have scratching pads (both upright and the ones in the track ball cirle) that I keep supplied with fresh catnip that I grow myself. The cats LOVE it! They want to show me they are using the designated scratching areas because I always praise them when they do. Now, you need to put them in high traffic areas, not squirreled away some place your cats never go. Put them near the furniture, covered with fresh catnip. Then slowly transition the posts to another location, but put it some place the cats can easily get to. I bet it will work. Best of luck to you! :-)
that might work..
I do dearly love this cat and would rather move some place without carpet than get rid of him. The vet says that Maine Coon cats are supposed to be the easiest cat to train, so maybe it would be a matter of putting him in the crate at night until he got used to not having the food?
If you don’t work for MQ
then you are not allowed to post there. I see the posts coming in and I see no harm in asking that question.
Can you work in those?
NM
where do you work or are you an IC
I am just asking because its the opposite for me. Congratulations though. That is an accomplishment.
I wish that would work, but
my bank is merging with another bank this week, and they have gotten really strict about not crediting anything to your account after 2 p.m., even through the ATM. Until this week, I could make a deposit through the ATM until 8 p.m. and it was posted the same day. I did a "test" deposit this past Monday after 2 to see if I could trick the account, but it didn't work. I hate bank mergers.
I need overdraft, but I can't do anything about it today. All the offices were closed by the time I realized I was one penny short.
Thanks for the advice and keep the fingers and toes and anything else you can crossed!
Maybe they were getting work done
in the house and moved furniture out for that. Something like getting floors refinished. I worked with a girl who burned down her boyfriend's house because she locked it up tightly after they were working on it. The fumes filled the house and ignited from water heater or something. Besides I think insurance company would notice if there was no burnt furniture in the house.
I used to go to work at 5 but now
in my older years sleep until I wake, part timer, work 12-8 and absolutely love it, so much more energy than when I had to beat the keys 24/7.
Well, that might work for others however
I have the bird feeder sitting in front of my window where I work so I (as well as the furkids) can watch the birds- the squirrels get in a bush next to the feeder and make a flying leap. They don’t fool with going from the bottom up. By the way I feed all animals, be they birds or squirrels so doesnt really matter to me who is eating at what time.
Not sure if this will work -
Slide show of Cedric that DH made.
Maybe, just maybe, this would work -
Maybe you can embarrass them into calling first. Keep your doors locked, including the garage. Next time they show up unexpectedly, you and your husband hurriedly take off all your clothes and put on a robe, mess up your hair and answer the door like that. Then say, oh, sorry, we were just in the middle of something, now is not a good time. Just might work.........
I'm sorry your work is low
Hope it picks up. I'm loving today. All five of my doctors are out today so no work, but I still get paid to do nothing all day.
Don't know if this will work or not.....
Subject: Cookies!!!!
This will never work out this way-
that being your husband not backing you in what you need. I had g'children living with us for awhile and I told my husband (his g'children actually) then that even though we were not the parents, we had to work together as a unit because if not the child(ren) know the weaknesses and they will use them to get their way. Getting rid of my problem probably would not be helpful to you- I had the older girl leave (she had other g'parents in the city) and eventually the other 2 left. What a headache and I know the feelings about being made out to be the wicked person in this situation. I have lived that.
No work for me
I was off yesterday and today. I'm actually off until next Wednesday. I hope in spite of working, everyone had a wonderful holiday.
Work, work, work. That's about it.
Pretty boring, huh?
work and
Applebee's tonight - Easter play tomorrow night. Would be going hiking but we have rain. . Also going to watch UK basketball this afternoon . . and if they win, again tonight. .
trying to work some also
this weekend. take a break and take dogs for walk, maybe get a cup of java, and just relax later tonight :)
I think I work too much
:(
I work for the Q, too, though not for
long for the exact reason you mentioned - not making much money. We're also building a house, signed our contract yesterday. The price of lumbar may be down, but that must be about it. It costs almost double to build a house than it did 10 years ago. At any rate, I think you're right - he may be seeing it as rejection when you leave. Try talking to him when he's not upset and let him know you're going to be his partner for life, so he may as well clue in on things now.
It has nothing to do with her work.
Her Myspace is a personal page that is meant for her friends not her kids or clients. I know plenty of people that work with children, and it really doesn't matter what they do outside of work...as long as they're not doing it in front of the kids or telling them/you about it. She should have her profile set to private though, and then there wouldn't even be a question as you wouldn't see them.
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