Lucky for me I live in the rural midwest. Personally, I don't care about designer shoes
Posted By: Lu on 2009-05-01
In Reply to: A new designer has been highlighted - spread the love
or pedicures, etc. The average person doesn't think about those things and I could care less what "Michelle" is wearing or who she is wearing or where she shops or if she has sleeves or doesn't have sleeves. I don't give a rats patootie about any of the superficial crapola that is the Obamas. Good God, people, this country is going to heck in a handbasket, the unemployment rate is rising, and we are talking about Michelle Obama's ugly, way overpriced shoes!
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designer clothes/shoes
I, for one, cannot tell designer shoes or clothes unless the designer's label is on the product. I, however, do know ugly when I see it and those shoes are fugly!
O talks about our government being fiscally responsible and his wife is wearing $500 designer shoes.
It's not "her money to spend as she pleases." It's my money, your money, his money, her money. O better put up or shut up and that means his family too. No more big talk about the deficit, fiscal responsbility, and redistribution of wealth when when his wife is walking around in designer duds. Am I the only person that sees hypocrisy in that?
You're lucky (or he's lucky) the parents care
I have 2 kids just down at the end of the block from me and their parents don't give a rat's behind what they're doing. They're real smart alecks - ages 10 and 12 (?), both in elementary school. Apparently, they're quite the bullies at school, too. They like to mouth to any adults when they whiz by on their bikes. Is it wrong that I'd love to take my kids' BB guns and shoot their tires out when they're doing this?
Their mom doesn't care. When we first moved into town this past fall (short-term thing while we're building in the country), I felt sorry for them. They put on a good act. After a few weeks of them coming to our house and pretending to want to play with the boys, we soon realized they were freeloaders -- wanted to eat everything in my fridge (without even asking first) and then wanted to play our computers or video games (without my kids). I put the klinks on that real fast. After that, they started treating my kids like crap. I told my boys as long as they didn't do anything physical to just ignore them because they didn't care if they got in trouble and neither did their parents. Their mom even had the balls to come looking for them 1 night after they didn't go home. It was 9 o'clock at night and it got dark then around 7. I couldn't believe it.
Just a few weeks ago, the 2 perps beat another kid with a baseball bat at the ballfield. The cops were at their house quite a bit, but I see they're back out on their bikes again wreaking havoc. I can't wait till we move back out to the country!
Again - We live in a very rural area
Our cats were not only our pets, they served a purpose too. We have fields all around the house and the cats kept mice out of the barns and out of our house. We had our cats for 10+ years and they did just fine until SILs dogs moved back to town with her.
My animals are all checked regularly by the vet because we live on a farm. They probably see the vet more often than I visit the doctor for my checkups.
It is unbelievable how many nasty witches come out on this board when a person asks for a suggestion to help with a problem.
Everyone is such an animal lover but so quick to kill an animal or cut off ties with a family member because of an animal. Talk about double standards.
She loves her dogs like they are her children.
Not one single person who has responded with a nasty comment even came close to making a suggestion that would satisfy.
KILL THE DOG! DON'T GET ANY MORE CATS! That's it?
A friend just suggested that the SIL's dogs be kept in a kennel/dog run if she absolutely must keep her dogs up here.
WOW! How's that for a humane solution.
For all of you out there who were so nasty. Try to put this in perspective.
Since she cares for her dogs like they were her children, think of it that way.
I may not like her dogs because the one killed my cats but I was trying to be mindful of how she felt about her dogs too, as I feel about my children.
Why because you live rural did you ever think crime is not everywhere?
No matter where you live, rural or big city, means nothing to criminals. I keep my doors locked always and another thing, I never work with my back to a door, just cannot. You need to be thankful in the part about the dogs barking and alerting you to something not right and yet here someone was standing in your home. Good common sense is what it takes in this world.
I too live rural and have good sm
neighbors, beautiful lawns and homes (which dont' all look the same) and no roaming animals, boarded up houses etc. Given all that I still wouldn't live in a HOA, too many restrictions!
Personally, I would consider it lucky that
your 18-year-old wants to live with you. Most kids these days want nothing to do with their parents. I would not even consider putting my BF above my kids in any situation.
Wear shoes that you DON'T care about. sm
I've been to Mardi Gras 3 times, and all 3 years my shoes came out of just disgustingly filthy. You WILL be stepped on constantly, there will be questionable substances in the street, and if it happens to rain... you're stuck.
But it's SOOOOOOO much fun!!!
I personally hope some come to where I live -
I want them to open some place that has really good Indian food. Every new eatery we get is more steaks and country-fried this and that. At least if they own a business they will be paying taxes...
We loved our piggies, too, and they live for several years if you're lucky. Find
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I don’t care how you live your life, just don’t want to pay for your mistakes
I think I have made my point.
Shoes! Love shoes. Thin soles work best.
Don't be mad, but foot size might have something to do with it. I'm a 7 1/2 shoe size, and I suspect a foot much bigger than that might be a bit wide to easily hit the right pedal every time. Remove the shoe and your foot is narrower and you can feel the controls and not hit the wrong one. Just a guess because I've heard guys have the worst time with the pedal.
in the midwest, we're having a (sm)
heat wave, it's 28 degrees. Over the next week the high will be Monday which will be 1 degrees. WHEW!!!
Are you in midwest? I might know you, and I understand.
sdf
Nope, not in the midwest
NM
Maybe not in the midwest, but in San Francisco,
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Anyone from the midwest feel earthquake this a.m.
My husband had just left for work at 4:30 and the bed sharted shaking. Thought it was my cat and yelled out for him to quit. When it didn't stop I got up to look under the bed and drag him out but noticed that the floor was shaking too. I was totally scared but amazed also. I am only 28 and that was my first earthquake, just wondered if anyone else experienced it too. About 10:15 this morning we had an aftershock too while I was at work. My roller chair just kept moving away from my desk, thought maybe the floor was uneven and was sliding into a dip then I figured out what was wrong.
Designer Dogs
Oh, gees, don't get me started on designer dogs! Those who breed them are only out for as much money as the public will shell out! Come on, a poodle and a golden who is advertised as a gooldendoodle is a MIX BREED! Those who breed them (and they are on par with back-yard breeders and puppy millers and I refuse to call them breeders!) are frauds. They say the "best from both breeds will come out." This is not true! There have been more gooldendoodles who have temperament problems, forget their coat! Bad news here trying to groom them. Sure, they look cute as pups.
I have goldens and Shelties. I show them, but I don't breed them....I leave that up to those who are more knowledgeable in which dog and biiitch lines would merge the best. I don't want to create a structural/temperament/health issue that will be hard to eliminate as it takes soooo long to bred them out.
You'll find the majority of designer dogs go for much more than a purebred that's bought from a reputable breeder. AND, that breeder, if reputable, will have health clearances, you'll have to sign a contract which covers your dog, you, and the breeder, and the breeder will take the dog back if either you don't like the dog, you move, or whatever. So why pay $300 to $3000 for a mixed breed, especially when you have no idea how they will look when they grow up? Or, what kind of health or temperamental issues may crop up between the two breeds?
OK, off my pedestal.....can you tell I'm passionate about keeping pure breeds pure?
Just to say one more thing.....I am not anit-mix! Now way!! Just don't taunt that mix as a "breed" and charge mucho money for it! have had many, many mixes in my life. I even obtained a CD (mixed breed) with Casie and she was also a Therapy Dog. Boy, could she ever fish out food that the patients stashed, or hid, in their wheelchairs!!
OK, now I'll go take an extra B/P pill!!!!
(biiitch is mispelled as it is a bad word per my first try to post. Hey, a biiicth IS a female dog. Perfectly OK to say!
A new designer has been highlighted
An unknown designer has been recognized and compensated for his/her work of how many years they were not paid or recognized. Now box stores will see the shoes for $10 bucks to people like you, thus employing millions and millions of people all over the world.
Um, wait if she had worn flip-flops would you have asked how much her pedicure was?
Oh, and btw your rent is cheap...I am way over that.
Not unknown designer
But the knock offs will be great.
Hope you are safe in the Midwest with the terrible storms..
that are ravaging the area. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your families.
Now they unfortunately call 'em designer dogs...
but they're really just muts. They are all lhasa-poo's. It all began when we lived in a townhouse in the city of Lowell, MA. I really wanted a dog but they (the condo association) had a weight restriction of 40 pounds. So, we were out for a Sunday drive one day and happened upon this lady walking the cutest little dog. She told us where she got it and we drove right to the kennel that day. They had one puppy left (our Winston) and we snatched him up right on the spot.
He's getting mighty old and to help the hurt of his eventual passing not be as bad, I had the bright idea to get his replacement another lhasa-poo( a couple of years ago (Patton). Well, the young whipper snapper was constantly pestering poor old Winston, so I said, "Hey, we need to get him a playmate." Enter the third little guy, "Sherman." Also a lhasa-poo. So there ya have it.
The oldster is still with us...blind, toothless, and kinda stinky, but it's one big happy family of little portable dogs and I don't think I'll ever get a big dog just because I like the little lap dogs. They are totally gay though---little puffs of yappiness.
I was not out buying designer clothes or stuff for myself - sm
in my case it was "we", mainly him, spent way more than we make. Everytime one of his cards got a large balance (he never looked at the statements and I pay the bills) I would tranfer it over to one of my cards, which again he never looked at, and I had a P.O. Box for--so in my case it was very, very easy to do, and with paperless statements today even easier. We had a lot of things happen in our life over the past 4 years which made the money/credit card issue much worse, easily added $40K onto it (at $89K now)--family death, serious child illness--still dealing with that some--, job loss on my part, private school tuition ($12K a year---no longer go there for the last 2 years), inability to pay bills and heavily borrowed on cards----d-u-m-b I know. So don't be so quick to judge, it is not always so black and white. Yes I did get a few things I should not have, but I know during some of this time I was depressed though not horribly so but enough so as to buy a few things I never should have, but for 95% of it it was my DH never denying himself anything (though he would have if he'd known, and now he is --granted not too happy about it---one tiny concession he has made is only 9 beers a day, down from 12, so maybe he can get 3 days out of a case of beer instead of 2.) So my days of robbing Peter to pay Paul are over. We plan to have an open book when it comes to finances once his are paid off, and mine are enrolled with a debt management plan--- then only use his cards for gas, and work stuff basically--I won't have any as they will all get destroyed and cancelled in the DMP, and will use my debit card for everything --which I do now anyway, so it won't be a huge change for me. I don't think she is lamenting, just realizing what a horrid mess she has to deal with, it is hard, and I have to deal with my DHs comments for years to come, he did a few zingers last night. I will be okay though and have to pay the piper, it is worth it not having to go through a nasty divorce and custody fight as I know it would not have been pretty.
Earth Shoes....heel lowered in Earth Shoes
Progressive rural
Been around a lot in several "blue" states. All rural areas definitely not created equally, but there are a lot of really fine, progressive, intelligent and accepting of race-creed-color-sexual bias rural areas in Wisconsin and Minnesota. I love it here for that reason.
Rural area also
I also live in a rural area and have a farm. Unfortunately a lot of people are moving to this area and since it is rural, decide that they can let their dogs "roam free" which means I have a lot of livestock killed. The owners, when notified, say that their baby could not possibly be responsible for the carnage and refuse to pay. I lost $4,000 worth of registered pregnant ewes (not counting the value of the fetal lambs) in one evening to a black lab which I shot and killed. Now I don't bother to give the owners a warning, I just shoot every dog that I find on my property unless it's something like a toy poodle.
But is that not rural and not city
taxes? I had some property in the country, 200 something compared to my city home of over 2,000.
Rural, no still don't lock
doors. When i think of doing it and do, my husband just unlocks when he steps out to smoke and does not re-lock. But i'd say the majority of people here don't lock doors. and some leave keys in their cars too.
i'm rural too, so that's good to know!
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I don't care about your things, and can't imagine anyone would care about mine.
Whether it's my eating quirks or my sexual preferences, I have no need to divulge that stuff here.
It's NOT that interesting (mine OR yours!) and nobody cares.
We lock our doors, rural here - sm
we do not have much crime here but that may change with people out of work, etc. We have on occasion left doors unlocked when we go out for a while, by accident, and all has been well. We live on a private road though with 13 houses so we all look out for each other and strangers cars driving by (only 1 way in or out), etc. Routinely leave the dining room back door unlocked just because we let the dogs in and out there and forget to lock it when we go out. But one of the first things we did when we moved in was I insisted on key deadbolts on the front door and the door from the garage which opens into our family/great room and our 3 back doors (too many doors on this house--have 4, one is a slider). So we have double locks on those doors, cannot hurt. Everyone I know locks up, foolish not to no matter where you live.
So excited, new digs at home, anyone ever have a designer to give advice on how to place furniture?
I am just so excited can hardly type. I am getting new tile throughout my home, well the living room/dining room big room and then slate for my master bath and carpeting for my master bedroom. My question is has anyone ever had a designer or room coordinator may be the name to come to their home and tell them how to arrange furniture and items in their room? I have never been satisfied with my living room. I have 2 full size leather sofas, an oversized chair, several floor lamps and I have end tables with wrought iron legs. I have some decorations but if you have this done do they want you to buy other things in case you need to put more color in the room, say for instance a throw, new floral arrangement, and the like. Sure would like to hear from anyone who has gone through this. All this tile work starting next week and should last about a week and a half.
Mine was $150, little bitty rural coop
This on the face of it doesn't seem too bad, what with winter month running the furnace and everything, but I was pretty much living with my gentleman friend and spending less than a total of a week a month at my house, kept the furnace turned down to 55 to prevent pipe-freezing, and didn't have TVs or anything left on. I'm glad I wasn't around to see what it would have been had I been here all winter, with TV, computer, microwave space heater, furnace up to 68, washer/dryer, hot water heater, etc., etc., all running. EEK!
Snow in Oregon, I am in rural coastal range near Newport...
absolutely beautiful. We have about 2 inches right how at 5 a.m.
I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
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I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
shoes
I wore silver shoes with a purple bridesmaid dress. We also had silver/grey shaws to go with. This was in November.
In your shoes
Your story sounds exactly like mine. However, mine told me that if I did not lose weight he was going to leave me. He had an affair and blamed it on the fact that I was overweight. He said, "If you were not so fat, I wouldn't have gone there." Whatever!
Don't let him win - just MHO - same shoes here (sm)
I'm sorry for you - I know how it feels. People like that are best ignored, but would not want my kids exposed. My stepdad is just like that.
Put yourself in her shoes SM
If you had gone through a whole pregnancy and hoped for the "perfect" baby and things weren't perfect? The clubbed feet are correctible, yes, but seeing as she asked you not to say anything to anyone she is obviously having trouble coming to terms with the problem. She is a new mom, there is a problem she obviously is troubled about, hormones all over the place. I think backing WAY off is in order here. Respect her wishes and let her call you when she is ready. Being a new mother is overwhelming no matter how many times you've done it and she needs time.
at least ur not in my shoes
I would love for my husband to make advances towards me like that!!! I'm the one having to hug him and beg him. I agree with a below poster...don't push him away...enjoy what you've got. at least he wants to touch you.
Wish I was in your shoes.
I would do it in a heartbeat. Don't be afraid. Like another poster said, you can always move back. I now have a husband and kids and my family lives about 8 hours away. I miss my niece and nephew dearly but see them as often as I can. I stayed a month when each was born and then traveled every other weekend for several years. They are getting to be school age now so they know me well and I send things often. It has just become too expensive to travel that much.
I would just keep in mind with your BIL being in the military they may not be where they are longterm so that could pose a sticky situation if you get involved with someone special. Might want to talk to your sister. I know mine knows me better than anyone and always has great advice.
I have been in your shoes (sm)
I was in an abusive marriage and had children. I stayed way too long out of fear, I should have left years before I did. Just make sure you have tried everything to make your marriage work before leaving or you may have regrets. If it is something you feel you must do, you will be fine. It's not easy, but you'll make it. You'll have to work more and do without sometimes but you also should get child support to help.
My mom was in your shoes
Married Bob, our step-dad. He came on to all three of her daughters, sometimes right in front of her. She made excuses for him and downplayed what he did. She was blinded by his money. And of course he denied whatever, pretending it was all in friendliness.
He fooled around with my little sister, I had her move in with me and threatened to call the law. Mom cried and begged - oh, what will happen to the rest of the family? How will they live without Bob's money? Oh, the poor man is threatening to kill himself vs go to jail. Please, keep my mouth shut. He's sorry and won't do it again. Oh, and little sister was probably asking for it and to blame as well (yes, mom would rather blame her own child than precious Bob)!!!!
He went on to seduce a cousin, then her young daughter, and mom even caught him red handed molesting his own DOG!!!!! She stayed with him though, for the sake of his money and supposedly her family, although by then, most of us would not set foot in their house. My brother, who was growing up under his influence, also now has a thing for underage girls that are his relatives. Nice, eh?
He spent them into the poor house, and by the time he died, all his money was gone. My sisters and I refuse to even be buried in the same graveyard as that creep. Mom dug him up and moved him to his own family plot about 10 years later, but the damage is done to her relationships with her daughters.
So if you want to end up like my mom, deny, shift the blame, and believe him. Sacrifice your whole family and stand by your man. You'll get what mom got - shame and blame and many years alone to play should've/could've/would've.
Been in your shoes
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I know exactly how you feel, because my son was addicted to drugs with meth and binge drinking being his poisons of choice. Of course, he'd take anything--and I do mean anything--if he thought he could get a buzz from it. Every time I heard an ambulance wail in the distance, I'd wonder if today was going to be the day he overdoses to the point of being unsaveable. Every time somebody knocked at the door or if a police car would slow down in front of the house, I'd wonder if today was the day I was going to get notified that he finally died from his addictions. My heart bleeds for you...it really does. I know the heavy heart you have, and I know all about the soul-searching about what could I have done to prevent or maybe I even caused it.
Well, nothing you did caused it, and you definitely can't control its outcome since he is an adult, and he makes the decisions as to what he wants to do or not do with his life. I know that's hard to accept, because I went over and over in my mind with the "what ifs."
The best you can do right now is to not enable his habit. That means not giving money for rent (my son spent all his rent money on meth and booze and marijuana and other noxious chemicles), not bailing him out of jail, not giving money for groceries or even giving him groceries for that matter. That was hard for me. However, if he needed a meal, he was always free to come to the house >sober< and not under the influence of drugs and enjoy a meal. I think he came only once.
I lost track of him for 8 years or so, and then I learned he was living behind a dumpster in Boston during the coldest spell of the last century. I managed to get him out of that environment, and he did okay for a while. He had to go back to Massachusetts to serve a 60-day jail term, but he did that and cleaned up.
He was doing okay for a while and then he ran with "the crowd" and ended up back on meth and other drugs. He was again hooked, and this time it was a 4-year hiatus into that misery for him. I put him out of the house about 4 years ago, and the last time I saw him, I burst out crying because my baby was down to skin and bones, and he definitely looked like he was dying. So, for the past few years, I've been dreading the wail of sirens and knocks at the doors.
Well, about 3 days ago, I get a call out of the blue, and it was my son, wanting to come over. I was suspicious, of course. (In my mind, I thought about what else he was going to steal, etc.)
When I saw him for the first time in 2 years a few days ago,I truly did not recognize him. He had put on 65 pounds (not fat either), looks reasonably healthy, and he has "the sparkle" back in his eyes. Before, they were soul-less black orbs. Now, they shine. I found out that he has been drug-free and alcohol-free for almost 2 years now but that he was hesitant to make contact because Narcotics Anon. suggests only coming back and apologizing when able to make full restitution money-wise. Well, he didn't have the money, but he did apologize.
So, I really do know how you feel and all the pain, sorrow, and worrying you are going through and just how much greater those feelings will get for you. It will be a whole lot more intense as time goes on.
You need to get somebody to talk to for yourself. I tried the local Narcs Anon and a few of the other addiction groups as well as a couple of private counseling sessions.
Remember this: You didn't cause it, and you can't control it. Just don't enable him with money or gifts (he'll just trade or pawn whatever you give him for drugs...my son did.
If you need somebody to talk to about this, feel free to email me. I feel for you. I won't lie. It's going to get really, really rough...but no matter what he says/does, you didn't cause it.
Kathleen
If I were in your shoes - sm
First of all, take a deep breath. I would definitely ask him about it. I would also INSIST that he go to a marriage counselor with you. It does not sound as if you did it when it first happened, but you need to go. You have lots of unresolved feelings and rightfully so. I would tell him your marriage hinges on what action he takes. If he refuses, go alone. It seems like he is still holding on in some way to the memories and keeping in contact with her. Your marriage can recover from this with time, counseling, and 100% honesty from him. He needs to become an open book to you. It is not the end of the world, though it might seem like it now. My heart goes out to you. Best wishes.
How much is too much for shoes?
My husband always tries to get me to buy name brand shoes from an overpriced shoe store.... which I have to put insoles in anyway for my plantar problem!!!! Last time I bought shoes I went to Walmart and bought them for 20 and then put my insoles in them and it was fine. I saw these shoes made for walking by Sketchers and went online to look at them and they turned out to be $175!!! I was like WOAH!!! I actually like Sketchers, but good god I cant believe how much some shoes cost..... SO THE QUESTION IS HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR SHOES??? HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR YOUR KIDS SHOES???
Pay for shoes
I'm one who can wear shoes from Payless so I usually get shoes for $20, sometimes less if they're on sale. I have a friend who once said to me, I bought 2 pairs of shoes and spent $100 and she was excited about that. I laughted and told her I could have gotten at least 5 pairs or shoes, maybe more for that price. I try to get the kids shoes at Payless also, at least the youngest.
what color shoes to buy
See what color other bridesmaids are wearing, all should be same. Beige or cream color is a good choice. Gold/silver better choice for evening & not at golf course.
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