Love the Italian therapy! My dad and uncle were...
Posted By: kitkat on 2007-06-05
In Reply to: I won't miss Dr. Melfi! - Jersey Girl
raised that way...no coddling or worrying about hurting the little one's feelings. My grandmother would have made a fortune from her therapeutic thwaps!
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Oh, the memories......I can pass for Italian, but I am not Italian. I got my heart sm
broken in two in Rome, NY. I was so in love with this guy up there....and when his family found out I was not Italian he had to break it off with me! I was devastated. haha
Would LOVE to take a trip up there and drive through the Adirondacks, visiting family near Lake Champlain...I would love to take hubby there and the kids. Wow! Now I'm really missing the place!!! I think I'll try it this summer! Keep in touch ladies!
I love tuna with the mayo on salad with hot and sweet peppers and creamy italian dressing. YUM!
Just had to share - it's delicious.
I think once disgust happens, lots of therapy is needed to feel love again. Lots
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My uncle did that, his daughter
who was 8 told him not to, but he didn't believe her.
How wonderful to know someone like your step-uncle!
Have a great weekend with your family!
Does he like Uncle John's sausage? sm
I can't remember where you said y'all were now, but that is definitely a local thing. Their plant is in Brandon. Anyway, they are also available online but the shipping is very expensive. They are the ones that make the mojo sausage (and other fresh sausage) and sell it to Sweetbay/Kash N Karry stores.
Going to my aunt & uncle's house as usual
My husband, my parents, and I all drive down to my aunt and uncle's house every year. We usually bring something like pumpkin and/or apple pie.
This is truly sickening. I had an uncle who lived with his mother sm
until his 50s, lived off of her, stole from her, slept in the same bedroom. They are both gone now, but the whole family was disgusted by this and him. She was definitely an enabler. Would borrow money so she could "help him out." He attended a methadone clinic monthly and she paid for it. No one could tell her anything, either.
He died young. Committed suicide.
I had a great uncle who hated the custom of "viewings"
And you know, so many people will say things like, "He looks good/peaceful/asleep," etc. My uncle always used to say, "Now how can he look good, he's dead!" Well, my dear uncle passed away at the age of 96. He died peacefully in his sleep. He was independent and active all of his life. The day he died, he had been working in his garden, doing house repairs, and cooking dinner for himself and his wife. Business as usual, except he went to bed that evening and quietly passed away. Wouldn't we all like to finish out 96 years like that! There was a closed casket at the viewing, and his wife told us, "Well, you know how Joe felt. He didn't want people filing by saying 'He looks good.' But the thing is, he actually looks great!" My aunt was a little sad that she didn't have an open-casket viewing, but it was Uncle Joe's wish for a closed casket.
My uncle told me each teat on a cow gave different kinds of milk (sm)
One for whole, one for 2%, one for chocolate, and one for buttermilk. That was when I was *real* little; I don't think I bought that one very long.
He also told me that the mountain people had to have "hill cows" which had legs shorter one side than the other so they could stand on the hills without falling over. (If you've ever seen cows standing on a steep hill in the mountains, you'll understand why I believed that for a while...)
LOL.
My uncle's sister worked as Paul Anka's assistant
and got us free tickets to a show in Vegas :)
Oh, those Italian men!
A few months ago I had some new tile installed in my great room. There was (is) a problem with it in that it is very expensive (around $16-18 for 1 tile) and spots started to appear for reason??? Contacted the installer and he contacted the place it was bought from and today the makers from Italy came to see just what was going on as they said had never had this problem before. Folks, I am telling you, I had my central air at a reasonable coolness but had to turn it down while they were here and after they left and I think am still hot under the collar, so to speak. Their good looks, their suave manners, OMG. I think I am moving there to Italy tomorrow!!
I was thinking Italian
Very loud....very loving.
Same here Italian Family
Some fish, but no one in my family eats it so we also get a ham, my husband's family is Polish so we get perogies. Christmas Day our traditional Lasagne dinner and lots of homemade Italian cookies.
Another Italian family
I know just what you mean. Same thing with my family. My husband's family is Polish, but with ten kids in the family, I'm sure there was all kinds of yelling.
Mine was Italian too.....sm
Lasagna from scratch, home made garlic bread, and tossed salad. That's when I found out he HATES Neopolitan ice cream. LOL. We will be married 15 years this July.
Italian Christmas Eve with fish.
There aren't a lot of us, so we won't do the full-on 7 fishes, but we'll probably have some mussels, some shrimp, pasta, maybe some baked white fish.
For Christmas, probably ham, because I can serve that hot or cold and we can relax and not stress.
Yep, I had therapy for awhile too
Therapy didn't take the nightmares away and didn't take away my fears. My anger from it is better but not gone.
I think if I stay a little angry, I will be a little more vigilant and protective of myself. It will not happen to me again.
I can feel sorry for the jerk but can't forgive him for taking my security away from me.
And, before the "holier than thou" people jump on the religious aspect of forgiveness and healing, let me just tell you this.
I have seen many different counselors over the years for this. I even sought counsel from my church back then and I was basically turned into the church sideshow.
These were people I trusted but they let everyone in the congregation know that I was a little sinner and had brought a horrible shame upon myself and my church family.
This was not some kind of fanatical church but I won't say which one.
So in case Georgia Gal is wondering which church, she will continue to wonder. Just know that I will never get over this and I just can't see how she could. Church or no.
I believe in God, I just do not believe in church anymore.
Your doggie needs some therapy
It has no clue what it is, a Siberian and you call it a poodle. Poor thing. It has issues and I would suggest a good therapist!
you don't need therapy-you JUST SUMMED IT UP!!
This post says it all - and I think in your heart you know what would be the best road to take......it's scary but not for very long.......change can be scary but change is a constant in the life....and one door closes and 20 more open (doors and windows)....if you stay in the relationship, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of never-being-able-to-please-this-person and then hence, yourself. You only get to do this one time - as far as we know - wouldn't you want it to be THE BEST...?
Good luck, I so know it's sooooooooooooooo not easy.....
Was he cured by therapy
or medication?
hehehe.
I remember when DH and I were just engaged, he looked lovingly into my eyes and said the most romantic thing he could think of - "I promise not to be one of those guys who makes his wife a football widow."
Men are funny.
Try massage therapy - sm
It can do wonders. Tell them exactly what your complaints are. Best of luck! 
Yes he needs intense therapy
and they can probably get him disability which would help pay for it.
Question: Why do you keep saying retarded? Haven't heard that term used in years.
Question: Why in the world would they bring a 2yr old little girl into this situation. You said he has needed help for 16 years. What were they thinking. And as far as money goes, if they can't afford therapy, how could they afford to adopt a child from China?
Massage therapy!
 I try to treat myself every 3 weeks or so. PLUS i play a lot of online Jeopardy...
I agree with HER...I think he needs therapy.
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try italian dressing powder packet that you mix yourself. sm
i marinate for about 3-4 hours in this and then grill. tastes really good. you'll have to mix it with vinegar. read packet and mix as directed and then marinate in it.
meant to say old Italian WEDDING song....n/m
My husband is Italian and has tons of sex appeal!
He definitely has dark good looks in my opinion! He's a Scorpio too, and if you believe in that sort of thing (I do to a degree), they are said to be the most passionate of all the signs.
 Hmmm, if you're single you might just have to have another "problem" with your tile so they can come out again and you can set up a dinner date with one of them! 
It was a full-on Italian Sunday dinner.
We always had Sunday dinner with my entire extended family. (We lived on the same street.) So Sundays were a giant food festival with my mother's, grandmom's, and aunts' kitchens going full blast right after church until all the food was brought to Grandmom's for dinner in the afternoon. The first time I cooked for DH, then-boyfriend, was just my usual Sunday routine. My mom was ill, so I did our share of the dinner, which was chicken parmigiana and probably some other things. I also made bread with my grandmother that morning. My poor husband came from a food-deprived culture. His mother can't cook, and Sunday dinners at his house were usually tuna sandwiches and tomato soup. He shared that information at the table with my family, and there was instant silence. You could have heard a pin drop. Jaws went slack and everyone stared. It's still one of my funniest memories. A second or two later, my older cousins started razzing me for bringing home the poor "Irish kid", and all the women jumped up and started heaping more food on my hubby's plate.
I so agree - left at 18, therapy from 8-28...sm
And have been in fine shape ever since. I became my own hero the day I walked out the door for good at 18, never looking back...never went back, not even for dinner, though kept in touch all the time with my father via his work/job, phone or going directly there, my father always trying to be the peacemaker. I tried for several years and several different time but once one is so poisonous - you have a choice...and I always chose not to be involved with poisonous types of people.
Therapy IS the ticket FOR SURE and there's all kinds of therapies out there today for all kinds of personalities. Thank goodness for that - I was into the new-wave therapies back in the late 1960s-70s....
Bless everyone going through all of this either prior or now.....Bless ALL.
I have never taken hormone replacement therapy like you
because I knew from years ago, before the gov study that hormones were being linked with breast cancer, among other things. My elderly aunts (in their 80s) also refused to take hormones, one being a nurse. My mother took hormones and she died from uterine cancer. A previous physician told me I should take them (this was not OB-GYN and I just felt I had all the information I needed to make a sound decision, that being not taking them.
My Therapy Dogs are certified through
Therapy Dogs International. They have to pass two sets of tests..the first is the AKC Good Canine Citizen, then the TDI test. Any breed or hmmm-what-kind-are-you? dogs can become a Therapy Dog.
The dogs need to have a physical, stool testing, and vaccination history is sent to TDI along with a recent photo of your dog. You then will receive a photo ID that has to worn with each visit.
A lot goes into the training, but it is well worth it. Just to see the look on a patient's face really does bring on the tears. Deb, don't hide your tears....the patient's don't mind. You and your dog just might be the most emotional packed figure they've seen in a while. Everyone else who tends to them, while smiling, are distant and almost sterile. Your tears means you really care about them.
Info on the AKC Good Canine Test:
http://www.akc.org/events/cgc/training_testing.cfm
and the TDI test:
http://www.tdi-dog.org/tditesting.html
New scents, aroma therapy from YC
Love the ones you mentioned as well as Water Garden and Sweet Violet.
The SO (he's such a sweetie) brings me YCs all the time. He just gave me a boxed set of five Aromatherapy Spa candles:
cinnamon/frankincense
peppermint/basal/rosemary
lavender/ylang-ylang/geranium,
jasmine/sandalwood
tangerine/vanilla
I've only tried the first one so far and it's very nice. Don't know what's in them but the dog freaks when I get the box out. She rubs herself all over them while snorting like a pig. Very odd. You should see what she does when the YC catalog comes with those scented pages!
When my brother was in therapy, he used that technique.
Never would use the word "you" in a sentence when discussing an issue and constantly repeating back to us what we said in order to validate that we were heard. Our entire family hated it, especially because his issues were HIS issues. Beating three wives, always out-of-control, and demanding emotional support whenever he made repeatedly stupid decisions. He just couldn't repair the huge damage he had done by trying that one on us. (And he only tried briefly.)
It's not a bad technique. It's actually quite nice to be civilized that way. But whenever someone mentions it, I'm reminded of my brother who had hurt so many of his family members, emotionally and physically, and then couldn't figure out why the technique his therapist taught him didn't work like a magic charm. He never did figure out that the trust was gone from every relationship in his life.
Sorry! That was off-topic. It just stirred up some unpleasant memories.
father-daughter dance - old Italian song...
Stopped at the Italian market for hot capicolla and provolone..
I also picked up some bread, olives and roasted peppers. So we're having sandwiches. I'll probably make some broccoli rabe and throw some soup on, too.
We call it "dinner" in this part of the country. I'm fascinated by regional language differences.
(From the land where water is wooder.)
....therapy or a Marriage Encounter weekend, if that's still around...nm
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Bless your heart for having Therapy Dogs!
I think that's a wonderful program and hat's off to you for taking the time to do it!
It's therapy. At least for me it is. I don't mind it. Just don't read the posts if you know
they will bother you. I'm sorry to be so rude, but you can't dictate what other people posts unless it's religion or politics. If you start getting into the media and bad news, then you are really censoring the board and you don't want to do that.
I have this awesome recipe for hot italian subs..yummy. we had this tonight! sm
You take 2 Pillsbury french bread refrigerated rolls and make them into one big circle by combining the two.
Combine 4 T melted butter, garlic, and parmesan cheese and brush on top of bread. Bake for 15 minutes.
After bread is nice and brown, slice the ring horizontally making one large ring-type sandwich. Use your favorite deli meats and cheeses; turkey, ham, provolone, salami, pepper jack, American, pepperoni, etc. Place these on the break and bake open-faced for another 3-4 minutes. When done melting cheese add Italian dressing to the sandwich.
This is a Pampered Chef recipe that cooks very well on their round baker. It's a hit every time. I didn't have turkey but had plenty of left over ham from Christmas so I used ham and provolone.
The Pillsbury rolls are very easy to find AND I've seen them buy 1 get 1 free a few times so I will stock up and get 6 or 8 of them for this meal. Good luck!
While that is cooking
Hope she saved lots of the tips for you for therapy...
just kidding ;)
I overted one of these last week with Avon Moisture Therapy sm
and I swear by it. This time of year I cream up, especially rubbing into the areas that these occur, then put on some socks on my hands for the night. I have not had one of these until recently and like I said, I averted it with this stuff. I am nice and comfy this week.
Someone posted a recipe for baking chicken in bbq sauce and Italian dressing... SM
Does anyone have that recipe? I am making chicken tonight and need something that I can throw together and stick in the oven while I'm working. I haven't cooked in a couple of days and the natives are getting restless for a home cooked meal!
When our rich uncle got out of the poor house we'd be rich...sm
when we were young we'd think we'd be rich one day and it took us a while to catch on!
I LOVE love love shallots! I use them in everything that calls for an onion and/or garlic. Mmmmmm. n
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American Idol - Love, love, love Adam!!!
I think he'll make it til the end! At least I hope so!
My niece had a Yorkie, the love of her life! We all loved her so. Lots of love in store for you.
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Love movie "A Christmas Story" when dogs eat the turkey and they go out for Chinese. We love d
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She's sweet. I think she's gorgeous. Love her hair. Love her sm
smile. I wish I looked that great! I don't even come close, so who am I do judge? I admire beauty greatly in other women...I envy them!
sweet....love the heart charm, he's got love.
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God bless you on your path, all love begins with self-love, so you are really on your way.....sm
We should have less time putting needless labels on things, paying attention to dividing lines, and pratice more love, understanding, and humiility....we will all have things to answer for, no one is perfect, but I believe we are all precious and loved by the Lord, who knows all hearts, and has infinitely more compassion and mercy than ANY of us can comprehend. Be happy and take care of yourself, sexuality is such a small part of who we are in this world, but you have to be happy and at peace.
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