Losing your sex drive with menopause is
Posted By: sm on 2009-06-09
In Reply to: Depression/Menopause/Decreased Sex Drive - Anonymous
part of the natural progression of our biology.
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Depression/Menopause/Decreased Sex Drive
I was wondering if any has any suggestions for increasing a woman's sex drive. I have been on Wellbutrin and trazodone for years and now I am going through menopause on hormone replacement. (I am 47 and had an ovary removed last year which caused me to go into menopause.) The last few years my sex drive has decreased to almost nil. Any suggestions/information would be much appreciated.
I'm not in menopause, but (sm)
I have atypical migraines to where my speech goes wonky, I have paresthesias, my head spins, and I can't walk right. I have problems with them premenstrually as well. The thing that has helped me the most was the overall change in my diet. That might not be much help, but that is my personal experience. Medications didn't do much for me. Once in a while the caffeine makes migraines worse but it usually helps.
I hope you find relief soon.
menopause
All natural here too though I did try the usual OTC herbal remedies which didn't help. I finally went on Prozac just to have some sanity. Perimenopause if I recall lasted roughly 1-1/2 years before the periods stopped altogether.
menopause
It is clear that no one takes hormones for perimenopause symptoms. It seems pretty clear that the upset posters are taking antidepressants for their perimenopause.
So I don't even think this is a debate about natural menopause. I think this has become a debate about antidepressants, which I don't care to have.
The original question was to people who were going through natural menopause.
Menopause
I went through premature menopause (started going through it before age 35, am now 39), and I have not once taken replacement hormones. I've only experienced mild hot flashes and only mild sweating on the back of my neck at night. I'm not sure how long I was in perimenopause, as my diagnosis was made after my periods had completely stopped for 7 months...my first GYN refused to believe it was menopause at such a young age, but my new GYN ran every test imaginable to make sure it wasn't something worse, then did the "big test" and it came back showing I was in full menopause. I starting having "problems" at around age 29 though (irregular periods, etc.). I was actually happy because now I was free to make vacation plans without worrying about "mother nature" showing up unexpectedly.
menopause - and it's pleasures
I have been having my own personal summers now for 10 years ever since having a hysterectomy and removal of my ovaries (the dr wasn't supposed to remove them but he did - and the next patient got my bladder suspension - it was a big mess). Anyway - I tried some herbals from time to time - nothing really worked. I have been on estradiol injections every 2 weeks for the past 9 years - and this is the only thing that comes close to helping. It was nice in the winter - i would sleep with the heat off and especially when it was down in the teens, I could count on a goodnight's sleep with my room temperature sitting around 45-50 - and sleeping with as few clothes on as possible. I wish I had an answer for you - I would get out of MTing and sit back and enjoy my billions - but I don't think anyone has the answer. You might try some Ambien (the regular not the CR) it at least keeps you asleep - you just wake up with wet clothing and sheets in the mornings but you don't realize that you are sweating during the night. In fact, you won't even remember anything that you do or say after about 15 minutes after swallowing that little pill.
Male menopause
Is anyone's signifant other going though male menopause, mid life crisis (or whatever it is called). If so, how old are they and what is it they're going through (or better yet what are you going through). Mine is not bipolar or depressed (although he's making me depressed). Just wondering what others are facing with their husbands.
This is me right now - 
perimenopause/menopause
Anyone here go through the perimenopause/menopause without hormones. No birth control pills or HRT?
Mostly, how long did the perimenopause last before the year without the period?
Dear Menopause...
Thank you for no hot flashes and no warning of your arrival. Thank you for the worst of this being a certain amount of brain fuzz, especially when I am tired. Thank you for not bothering me with heavy or irregular gifts from Mother Nature. Thank you for showing up just when I had run out of Tampax anyway. Most all, thank you for coming right in time for my 48th birthday and bringing the gift of keeping pretty panties pretty permanently.
HAHAHA- Wait until you hit menopause.SM
forgetfulness - returns in middle age to late middle age - happens to many/most w/menopause - you will become forgetful....*lolol*
and there is no escape unless, of course, you CHOOSE to take hormonal replacement therapy - which many have not and do not today due to the other very severe problems HRT causes...
YO - but a shout out to you - BEST OF LUCK IN YOUR MID 40s-50s......and 60s-70s w/that forgetfulness. *roflmao* and it doesn't get better into your 80s and 90s either. THINK ABOUT IT....*lol*
Your problem seems to be that you leave ABSOLUTELY no room for error, and it's all gonna come back and slap you in the face in a decade or two or three. I promise this - I don't wish it on you.....but it's KARMA -
KARMA - very much like a kinahura (spelling is wrong but YOU know what I mean) equates to what goes around, comes back around, and bites you right on the face (or in the tuchas.......take your pick)......
  
Yes, especially if you're around that menopause time, too. This was
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To poster below on insomnia and menopause
Oprah will be a very informative show today on us women going through menopause. Dr. Christine NOrthrup is the guest and she's wonderful - there'll be lots of good tips for eating right, controlling our hormones, sleeping well, etc. It's all about the mind/body connection which I wholeheartedly believe in too. Catch the show if you can.
I started a soy menopause tablet
recently. I also changed jobs because I now have no tolerance for sitting at home doing one thing. With my new job I am constantly moving, working with other people, half men, half women, get to be outside in the sunshine, and we laugh and joke all day. I haven't faced the ugly week yet, but I'm hoping it will be better. For a while there I was alternating between just sleeping the day away or screaming in frustration.
My sister has PMDD and does great on Prozac, but the only thing I'm taking now is 1/2 a clonazapam at night to sleep and multivitamin with minerals and extra D and the soy menopause stuff. But I can't tell you how it's lifting my spirits to be doing physical stuff, even sitting and kneeling on the floor of a greenhouse pulling weeds or sweeping the floor, laughing and joking with other people. It's not good for me to be inside, working all alone.
I just read 2 books on menopause sm
Apparently once you miss your first period, it takes on average 4 years for the peri- and full-blown menopause to be completed. Some get through faster, some slower. I'm 50 and have only missed a single period so far, but the mood swings are horrendous already, as well as the increased bleeding. EEEK - this is not gonna be fun!
Google Dr Christiane Northrup; she's written extensively about the process.
little by little in this country - losing ....nm
I think I'm losing my memory
I know as we get older we all joke about it because it seems to be true for a lot of us. But, do you ever worry that it could be something more serious? For the last 10 years, I've noticed that I can't remember numbers any more like phone numbers. I used to be very sharp and have a good memory but now I rely on notes. It sux!
I am always losing my hair.
All year round. A lot comes out in the shower and when drying my hair. My bathroom floor is covered. I have very thick hair. I never thought to ask my doctor about it. May be I should. I do not see any bald spots yet, but I will continue to watch. I just turned 50. I hope it does not get worse.
Losing a child
I think when people say this they are talking about children who have lived, a viable child. Your baby could not at 11 weeks have survived outside the womb. My question to you- would you much rather it have been born say with a myraid of birth defects and struggling to breathe, constant medical care, not able to walk by itself, needing constant medical/home attention just so it could have been born? I know it would be even more difficult for me to have that happen than nature taking its course as in demise in the womb.
I posted above about losing my mom sm
I remember walking with a couple of friends and complaining about my mom (while she was still alive) and one of the women said to me "I lost my mom and I would give anything to have another day with her". It was several years later before I lost my mom, but oh how those words play in my mind. I will hear the country song "Just one more day" and I have to turn off the radio. I miss her teribly and I personally think that is the way it should be. Just keep all of the wonderful memories. "hugs again"
Okay, losing my mind. I now see it! Thanks for the help. nm
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Losing friends
When I lost my first one (my cat BB) I tried to keep him hanging on as long as possible but when I talked to him about it he let me know he wanted me to let him go and I held him when I took him to the vet and he purred the whole time. He knew he didn't have to suffer any more. The really hard stuff only lasts for 3 days, then you feel better every day. It's lots easier after you get the ashes back, you feel like they're home. On my hearth I have 4 late cats, 1 late husband, 1 late brother-in-law and my late mother. I never really feel like they're gone. I feel for you, hang in there.
I'm sorry you're losing him too. (sm)
Maybe he and Sasha will play together over the bridge. So far she is eating well and keeping her weight on, so perhaps we have a little more time. She's so precious.
have same problem after almost losing my
only 2 year old to renal failure. Had to find ways to give high calorie and stimulate appetite. From the vet get one called AD by Science Diet. Mine likes it mixed with a little warm water to pablum consistency. High in vitamins, protein, fat and vets give it to very sick cats - like TraumaCal in humans.
Way past menopause, surgical back in the
89s, but my hair loss mostly due to the thyroid problem. Know age can play a part but diagnosed as coming from the problem with hormones.
I've had thinning hair every since menopause...
It's not like it comes out in gobs but just is thinning out really bad, basically can't do a ponytail anymore. My NP just said, yeah that's just the breaks with menopause and didn't want to do any testing. I finally went to a dermatologist, who ran thyroid tests and also iron tests, because he said in his experience hair loss was often associated with low ferritin. I know that I don't get much iron in my diet and took vitamins without iron since menopause, so switched to a vitamin with iron, seems to be a little better but maybe just my imagination... my ferritin was on the very low edge of normal, almost into low range. My thyroid tests came back okay.
Also about docs prescribing certain meds,I do know some veternarians who got bonuses, prizes, etc. for presribing so much of certain drugs... like quite NICE prizes. Wonder if this happens with doctors and prescribing certain drugs when they insist on a certain one...don't know but sometimes makes one wonder.
mine's been going through menopause his entire life nm
wal-mart...polaroid dvr...ebay...okay dokay
sounds like a menopause sneak attack
Your call on how to handle it, but it sounds hormonally motivated to me....the crying inappropriately about a child you are not raising kind of gives it away.
I guess you know because it is not your fingers you are losing, NM
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Is she losing weight or having frequent
urination? I know from a friend of mine that these are some symptoms. Also, my friend had blurred vision to the point she was afraid to drive. She went to an ophthalmologist for whom she used to work. He suspected diabetes and checked her sugar. It was over 600 in the office. She has seen been an insulin dependent diabetic. She was losing weight rapidly. You are just being a good daughter. Keep an eye on things for her.
the world isn't losing freedom of speech...
Just the Christians! Talk about anything except God, Jesus, Church, etc., and we're gonna pay and pay dearly for it, I am afraid! 
Focus on getting healthy, not on losing weight
I don't know your height, but was 5Ǝ" and 175 when I started trying to get fit. I lost inches first before losing weight. It took 4-5 months to lose 25 lbs, going from a size 16 to 12. Once I got there, I was more fit than 93% of all women my age. I was doing mountain hikes that put my teenagers to shame.
A few years later, I had some GI problems and started losing inches and a bit of weight, but not much weight. I lost the muscle as I had already burned off the fat. I dropped only 5 lbs, but went from size 12 to a size 8. I was anorectic. I'm back up again. ugh.
Just wanted you to know that if you think about getting fit, you may be more successful than if your goal is to lose weight. A lot of people give up because they don't lose the weight they expect of themselves. Your body will tell you where you should be. If you lose too much weight, you'll stay sick. If you are fit and stay fit, you'll feel it in any muscle and bone of your body. Good luck! Sounds like your off to a good start.
so sorry, losing a pet rips a part of my heart out
and having to make the decision rips an even bigger part. So very sorry. Take some solace in the happiness he had with you.
Agree with losing tail. An old cat just tends to walk around, not much jumping or
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Read the papers, duh! People are losing their homes
for getting into this stuff.
Goes to show, you aren't that smart. Money in bank getting interest only. Come on lady, what planet do you live on? You are full of it. You are depending on the two most unstable things in the world right now. Talk about planning.
Parenting advice needed! I am losing my mind with my 14yo son. SM
He is so smart. I got his first grade card a couple of weeks ago, 2 Fs (Science and Computer Lit) and a D+ in English. The rest of his grades were acceptable. The problem isn't that he doesn't understand the subject matter in these classes, but that he simply doesn't do the work, doesn't turn in homework assignments, NOTHING!
I started having trouble with him last year and he barely passed the 7th grade. Now, here it is the beginning of a new school year and he's doing the exact same thing. He's grounded, of course, but that doesn't seem to make a difference to him. Last night his English teacher called to tell me he hasn't turned in any assignments since the beginning of the new quarter, that he simply sits there at his desk doing nothing while the rest of the class works. She said he seems to be easily distracted.
When I talk to him about school, he gives me attitude. Last night after I hung up with the English teacher, I was very angry, and proceeded to ground him longer and took away his IPod. He had the audacity to say "mom, you're really making me mad (only he didn't say "making me mad"). I took step toward him because I was about ready to slap his disrespectiful mouth and he said "you better not lay a hand on me." He threatened me! So I basically took a deep breath and said "son you do not want to take me on." And then I proceeded to tell him that he would be staying after school with his English teacher until further notice and that I will be picking him up every day after school to make sure he brings home all his books and homework.
I don't know what else to do. I have asked his teachers to keep me informed via email cause I'm always at my computer during the day. His Science teacher just emailed me and said he didn't turn in his assignment today. After all that last night and he STILL didn't turn in his assignment!
I tried to be understanding because he's at a new school in a new town, but socially he's happier than I've seen him in a long time. He has made a bunch of new friends, he's planning on going out for the basketball team. At first I tried to blame his attitude problems on the move and the new school, but he was doing the exact same thing last year at his old school. His dad and I have separated and maybe that has something to do with it, but life has been less stressful without his dad here, even my son has said so.
Please give me some advice. I've thought about talking to the school counseling, going to family counseling, having my son see a therapist. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I'm failing as a parent here and I don't know what to do.
Thanks for letting me spill my guts.
Crickets, airports (not planes), spiders, losing my kids...
My chiropractor said his plastic surgeon friends are losing their practices.
At least here in C.FL, plastic surgery is tanking!
I'm sorry. It's rough losing a pet. I lost my dog, Tate a couple years back. SM
He was a sheltie and he used to lay under my desk when I worked and I would rub him with my foot and he was a great foot warmer in the winter! I used to say, he wasn't my dog, I was his person. He got sick and then his liver failed and I had to have him put to sleep because he was suffering. I cried for weeks! I still haven't gotten another dog. My kids have been begging me and they've almost wore me down, but for a long time after Taters died, I just couldn't bring myself to even think about another dog. I compromised and got the kitty last summer. I've never had a cat before, so I didn't know if I'd like a cat or not. I've always been a dog lover, but I've been quite taken with my little cat. He's ornery little guy and I love to play cat and mouse with him.
Listen to me just gush! Sorry about that.
It looks fun to drive, too! -- nm
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So who is going to drive them to the
bank? You? I doubt they have a good enough credit rating to get the house, so just get your paperwork in order as quickly as you can and see if you can beat the competition to it, no matter who the competition is. While you stew, a whole other person might come in and snap up the house you want.
I can drive myself where I want to go! nm
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low sex drive
Yep, I feel your pain. It IS part of the menopausal cycle. Already talked to my doctor and a PA about this. Guess what? There is nothing that they can do. However, through my own investigation (and watching Oprah) there are bioidenticals. I went to a seminar in my area about it. I believe it can help, but it isn't cheap. Google this and read up on it. It's very interesting. You can try over-the-counter creams, they help somewhat, but they don't "get you in the mood". That's the hard part. Good luck!!
Jealous of what? Because she can drive
NM
Hard drive?
Hello...sorry for the beginner question, but if I purchase a hard drive, are they generic to any computer? Or do they need to be specific for the computer they are going to be put into? It's going to go into an HP Pavilion. I just want to get a 40GB hard drive that doesn't cost too much. Any info. would be appreciated.
There is a bar w/ a drive thru store
across the street from our apartment complex. One morning around 10/11am I saw a school bus go through there. I'm sure he/she was just picking something up for later but it just looked bad!
That's prey drive for you.
With Siberian huskies, I know all about that. Sasha has been known to catch birds, moles and squirrels. Misha got herself a rabbit once. I could see how proud she was, marching through the living room with it before taking it back outside. No I don't like it, but then again there are also hawks and snakes trying to get them also, even in my yard.
Sasha enjoys eviscerating a squeaky stuffed toy, but it's a pale comparison to the real thing for her. Thankfully she just carries the real animals around once they are gonners. It is unfortunate, but it's only inside the 6-foot privacy fence that they're in danger. Wish I could keep critters out. I even get snakes back there, but so far those just make Sasha bark for me to come see.
When we go to pet stores they would be happiest if they could spend most of their time in front of the small animal cages. They really want me to get them a ferret or rat, but that's not going to happen!
Drive your car to death
NEW YORK (CNNMoney.com) -- By keeping your car for 15 years, or 225,000 miles of driving, you could save nearly $31,000, according to Consumer Reports magazine. That's compared to the cost of buying an identical model every five years, which is roughly the rate at which most car owners trade in their vehicles.
In its annual national auto survey, the magazine found 6,769 readers who had logged more than 200,000 miles on their cars. Their cars included a 1990 Lexus LS400 with 332,000 miles and a 1994 Ford Ranger pick-up that had gone 488,000 miles.
Consumer Reports calls the Honda Civic a "Good bet" to make it to 200,000 miles.
Calculating the costs involved in buying a new Honda Civic EX every five years for 15 years - including depreciation, taxes, fees and insurance - the magazine estimated it would cost $20,500 more than it would have cost to simply maintain one car for the same period.
Consumer Reports' "Good bets" for making 200,000 miles: Honda Civic, Honda CR-V, Honda Element, Lexus ES, Lexus LS, Toyota 4Runner, Toyota Highlander, Toyota Land Cruiser, Toyota Prius, Toyota RAV4
Consumer Reports' "Bad bets" for making 200,000 miles: BMW 7-series, Infiniti QX56, Jaguar X-type, V8-powered Mercedes-Benz M-class, Mercedes-Benz SL, Nissan Armada, Nissan Titan, Volkswagen Touareg, V6-powered Volvo XC90.
Then it is worth a drive. I'm sure you will have a
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And why do they have to drive in packs?
Everyone bunched up. Almost like it is an insult if someone passes them. I prefer to stay back and take my time. I think it's funny that everyone seems to end up stopping for the red light anyway. How much sooner do they get to their destination - 5 minutes?
How to drive them all crazy
I put random numbers and/or letters on the presents not to be revealed until Christmas morning, so no one knows whose is whose. Gives me lots of chuckles year after year!
Was married to a man with zero drive sm
I mean, he seemed to have some drive in the very beginning, but after about a year he seemed to have no drive at all! He would constantly complain about being tired...even after spending the entire weekend asleep on the couch. He took antidepressants and it didn't help. He took sleeping pills to help him sleep more deeply, didn't help and it wasn't so he would be "up" for fun either. Hottie lingerie didn't work. NOTHING WORKED.
We are divorced for some years. When my oldest child was a teenager and would stay over at dad's with the new wife, he frequently heard his stepmother whine to his dad about always been too tired for relations and he didn't seem interested in it at all. I thought...mmm...same argument new wife! It wasn't me!!!
I have talked to enough of my friends to understand that some men lose interest or perhaps they lack any kind of a drive anymore. This is why my friends and I all agree that you need a younger man so that when his interest peeters out you'll be slacking off too. LOL
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