Loneliness is part of the human condition. Learn to embrace it
Posted By: My theory on 2006-11-17
In Reply to: Curbing being lonely - Brandy
It is inevitable that for the first year, you will feel drawn back to what you are familiar with (Stockholm syndrome?). But, try to relish in the peace in the house and create a routine that includes some pampering. When my thoughts turn to feeling isolated being single, I read books, garden, watch T.V., go shopping or go for a walk.
Since you have kids, they will be a pleasant distraction.
There is hope in me but deep down I have to realize at 48, that I am not good at relationships, attracting men like your husband with addictions or personality characteristics that are difficult to deal with (immaturity).
It seems that being alone with occasional bouts of loneliess is preferable to a relationship in which I have to be the adult.
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People in other countries do not chose to learn English, they HAVE to learn it in school
for a period of 8 to 12 years.
Do you and Hubby/So Go into that Embrace & Kiss?
LIKE YA DID WHEN YA WERE COURTIN'?
Yall remember those kisses and hugs they were hot back then!
yall still have that passion or do you remember or have you forgotton lol?
Jesus and God would *embrace* sinners, not avoid them--sm
We are ALL sinners. No one is perfect, no not one, according to the Bible. No one is saying you have to associate with them, but if God can forgive them of their sins, why can't you? HE will judge them when the time comes. It is not up to you to determine when and if that happens. God bless you.
Yes, she has a medical condition
shaking, quivering and twitching. Paris is afraid to go to jail that is it. Greta's take is a bit much. Greta keeps saying she has a medical problem. She needs Xanax or something. She will calm down soon. She was not quivering or shaking in her backyard hugging her parents. PLEASE.
Sheppard she has "Extreme bratititis". FUNNY.
Now PARIS PARADE she is off to jail now.
Me, too. Thank you for posting about that condition.
I've always had larger dogs and had no idea such a thing existed. Hopefully it will help someone learn about the condition.
I have had the condition for years now
and my T4 was showing up as normal but then I had a really indepth test done (cannot call the name right now) but it showed a value that was off the chart so the answer to your question is a definite yes, happened with me.
That's great! Everyone should learn to cook & learn
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Dad said: You can learn from your own mistakes, but it's easier to learn from
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if you want to keep the car in good running condition. nm
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Anyone with a printer deskjet know why it prints a page with part of it dark and part of it light.
It is not printing uniformly.
It's not the dancing part, it's the people part that I don't like. K? We clear now?
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Human nature...sm
How many people make New Years resolutions (pledges)? How many break them during the year? Teens are fighting hormones, peer pressure, constant exposure in TV shows/movies, etc. With few exceptions, I think pledges are meaningless unless the person making them is determined to carry them out. I agree with another poster about the father-daughter pledge events. I think it is a bit creepy.
Human names
I name all mine human names as they are a part of the family. Plus, when you meet someone by that name it is hilarious! I especially love old fashioned names for them. Right now I have a Hazel, Eliza, Eleanor and Stella that I named. Named one Nick as I found him at Christmas time for St. Nick.
whistles only work if there is a human on the other
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You could look into the human version of same med. Probably cheaper.
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i see it as a human behavior post.
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Glad he's starting to act like a human being. :D nm
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The one here has more automated registers than human cashiers (sm)
and they don't work half the time. They often have one or two "real" cashiers and 5 or 6 self-check outs open. Recently I had an entire cart full of things I intended to purchase and waited in line while one person after another had a problem with the self-check registers and the poor one cashier assigned to them ran from one to the other trying to help. I got so frustrated that I left my cart full where it was and walked out. Also their bathrooms are absolutely disgusting!
I know its human nature to discuss things such as
there is a 21-year-old college student missing from my home town. She has not been seen since Friday. Her name is Leah Hickman. Her sister and the police were on Fox News last night - Greta (not sure of her last name) interviewed them. Please keep Leah and her family in your thoughts and prayers.
Wow, aren't you 2 just the nicest human beings?!! NOT. sm
How mean you are and hateful -she's still a person and deserves some compassion, not hatred because she is overweight. It's a hard struggle to lose weight, I speak from experience. You just sound like a fat-hater, which seems to be the only politically correct HATE allowed in this country these days.
Dogs/Adoption of human kids
Boxers are just adorable! I love them! I have 3 pugs. I dunno - I just have this thing for pushed-in face (brachycephalic) dogs. Pugs are a pretty lazy breed. They sleep about 34 hours a day. They are very cuddley and loving. My oldest is 8, my second is 7 and my third is just shy of 6 (the older 2 are males, the youngest is a female). I have 2 black pugs and 1 fawn. I am going to be devastated when they die. They're going to have to lock me up in a psych ward and keep me heavily medicated. Hubby and I have been married almost 18 years. We tried for 14 of those to have a (human) baby. We went to all the best specialists, including the University of Connecticut, when we lived there. We're amongst the 20% of people where they just cannot figure out why we could not get pregnant, so my pugs are my babies. As fate would have it, 2 years ago, my uterus prolapsed, a grade 2 prolapse. I was wiping one day after going to the bathroom and felt a bulge. Well, having worked in the medical field since 1988, I was curious, so I pulled out a mirror and thought "I'll be damned - that looks just like my cervix." It was. Because of the degree of prolapse, I had to have an abdominal hysterectomy about 2 months later.
Now, adoption, you say? It's nothing more than buying a baby anymore, with the lawyers getting rich. An American baby runs around $40-50,000 and there's no guarantee the mother won't rescind on her offer, which would just absolutely devastate me. Foreign adoption? Runs around $20-30,000 dollars. We just don't have the money. I think Chinese and Russian babies are just beautiful and would love to have one.
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Human placenta can be served as a food?
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See the link below for a recipe.
I LOVE human names for animals...
...I think they are really cute. I especially like the idea of having old fashioned names for them! Thanks for the idea!
human crap who dump babies should be publicly ....
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Disagree-it is NOT human nature. My husband thinks that too (sm)
My husband covered his fishing pole in the back of his truck one day because he said some "average Joe might walk by and take it" because it was just too tempting with it showing. Average Joe wouldn't rummage through the truck and take it - that would just make him a thief, but if Average Joe saw a fishing pole there in plain sight, he might take it. That is wrong to say that you cannot expect someone to come into your home and work for ou and not take anything, that it is human nature. It is NOT human nature. It is stealing and it is wrong. I am not perfect by any means but if I was working as a housekeeper I would not take anything that was not mine.
So were they stolen by a thief? Lol or just a person with human nature? (sm)
I probably would have just warned the cleaning person that some things had been missing and if she happened to put something in a new place to let me know because were having some things we could not find. If it continued I would find someone else.
no, abortion is taking a HUMAN life with a soul.
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Elephant and Dog being friends and mine below is Lion being reunited with his human keepers after a
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I keep it in the office part time and on the patio part time
I've got the self-cleaning electric litter box (and boy is it worth the $100), and have a huge throw rug under it with a smaller rug by the litter pan that has a bumpy mat on top of it to catch the excess. I keep it in the office from April to October but on the patio from October to March as it is too hot in FL to leave the patio door open for them during the summer months. I also put out a spare box when we go out of town for the weekend.
Try a box that has deeper sides maybe, or not as much litter in it?
Well, hello, learn something new each day
my daughter came by tonight to eat some collards and black-eyed peas (money and luck here "supposedly" in the south for this next year and darn if she didn’t tell me she has floaters and have had them for years (she is 34). I was talking about asking the people on the MTs if they knew of any treatment. I thought was sorta an older type deal but apparently found something new today.
You sure do learn something new every day in this biz!
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We can also learn from...
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Learn to say NO
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Good luck.
You have to learn to say
no, grow a backbone and. Others only take advantage of you because you are letting them. The children should be helping you out because you have age on you and yet you are being a doormat for them. What would they do if you died? Tell them no way and stick to it, otherwise you have no life to call your own.
Learn some Spanish
This whole thread in my opinion has been blown out of proportion. While living in California, I saw an attitude with SOME of the so called minority races who felt that they were "owed something." I was raised in the Midwest, and grew up in a family that did not tolerate prejudice against any race in any way, shape or form. However, as I grew older, I began to see things in the corporate world that were definitely not in the favor of the white American. I for one, have become fed up with calling a company and speaking to a customer service representative from India or elsewhere, who gives a name like "Dave, John or Mike" and you know definitely that is not their name. Plus the fact that they can barely understand English and as a consumer, I cannot understand what they are saying. We have a LOT of older Americans now with computers and the newer technology, and think about them trying to understand someone who can barely speak English.
I am also a relative newcomer to the Miami area and again, as I mentioned before, I was raised in the Midwest, where even the Hispanics and other minorities that I was raised around learned to speak English. If for example, you or I moved to France or Germany, we would be expected to learn to at least speak the language to a certain degree and that is the point that I am trying to make here -- when one moves to America, they need to learn to speak ENGLISH and it should not be the other way around.
She needs to learn about safe sex. Either you SM
discuss this with her or, better yet, see doctor and have her given some form of birth control. I think this is imperative. If she is having sex, I don't think she is going to stop. You somehow have to convince her to act responsibly. Condoms would be the best thing.
I know kids have to learn, but this seems
Hang in there. When my son was 5, he went in a little country store and helped himself to some Skittles. When his dad made him take them back in and explain he had not paid for them, the lady told him "that's okay, you can have them". We could have killed her. HA! We explained to him that this was serious and the lady was being nice, etc. etc. Hang in there and be sure your son realizes this isn't funny, this is serious. If you have to pay the $100, make him pay you back somehow. Good luck.
You'd think she'd learn from seeing all her sister is going through - NM
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you can only learn if you have a brain
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I think it means you are still willing to learn (sm)
Something I have noticed about being "defined" is that sometimes it gets in the way of learning something new or even correcting old cherished ideas that are really wrong.
I have come to have definite and convictions about things, but it took time and something I still do is draw contrasts with other ideas to see if I still am comfortable thinking the way I do. Some things I have become more sure of, some refined and others discarded.
If I was going to give advice, I would say to keep asking questions about things and when you get answers, analyze whether they really make sense. It sounds like that is already what you do. As you go, you will become more sure about some things you believe now and other things are yet to be discovered.
One more thing I would advise: Keep an open mind and don't discount anyone as possibly having the information you need to find what is right and true.
Yep. Use it to go to PBS and learn grammar and
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I'm behind the school. Learn that what you say
Learn that you have a responsibility for what you say.
School ought to be backing up their teachers and their reputations and put brats like the student you describe right out.
I have no more tolerance for this unbridled generation coming up.
LOL!! You should try to learn to type with them ;-) nm
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Want to learn how to use taser
I have a husband who travels and I am home alone a lot of the time. I want to buy and learn to use a taser. Does anyone have any information that might be useful for me?
let it out, maybe they can learn from your mistakes
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I always wanted to learn
but never had anyone in my family that lived close enough to teach me. My grandma and aunt can do all that, but they live in MA and I'm in GA.
My mom never learned how to sew or cook or anything, but she can farm, fix a car engine, etc. My gram on her side never knew how to do any of those things either, unless you count stitching up wounds (she was a nurse).
But luckily I married into a family full of southern tradition and they are teaching me things like making my own jam, pies from scratch, and yes even sewing once we get moved closer to them!
child can't learn
I got in a hurry and goofed on the family relationships. Anyway, my daughter, her step-gran, and I take turns keeping her after school. My daughter's teenage son also helps with flash cards, alphabet video games, etc. He wants to be a teacher.
Very cool. Learn something new every day!..nm
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Then learn how to use my tax dollars to the best advantage
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As you age you will learn that a good answer
to a person asking a rude question (which this is and happens to be none of their business) is Why would you ask this- - or I have gotten to the age where I respond by Why would you ask such a rude question? No one has the right to ask you things like this so respond appropriately. You do not owe a nice response.
did your kids learn anything about penguins?
or did you just go on and on about how boring it was. Maybe if you paid attention to the story line (and explained it to your kids) of acceptance, or how penguins live, or at least enjoyed the music, your kids would not share your opinion.
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