Let your heart heal. I love Hayseed, but I am the same sm
Posted By: nm on 2007-07-24
In Reply to: I need a view from the outside - TLR
exact situation you are in right now. Someone in my family did the same thing - then I found out it was extreme jealousy on her part, but she tore into me out of blue and for no reason when I've always been kind and sweet with her. The first time I forgave her, 3 years later she did it again! It was like a rabid dog that I didn't know was rabid. It's just pure hatred on her part. I've done nothing wrong to deserve this kind of treatment.
But then there are birthdays and holidays and this past year I haven't gone to any of them because of her. My stomach cannot bear to see her or be near her. Everyone is upset over this broken relationship - Some say that I should suck it up and go to functions where she is at and be sweet so she doesn't have the upper hand. I can't even do that. I apologized via email a few months back because I am a Christian and felt that was the right thing to do. I got no response.
I really don't care that my mom and mother in law are upset over our relationship. I can't help it. It sounds like this person who did you wrong is a fool, just like this other family member, and we need to guard our hearts. Don't go. If you don't feel in your spirit that you need to go,then don't. I avoid this woman like the plague. I don't care what anyone says because I hear a lot about this like, "Oh, just ignore her." or "When you don't go she wins." Well, my life isn't a game and this isn't a game. she hurt me beyond words, I don't want to see her or ever be close to her again. I can't allow that. I must protect my heart. It isn't that I don't forgive her, but like my pastor says about a guy who stabbed him in the neck 20 years ago and lived to tell about it, "Hey, I'll never ask that guy out for a steak dinner but I do wish him well."
Good luck, hon. I feel for you. I truly do.....
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Against.. I believe in healing. If you are reminded of it every day..the heart cannot heal.. sm
Eventually, some things have to be let go. They are significant things and please do not think that I do not recognize that. However, with healing comes with letting go. Reminders can increase the healing time or in some cases hinder the healing time. Just a thought!!
My heart goes out to you Hayseed - sm
I know you loved him, and I am sure he loved you too. I am thankful your paths crossed before his journey over Rainbow Bridge. I know without a doubt in my mind that you made a difference in his life. My thoughts and prayers are with all of Buck's "family" who have heavy hearts tonight.
sweet....love the heart charm, he's got love.
nm
Hayseed I usually love your posts but (sm)
I don't have any health problems from my weight - it is just an issue of attractiveness for him. And he is almost never home so I can't go exercise because I have to be here with the kids. It is just an issue of control with him. If I would just do things exactly has he says to do them he would be happy. The hug this morning was BS - sorry, but it was.
not Hayseed, but I LOVE my Steelers (3-0 as of 9/23)
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I think I'd love to live where you do Hayseed
When you describe everything in your posts it sounds beautiful. I live in Upstate NY and we always win the award for most snow ever in Central New York. What an honor. LOL. I have to go out in the mornings put my daughter on the bus, but that'll be the only time I'm out unless I have to go to the store. I don't like ice either. I have a four wheel drive Jeep, but I'm still afraid to drive when the roads are icy.
Hayseed has my vote too!!! I'l love to see her on the debates!!
nm
I love your posts Hayseed! Your answers are great!
nm
Hayseed, I love your down-to-earth way of putting things
My beliefs are similar to yours - I do believe that their is something within us that lives on, but I don't know in what form or how. I have studied many religions and I think there is some truth in almost all of them, but none of them have a corner on THE truth - if there is sich an animal.
Only time will heal, but in the meantime, I
would recommend foundation and undereye concealer. Go to the parties and try to forget about it. Enjoy!
apologies heal all involved --
acknowledged or not.
I am inspired.
Hayseed, I think you should write your own advice column, kinda like "Dear Hayseed"....you cra
nm
Time for a long, uninterrupted heart to heart. Sorry to hear
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Infections heal VERY slowly in diabetics. How well-controlled is his sugar and
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I LOVE love love shallots! I use them in everything that calls for an onion and/or garlic. Mmmmmm. n
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American Idol - Love, love, love Adam!!!
I think he'll make it til the end! At least I hope so!
Thanks Hayseed
Nick Nolte was having a bad hair day . . .
ER MT or Hayseed....
How did you guys get your avatar pic on this profile here on MT stars? I cannot seem to locate a way to "edit my profile" so to speak. Hubby says I can get those from yahoo, but I do not know where to go here on this site (MTstars) to add it. Any help would be great!
Hayseed
how would you know what an IUD from 30 years ago looked like? But I am with you. They offered me an IUD after I had my second child and I declined. I thought I had enough put up there LOL.
WELL SAID, Hayseed! (sm)
The people behind this whole right-to-life movement are quite deft at camouflaging their more sinister long-term ulterior motives under the guise of morality, religion, human life, and yada yada yada. It's an ingeniously orchestrated plot to gain control of this country, and the best way to do that is to find a highly emotional, hot-button issue that will DIVIDE them. It's truly appalling that some women seem to actually WANT their personal healthcare and body choices to be dictated to them by a bunch of ancient, narrow-minded old MEN.
Hayseed, thank you so much for sm
posting those links to pix of your family. Kathie and Ellie, sittin' in a tree. LOL. What great pix. I love them all. Your animals, and you, are gorgeous.
Thanks, Hayseed
Love your posts too!! You really have a great sense of humor!
Yay! Hayseed, you did it!
And you are adorable!!
Thanks Hayseed!
I have the same problem as the OP and I'm going to try the Pine Sol! Then I'm going to start using Gain like the poster below suggested. Cool! :-)
I had to lol at your use of the word grody! As an 80s girl I absolutely LOVED it!!!!
Hayseed! (nm)
NM
Hayseed
Just looked at your web site (from under your MT Stars name). What a dream your place is! Congrats for making such a dream come true for you. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Hayseed!
I recently checked out your website - how awesome! Buck is a beauty! Loved the pictures with the subtitles of all your animals. Also, how cute were you as a little girl! I think that pic should be your Avatar!
Hayseed !!!
You were just too precious as a baby hayseed not to have that as an Avator! You have just made my day/week/month!! Too cute!
Hayseed look!
Hi Everyone!
Just wanted you all to see the pic of my kitty that Hayseed helped me crop so I could put it on here! I'm gonna learn this, it was just easier this morning to send it to her !!!
Her name is Tigger and she THINKS she is the queen of my house....I've got news for her....hehe
Jan
Hayseed now I know
what you do in your spare time when you aren't MT'ing and tending to your farm . . .
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kd_tSRsxzvI
Hayseed and ER MT
You guys are hilarious!! You always make me smile, and let me tell you, I need it today! I need to figure out this avatar thingy....
Many thanks, Hayseed!
I'm going to work on becoming a little more savvy with this stuff, really appreciate your time! Most days, this board is my main source of entertainment (except for Jake now, of course) or consternation depending on the subject, and you are always a bright spot in the day...
For anyone interested in another puppy story, we adopted him from a shelter, had been put there by a family who decided they didn't want him, had a little kid, but I think the truth is, and the people at the shelter thought, that the family just didn't know what having a puppy was like, so their loss, our happiness! He's a labradoodle and found him through an internet rescue site that came up when I was searching on it. We had seen a tan one at a house for sale that we were looking at (I thought it was some kind of terrier or something), and my DH fell in love with that dog, so I did some searching...and there he was. About dropped my teeth when I found on searching what breeders are getting for these dogs... as somebody pointed out to me, they are just mutts, after all...But I was happy to find him at the shelter, have always adopted dogs like that, am always amazed at the wonderful animals that get dropped off. My wonderful Boxer had been rescued from a puppy mill situation and many moons ago I had a little German short-hair pointer/Brittany mix that was very ill at first, didn't think she was going to make it, but she lived to 17. I don't usually do all the little doggie accoutrements, like scarves and such, but he was pretty matted and dirty so had to have a professional trim the first time (dang thing cost more than my haircuts!! so I guess the scarf was part of the doggie-do package.) Wish I could find the pic that stole our hearts at the shelter, like Misha's pic of Cedric. Anyway, thanks again Hayseed, you rock!
Hayseed
Are you a Steeler fan??????
Thanks, Hayseed. You are right. I don't think it is
fair either, to me or the dog. I appreciate just hearing your comments and understanding that I am in a bad situation. I certainly thank everyone who has commented. So many of us have a deep connection to God's magnificent creatures. There is nothing like it in the world.
Hey, Hayseed!
I just 4 Advil an hour or so ago, so it's not too bad. The Anbesol works for about 15 minutes and then it's like I never used it. Just hanging in there until I can call the dentist tomorrow first thing. I think I'll live.
Thanks for asking!
Where have you been, Hayseed? - nm
Hayseed...
Can someone email her just to ask how she is and to make sure she's ok?
Where is Hayseed? nm
nm
I'm so sorry Hayseed
I went through this in March of this year. My 16 year old cat died at home. I'm still not completely over it. I still think about her all the time. Just know that he led a wonderful life and that you took great care of him.
Where is Hayseed?...I
I miss her, and her posts!! Hope you are okay Hayseed. Please post. This board is not the same without you.
Hayseed - see msg
The snow finally stopped and now comes the rain. This combination always make such a mess!
I was watching the WSDOT cam yesterday and that road is a four lane road where the cam is set. If you watched that particular camera you would notice that there were maybe 3 lanes of traffic and ALL of them were heading in one direction. The folks going the opposite direction were getting the squeeze. Of course, it was hard to tell where the lanes were because it was all compact snow and ice but dang!
The winner of the biggest snow driving dingbat (apparently MTStars says i*iot is a bad word) goes to the person who actually stopped and let the kids OUT of the car in the middle of the road to play in the snow while the adult cleaned off the windshield. I am not kidding! Lots of people were stopping in the middle of the road to clean off their windshields but this one let the kids out to play in the snow! Geesh!
Here ya go Hayseed..sm
Just a clip to crack you up...They were a phenomenal team in that movie!~ I couldn't stop laughing either. It really was hard to pick a couple favorites...I coulda gone all the way back to Duck Soup (Marx Brothers). Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2x_sp3Ehvk
Thanks Hayseed! Let us know if you get one. nm
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Thanks, Hayseed!
For figuring out what they were called. Melted Plastic Popcorn would have not been the first thing that came to mind, and I never knew there was anything other than the snowman, BUT!!!! Now that I know, I am determined to get the whole set!
Hayseed, how are you doing?
Did you post back about the results of your lupus tests? Was just thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. Hope things turned out okay and got some help for the pain...
Hey Hayseed
Aren't you about ready to get another cat. You could get an adult cat that you would meet at the shelter and know its personality and get a little cuddle bug this time around, can't beat a cuddle bug.
Ha, Hayseed...
I used to love liver & onions until I became an MT and learned the function of the liver... Don't eat that no more.... Slim always bringing back a deer, I use a lot of red wine in cooking, fooled my daughter-in-law who refuses to eat "Bambi" She thought it was swiss steak. But she doesn't trust me anymore, when I say, anything, Is not that silly?
anyone seen hayseed around?
You may see Hayseed again
the topics that she saw here and they are all laughing it up including the owner of the other board. You can tell the topics that no one wants to talk about or be "for real" about because the OP will go unanswered. This board is way better, believe me!!!
P/S: If that's all they have to laugh about is an inquiry in this board, does that tell you what kind of board they have going over there?
What's a hayseed??
oh, never mind, the answer is in your post.
doesn't do the porker justice, tho.
(?) kisskiss
I think that is entirely up to you. I wish I had followed my heart on that one - sm.
When I was pregnant with my first baby, I worked in a hospital and my co-workers kept telling me don't tell anybody until you know for sure nothing is going to happen and until you start to show. Then everyone said to not buy anything for the baby until you are past 6 months. For the record, I NEVER did start to show, my baby was born at 27 weeks. I bought my baby bed on Friday, and he was born on Sunday. He lived 3 weeks and 6 days. Since his death, I went on to have three more children, and I told the whole world as soon as I knew, and we celebrated from day one. So....please follow your heart.
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