Let me tell you what is up with not wanting to see that long lost
Posted By: Janet on 2007-05-28
In Reply to: Contact him and be thankful you found him alive and hopefully healthy. sm - roadrunner
A lot of times people feel maybe someone will take their place. I am so thankful I had a stepmom that I truly loved and got along with. I would think most of the time just the opposite. Having said that, the spouse comes FIRST regardless of a long lost child wanting to come into a persons life that they may not be welcomed in the first place. If I had any inkling that someone did not want to see/know me, I would NEVER think another thought about them.
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Ladies, are you wanting long, lush lashes, listen up
I just heard on our local news channel yesterday about what people found out when they used Lumigan (used for glaucoma) was that their eyelashes got longer and longer and lusher (is that a word??) the more they used. They said when applied to the base of the eyelashes, tops and bottoms, they grow so long that people think you have extensions, even going up to the eyebrows if continuing with the applications. Now, this is not inexpensive- saying 100-125 dollars a month but if you can afford and you have straggly looking eyelashes, how many would go for that? Ah, the price of beauty.
long lost brother?
A couple of years ago I was in a fast food joint here in my small town. I was unnerved by the man who took my order. He looked like incredibly like my brother and my dad. Over the next year or so I saw him a number of times and each time I thought to myself, you know, that's such I strong resemblance. That can't be coincidence. I finally mentioned it to my mother (mom and dad have been divorced since I was 4) and she said I ought to ask the guy his mother's name, because she knows the name of the other woman my dad was seeing while they were still married. (My dad had just returned from Vietnam and was quite the womanizer. He ended up getting another girl pregnant while married to my mom and that was the nail in the coffin of their marriage.)
I still see the guy from time to time around town, though not as often, but I don't think I could ever strike up a conversation with him and take it in that direction.
Would something like this eat at you? Would you just have to know? Just wondering what others would do.
Depends if it is long with pregnant pause um no. If it is long and juicy like an op YEP! Short ones
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I have been wanting to do this, but may I ask...sm
Is the measurment taken over your existing bra or other clothing? Being shy, not sure I could go through with it otherwise. It seems like a really good idea, though.
Should have been NOT wanting to work
NM
I have been wanting to try nutrisystem
and like you said it seems to be a no brainer but I was afraid of the expense and someone told me that the food was horrible. Is this true?
I understand you not wanting
to make excuses for his bad behavior...BUT, think of what message that would be sending to the daughter. It would be saying, you don't matter all that much around here. We don't respect you or any of your friends. Would you then expect her to have respect for others? The husband is an adult and should know how to conduct himself properly, if not, learn. I would have pulled out my own money and said, "Buy her what she would like to drink" and then I would have layed into him when the friend was gone. No, I wouldn't let him pull that cr*p around me again and treat my son or daughter with such disregard.
I can't imagine anyone wanting
to be contacted by you.
Wanting to invest but what to do
I would like to get input from others who have money in stocks, bonds and such. have some money that I would like to invest. I would like to find something that is not in any way financially unsound. I know I could put in the bank in a CD but do not think I would make as much on it if I used in other ways. Does anyone have any savings that are more or less safe proof and can you tell me what kind of investing you do. Thanks.
i concur, as far as you said as wanting her as my own doc; however,
I think with all the medical information we are bombarded with everynight on the evening and morning news, she is definitely one to listen to with at least one ear.
I think you are an inspiration for wanting to do this....sm
 I guess a lot of us can relate; I have 2 or 3 people from my past that have moved far away and I have no way of finding them right now, but please believe me, I truly want to do the same thing, go to them and make peace, to say be able to forgive each other and leave things on good terms. Regrets and guilts can slowly eat away, and it is good for your own personal health to do this, you must feel so much better. WE all mess up, we all need forgiveness now and then, or to grant forgiveness. You are a lovely person with integrity, honor, and caring to do this, such a lovely post to read!!!
I've been wanting one of those every since they came out.(nm)
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we almost never eat out. re not wanting to cook,
when i just don't feel like or don't have time to cook, we have something quick, ie soup or sandwich or breakfast, ie eggs or waffles.
Wanting a vacation now
My husband never wanted to go on any vacations. So, when the kids were young, my kids and I went on a vacation every year. We either drove or one time took the train to the Grand Canyon from Chicago. Not once did my husband go with us. We went twice to Disney and had such a wonderful time. My kids are now grown, and I really miss those vacations. My husband missed out a lot.
There is a difference in not wanting to be in the limelight and
your spouse not knowing the details of your life. I don't particularly care about being in the limelight, either, but telling my spouse about my education (or anything else for that matter) is not the limelight. That's simply communication with the person who should be my best friend, my confidante, the one person I can always count on. I agree, your tax lady was wrong to imply that he was slow. I'm afraid if my husband hedged about something, it would throw a red flag for me and I've known him since 1977. He might not willingly tell everything that he did in his past, but where he went and how long he went to school is nothing to be secretive about. JMO. 
Good job! For anyone still wanting to guess
I just learned today of the second, similar answer. So, keep trying if you like!
I don't blame you for not wanting a woman
I am a massage therapist (not practicing right now), and I know how it can affect guys (when doing normal professional work ... nothing funky). - I doubt your hubby would be too keen on a male working on him though. : )
Maybe you could do a bit of a strip tease for him or even just whisper in his ear about how hot he is.
I'm just doing a simple, sweet card and a $5.00 scratch-off lottery ticket with a big heart on it ... and probably a bit of hanky-panky. Not to promote drinking, but if you are a bit inhibited, you could drink just a bit to take the edge off (a shot or so). We seem to have extra fun when I do that.
I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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Not wanting to stop for gas and then driving on fumes SM
in hopes of reaching the pumps in time! 
While you wait, not wanting to give meds, he is
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Sounds familiar with hubs not wanting any more
cats around. I had an older girl and hubs brought home 2 young guys (he thought when the older one died the 2 younger would take her place, not true of course but he thought that). The older girl died and before long I spoke with him about another kitty. I have loads of room, work is ideal for pets around, he travels so they are loads of company for me but he said absolutely not. Ok, my housekeeper called me 1 day, said kitty up a tree, she would be over when she got it down and I asked her to bring with her as she could not keep. Instant love, not only with me but hubs. I told him the cat had shown up at my house meowing and running from the dog. Well, that was true- she had shown up at the door and had been running from the dog, just not at my home. Gina, my kitty, is now his best friend, follows him around the home, comes for petting and stays in whichever room he is in. It is kitty love for him now.
very common for anyone wanting a life, LOL! i have one and my DH is kinda jealous of me using it so
agree, sex toy parties are great fun and there are actually a lot of things for men there too for themselves or to use on you also. tell him he ought to be thankful it is a toy to enjoy and you are out playing the field, lol. but FYI, get a brief case and lock it up!!! i have had my kids find mine too and it was a double header so it was really, really embarrassing. DH bought it years ago and i only used one end but it was still great.
All this food had me wanting to share something quick for you for a spread. sm
A GREAT sandwich spread. I was at my local deli the other day and they were making ham and swiss sandwiches on whole grain with a sweet, perfectly tasting spread on it. I asked the lady behind the counter what that "spread" on the bread was and she said she just mixed honey mustard and mayo (equal amounts), stirred it up in a bowl, and spread it on the bread. I've been using that recipe all week. I immediately came home, made me a batch, stored it and now use it. My 5 year old son LOVES his sandwiches now. It's a different taste, a little sweet, and wonderful!
I am in total agreement. 13 years old and wanting to date - no way!!..
One of the problems is, as a previous poster write, is DRAMA. Some girls live for the DRAMA (i come from a family of six girls). These kids (but not all) want to and in some ways are forced to grow up too danged fast and it can lead to life-long problems if they do not have a strong mom/dad or just an extended strong family support system. The media has played and contuinues to play a role in the evolution of our teenagers as well (MTV, etc). That is why it is important to keep these kids busy and involved in activities because it is helpful,. JMO..
Wanting to suggest a few movies this season. Right now the kids are watching sm
The Chronicles of Narnia and it is such a GOOD movie. Highly suggest this. Also, Elf with Will Ferrell is cute.
Polar Express is great also. With 3 little ones at home, anyone have any suggestions on good "holiday" type movies that won't bore a 4 year old? Thanks!
If wanting to teach my son our own family values makes me a bigot..then so be it. sm
I will gladly wear that label. Flame away if you want.
I will NEVER let some school teacher try to foist her own opinions on my child. And to do this on school time??
The bible flat out says that man should not lie with man or woman with woman. If that school district is an example of what passes for family values in SF, no wonder Michael Savage calls it San Fran Sicko. I have to agree with him. Pretty dress or no pretty dress.
Oh, it's not a matter of wanting to pick and choose the data I "like" - if I want (sm)
to see that being done I need only drop down one forum in the list. ;-) Plenty of opportunities to fill that void there, if one chooses to.
No, I'm just not blindly accepting of whatever is proffered as valid data, and must -- as should we all -- consider the possible bias of those presenting same.
My married daughter is wanting us to move real close to them. (sm)
Right now we live about 3 hours away. She has been married 4 years and just bought a house in a beautiful mountain area. We had always talked about retiring in the mountains but have another 10 years to work. I have 3 other married kids. Just wondered if anyone moved next door to their kids and how everything worked out.
How long is too long to wait for Pap results?
This is a follow up Pap for an abnormal one a few months back. I have waited for the results for over a month and have called the office once. Any advised about being a patient patient - LOL. Its hard when your in this business, I think anyway, not to be more aggressive about stuff like this.
Hubs did window cleaning as a teen & always got swamped w/folks wanting them
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pain and not wanting pain is understandable cuz of medical reason
I mean come on, when he has pain somewhere, does he not want to do something? Seriously, is this a true medical pain problem? If it is, then anyone could understand.
If I lost say 60-80 lbs
I would be so full of attitude even my hubby probably not able to get to first base with me! Nah, just kidding. I also need to lose that much, just gonna have to do it it seems.
lost
Note - next week is 2 hours. Starting at 9.
Yes - they said the woman who parachuted was with an expedition that Penny sent.
Locke really appears to be dead.
lost - and am I!
I don't really know how I feel about the fast forward - but of course there is something wrong there because he said "call my father" and we know his father was dead before he hit the island. Why didn't Charlie hold his breath and swim up through the port hole? Whose funeral did no one want to attend?
we lost one of THE BEST!!! nm
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LOST! (nm)
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lost ours . . .
Four years ago both of them at the same time. We still have their son . . it was just heart retching. My husband and I actually cried harder than the kids . . . isn't that crazy???? We were devastated.
I did WW for about 2.5 yrs and lost 72 lbs! sm
It works but you need to stick with it. Don't get discouraged on the weeks you do not lose weight; it is also not "a diet" but a lifestyle change. Do try to find some fruit/veg that you enjoy; the fiber definitely helps you feel full and lose. Low sodium V8 is a good 1 pt or 0 pt option to get in 1-2 servings of veg daily. Eat a piece of fruit for your snack. I found that I really began enjoying fruit-veg after a while. Get active, drink water and give it a chance - WW does work well and nothing is off limits.
Gee, I think I should rejoin! Good luck.
I had lost about 30%. in my IRA. My
broker put my money into some type of annuity where I am guaranteed not to LOSE any more money for the next year. If on my anniversary date I am below my original balance, I retain that balance. If I have acutally made a little, I do get that and then am guaranteed that amount until my next anniversary date where the same scenario occurs. It is in lower-making funds, but at least I can't lose any more.
Lost coat
If it were me, I would be angry as heck at my 8 yo for not being responsible for her things. Forgot that someone might have taken it, the child was irresponisble. At 8, she should know better than to leave her things behind. Too bad, so sad, no coat, maybe she'll remember her things next time when she has no coat because she's cold. Learning life lessons are tough and 8 is really old enough to take responsibility.
Just another perspective.
lost coat
Maybe she actually left it at school or someplace other than dance, but is certain in her mind that she last had it at dance. You could be looking in the wrong place. I don't ever trust my memory on things like this because when life is really hectic (whose life with kids is not hectic?), sometimes events run together in my mind. Maybe her coat is at school in the lost and found or in the back of the van under a seat, etc. Just a thought. 
Lost Coat
You bet!! Unless shehad the money to purchase another one. She left it, so it got stolen. If it was grabbed off her back and stolen, that would be another story.
Kids can be kids, but they have to learn responsibility some time. It's the parents that don't teach it that are having issues with their kids. Mine learned early and often that their actions have repercussions, good and bad ones. And they learn from them.
For example, 15 yo daughter is a competitive dancer. When she was probably 10 or so, she goes to a competition and forgets to pack a tutu that she needs for one of her numbers. Do I got back and get it? Nope. Her responsibility and she had to expain to the others in her group that it was at home. Did she ever forget her tutu again? Nope. It usually only takes one time.
We need to be parents, not friends and teach them to live and survive in the world. It is never too young to learn. My 4 yo knows that if she walks out the door without her lunchbox for school that she doesn't have lunch. How many times did this happen? Exactly once. Kids are smarter than you think they are.
She was either drunk or lost a bet - sm
what a total freak, what woman would shave her head unless she absolutely had too (like a bad attack of lice, which I highly doubt was her problem). It will take quite a few years to grow back long again, oh well, guess that is her problem (s).
I lost 123 pounds (sm)
I am down to 112 pounds. All my skin, including my face skin, bounced back really well. I do have a little loose skin on my thighs but not so much that I can't wear shorts. My belly looks like I've been pregnant with big kids, and with my largest being 10 pounds, I earned my loose belly skin.
It might have made a difference that I did it "au naturale" without the surgery, so I am still absorbing my nutrients properly.
I know your pain..I lost my 16 y/o
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I am so sorry to hear you lost your
precious kitty. That's a long time to form an attachment. I feel bad for your daughter. I'm sure it was a shock for her - you're never ready for that. You are going to cry for a few days and then one day you the good memories will start and you'll realize you always have those - lots of those in 16 years.
You might make a collage of pictures for your office wall.
LOST fan here, see inside.
If they were not dead before, they probably will be now, unless they find some way of digging out. Orrr, maybe the conversation the guy had with John, where things don't stay buried if they're too close to shore, hmm. However, what was the point of this episode? It centered around 2 people that we really haven't seen before, then they seemingly get killed off in the same episode. The only thing related to the series was when Raphael (I think his name was), was hiding in the bathroom when Ben and Juliette were in the Pearl bunker watching Jack on the monitor and making some plans about him. Other than that, I totally did not get the purpose of the episode.
Funny...but I'm not lost...
I'm just coming unscrewed in the process.
My ESL would say LOOOsing it or more like lucing it!
I just need a real vacation WITH PAY!
Did you see LOST yet? (Not too spoilerish)
All I can say is - WHOA!
Didn't quite see that ending coming.
Very, very weird and interesting episode.
never miss a LOST!
We are huge Lost fans at my house! We didn't think the show shed any new light on things though. Just old stuff we already knew. They said John Locke has been trying to sabotage their chance of being rescued from the beginning, but we didn't really see anything until midway through like when he blew up Mikhail's station and then the submarine. Did we miss something else? Anyway, Locke is being so selfish now. Even if everyone else got rescued he could stay on the island by himself, so why is he trying to prevent everyone else's rescue? And we still want to know why Libby was in the institution!
Lost Addict
I'm thinking "call my father" is either a drug haze that Jack was in, OR he came back to life on the island. He did see his father standing on the beach not long after the plane crashed in season #1. At the time, I thought it was a hallucination. Maybe not? It seems that the island has the power to bring people back to life at times. The one-eyed guy came back -- or was he not really dead?
Whose funeral was it? Hmmm. Ben's? It was someone that Kate and Jack knew. Sawyer's? Someone that we haven't met on the island yet? How 'bout Jacob?
Ooooo! It's such a long time to wait, and so many possible answers to too many questions!
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