Let him join 4H by all means
Posted By: OldMT on 2009-01-19
In Reply to: Question about 4H...s/m - Silly Girl
My neice has participated in 4H going on her 5th year since she was 8. jShes' now 12 and she shows her horse, plus she does enters cooking projects, art, scrapbooking, and crafts. There are so many different interests and programs for any kid. Besides horses, there are rabbits and guinea pigs, plus all the assorted farm animals. There's archery and competetive shooting. Public speaking, woodworking, art projects, cooking, sewing, dog training, just about anything you can think of. Your son doesn't not have to have a horse to participate. Join a club that has a horse group. A lot of times the leaders have horses they'll loan a kid for the year or know someone who will. Don't let that stop you. If you're in a position to do it, you can lease a horse. That's what we did at first, we leased her horse for 6 months and then ended up buying him. 4H helps keep them out of trouble. Teaches them responsibility and gives them self-esteem. It's a family organization, so you and your husband can partiicipate if you like, they're always looking for adult volunteers. Check with the county extension office where you live or in another county, if you like. You should be able to find info online. There's no residency requirement. Tell them what you're looking for and they'll try to find a club that's a good fit for your son.
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Anyone want to join me....sm
at my pity party tonight? I'm feeling really sad. My oldest granddaughter's birthday is one week before mine, both of them coming up soon - not that the birthday itself bothers me, but I'm remembering how last year was the first year that I had been able to celebrate both with my youngest daughter. Since then, my ex and I have separated - which I think I'm handling pretty well. But being estranged once again from my baby is so hard to cope with - I had felt we were VERY close as she was growing up, and I truly don't know what I have done to turn her the other way. I'm just grateful that my oldest daughter and I seem to have become closer in the last six months, even compared to when I lived with her after her divorce to help out with her children.
Better yet, see if you can join a
credit union. I have been in one since 1969. They pay me every month with interest instead of charging me handling. Not that it is very much, still 30 cents or whatever is better than being charged whatever the current rates are.
Join the club!
I cannot get mine threaded! Couldn't believe that. Will wait until after the holidays to try again.
Kendra, join in whenever. You would think with all the
negative that NO one else ever heard some of these things. Now, really! I left out some really juicy ones. Guess I will have to do a part 2, you think?
I'm so with you! I did join WW, and it seems to be the only thing that works for me.
I only do it online, though. I don't go to meetings. But I do count up the points. I'm Italian and grew up eating a healthy mediterranean diet, pasta, a little bit of meal, lots and lots of vegetables and fish. But, I got away from it. Lucky for me I like a lot of good things, I just have to motivate myself to prepare them. And because I'm Italian, I just can't, can't do the no-bread thing. I think refined carbs are bad, and I struggle with sugar cravings. I like sweet things, and I've been trying to detox from them.
I have a funny video about dieting and no carbs from Lewis Black posted on myspace. (myspace.com/lellers). It always makes me laugh because I like my bread! I think that if I can stay away from the sweet treats, (and yes, exercise), I'll get the extra weight off. But, oh! I do love ice cream and pie!
I know you probably don't want to hear this - but join a church! sm
I would be homeless and helpless without my church friends/family. They are better to me than my own family.
i received numerous cards and most were from church folks. There are people who care! I wish I had your name and address because I'd send you something special. I'm serious.
1. Go back to counseling. 2. Join a SM
divorce singles group. They are all over. Many churches have them.
3. Volunteer. You get to feel good about yourself and get to meet other people.
Good luck. I've been there.
I think you do want to join you're just to shy to say so - group hug? nm
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8 things I really did not want to know about you (I will start and join in)
1) I love to smell gas, damp cellars, wet grass (the mowing kind!)
2) I love green olives but most of all I love to drink the juice also.
3) Got angry with my father, moved, changed my phone number and did not give him the new address or number for months.
4) I could never be Angelina Jolie because I would rather adopt animals rather than children.
5) Oh, no one knows this, got angry in the 2nd grade at another girl jumping me in the line before going to lunch and stuck my pencil into the top of her head in a hissy-fit. I still remember her name.
6) Had my first sexual encounter at age 15 at my mother’s home and hid the sheets, of all places, under my next door neighbor’s house. Over the many years since he and I have occasionally called each other. I still dream though don’t touch.
7) I have some different eating habits. I used to eat white rice, milk and sugar as a breakfast food (the rice bothers me now so don’t eat as much) and I also tear up white bread and put in regular milk- I know it is soggy and my family gags but have done this all my life.
8) Happily married now for 9 years but OMG can never forget about that delicious sex I had with my ex-husband. I mean, Delicious with a capital D.
I'll join you in Jurassic Park!
I'm a dinosaur, too. I don't see the need for teenagers to have their own cars. But, my eldest did inherit his grandfather's sturdy little car. He was nearly 18 when that happened, and his high school was in the next county. For the last six months of school, he skipped the hour-long bus ride and was able to drive to school and save about 40 minutes in his commute to school. He drove on the days he needed to be home to work after school at a movie theater, about 12 hours a week. He was also a great help to me in driving his younger brothers to events when my schedule was over-booked.
I have friends who gift their children brand new, expensive cars at the age of 16, and I just don't understand that. The kids seem to be using the vehicles to further their social lives, and they certainly aren't paying attention to the road. And you are very correct about so many angry and distracted drivers on the road. It's a scary thing to put a teenager on the road alone. This is why we raised the age level to 17 in our home, even though the Commonwealth of PA seems to think that 16-1/2 is age appropriate for driving.
Hey, I'll join you if you're paying ;-)
And I was just stressing over paying $500 for rental car (I'm driving), hotel, and baseball tickets for a rinky-dink 3-day trip 250 miles down the road. Still have to spring for gas money and food, but I'm feeling a little better after reading your post LOL. Of course, I'm not going to Las Vegas...
Well, have fun anyhow!! :-)
Yes, you ladies, join in with me and share your 8 things!! nm
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join me --- misery loves company
 Truthfully, though, no one can quit until it's their time. I just had to finally get really disgusted with myself. I owe this to my child. My best friend just died at age 54 two weeks ago from lung cancer. My father died at age 58 of the same. My sister is currently in the hospital with pulmonary emboli (even though she has never smoked). And lastly, rumor has it the price is going up to $8 a pack in my state. By just not smoking for the last five days, I already have an extra $50 in my wallet. Wow. I am the smartest woman and I know, and yet how can I continue to be so stupid? That's where I'm at mentally. I really want to succeed this time. Now, where are those carrot sticks?
Please join with me in weeping over my weight and sleep issues.
Work is slow right now (and has been for a while). I am getting up earlier to get a few lines, going to sleep later hoping to get a few lines, and taking a nap in between to make up for lack of sleep. My 8 hour job has turned into 18, and my weight is trying desperately to keep pace. I eat when I am bored. I do not want to leave and go shopping just in case work should happen to appear. My house is clean. The dogs well fed. Everything is fine except for my scale. I really wish I could get a scale that lied, that way it would fit in with my job. EMPLOYER: You would only be expected to work an 8 hour day. EMPLOYEE (4 weeks later): Yeah right. Eight hour days give or take 10 hours. ME GETTING ON MY SCALE: You weigh only XX amount of pounds. SCALE’S RESPONSE: Darling, you are too beautiful, and you weigh 10 pounds less then yesterday. 
Expanded for you in above post...You're welcome to join mine...SM
With your sense of humor, you'd fit right in with the down to earth part of us!! My DD (dear daughter) would have a blast trying to make us think she was innocent enough that she doesn't understand a bunch of your jokes!! She's 13 and negotiating that Mommy's Little Angle versus Teenage Devil part of life, and tries to hold back the snickers when a dirty joke is told. The good old days were when she was reading a page of blond jokes and really didn't understand the ones with sexual inuendo. How quickly those days went by...
How to deal with compulsive liars: If you can't beat them, join them.
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I'll join you!! I agree.made me cry too, love this stuff!
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My 19-year-old daughter wants to join the Army. I'm very scared at the thought. Any advice out th
Before the Iraq war, I would have been more excited that she wanted to do something positive with her life for a change, but this thought is scary as we know people that have lost their children in the war. I know in some ways this could turn her life around and be what she needs as she is very immature and is going down the wrong road, but are there other alternatives. A lot of people tell us it's still a good time for kids. Any thoughts out there?
It means...
I don't care for organized religion. I believe there are some truths in most religions - the Golden Rule, live a life of moderation, try to make the world a better place. I believe there are spiritual aspects to our existence, that we are not just bones and skin and blood, we are something more. As to exactly what that "more" consists of - I read, I study, I learn, I experience....maybe one day I'll figure it out. Or maybe not.
Don't know if this answers your question, but it's the best I can do.
perhaps? That means maybe...
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So that means don't put his name in
the hat for gift exchange or expect him to help decorate or attend a party. I think the amount the company spends per employee on any parties (if they are the ones paying) could simply be given to him as a check. Other employees could be told they have this option also. Maybe there is somebody else who thinks it's a lot of nonsense but just kept their mouth shut, but now they have the option of getting a check.
That's what I'd do if I were the OM or giving ideas to the OM. I'd still decorate if the majority want to, but avoid using real greenery for a completely different reason - a lot of people are now extremely allergic to Christmas trees or boughs that have been treated with some chemical to extend their life.
what it means
When he calls you that name, it means he has contempt for you. When he projects everything to be your fault, he also holds you in contempt. This is verbal and emotional abuse. As far as punching the wall, the wall is the stand in for what he would like to do to you and he may eventually punch you. Take it from me, who was called every dirty name ever invented by my spouse and whose doors and walls had holes and dents.
I would put your well-being and that of your child first and seek therapy. It would be great if he went, but he sees you as the problem, and he may refuse to go. You can't fix him. He needs to fix himself.
As much as you may not want to hear this, leaving him may be the best thing for your own sanity and self-preservation and also so your child doesn't have to grow up in that environment.
If you can't afford therapy, there may be a battered woman's group in your area that can give you information and advice. I utilized my local group and found it very helpful.
The only regret that I have about my marriage is that I stayed in it far too long.
means.
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I think she means
that with unstable dry sand, or even with sand of a wetter consistency, if a hole is too deep (over a child's head)it is possible for them to be in the hole and the sides collapse in on top of them. Just inform your kids that they cannot dig over a foot or so deep; make whatever limit you feel safe with. There's nothing to fear if they keep it shallow.
This happened to a man I knew years ago with dirt, not sand, but I agree it would be possible in sand and probably easier done. He was working in a ditch deeper than he was tall, and when it collapsed on top of him, it killed him. I do believe that is what 'SM' is warning against.
And that means?
Marriage is mostly a gamble. Some turn out alright, some don’t. I think it has nothing to do with the fact of the friend spilling her soul to a daughter.
thank you so much that means a lot to me
i'm in tears. I'm so glad you are happy.
No, I would not go. If that means he goes and you spend TG by yourself so be it.
After enduring 13 years of the "in-laws" I gave my husband an ultimatum - either them or me and I meant it. I was not putting up with them anymore. Fortunately, he chose me and his kids, and our lives have been so peaceful for the past 6 years without them in it! I just severed the ties.
Good luck with your situation. I really feel for you.
My mom always says "stay away from those who disrupt your inner peace." I listened to her advice.
I could be wrong but I think the OP means....sm
I read the OP's post as meaning if HEAVEN FORBID something happened either to their relationship (breaking up for example) or to her DH (heaven forbid but we don't know around the corner, eh?) - that she perhaps might want more children (with a 2nd husband is how I read this). I don't read it as selfish - I read it as WHAT IF HE DIES.......and she chooses to get remarried or WHAT IF THEY DIVORCE and she chooses to get remarried.
So, yeah, to the OP - the post made some *sense* to me as you were hoping it made to most of us. Best luck! 
I don't think he is spoiled by any means..sm
he just likes natural food. There is nothing wrong with that. If it was my kitty though, and this is not meant to be judgemental so please don't take it that way, I would probably delay the vacation until the kitty was a little older. But that's just me.
The word means to
water something down, not meaning neuter. IF you have a concetrated solution, you can put water in and that would so call neutralize it. Two completely different words.
I think a *record* means NOTHING if you have to - sm
CHEAT (i.e., steroids) in order to achieve it. He's still so OBVIOUSLY all 'roided up.... puffy face, oversized neck, etc. Heck, if I shot all that junk into my body, I could probably hit just as many homers out of the park, and I don't even play baseball!
I'm just SO thankful they didn't interrupt *Big Brother* to bring us the *news*.
yes, it means something to the Jewis and to
A little cultural education about others goes a long, long way!! You might want to check into it......
It means, that back then you were in the sm
midst of full living and happiness with important people in your life. To pay attention to now because now is here and you should be creating happiness at this moment so when you look back you can say, ahhh, that was all good. You deserve to be happy. So if your not, find a way. If you are, be aware of it and count your blessings!
I think it means sharp tap.
Kind of like a teacher might do on her desk to get the class' attention.
I think it means you are still willing to learn (sm)
Something I have noticed about being "defined" is that sometimes it gets in the way of learning something new or even correcting old cherished ideas that are really wrong.
I have come to have definite and convictions about things, but it took time and something I still do is draw contrasts with other ideas to see if I still am comfortable thinking the way I do. Some things I have become more sure of, some refined and others discarded.
If I was going to give advice, I would say to keep asking questions about things and when you get answers, analyze whether they really make sense. It sounds like that is already what you do. As you go, you will become more sure about some things you believe now and other things are yet to be discovered.
One more thing I would advise: Keep an open mind and don't discount anyone as possibly having the information you need to find what is right and true.
No, it means you had sex on the same night, 13
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Thank you for caring. It means a lot.
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I think OP means she would use the terms
mentally handicapped or mentally challenged. At least those are the terms I usually hear now-a-days. Good luck to you and your family.
We always have it the night of. Which means
if they set the date for that weekend, it will "interfere" with the rehearsal, dinner, etc.
Your dad having a girlfriend means nothing really
Your dad is in love with your mom. I don't know who initiated the divorce, but it seems very obvious your dad is still in love with your mom. Having a girlfriend is just to keep him from feeling so alone, but she obviously doesn't fill that void he has, which is his family and wanting that life he had. YOU are his family, you and your mom were the life he had; divorce doesn't make those feelings go away. I'm sure he does come by to see what your mom is doing or if she is at home but no doubt he just misses that closeness with you as well.
He wants to still know he has a family..... his girlfriend certainly isn't filling that void.
By all means, keep the vet appointment sm
just to make sure of what's going on. She could have just about anything, from arthritis, tendinitis, Lyme, or even a blood clot. I'm glad the med is helping her. Is it Rimadyl? I would avoid using aspirin until you hear from the vet.
Yes, like I said, by all means go to Al-Anon. sm
You work the Al-Anon program for yourself and not for the alcoholic. You'll be more than glad you did. Not to necessarily save your marriage, but to save YOURSELF.
this usually means some atypical cells
were seen - usually nothing diagnostic - sometimes something treatable (in which case I would think they would give you a script) like yeast. They are not worried, just want to make sure that it is okay in 6 months or if it isn't then it may be something diagnostic. It happened to me once - think it may also have been after relatively recent birth. Shakes you up but it is probably okay.
at their age, they know what "at work" means, and-
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I don't either. If she loves your brother, that means she SM
should love you too, or, at the very least, respect the love you have for one other. She doesn't seem very loving.
My stepdaughter just got booted out of house by my stepson DH bought for the two of them by his new girlfriend. Doesn't exactly sound like love.
If you love man, you must love family or at least try to get along.
Sorry you had a bad time. Again, I don't understand this behavior. Life is easier when all get along and life is too darn short.
lol, nope not offended at all. Not sure what that means actually.
But, yes, you would think, right? But nope! Actually I have been going to the up-scale and very expensive salons where they have spas and serve you lattes and finger sandwiches by choice hoping I will get good results and they are the ones I have the most problems with!
If you read my other post, where I mentioned the bleach products and what I said about the expensive versus the cheaper products, you'd see what I mean.
But thanks!
I know for a fact that you dreaming of your ex means sm
that you are "yearning" for a closeness like you once felt. If you are married or have been for a long time, when you are neglected emotionally, spiritually and physically, your body goes back to something you once had that was good.
I don't know if it is our subconscience trying to tell us something (like leave your loser husband if he's not doing a thing for you), but it's saying something to us.
In any case, that's what they usually mean.
One can't put a price tag on what Christmas really means but...sm
if we didn't set limits/budgets in our household then we'd end up spending a cazillion bucks on the season. Having limits set helps keeps us on track of not getting carried away buying gifts yet lets us purchase gifts for people to Celebrate the season.... just as the wise men took gifts when Jesus was born to celebrate his birth. Setting limits gives everyone who is buying in our family line parameters for what kind of gifts they need to look at. Fortunately no one in our family line needs anything per se but that doesn't mean you shouldn't give them a gift. We do buy gifts in addition for foster kids and that comes from a different section of our family budget.
Yes. And discipline means desciple.
Parents are to provide discipline, desciple means one who is taught. Spare the rod means let them do whatever feels right. Well, in the real world that is a dangerous way to approach life. So, to me spare the rod means if you don't set boundaries, spoil the child, you have a child always testing boundaries who will someday have no or little morals. At least that is my idea of the saying.
Having pain occasionally probably means it's nothing (sm)
to worry about. It's probably that the "density" of the breast tissue makes it difficult to identify anything out of the ordinary.
Ya know, just by being in certain part of country means
your name is that common. My mother, grandparents living in south- named Paradiso. I don’t consider that very southern but here is where we live. You generalize when you say certain names for certain parts of the country. My last name is now French- but hubby and I both southern.....
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