Leave a big sign on her nightstand, tough situation! Some are thiefs, offer a reward!
Posted By: anonamissa on 2008-12-08
In Reply to: I definitely am not going to back down. - penny
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I agree you have a tough situation there sm
my friend any my heart goes out to you. I wonder if the school has any suggestions,maybe if you spoke to the school psychologist, if one is available? I'm not an expert here but someone other than your main doctor might have some answers and guidance for you. You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers.
A tough situation? She's rich.
thinks of this young man now? Ohhhh, maybe it's okay because she's supposedly doing the right thing. Pulleezzee!!!! God bless her!!!
Tough situation to be in. All that stuff can be fun. The problem
is in what it represents maybe. If you feel it does not affect you or your family's committment to Christ then have fun with it. The areas of 'gray' are getting larger so I think you have to find your own peace about it. Obviously your pastor has very strong opinions about it. We attended Southern Baptist for a very long time and we always did a fall celebration....leaves, hay, bonfire, hotdogs, apple bobbing and it was and still is my favorite time of year (I live in PA). Hope you can find a solution!
Leave some open boxes of baking soda inside and maybe search for carbon filters to leave in there,
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Dog may see this as reward for howling. You may
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Whatever, reward your husband
with sex for going after another woman. I don't treat my husband like a pet, nor do I use sex as a weapon or a reward, but to each his own. I prefer the grown-up method of confronting the situation, but as I said, to each his own...
Why should you reward kids for doing what they should in the first place?
Like have some sense, not acting out in public, minding their parents and/or other elders in charge. I believe it you give allowance or do something for the children, it should not be a reward type situation. No wonder the kids are so rotten now days.
That's how you reward her wonderful efforts to better
herself by taking the initiative to go to college? Do you have any idea how many kids are content to sit in their butt and do nothing? You should count your blessings that you have a young lady with the intiative to go to college and you should REWARD her, not PUNISH her. There is PLENTY of time for her to find out about the "real world." You require her to work and if that's not enough, you take part of her earnings for yourselves? Holy crap.
So in other words, reward him for pulling this crap?
Not me. I would confront the situation head-on & nip it in the bud. Otherwise, it will just happen again with another woman.
so, you think we should reward them by paying for their bed, heat, water, food?
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When puppy does her business where you want her to, reward her with a piece of food treat.
And when she pees in house, use paper towels and then place paper towels (soiled) to the area in the yard where you want her to do her business. Dogs tend to prefer where they smell the odor. Be patient. This dog is young. Confine her to an area where the floor will not be damage (tile or vinyl). Take her out six times away,including first thing in AM, right before bed, after she eats her meals. Pull water up a few hours before bedtime. Do enjoy your new puppy dog.
How sad. I can offer no help but
I feel so bad for you and your son. I had no idea such a conditon existed. To think of a 5-year-old child existing on pizza rolls and Ramen noodles, makes me so sad.
God bless you both (and the therapists too!!).
Thanks, thanks, I appreciate the offer
but unlike this poor excuse for a person, I am not using our website to ask for donations, financially making it alright for the present. We are going to high kill so called "shelters" and pulling from there to try and give our best little friends an extra hand. I am finding so much joy in what I am doing. In my state you have to be licensed (have that applied for), incorporation (applied for) before you can charge a rehoming fee. When all in order and if others in my rescue group want to charge fees, I will let them have that to go back into the pot to, well save others. This is my heart and what I have wanted to do for a very long time. Probably the most rewarding thing I have done in my life. Here in the south we have an overabundance of animals and I hear there is a need for animals further north. All 3 of my furbabies are rescues, they also are my heart.
Offer these suggestions -
Title loans if they own their cars, sell anything they can, pawn what they can. Some of this will only be a very short-term solution.
Look inside for how much they offer LOL!
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Hayseed, thanks for the offer but
today on my way back from ceramic class, I stopped and got my babies some of the organic catnip and ground it up between the fingers and they rolled and sniffed and had such a good time. I wish I could have taken all the covers including blankets, sheets, whatever that I have put over my new furniture from 3 days ago but had no time before had to get to work. Am off tomorrow so will try and orientate the babies towards their new delight. They did love it and am hoping this will be a good thing for them instead of the new leather.
Perhaps it would be better to offer your help locally - SM
What you are doing is wonderful and I can easily understand that you must be selective in helping those who are in real need.
At the same time, you must understand that people are not accustomed to running into true Good Samaritans who have no personal "agenda", so they would understandably be reluctant to provide intimate details of their financial situation to a total stranger, however well intentioned. If "What's the catch?" is their first reaction, it's only natural. Sadly, there have been a lot of scams that have been circulating in the form of "assistance".
By working locally (perhaps through a church or social agency), you can be thoroughly satisfied that you aren't being scammed by someone with a slick story, or someone who would misuse the money, and the recipient of your kindness can be confident of your good intentions.
You're truly a rare bird in this jungle of life. Don't take it amiss if a lot of bird-watchers don't recognize you because they've never seen anything like you before.
The only comfort I can offer is to wish you well and say a prayer for you. sm
I'm sure all will turn out fine, too. My mom went through early stages of cervical cancer in her mid 40s and she is doing well. Best of luck to you and keep us posted and updated.
Thank you so much - some of us are quick to judge and offer
I really appreciate those who have give good advice and hope to help my DD. To those who suggested it was too late, 22 is just the beginning of life IMO, especially if you have been in college and the like. For reasons I do not care to go into, my DD could not work while going to school and so now that she has her own money, well you can figure it out!
I think that's a great idea to offer to
help chaperone! Personally I'd take some kitchen cleaner and some paper towels and clean the counters to "keep busy" when nobody was paying attention, but I'm pretty bold, LOL.
Not that my house is as clean as it should be, but if I had kids I'd be a lot more motivated to clean!
what does a company normally offer for PTO yearly
Starting fulltime and just curious?
Most leagues offer seminars
You may want to look into that for your opposing team and yourself. If these kids sense the parents' hostility, it will ruin it for them. This is written by another little league mother that has already been there and done that. It's not worth the negative energy. Cheaters are not winners! End of story.
Why should she offer to feed the twit? - sm
he was violating a restraining order, I certainly would not make him feel at home. She did the right thing calling the cops. He mouthed off because he was mad at her and wanted to cause trouble.
As for CPS, clean the house, why you still have his lousy magazines there is beyond me if kicked him out. Get rid of all the clutter for sure. Obviously be straightforward with the inspector. I highly doubt from your story that you are in imminent danger of losing your kids. Just be truthful and explain the whole situation, CPS has seen it all and can quickly figure out who the good and bad parents are.
You don't offer to feed someone you have a restraining
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I offer snazzy colored pencils.
You'd be surprised how eyes light up when they see they can choose a special looking pencil. I think it's because it's unexpected. I have candy too, but they are more excited about the pencils.
Thank you for the offer. I don't have a cell phone contract, i do the pay as you go. sm
i have ATT go phone stuff. Thank you though.
It is rude to ask someone if they are married. If they offer fine, if not, butt out. SM
Being married does not justify a person's worth, neither does having or not having kids. If you are happy, that is all that matters.
Don't feel bad, I had a 30 year miserable marriage and only stayed married for the sake of my daughter.
I'm in a ten year long relationship with a special man, but I will say, if anything happens to this relationship, there will not be another. Too much weird stuff out there.
I've never had a bride offer to pay for the attendant's dresses. nm
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As long as it's not a sleepover, why not stay at the party and offer to help
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Mary, I offer my prayers for the safety of your sons. SM
I thought brothers could not be in battle zones at the same time. Did they choose to?
Does anyone have Verizon and also their cell phones. Can you tell me if they offer a decent deal if
you have both from them compared to other cell phones. No sure which one to get.
Comm colleges also offer otometry assistant, pharmacy
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Krispy Kreme to offer free doughnuts on Inauguration Day
Krispy Kreme is offering free donuts (or doughnuts, as they call them) Inauguration Day.
In a press release the company announced that it will be "honoring American's sense of pride and freedom of choice on Inauguration Day, by offering a free doughnut of choice to every customer on this historic day, Jan. 20. By doing so, participating Krispy Kreme stores nationwide are making an oath to tasty goodies -- just another reminder of how oh-so-sweet "free" can be."
Whatever. It's surprising that Krisky Kreme even has the money to offer this promotion. The company has been bleeding cash for years and its stock currently trades at $1.50 per share. In 2003, it was trading at more than 30 times that price.
Want a free donut? Just show up at a Krispy Kreme and enjoy your day.
Tough on who??
tough for IRS to track you - not tough at all....they will catch you eventually if you are IC and don't pay taxes.
tough for you to track how to pay, when, etc.?? Also not tough. Every time you get a check, take about 35% of that and put it in a savings account. You could probably get away with paying yearly for awhile but safest bet is to pay quarterly. Download forms from IRS or your tax program and you can print a payment coupon.
You may want to do a search on the main board on this subject. It has been discussed. Some put aside 25%, some 30%, some 35%. Some pay quarterly, some yearly. Depends on if co-file and if that person takes money out of his/her check to cover part of your taxes.
That's a tough one.
Wow! Talk about going overboard. I thought my parents and MIL were bad - your MIL is really obsessed with those VERY expensive baskets.
Has your hubby tried talking to her?
How about giving them away as gifts to teachers or someone you think might be able to use them w/o your MIL knowing of course.
I really do feel for you because though your MIL means well and sounds like a beautiful person just the same it's just too much and such a waste of money.
Lots of luck to you.
Boy, that's a tough one
One of the defining moments of my life was when I saw my son's tiny heart fluttering on an ultrasound screen. Up to then, although I had known I was pregnant (I was 8 weeks), the reality of it hadn't hit me, not in the way that it did when I saw that tiny beating heart.
I am definitely not pro-choice but I am not radically pro-life either. What I do oppose is additional governmental inference in our lives. So, as I said, this is a tough one....my heart says "yes" but my head says "no".
Tough one.
My thoughts are when the children are small, they won't care if you live in a tent in a national park (in fact, they would probably prefer it). When they are teens, it doesn't matter where you/they live, they are going to complain about it. Bill Gates' kids will probably be asking why can't they live in a normal house like all their friends, and why do they have to have such a large carbon footprint?
We lived in a single family home with lots of acreage. Some of the kids' best friends lived in apartments in the city as well as mobile home parks. It made no difference whatsoever to them about the living circumstances of their friends and their friends' parents, and they stayed over at those friends just as often as those friends stayed over with us. Our house at that time was *very* nice and we had 4 or 5 horses at all times for riding, but were our kids impressed by that? No, they complained because we were hicks because we had chickens in our yard and their city friends did not.
I think the bottom line is wherever you are the happiest is where they will be the happiest.
Tough
Wow, that is a tough one. I know that you don't want to step on your son's toes by stepping in. Besides, he would probably be embarassed. I tell my 5-year-old daughter that if someone is not nice to her then they are not her friend. We have a similar situation going on here with the neighbor across the street who rides the bus with my daughter. She is much older and picks on my daughter. I had a talk with the older "bully" that seemed to work for now. Good luck!
that's tough...
I don't know anything about this but could it possible be that she has dermatillomania. Google it, there is a lot of information. I went to elementary school with a girl who had trichotillomania (pulling out hair, eyebrows, eyelashes, etc.) and that is what prompted me to google and found dermatillomania. I think you made a good call asking your son to talk to a counselor about it. From what you have described it sounds like she definitely needs some help but who knows how her parent's would react to you contacting them directly.
It's tough, that's for sure.
I tried smaller companies and larger. Gotta tell you there are a lot of companies (big and small) out there looking to take advantage of a new MT. I came across several myself. One wanted me to start working immediately, that day, right now, with no hiring agreement or anything. All they knew was my first name, had a cut and paste partial resume, phone interview, and a "test" which I don't even think was a test but free work.
It is sad what the jobs are like out there right now for MTs. I am fortunate to have a husband with a good job, not much financial overhead, and more in need of flexibility. For my "foot in the door" so to speak and a foot out of the 24/7 schedule of inhouse hospital transcription it was the price I had to pay.
That's a tough one.
I hate politics...especially among parents in school and sporting events.
I would follow your gut. You didn't say if you agree with what was done to the previous president or not. As little association with the annoying neighbor as possible seems logical to me. There's no reason why your children can't be friends and the 2 of you can be acquaitances but not great friends. I think you did the right thing by not joining in her comments and if it continues in the future, maybe just get up and say you have to go. She should get the message.
As far as you continuing on as president, you should do it for your kids but only for your kids. If there's a point where you can't handle it, ask for help. Who knows, the ex-president might even be willing to help you out or give pointers....don't take someone else's word for it that she didn't do a good job...maybe this annoying neighbor is just pushy. Sounds to me like there might be an underlying reason why no one else (mainly the annoying neighbor) wanted to be president but wanted you to do it. If you really think you have gotten in over your head, you're probably better off getting out now than waiting to when the school year starts. Surely someone else can step in. The school isn't going to fall apart.
I am so sorry. You are going to have to get really tough it looks like nm
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So sorry - this is a tough one
I REALLY feel badly for you. This has got to be absolutely horrible for you to deal with, as there is not much that can be done, and it is hurting your health. There is only one thing you can do, and that is move. Is there some way you could find a way to do it? The problem with apartment living is that this could happen again, even if you do move, but don't know if it would be this bad. I truly feel your pain, I wish there was a more helpful suggestion to make.
It's tough
but it does get easier as they get a bit older.
I had two and both had colic ... yikes! I also got mastitis in one breast and felt pretty sick. I breast fed for only a few weeks with the first and a couple months with the second.
My youngest just had her first baby in April. She is feeling similar (and got mastitis in both breasts) and thinks she will stop breast feeding at about two months. She says she barely goes to the bathroom some days because she is always busy with the baby or holding him.
As they get more alert, you will ironically have more free time. Plus it is much easier to carry them around once they can just ride on your hip.
I would say if breast feeding is done long enough to get the colostrum, that's the main thing.
P.S. FYI, I found having two much more work than one for at least the first year.
that is tough
but he probably figures what is the point...not going to change the outcome.
that's certainly a tough one. but there are some rxs when all else fails.
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Must be tough for you guys
Sorry for your troubles and losses...
Isolation is tough sm
I had an office doing this but never had the time to socialize with anyone in the building as I hated it if they came into my office because it meant I had to stop working. They used to call me "the robot" and that's exactly what I was. I am now home and don't get out to do things in the neighborhood, don't know my neighbors nor do I want to. I do feel like I missed out on life although I had a good thing going and it helped get my kids through school, etc., except it made me socially inept. Even when I had someone working for me, I would not stop to talk to them and resented it if they took time to jabber on the phone, etc. I was a slave driver to myself and everyone else. This job is enough to drive one to the looney bin. We shall all have to end up in the same place I guess when we get old. I don't know how to socialize anymore and I used to enjoy people. Perhaps this work has made me an introvert or I went into this profession because I am an introvert, who knows? I can relate. No one else outside the field can though, I guess they are "normal" and I am not. When I do go out to do something, I always think of the lines I am losing and feel like I'm wasting time and could be making a line count. Crazy!!
tough call
I know this is tough for you. . I have always hated to tell my daughter no. . Unfortunately, I have had to tell her no many times. . if you don't have the money, you don't have it. . not much you can do. . BUT. are there any programs or anything that could help your daughter - where I live, we have a free clinic for people to go to who don't have insurance. .
Sounds tough
Get what you can for the house, furniture and whatever you have, buy a truck with a camper, head for the warmer climes or even Mexico and live the good life and be mobile and go where the jobs are like a migrant worker. Think outside the box.Just a thought, it might even be fun, an adventure.
Tough times
I just skimmed your post and didn't read the others, but I know that often children will feel the mom is more to blame for a breakup between parents, so he might feel a little betrayed by you right off the bat, making him more sensitive to anything else you say or do.
When you think about how hard it is for adults to understand their own emotions and then present them to another, it makes it easy to understand why children have such a hard time.
I think the best thing is to try to help him feel comforatable sorting out and expressing his real feelings to you. Most of our actions and words are the consequence of a deeper/bigger emotion and not the actual issue.
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