Last vent on obnoxious toys. LOL.
Posted By: old fashioned. on 2008-11-25
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The LeapFrog Tag thingy. I saw them at Wal-Mart and it looks like certain books work with it. I saw the advertisement and thought it was neat until that crazy man in the lizard costume or whatever it is insinuated that books are boring unless they can be used by that talking pen. I cannot figure out how that thing helps kids learn to read as it says it does. It looks to me like that pen reads for them. My 6-year-old is in first grade and they are trying to teach her to read by phonics. So when she and I read together whenever she stumbles across a word I have her try to look at it and sound it out before I will give her an answer and most of the time she can. I think I am just frustrated by that whole industry now anyway because I have had salespeople come to my door basically telling me that my kid is going to be a dumbazz if I don't buy their expensive junk....all the other kids have it and mine will be left out in the cold. I guess I am not giving those electronics a chance. I cannot see what they can do for my child that I cannot.
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lead in toys/Made in China...beware of Happy Meal toys
I watched a special on CNN yesterday about lead content in toys. I did not realize by your child simply touching a toy and putting his fingers in his mouth he could be ingesting lead. The special included a segment on a nice family that lived in a brand new home with a 2 year old and 6 month old. They both tested positive for lead. A 2 year old!!!! Worried, I went to my boy's toybox this morning and it is AMAZING how many painted toys are from China. Most notably this includes happy meal toys. I haven't gotten through one toy box and already have a trash bag full of toys. Please, please go through your children's toys. Lead ingestion can lead to brain damage. Be paranoid. Throw away all of the made in China stuff. Christmas is just weeks away--they will be getting new stuff (hopefully stuff that is paint-free!).
Your best bet is to buy made in the USA toys but even safer toys are unpainted blocks, Legos and books. A good, safe place to look for toys is www.mindware.com.
pass this on!
Free shipping on tons of toys on line at Toys R Us. nm
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you guys are so obnoxious
FYI, godly people pray because that is what God wants them to do (including before meals). It is not to impress you others. and if you don't want to see it -- its pretty simple -- don't look! There are many Christians getting quite tired of you others trying to force your ways (or lack thereof) upon us. You don't want to see someone pray, don't want a Bible on their desk. Is it also offensive to see someone wear a cross around their neck? I guess pretty soon, we'll have to be meeting secretly because it offends some of you to see cars in front of a church building huh?
curious to know your obnoxious coworkers..nm
she keeps putting obxious instead of obnoxious. Tsk,tsk.
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Snotty QA types are just as obnoxious on
Ya'll have certainly proven the original poster's point.
I think she was rude and obnoxious but not racist (sm)
She just sounds ignorant in general to me. I would have someone else do my taxes just because this woman appears to have been raised in a barn.
lol, I so agree - why are kids the way they are today? Rude and obnoxious?
The generation raising them, apparently. Kids today are treated like little princes and princesses. I don't know when children became things of worship but they have. And this time out and talking to the child it such crap, when most just need a good smack now and again. Hey it worked for us. When I was growing up we kids were not disrepectful and we didn't think the world owed us something and we grew up to be decent people. We were afraid of our parents in a way and it helped us to be decent kids. I don't remember being worshipped by my parents. So, I just can't imagine this world in say 20-30 years, how scary.
I agree with that along with loud obnoxious ring tones.
toys sm
my hubby and i have within the last two years gotten toys and use them on each other and it's a lot of fun! maybe you and hubby can go "toy" shopping together, find him something. i would guess, like one of the other posters said, he's probably thinking he's not doing his job good enough. hope he opens up to new things for ya!
sex toys
My boyfriend has given me several over the years. We both enjoy them. I once bought one on line but when I actually saw it, it looked so scary, I called the company and they agreed to take it back and give me a refund. It was still in the original wrapper so they trusted me. I would say just don't use anything that scares you or makes you uncomfortable.
toys
Slinkies
Lincoln Logs
Yo-Yos
Tinker Toys
Silly Putty
I love them all......
Toys, also
Hoola-Hoops
Toys...............
I have 5 cats. They'll usually try to sit in any box they find empty,even one their foot barely fits in...they'll make themselves fit!
Plastic bags! Yep, mine too! When they were babies, but now that they're 7 years old, they don't mess with them anymore.
One of our males thinks a leaf that made its way into the house is the best thing around. He'll bat at it and scatter it all over the house for hours until it gets lost under something.
All of ours are manx with the exception of one..... he's the only one with a tail....our senior citizen. The rest think his tail is a toy!!
Anything they can fold themselves up in is always a good hiding place so they can jump out at anything that goes by, including the dog. A drawer that's opened just a crack is tempting enough to make the effort to crawl in...the heck with the consequences of getting stuck!!
Two of them know how to open the bottom cabinets in the kitchen and think they're going to hide out.....we've had to put child locks on them but one of the males found a way to break it and get in anyway!
Not toys, but s/m
My kitty sticks her feet (hands?) in her bowl and licks them, instead of just drinking the water. Too cute.
Toys for Tots
I believe it is the one run by troops collecting toys for underpriviledged kids at xmas.
and you could put some smaller toys in big pinata....
Sex toys - embarassing & anonymous
Hi - I'm serious - anonymous embarassing question for anonymous answers! I am 39 years old and my husband recently found out that I have a sex toy I bought about a year ago. He is furious and is acting like I am a really bad person. I think these things are way more common than the thinks. Just looking for opinions?
I call Target, WM, KB, Toys R Us...
Circuit City, Game Stop, Sears and Best Buy every day and have been for the past 3 weeks - no one has any in stock. They are really popular right now and when they do get them in stock, they sell out within minutes. I'm also signed up to receive emails from Toys R Us and KB Toys when they get them in stock online, but they too always sell out within minutes. It's just ridiculous how hard it is to get one of these. My parents are actually in central Texas this weekend and I'm hoping they'll be able to get one for me while they're there. ebay has them, but they're at least $100 over the normal price and right now I'm not willing to pay that. Oh, well. Hopefully, I'll be able to find one before Christmas.
I used to LOVE soap with toys in it.
I think I had one when I was little called Fuzzy Wuzzy--or maybe I don't remember. (I'm 45 now.) But what a great thing to recreate.
my dog sneaks kids toys and
takes them to bed with her. Or if you leave work gloves outside, she'll run off with one that you may never find again, but so far, that's the extent of her damage. don't know how well i'd get over eating up my headsets...
Kitty's favorite toys!
So what are your kitty's FAVORITE toys?
With mine, the store-bought toys usually get ignored, while she instead plays happily with the box the toy came in. Strings are pretty much the Numero Uno toys for her. And bags. She spent this morning smugly sitting inside a clear plastic bag that had been a 12-pack of toilet paper, thinking I couldn't see her.
Lately she's developed an huge liking for grocery twist-ties. So recently I began making her "spiders" out of a couple twist-ties twisted together in the middle to form a body, and the ends of the ties are legs. She goes NUTS with these, especially in the kitchen, since they scoot and skitter in a very lifelike manner when she bats them across the linoleum. She also likes to grab the spider and zoom all over the house with it.
Eventually she hides them, and I have to make her another. I'm sure that someday if I ever move, I'll probably discover old twist-tie "spiders" in all sorts of unlikely places.
I got toys for the nieces and nephews. Did pretty
good. Got Battleship w/a handheld electronic Battleship package for 8 bucks, a 20 pack of Hot Wheels race cars for 9 bucks, Barbie stable and horse for 23 bucks (two items), 4-Ever Best Friends for 11 bucks, My Little Pony Styling Pony for 9 bucks, and Pirates of the Caribbean PSP game for 39 bucks. I also bought 3 beautiful Christmas sweaters for 12 bucks each. I think I did pretty good.
I got tons of clothes and toys. I always hit Walmart,
Toys-R-Us and JC Pennys for those things. I also went to Pac Sun and got me some jeans (2 for less than the price of 1). I never go for electronics. I figure what you are trying to save for 1 item, you loose by missing out on all the other small things. I did get gaming things though, basically any electronics I do not have to stand in line for, like Walmart has you do. For instance, if you bought a PS2 game at Toys-R-Us, you get a wireless controller for 5 bucks, normally 20. I got a game and the controller for 10 bucks.
Buy one of those bathtubs and fill them up with bath toys sm
and baby towels, washcloths, Johnson & Johnson stuff, etc.
Or buy one of those dishwashwer tubs that fit into the dishwasher that holds nipples, pacifiers, etc and wrap that up in a baby bath towel with a big bow on it.
Get a basket and fill it up with onesies, socks, kits that include medicines, etc.
I love going to baby showers and creating unique gifts!
Severe warning about dangerous dog-toys!!
I came across this blog today on Craigslist: http://www.thechaistory.blogspot.com/
And if you have a dog, it's a must-see. It details what happened to a dog that was severely injured by a dog toy called a "Pimple Ball" made by Four Paws, Inc. The dog ended up losing his tongue, and the pain he had to endure was excruciating.
The dog's owner relates that the Four Paws Co. hasn't owned up to the fact that its toy is dangerous, and he's calling for a international boycott of Four Paws, Inc. After watching his video links of his poor dog's suffering, even though I have cats, I plan to be sure I don't purchase ANYTHING from this company, andhopefully you won't either.
Lots of chewie toys, because puppies
like to chew. And I have seen Springer Spaniel calendars at either Borders or Petco.
First question, do you have kids? Second, do they have small toys?...sm
If it is something solid like that, the Drano can't break it up. In our case, it was the toilet when our kids were small with a Petey toy from McDonalds. We tried plungers and eels, and finally took the toilet up, and there it was stuck in the curve of the drain.
First, try a plunger and see if you can get it to break loose. Yes it will kind of make a mess, and I recommend the 2.00 trip to Walmart to use a sanitary new plunger! If that will not do it, try taking the trap off (the u-shaped piece of pipe). Most pipes these days are plastic PVC so it should be pretty easy to loosen the fittings. VERY, VERY IMPORTANT! Shut both the hot and cold water valves off under the sink before doing anything!! Yes again speaking from experience! If the water lines come loose during this process, it makes a HUGE mess. Whatever is plugging your sink up is probably trapped in there. Yes it is kind of gross what sticks in your sink, but it is much cheaper (2.00 for the plunger) than calling the plumber. If that still does not work, then call the plumber. The problem may be underground roots from trees near the home or who knows what. Hope this helps.
Need to Vent.
Sorry I just need to get this out before I explode. I am so mad at my DH right now. I opened my box that he had duct taped all up. I was hoping for something special, well it was a really ugly robe. It is red and has flowers on it. I have never worn red, and don't like flowers on my clothes. Why DH picked something like this is beyond me.
That is all I got, nothing from the kids, nothing else from DH. I just feel like crap. I am so sick and tired of taken second to his stupid cars. He hasn't got a clue why I am ticked at him, the kids are acting like its not a big deal. It just hurts to work so hard on everything and get nothing in return. I got DH everything he wanted, why couldn't I get anything.
I'm sorry I just needed to get that out. After not getting anything all year for any of the holidays or my birthday, I was just hoping that DH would make up for it at Christmas. But I guess I was wrong. I'm always wrong. Now I have to put on a happy face for a bunch of people coming for dinner. I just feel like crawling back into bed and staying there.
Just a vent
I went to register my daughter for school this morning. I was in line to pay for her books when I noticed the man in front of me is listed on our local sexual offender registry for child molestation. He was there to register his daughter for kindergarten. After he left, I made the secretary aware. I came home, looked him up again just to be sure though I thought I was and sure enough, it was him. I called our local police department because I wanted to be sure of the laws. It was my understanding that offenders were to be a certain distance away from public parks, schools, etc. He told me I was correct, though there is a gray area... he was at the school to register his daughter and he is also welcome to attend school functions!!!
Is it just me or is this not concerning??? I told the police officer I can't believe he would be allowed to do this and don't even get me started on the concern I have for that man's daughter!!!! I have this horrible picture in my head of attending one of my daughter's school functions and my son somehow meeting up with this man in the bathroom or something!!! I realize the odds are slim but it still bugs me. I also realize there are many more sexual offenders than listed in the registry and have discussed this openly with my children but it still upsets me!!
in-law vent
I agree, you need to calm down and don't make any hasty decisions until you ask your SIL "exactly" what was said to your niece. Don't wait and stew over it either, go to her house when your BIL is there and ask them both up front exactly what was said and after they give their story, tell them how your niece is interpreting that conversation and that they need to have another talk with her. It appears that you do not care for her to begin with and may be interpreting more into this situation than need be because of that fact. If she did say exactly that, then I would assume she will be looking for a new sitter, though it will only deprive you of a relationship with your niece, but you can just visit with her at their house. Just don't cut all ties or burn all bridges because you will be the one to suffer the consequences, not them.
Need to vent sm
My 8-year-old daughter was bit by a dog a few months ago by a neighbor's dog. The bite has healed, but the emotional scars haven't. My daughter is now absolutely terrified of dogs, and cats now, too. She won't play outside, except in our backyard and won't ride her bike which she absolutely loved before this incident. Before this incident, we were even planning to get a dog. This is obviously out of the picture now.
Our medical bills totaled over $800 before insurance. We gave them the bill, wanting $800 because we pay for our insurance on a weekly basis, and they shouldn't benefit from that. We thought that was more than fair because of the trauma my daughter suffered.
Well, today, they tried to give us a check for $87! Yes, that's $87! I was so insulted by this, and hurt! All that my daughter went through, they tried to give her an $87 check?!!! They only want to pay our copay!
Well, I typed up a letter and returned their check, informing them we will be contacting an attorney. So, instead of the $800 we wanted, I'm sure they'll have to pay a few extra thousand for pain and suffering, and also for the lost wages because we had to miss work because of this.
I can't believe these people!
Thanks for letting me vent!
I really need to vent
I am editing work to upload to a client. This MT's quality is horrid! Basic medical terms are misspelled. Basic sentence structure is a mess. There are two to three blanks in every report. She claims to have typed for a major hospital for over five years. I am wondering how she kept that position so long. I send corrections regularly, and she argues with me. I need to stand up, be a man, and find a replacement. I am spending my Saturday night fixing her mistakes while she is probably relaxing with her family. I hate my job today!!
Thanks. I solved my own problem. I need to replace her ASAP.
Need to vent a bit!
Ok, so I need to vent a bit about a friend. Well, I guess now I should say "former" friend. Back in February, my husband and I decided that we wanted to use our tax return to install new hardwood floors in our house. We were talking with our friend about it and she said that her husband was great at installing floors and that he could install them for significantly less than an actual flooring company or other contractor. We asked her about how much he would charge to do this, and she said about $400. We had been quoted $1000 and higher by several flooring companies, so we decided to let him install our floors since it would save us a lot of money.
It took about 4 days to get the floors installed. In fact, my husband helped quite a bit with the install, plus we ordered him lunch every single day he was here working. While our new floors were being done, we were also talking about how we were planning to remodel one of the finished rooms in our basement, which is my husband's office/den. We were planning on hiring someone for this We even already had an appointment scheduled with a company to come give us an estimate the next day. Our friend's husband again said that he could do this significantly less as well. He said that he would charge around $500 to put up new sheet rock and install the new laminate flooring that we had already purchased. We asked him multiple times if he was 100% sure that he could do it for that cheap. He said yes and insisted on doing it. We agreed to this and let him do the work in our basement as well. We paid him a total of $1000 cash for all of his work, which is what he asked for, plus bought him lunch every day and helped him with the labor ourselves.
Well, a few weeks ago our friend started acting very strangely around us. We didn't know what was up and she wasn't telling us. In fact, she started completely ignoring us and not answering our phone calls, text messages, or emails for days. We later found out from her husband that she had been laid off from her job and was too embarassed to tell anyone. She did finally come out and tell us about it after about 2 weeks had gone by.
About a week after she told us about losing her job, we got a phone call from her and she said that we didn't pay her husband enough for the work that he did in the basement, so she wanted us to give HER a check for $300!!! We told her that we had already paid her husband $1000, which is what he quoted us and he had been very happy with that, especially since he really needed the money. We told her that it was simply not in our budget to just give her $300 and basically told her sorry, but no way.
This morning, we woke up to someone banging on our front door and ringing the door bell over and over again, which caused our 2 dogs to start barking like crazy. Both my husband and I work really late hours and we were both sound asleep. In fact, my husband had just done a double shift a the hospital he works at and didn't get home until about 7:30 this morning. We had no idea who it could be, so I got up to answer the door, and there was our friend standing there. I let her in and she said, "I've been banging on the door forever! You're probably just ignorning me because you think I'm here to collect money." I was in total shock. We had been sound asleep and didn't even hear anything until she really started banging hard on the door. She then went on to say how incredibly rude we were and how ridiculous we were being for ignoring her. We weren't even ignoring her! We haven't even heard from her in weeks and she just showed up this morning without even calling first when she KNEW we would most likely be sleeping! I was half asleep and she was ranting on and on about how rude we were being and how she would help us out if we needed money. That let the cat out of the bag right there. The money that she wanted was for HER and NOT for her husband! She was just using him as a cover to get us to give her $300! She then said, "I also need to borrow your Windows Vista CD and I'll be back later for it and expect it to be waiting for me, unless you're going to be ignorant about that and not give it to me." She then stormed out the door and left.
Let that be a lesson to never hire your friends to do work for you!!!! She had been our best friend for about 7 years and now we want nothing to do with her. Sorry this was a bit long, but I needed to vent somewhere!
need to vent
Today is invoice day & got up extra early to get started as I will have my 5 month old grandson tonight & kids will play with him until bedtime, BUT .. I can't sign in to work, got up at 5a.m., still can't get connected, emailed boss & tech support, nobody on IM.. plus can't get on the other IM thru work because I have to be signed in.. ggrrrrr.. okay, hopefully I can get on soon.. here it is almost 11:00.. I could've had 6 hours in already.. geez.. what a day.. okay, sorry about that, but needed to tell somebody.. hope everyone is having a better day than I am..
Please let me vent....sm
I am so fustrated. I recently started a custom accessory buiness online. I have a myspace page and a website. I have had the worst luck getting this thing up and running. I mean, I know the economy is bad, but I have had THE WORST luck. I would be happy with just a few orders a month. Nothing. And believe me I have put the website out there. I submitted it to Google, Yahoo, and MSN. THey still haven't posted it yet I don't think. I am at my wit's end. Anybody who has ever submitted a website know how long it takes for them to put it up?
There are others who do similar products as me. They have orders right and left. I cannnot figure it out. And mine are cheaper. I am about ready to throw in the towel. I don't know what else to do. I'm sorry to whine here but gosh I need to vent. There is nothing like putting your all into something and nothing happens.
Aqua Dots toys contain poison - a warning.
Millions of toys recalled; contain 'date rape' drug
Two U.S. children went into comas after swallowing Chinese-made Aqua Dots found to contain a chemical that converts into 'date rape' drug when ingested.
November 8 2007: 10:13 AM EST
WASHINGTON (AP) -- Millions of Chinese-made toys have been pulled from shelves in North America and Australia after scientists found they contain a chemical that converts into a powerful date rape drug when ingested. Two children in the United States and three in Australia were hospitalized after swallowing the beads.
With only seven weeks until Christmas, the recall is yet another blow to the toy industry - already bruised by a slew of recalls this past summer.
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Child deaths have prompted FDA hearings on the safety of cold and cough medicines. CNN's Elizabeth Cohen reports
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In the United States, the toy goes by the name Aqua Dots, a highly popular holiday toy distributed by Toronto-based Spin Master Toys. They are called Bindeez in Australia, where they were named toy of the year at an industry function earlier this year.
It could not immediately be learned whether Aqua Dots beads are made in the same factories as the Bindeez product. Both are sold by Australia-based Moose Enterprises.
The toy beads are sold in general merchandise stores and over the Internet for use in arts and crafts projects. They can be arranged into designs and fused together when sprayed with water.
Scientists say a chemical coating on the beads, when ingested, metabolizes into the so-called date rape drug gamma hydroxy butyrate. When eaten, the compound - made from common and easily available ingredients - can induce unconsciousness, seizures, drowsiness, coma and death.
Naren Gunja from Australia's Poisons Information Center said the drug's effect on children was "quite serious ... and potentially life-threatening."
The recall was announced by the Consumer Product Safety Commission on Wednesday several hours after published reports about the recall in Australia.
The two U.S. children who swallowed Aqua Dot beads went into nonresponsive comas, commission spokesman Scott Wolfson said Wednesday afternoon.
In Australia, the toys were ordered off store shelves on Tuesday when officials learned that a 2-year-old boy and a 10-year-old girl were hospitalized after swallowing the beads. A 19-month-old toddler also was being treated.
The news jolted the toy industry because Aqua Dots has been one of the few bright stars of the toy selling season, which, along with overall retailing, has gotten off to a sluggish start. The item, which had been heavily advertised, had appeared on many toy experts' list of must-have holiday toys, and toy sellers are now in the midst of canceling advertising and scrambling to figure out how to replace it.
Chris Byrne, a New York-based toy consultant, noted that the incidents could have been isolated, and Spin Master may be erring on the side of caution.
"This is something that they could not have foreseen. This is an extremely hot toy. ... It's a little scary," Byrne said.
In a statement, Toys "R" Us Inc., said that it issued on Tuesday a "stop sale" on the entire Spin Master Aqua Dots product line in its North American stores and on its Web site after it learned of the news. "We understand that Spin Master and U.S. regulatory authorities are investigating this product and we have asked Spin Master to fully explain what it believes happened," said the toy seller in a statement.
Meanwhile, a separate recall was announced for 405,000 children's products made in China, most of them toy cars, because of dangerous levels of lead.
The recall includes about 380,000 Pull-Back Action Toy Cars imported by Dollar General Merchandising Inc. of Goodlettsville, Tenn., and 7,500 Dragster and Funny Car toys imported by International Sourcing Ltd. of Springfield, Mo.
Four of the recalled products were imported by Schylling Associates Inc. of Rowley, Mass., including the items Duck Family Collectable Wind-Up Toy, Dizzy Ducks Music Box, "Robot 2000" collectable tin robot and Winnie-the-Pooh Spinning Top. The company recalled another 66,000 spinning tops Aug. 22.
Representatives from Schylling Associates Inc. were not immediately available for comment.
Wednesday's recalls include about 7,200 "Big Red" Wagons imported by Northern Tool & Equipment Co. of Burnsville, Minn. Totaling about 405,700, the recalled children's products all had excessive levels of lead in their surface paint.
Although no illnesses connected to the toy car recall have been reported, lead is toxic if ingested by young children. Children's products found to have more than 0.06 percent lead accessible to users are subject to a recall.
Note that AquaDots has been recalled. I went into a KB Toys and found one on
they couldn't be stocked and pulled them from the back. I turned it in to the manager and asked him hadn't those been recalled and his eyes about popped out of his head and said that they had and thanks for catching it.
Lots of teething toys and crate training - sm
Get her a good book or a video on raising a puppy. They chew a lot with puppy teeth. Some breeds chew more than others, I had a husky that chewed a table leg, I have had a lab/shepard mix that basically ate a couch....which we ended up putting the dog in the powder room with a muzzle on during the day. Eventually we were able to unmuzzle the dog, after 2 years or so, as she got older and less destructive. Felt bad doing it but it was the only way not to have her eat the plumbing, baseboards, etc. They are also destructive when they are bored. If she leaves the dog alone constantly it is going to get into mischief. A dog is a bit respponsibility, I hope she is up for it, and if she bails I hope you can take it in.
Do any of your cats drop their toys in the water bowl?
It's the funniest thing with mine. When Lucky was a baby he'd drop his toys in the toilet and just have a blast trying to fish them out. Then he'd come jump up on the desk with me and shake his wet paws off. Lucky and Sofia both drop their toys in the water bowl. Sofia loooooooves those little fur mice. She will go to town chasing them around and then she drowns them either in the water bowl or the toilet. I have learned to check before I sit down on the potty - I think I've flushed more than one mouse away.
Your deserved vent
As a former elementary school teacher, I asked myself 2 very obvious questions - WHY ON EARTH DIDN'T THEY GET A PERMANENT SUB FOR THOSE KINDERGARTENERS? And, WHY DIDN'T THEY HAVE THOSE KIDS REPEAT KINDERGARTEN? Promoting them to 1st grade under those circumstances is setting them all up for failure.
If I were you, I would pull her out and home school for a year or 2 until you get her caught up to her grade level and put her back in public in 2nd or 3rd grade when her skills are developed.
You will be amazed at how much progress she will make with 1-on-1 attention from you.
Best of luck to you and the little one!
Can I vent for just a minute?
My mother-in-law called last night to say that we have some relatives in town for the weekend. They are staying with a relative that is not related to my husband's family. She asked if we would like to get together Sat. evening and order pizza. This is what we do every time family visits, unless I offer to cook. My MIL tells everyone who listens " I love to cook, I just don't have anyone to cook for." My wonderful FIL passed away 16yrs ago. My MIL works Mon.-Thurs. in a family owned business that she and my husband run. The business is closed on the weekends. My sister-in-law is a school teacher so she is out of school right now. I am not asking for a huge meal, but I know we could throw together something nice but easy quickly. BTW, for Easter dinner we are going to Outback. I can't have everyone here becuase we just pulled up all our carpets to put down hardwood floors, so most of our furniture is in the garage. I did suggest to my MIL that we do KFC since we always do pizza. Her response "I don't like mashed potatoes." Just felt like venting a little bit ( I don't say anything negative about my MIL to my hubby) mainly becuase she is a very good MIL and a wonderful grandmother. (Sigh) I feel better now.
I understand the need to vent....
Relatives can really get on your nerves - one of the reasons we live 500 miles away from my relatives and 750 miles away from my husband's relatives. They're great in small doses, but not as a steady diet.
So I really do understand....but I think it's interesting that you chose a time when you are not in a position to offer to have dinner at your house to object to what is being planned, especially since it is the "usual thing". Obviously, for whatever reason, your MIL and SIL don't like to cook, and your MIL has decided to take the easy way out and do "what we do every time".
Next time family visits, after your renovations are done, why not ask your MIL and SIL to bring a salad, side dish, dessert, whatever? And, as suggested here, there's no reason why you can't have both pizza and KFC. Just because your MIL doesn't want it, that doesn't mean that no one else will. Sometimes you just have to go ahead and do something and not ask for "permission" - especially since your MIL seems (on the basis of this one incident) to be a bit of a control freak. If she says anything to you, you can just say, "I thought it would be nice to have a bit of variety" or "I didn't want to say anything to you, but pizza gives me heartburn" (true in my case ). Whatever works for you.
And HAPPY EASTER!!
Glad you were able to vent sm
When I was talking to my Step-Mother about this board she agreed that it was a great site to be able to go to and complain without having to actucally talk to people. BTW,Hats off to you for all you have accompolished without the help of your mother. Feel proud and know that you will be a better mother for having to go through that. You have lucky kids.
just have to vent about illegals......sm
we had a 9-month pregnant mother and fetus that got killed this week in an auto accident. emergency section didn't save the baby. hit by a drunk driver who was 15-yo and illegal. he lied and said he was 19. well of course they are trialing as a minor, but you know what he was an adult enough to lie about his age, bigolly charge him for the age he wanted to be!!!!!!
and an in-law vent - need advice
My husband and his younger brother have a business together - his brother and his wife have 2 kids an 8-yo girl and a 5 -yo boy. The girl (niece) spent the night a week ago because my in-laws needed a sitter - I told my husband I had to work - so he would have to look after her. Well, as soon as she got here she said, "auntie, i need to tell you something. I said, what?" then she proceeded to tell me that her mother (my SIL) told her that if her uncle or our son (he is 21) tried to touch her TINKY that she was supposed to call her mother." I was dumbfounded. I didn't mention this to my husband until the next day after she had gone home. Had she said her mother had talked to her about this situation or anything else, I would not have thought anything about it, but when she said her mother said her uncle or her cousin - I was burning mad. I realize this happens - it happened to our daughter when she was 4 - but this niece has spent the night numerous times and this has never come up - why now - and why so specifically? Should I say something to my SIL and BIL about this. I told my husband I thought he should address it with them since it was obviously a slam against him and our son - ??? thoughts, please?
Have him vent to YOU at the end of the day, not the girls.
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need to vent -- are you kidding me ?!?
New year at baseball with kid, new other parents to meet and talk with. I'm talking with this odd mother, taking a head count as to how many grubby little home-schooled children she has: Seven and one more on the way! Husband is there, unemployed, has a paper route. Subsidized housing, welfare, food stamps, and then he tells me the state just gave him a check for $900 to get his car fixed. Are you kidding me?!? Shut the Front Door!
Something about a hard, honest days' work just aint right. grrrrhhh....
Just need to vent a bit...and maybe get an outside opinion?
I am engaged, and we have 3 beautiful children, boys (twins) who are 18 months and a 4-year-old daughter. My daughter is from a previous relationship (I left him when I was 3 months pregnant as he was abusive.). Anyway, I joined myspace again after not being on it for a while as my sister lives in another state, and her fiance is sick so I wanted to better be able to keep in touch as we are having problems with our phone, etc.
Anyway, I join it and add my fiance's sister who lives across the country. I notice she has a cute album that she had previously on her page of our kids.
Anyway, one of my sister-in-law's friends made a comment that bothered me a bit. My fiance said I was making a big deal out of nothing, but I don't know.
In reply to where my future sister-in-law put "How cute" about a picture of our twins crawling at 6 months, her friend said, "Oh, I only know why you said how cute!? L0L But they're precious."
I don't know what to make of it. In my opinion, it almost sounds like she is laughing at our kids. It's not that I need reassurance that they are cute as I know they are beautiful children, inside and out, but I find it disturbing when grown women or adults attack each other's children. The odd thing is I don't even know this woman. Also, whenever we're out we always get tons of compliments and stopped by strangers who compliment on how adorable they all are and also I always hear, "You have your hands full."
Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I didn't get the woman's post about LOL or I only know why part. Maybe I'm just too grown up to be on myspace, I don't know. I just know that I find it extremely disturbing when someone attacks someone else's children. My fiance has an online friend who was similar and has said extremely rude things about me and our children which bothered me, also. I mean from the time I wake up in the morning until I go to bed at night, my thoughts and energy are all about our family and children.
That is one reason I found a new MT job that pays better. I always put my children first.
Anyway, thanks for listening to my rambling. Any outside opinions will be helpful. My fiance didn't want to listen to me talk about it. I simply posted back a nice reply under that picture and said, "Thank you. They have grown so fast. I can't believe that picture was a year ago already. They have done so many new things since then."
Chili peppers and little tiny plastic pinball toys.
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I need to vent about our public school....sm
My daughter is in the 1st grade. While in kindergarten her teacher became ill and was out of the classroom more than in it for over a month and then ended up having to leave permanently after being out for 2 months. During this time they had parapros in the classroom but all of the kids in her class got behind because of the inconsistent teaching. Finally in March they split the class up and moved the kids into other classrooms, but by the end of the year each of the 15 kids were behind their peers because of the true instruction time they had missed, through no fault of their own.
Now fast forward to 1st grade. Some of the kids had managed to catch up but others haven't, including my daughter. She is now reading on a level 3 and should be on a level 5 or 6. Math-wise she is way behind as well as her reading level is below normal. She is currently in a classroom with 27 kids and has ADD, but it is very easily managed when she is given tasks in small increments and visual cues to work with (i.e. write math problems for her and she can do them but ask her to do them in her head and she struggles).
My husband & I met with the school yesterday because of the concerns about her being behind and in the student support team meeting, consisting of the school system psychologist, special education teacher, her teacher, principal and vice principal, we were told that they don't have the resources to work with her to meet her needs and that by the No Child Left Behind federal laws they don't have to address her needs individually until she is 6 months to a year behind her peers. Why do they WANT kids to get this behind before helping them? We know she is smart - she has an IQ of 92, but she needs to have the distractions caused by the 26 kids in her classroom removed and they won't do anything about it because all other 1st grade classes have 26 kids, and the only one that doesn't have that many is a class full of kids that are learning English. We are working with her at home but it's ridiculous to send her to school 7 hours a day and then tutor her at home because the teacher won't take 2 minutes to explain instructions on a task to her. I told them that I don't want her to have to go to special education in the future because she's behind and that I'd prefer that a way to get her caught up and kept on level with where she would be should be what the goal is - not wait until she's very behind. Their response was "well over the upcoming Holidays we can send home LOTS of things for you to work on with her."
Home schooling isn't a good option for her and her psychologist has agreed that she needs the classroom interaction with other kids. If it weren't for that I'd home school her in a nannosecond, even if that meant giving up everything outside of my regular work day to educate her.
I've talked to a couple of private schools in the area and one school wasn't really any better, has 1 teacher per 20 kids in 1st grade. The other school could take her and has currently 5 kids per teacher for 1st grade with good test results . It's ridiculous that we're being forced to consider paying for private school because the public schools don't care.
I'm sure others have run into these same type of situations. What did you do - continue working with the public schools, turn to home schooling or private school?
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