LOL, that's one approach I haven't tried yet, but I like it.nm
Posted By: different girl on 2009-01-28
In Reply to: Just say "Dave ain't here, man" in your best stoner voice... nm - Cheech & Chong
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Maybe try this approach...
Use it with him! Tell him to meet you in the bedroom in 5 minutes. Warm up with the toy and then let him join in. If you can prove it is no threat at all to him he may be more accepting and encourage you to use it? Good luck! :-)
Don't lie..different approach
So what if you die tomorrow? Your 6-year-old will not believe anyone again.
What are you going to tell him when grandparents pass on? Might try a Christian book store and see what they have to explain death, heaven to a child.
I like POSITIVE ideas. For instance suicide. I ask the young people "aren't we all God's children? Doesn't God love all his children? You are not supposed to rush into God's presence but HE knows when you are coming and he loves everybody!
If you happen to fall over dead tomorrow, who have you asked to take care of your son? This could give your son reassurance that he will not be alone.
I lost my son on his 22nd birthday to leukemia. I cannot think of anything else but that I WILL see him in heaven. My 16-year-old surprised me when he said that my son will spend his birthday in heaven!
The "free" advice that I want to give you is keep it up beat, positive, loving (not to the extent that suicide is an option), good thoughts. You don't have to accept every idea a church gives you either. Form your own good opinions and ideas! Pass them on to your son!
Good Luck!
A different approach
This is what I would do and why.
First I can see all the posters points of view and if I was my mother I would probably be mad and argue. However, I have learned over time that arguments like this sometime (and I say sometimes) are not worth it. My mom and her husband would fight and fight and fight just so one could say they won. Sometimes something like this is best to just let go (wears much easier on the nerves). However, with that if it was me I would sit down with my husband and explain to him that I was upset because I didn't realize he was going to keep $10 to put money in his car, and thought we were sharing the costs to fill up the car we were in. Then I'd be "more of a man than he is" and give him a kiss and a hug. I would also then suggest maybe an alternative way of getting gas and that would be to fill both cars up whenever they get to 1/4 tank and go half & half on whatever the cost. My dad told me you get more gas for your money if you fill it up rather than little amounts here and there.
So, that is what I would do.
I would not approach her family
I think you would be better off going through the school. Maybe the family is odd! You don't need to create problems with the parents.
I, for sure, would speak to someone at the school though.
If U do apply for job, approach that facility and U
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Your approach works wonderfully in theory...
but in reality, this rarely works. I have been an RN for 13 years now, doing MT on the side. I do not look at this from a one-sided MT point of view, but rather from a mother's point of view.
As a nurse, you must know that even when you try to educate your patients as kindly and nonconfrontationally as possible, when you start to point out to them things they may be doing wrong (such as not taking meds consistently or correctly, continuing to smoke when they have emphysema or COPD, eat tons of salt on a low-salt diet, etc.), IMMEDIATELY a wall goes up and the mentality is "How dare you try to educate me on MY life and point out my shortcomings".
Public health nursing is even trickier. From experience, even being as kind and non judgmental as you can possibly be, 99% of the time, this mother does not want to be aware that other people know about her problem. Most of the time, they think "OK, if I just ignore it, it will go away eventually". If others come to them and say, "Look, I know you have a problem, let me help you with it", they only get more embarassed knowing that now everyone at their kids school knows that they are not getting rid of it, and she will likely tell you exactly where to go.
I agree with what you are saying, that we should try to help each other out more. I am not being judgmental, but I guess after 13 years of this, I see the way things are and not the way we wish them to be!
I don't know of any nurse that will make a home visit. In fact, our county is getting rid of school nurses starting next year. They will have 2 nurses rotating throughout 24 elementary schools in the county, none in high school or middle schools.
From experience, the Health Department is usually the only entity that can do anything about this. They can come in and give the mom some education, determine why the child can't get rid of them, etc. For some reason, most people will accept that kind of help from the Health Department before they would a concerned parent from their kids school. Maybe they feel like nobody knows if the Health Department comes, but everybody knows if another parent comes over?
You seem to have a very positive outlook on things. Good luck in your schooling.
Never a good idea to approach wildlife - sm
Even deer. One strike with a well placed hoof and you are done.
We live in the sticks. Waaay out in the sticks. We have coyotes, racoons, tons of deer, and the occasional bear and cougar roaming around.
Coyotes have come down and attacked our dogs in broad daylight right in front of the house and the racoons tear into the garbage cans.
Had a bear tear down our gate to the pasture trying to get to our horses one year. The gate post was 8 feet long, buried 4 feet down and anchored in concrete. The bear pushed it over like it was nothing. Thankfully it ran off when I fired a shot in the air.
The game department took one look at the picture I took of a problem racoon we had tipping our garbage cans and said, "Sorry, we don't have any traps big enough for that old man." He was HUGE! I have never seen a racoon that big in my life. I thought it was a big dog until I put the spotlight on it.
Wildlife is nice.... at a distance.
Giving away kittens. Need advice on best approach.
I have four 9 week-old kittens that need a home. I found a good new home for 2 of them. Anyway, I have told the girls, ages 7 and 3, from the start that those kittens will need to be given away. However, they have both become very attached to the kittens. Anyway, the people are asking for them and is wondering when the best time to come get them. I don't know if it would be better for them got get the kittens when the girls are here or when they are at school. They are already getting under our cars and I am afraid they are going to get ran over. They can eat solid food and drink water. I still see mama cat nurse them though not as much as she used to. Any tips would be helpful.
try a gentler approach with them, try watching the kid, even puppy sit, it may make things better
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I haven't done much yet...
I pulled out some flowers that didn't make it to the end of the summer, but some of my annuals look better now than they did earlier so I hate to pull them. We haven't had a frost yet, so most of my summer stuff looks great. Once we have a frost, I will pull the annuals and plant my bulbs.
I am in Central PA, so yes the leaves are starting to turn. They look so pretty. Where are you? Your pepper plant sounded interesting. What kind of weather, growing zone do they like?
I haven't been through this, but...
A good rule of thumb in life is to (1) not worry about things for which you don't have all the information, and (2) not worry about things over which you have no control. You don't have all the information necessary at this point and you definitely don't have control over what's going on, so worrying is absolutely unproductive and is added stress that your baby doesn't need right now.
I wish the best for you. Now go relax and think good thoughts!
I haven't used one myself, but...sm
my parents and sister have had excellent results with theirs. They both have big, strong dogs - a black lab and a border collie mixed with something big and long-legged - and they both trained very quickly and easily.
We haven't seen her yet but....sm
if you know of a weekend day in the future that you'd like to go we might could meet you there. I have a zoo membership and can get 1 adult and up to 2 additional kids in for no extra charge. E-mail me if you're interested.
I haven't been there
personally but have a friend who visits it regularly. For her 13th birthday instead of getting presents for herself, she asked the girls she invited to bring a gift for an animal and then spent her birthday up there at the shelter playing with the animals.
No, I haven't seen it.
I'm not sure if I've ever even seen it advertised.
If they haven't been to one themselves, they just don't get it. Wish I could go, too! nm
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I haven't, but need to.
I only have the one child, also, but a daughter, so I know the feeling of wanting to get that perfect gift for your "one and only." She is four and wants everything, so I guess that makes it a little easier, since I can buy anything and it will be something that she wanted. 
Your son is going to be SO excited! What a good mommy you are. 
haven't been there
but just wanted to wish you well. It sounds like you are making the right decision. My husband's father is an alcoholic and from what I have heard (we have talked about it a lot) it is not pleasant for kids. You are making the right decision for them. My MIL did not do the same for her kids but my husband still wishes she had.
His father is still an alcoholic and now we face the difficult decision with his influence on our children. We make the tough decisions that we feel are best for our kids. It's our job as parents and we know it is the right thing to do, despite what others within the family may say, namely the alcoholic FIL and MIL who still stands by his side and takes the abuse.
Good luck. It will all work out in time.
haven't really gotten into them...
although my sister is always seeming to be watching a lifetime movie!!!
They won't or haven't said. What do you think? nm
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Haven't seen her on HSN
but to answer your question, from what you're probably describing, she's always like that. I saw some of her jewelry on AI and one of the entertainmnet shows. Some of it's really nice and not overpriced from the pieces she had on.
Haven't seen that one all the way thru...
I'll watch it if so!
Haven't tried this yet...sm
but I have this recipe in my "To Try" files. If the filets are really thin, I would grill them on an oiled sheet of aluminum foil.
Ingredients
2 pounds flounder fish fillets
1/2 cup olive oil
1/4 cup lemon juice
2 teaspoons salt
1/2 teaspoon worcestershire sauce
1/2 teaspoon cajun seasoning
Directions
Arrange fish on a well-oiled grill. Combine remaining ingredients and baste fish. Grill, turning and basting occasionally, for 10 minutes per inch of thickness or until fish is flaky and no longer translucent in the center.
Haven't you ever
Haven't you ever said something and after you said it you realized it didn't come out the way you meant it to and you wished you had never said it. Men act first and think later most of the time. My son is always teasing his wife, she wants to become a nurse practitioner and he always says he is going to retire when she gets her NP license. He is kidding but if she was really touchy about it she would get mad. He is an electrical contractor and makes alot of money but he still says he is going to retire and let her support him.
Since this is a new relationship for you I would back off a little bit on paying for things. Think of free stuff to do and spend more time with him getting to know him. If he is looking for someone to pay the way he will be on his way and you will have your answer.
I did and haven't had any problems at all. nm
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I haven't done it in a while, but here is a site
that looks pretty good:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Crate-Training-A-Puppy-Or-Adult-Dog&id=87816
Keeping the crate in the family area during the day and your bedroom at night is very important for a puppy. Being alone is distressing, and they don't learn as well when they are stressed about that.
I know you're probably getting tired and frustrated, but you can do this. Good luck.
No I haven't - is it good? (nm)
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What is this show about? Haven't seen it.
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I haven't seen his show but...
have seen the ads for his show on HGTV. He looks fun. Like you would want to invite him over to a party at your house, even if he couldn't decorate for you!!
Don't know about what he does with silk but whatever it is, I bet it is snappy!!!
I haven't tried it; I am using fitday.com
This website is free and is a tool used to help keep track of your calorie/fat/carb intake.
I have limited myself to 1000-1200 calories a day. I was really hungry for the first couple of days, but then I adjusted. Now, I am not hungry. If you go less than 1000 calories you won't lose any weight. I started about 2 mos ago and I just hit the 20-pound mark today. I don't have time to exercise. I work full time and have 2 small children. Now that it is nice, we walk across the street to the park a couple times a week, which doesn't really count 'cause it isn't "strenuous" at all. Just being more active has helped me. Plus I feel better about myself.
I have a long way to go, but I am off to a great start! Good Luck!!!
I haven't but would LOVE to!
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OMG! I haven't seen red poppies since I was
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How do you know they haven't been told already?
Maybe the parent's already told them and the kids or parents are saying anything to anybody about it. Anyhow, it is not your place to tell them.
I haven't ever met my doctor!
I've had her for 5+ years now and have no clue what she even looks like! No matter where I've lived, I always ask to see the NP, but that's my choice. I personally prefer seeing NPs, as I think they spend a lot more time with the patient and aren't as harried. Plus, she's a fatty and I don't feel so bad about myself when I see her and I'm all nudie-toonie! How bad is that?!
Haven't noticed anything like that here
And I live only a few miles from Oklahoma City, which is Sonic HQ.
I haven't heard this? sm
I know she "surrendered" to the police on the DUI charge in May. She wasn't officially arrested until after she finished rehab. I haven't heard about her in jail right now.
I haven't, but mom has. She is doing great. Please sm
don't worry too much about it. I know she just had to have a hysterectomy and then gets checked every 6 months. So far so good.
Right now I am sort of in a scare too. They found a lump in my left breast. Next step is biopsy since ultrasound and mammo were inconclusive. I have been reading everything I possibly can about breast cancer - and I'm worried, too!
Keep us informed. I know you are going to be just fine!
Haven't had cats in a while, but
what I learned was that the most likely thing is a UTI. The cat thinks the pain with urination can be escaped by finding another place to do it.
Or there has been a change in the litter and the cat doesn't like how it feels on the feet or smells.
Or there has been some big change that has rattled the cat, such as a new pet introduced or you moved or I suppose noisy construction, or something major like that.
A cat behaviorist said if infection has been ruled out, the best thing was to offer several litter boxes with different litters and see what the cat likes.
(Cats always want us to remember they are royalty and expect life to quietly revolve around them, lol).
No MRI yet and we haven't been in the woods
She got a few mosquito bites this summer but no ticks. There has been no bullseye rash or anything like that.
What were the Lyme symptoms in your 4-year-old?
I haven't regretted it one bit
I still spot for a day or so, nothing like before though. My only regret is not having had it done sooner and getting so anemic that I had to have IV iron infusions for 5 weeks...go for it, you won't regret it! Good luck!
I haven't watched it, but
I believe it's the real thing. I watch a lot of reality shows, but this one definitely didn't interest me.
Put a lid on the cage if you haven't already - sm
We have 2 hamsters, and the cat just sits on the kitchen table and watches them (they are on a little table in the kitchen). Provides her with hours of enjoyment!
Haven't heard of that but
you might want to have thyroid and ferritin checked. I actually went to a derm doc for same thing, and he said it's been his experience that a lot of women with hair problem have low ferritin. Mine was borderline-low, so started taking vitamin with a a little iron in it. I probably haven't been getting enough iron in diet and stopped taking iron many years ago. But I think mine is probably a combination of things, since I'm a lot older than you and all the menopause things figured in there too. My GYN PA, before the derm doc, basically said yeah, you're old with no estrogen left, think back to when your hair was in its best shape. Yeah, I remember that when I was pregnant, but kind of patronizing attitude there with no help. Yeah, I know I'm old, okay?
Mmm. I haven't had that in years (sm)
I think I had it at a church potluck. I need to make it, I bet my oldest son would love it.
I haven't watched N/T yet
Unfortunately I've got a nasty cold and went to bed really early last night. I'm going to watch it this afternoon. I heard there were major cliffhangers.
I haven't been where you are but wowsers...
I would've had a breakdown simply between the bird cage falling down and the computer breaking down, so you are a WAY more stronger person than I! That is an awful lot of stuff for one set of shoulders and I cannot blame you one bit for feeling stressed. Sometimes it helps just to talk about it like you did here...at least to take the edge off a little bit hopefully. I have absolutely no advice other than to say you indeed have my sympathy...yeowsers.
I haven't seen that movie, so I don't know
what part you're talking about.
I HATE watching movies on TV though. I just can't stand how much they cut out, and it always seems to be a part that I wanted to see. I either buy them or rent them. I do netflix and then I can get old and new ones, and I'm bad about returning them on time so the no late fee thing works well for me.
I haven't gotten check yet, but
There was a post about a week ago that someone had already gotten theirs direct deposited.
I haven't watched it yet, but
isn't it to the performer's advantage not to win? I know they're all under contract because they go on tour, but doesn't the winner have to pay AI a proceed of their net sales if they produce an album? I might be wrong on that, but I think that's what I remember reading somewhere when the show first started.
If that is the case, David C. would have been very smart not to come out on top last night. He definitely got great PR and exposure on the show, but now maybe can cut his own deal with AI getting any $$$.
As for the performers, I like them both but have been a DC fan up to this point. Of course, I haven't watched it yet (thank goodness for DVR), but DA is just a little too young for me and I like more the rock music.
We Haven't Done This in Awhile
Show me the area where you live and what attractions are close to you.
Here's where we live:
http://www.navarrechamber.com/index.html
I just called and they said they haven't been
grrrr
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