Know some about diabetes, but need additional input, please
Posted By: Concerned on 2008-03-11
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My husband has had diabetes for some time now- always prided himself on taking supplements, herbs, trying to eat right and leading as good a life as he could because of this. Today was told he should finally start on some medications and was given some insulin today and a shot tomorrow for sure but I think if they can get it some down (from the 300s today) he will probably just be on tablets. I do know about foot care being important, also about some foods (such as bananas and Irish potatoes to be avoided) but any other insight you might be able to give me. I really, really hate this for him - I know he is a very strong-minded person as well as his health issues have gone and I know this is probably a bother to him in the fact that he just could not control himself. Any input is appreciated.
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Okay, I've been feeling really weird the past couple of days (yes, that's an official medical term; it's right up there with icky, which I will be using later). The first time, it felt like my blood sugar was too low, but that didn't make sense since I had just eaten a sausage 'n' mushroom omelet. Went to lay down, and kept waking up feeling like I was going to pass out. Make any sense? Had that horrible feeling off and on all day yesterday, then again today. Finally got smart enought to get the old glucometer out and it read 112. Had a bologna, cheese and ketchup sandwich a little later, then tried having nothing for 2 hours. About 1 3/4 hours later, I started feeling really icky again. I tested and it was 106. Had some orange juice and I felt a little better. Had supper and felt a lot better. Two hours with nothing but water, and the retest put me at 80.
I've spent half the night on Google, then again, I got smart enough to throw the question out here... WHAT'S GOING ON?  Maybe it's not even my sugar... maybe I just had some bad eggs. Or maybe it's high blood pressure and I'm just looking at the wrong thing.
Shaky, nauseas, spacy, tired, like I'm going to pass out, headache, and my face 'throbs' (I'm sure there's more), but the numbers don't make sense.
I know, go to the doctor, right? I'll be calling to schedule a complete physical sometime this next week. In the meantime, just wondered what y'all thought?
Additional details to consider ........
Yea, I tried not to read to much into this, but it was inappropriate if you consider the fact that he actually left the service desk (with customers in line) and walked 20 yards over to where I was standing and being checked out by a female clerk (who was more than capable of making sure that I found the items that I needed and the appropriate fitting bras herself)but instead he felt the need to "walk away" from his job duties and the customers he should have been taking care of to come over to me and look at me and ask if I found "one that fits?" Why on earth did he feel obligated to come over and do all of that? Wonderful customer service?! OR a bit of a pervert?
I apologize for not providing all of this info in the original post, but the message was long enough and I was simply trying to give "some" details to get thoughts on whether the question was viewed as inappropriate by others or if it was just me.
Thanks again for everyone's input. It's still a toss up for me because it is so borderline, but it was inappropriate in my opinion and I felt awkward about the whole thing. I think most people would.
I have the additional problem of
well water which yellows the gray (I may a become a blond at long last!). However, I use a shampoo by Regis, design line, color care silver shine shampoo for grey, blode, and highlighted hair that really helps with the texture and I usually follow that with a bluing rinse because of the well water. My mother's hair now is solid white like her fathers and is beautiful. all the beauticians tell her not to rinse or dye it, but I am not there yet.
Additional questions for all of us going through this...
Do you tell your spouse or do you just leave? What if you have no money for a deposit and your closest family lives 4 hours away and definitely no money for a hotel. What if the house is in his name - do you hope for compassion that he lets you stay in it especially for the kids? What's the easist way to "transition" the kids?
The only back-up plan is for us both to get an additional job each.
DH already has 3 jobs. I have 1 IC, and looking for more accounts. The only thing is that my job has to be at home because we cannot afford and do not want to put kids in daycare. So, it would mean my working 2 full time jobs, I suppose. I am up to it if I have to. THing is, there are jobs out there but that does not mean the work is there. So, if needed I will take third shift and sleep the 4 hours husband is home from his jobs. That way between us we'd have 6 jobs instead of the 4 we have now.
Diabetes
I have diabetes that was discovered when I had a kidney stone back in October. I was put on a new medicine which did not work at all - then on a 1000 calorie a day diabetic diet and told that I needed to lose 35 pounds which would put me at 100 pounds (i think that is ridiculously thin) - I have not experienced any numbness to the point - but my diabetes is not well controlled on diet, either. Fasting usually between 160-190 - after meals up to 220. Guess i really need to get back to the doctor to see what I need to do next. I have lost some of the weight, but not the whole 35 pounds - and I do not intend to lose that much - I don't want to look anorexic. I hope he sees the doctor soon to discuss this.
Would said diabetes but
that would not necessarily mean cold water, just excessive thirst period. Other than that, no diagnosis here.
Does my mother have diabetes?
I went to mom's house yesterday. She had some overnight guests staying with her who were diabetic and had a meter. They took mom's BS earlier yesterday morning and it was nearly 300 she said. She could not tell me an exact number. This morning it was down to 158. She said that it has fluctated from 200 to nearly 300 to 150s. This is concerning for me. I asked her if she was feeling anything. She says that she has early morning headaches and a feeling like she was going to pass out. She said she was symptom free right now though. She said she had been drinking whole milk, eating lots of sweets and that is why it is so high. She said that as if it could happen to anyone but I don't think that is normal, it doesn't happen to me. She says when you get older, your body changes. I asked her if she has said anything to her doctor. She said that they do random blood tests for her medicine and it has always been borderline but they have never said or done anything or even mentioned it.
Am I jumping the gun on being concerned? Mom is in the low-income range and I am wondering if this is why the docs aren't doing anything. Mom is overweight and is 58 years old.
i was just diagnosed with diabetes
No insurance. Went to the doc yesterday to go over lab work I had done in November. My blood glucose was 127 (upper limit of normal being 126). I am 45 yeard old and overweight, but I never had this happen before. He then did a glucometer reading (after I had had three cups of coffee, each with two sugars, of which I was still sipping on as he took the reading). He then ordered new lab work as a recheck, but stated he had to put NIDDM as a diagnosis on the requisition form. I don't feel a diagnosis can be made that simply. What's really upsetting is the fact that he informed me that now since I had been diagnosed with NIDDM that I would probably never be able to get health insurance with a pre-existing condition such as this. I feel that through correct diet and exercise over the next few months I can easily lose ten or more pounds, and that this more than likely will change the status of my next lab values. I feel so very sad about this. What do I do??
Diabetes is what jumped to my mind as well - sm
I would definitely get a checkup and make sure it is not a symptom of something.
How log does your friend suffer from diabetes?
Diabetes is a devastating illness that destroys over time all organs in the body. Taking medicaments and later insulin injections can only slow down the destruction of the organs.
If I were you I would not blame the doctors.
Diabetes, probably no longer than 5 years
I know very well what hypertension and diabetes both can do, had a husband who was dialysis just because of uncontrolled hypertension and eventually dying. She was not strong enough to question (oh, well, she could not have even known maybe what they were saying) the ESLs and yes, there are older folks out there who cannot understand the first thing that comes out of their mouths. Do you not know older people who take everything a physician says as gospel and would not dare "rock the boat" so to say? She has responsibility here, mostly hers, but not being able to understand. They might have told her she was on the verge of kidney failure and she could not comprehend what they were saying and just stuck it out with the same people.
Anyone who knows difference between type 1 and 2 diabetes?
My husband was diagnosed with diabetes about 4 years ago, never before, in his 50s. I thought being as not diagnosed in childhood this was type 2. Talking with my dermatologist this morning and saying diabetes of his not due to obesity and runs in his family, she told me then he has type 1. This is a little worrisome for me as I have heard type 1 is worse than 2. Anyone have any information on this?
Time for another diabetes education class.
That's why most doctors send their diabetics to classes - because the rules have changed from their pre-diabetic days.
My body predisposed to diabetes but dont use that
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My husband diagnosed 1 time with diabetes, get this
he ran 1 high blood sugar and was diagnosed. He did have elevated blood pressure but for years and years controlled his blood sugar and the elevation was always and I mean always low- the insurance company would NOT cover him because of that 1 only diagnosis. I tried talking to them- they told me 2 counts against him- unable to get life insurance on him. This diagnosis was made on a job entry and for 7 years he kept his blood sugar average or below, made no difference. I have been there.
Could be gallbladder, maybe diabetes. Cut out the meat and fats for a few days and
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Thanks for your input too.....I
appreciate your perspective on that (if it was a female)...I hadn't really thought about it. I do agree that this man was being friendly and doing his job, I think the question was only awkward because he seemed kinda creepy and he came over to me to ask that even though he had his own customers to assist.
Last night when I posted question, I was still trying to understand why he went out of his way to ask me that, but after consideration of it today (along with great input) I am giving him the benefit of the doubt and I am trying to chalk it up to extra-personable customer service! lol
Thanks again for your input!
Thank you all so much for your input
I talked to my friends Thursday night and from the autopsy, it looks like the baby aspirated.
Unfortunately, we both moved out of the same town at the same time and live a couple hours apart, so visiting is kind of hard, but I told them they are welcome in my home any time (which they knew anyhow).
They're a young couple. The baby's dad was my daughter's friend in HS. That's how I met him and he was like my own son. He met his wife a couple years later and we became friends as well.
Anyhow, thankfully they do have another son who is about 18 months old and she told me that he is her reason for going on...
I can only imagine...
Again, thank you all for your help.
Thanks for all the input
I kept calling my sister last night - knew she was at home, but she kept letting the answering machine pick up. I finally left a message that mom had fallen and wasn't going to the doctor for a couple of weeks. I asked that if she were concerned about the bruises on mom's head and face to please go over and visit, just to make sure she is okay.
After I thought about things last night, I realized I just have to let go here. My mom wants a "yes man" - someone who doesn't see that she needs help, or rather sees it, but goes along with whatever my mom wants. I will not and cannot ever be that type of a person. I have too much on my plate with my new little one. I don't want to be in a position of pulling into her driveway and finding her lifeless body with my gd in the car. That's my worse case scenario, anyway. My sister wants to be that person, so I just have to let it go and leave things between the two of them.
I called my mom and told her about this decision and that there are no negative emotions associated with the decision....I love her, but I can't walk the same path she has chosen as I am on a different one. I've been mourning the loss of my whole family falling apart for over a year now...I need the peace of putting it to bed so I can be the best I can be for my gd...and myself.
thanks for your input
I hadn't thought about fear of the electric blanket. I actually think she does use it in addition to the heater. At any rate, we were talking this morning about other things, and she mentioned how poorly she is sleeping. If she is awake a lot in the middle of the night, she's going to notice the cold air and turn on that heater, then she when she falls asleep, she will sleep harder because she's so exhausted.
I think I'll just let it go. It's not worth making her feel unwelcome and I don't see how my bringing it up could have any other result.
As for helping her, for a long time I have been pondering and praying about how I can make a real difference in the life of another. It's kinda hard to do when one is tied to a computer working at home. When this need arose, it was a no-brainer. It feels good to help and make a difference.
THANKS FOR THE INPUT sm
I am so glad there are some people out there that have morals. My girls never questioned any of my rules but surely told me about how their friends parents are more lenient. Or as my 18 year old said these kids can lie to their parents and their parents believe them. My 18 year old has also told me that her boyfriend told her that she was brought up with morals where he was not. Obviously if the stepmom would tolerate sleeping together with a 10 year old in the house. To me that was telling them to have a sexual relationship. They have only been dating for 6 months. In six months there can be a different guy in the picture. Plus this boy's father has had many women in his past according to the bf. In a way I am sorry I even asked where does she sleep. My husband always says I ask to many questions and said certain things I should leave alone and just assume she was sleeping in another room. THANKS AGAIN.
My input
I just know that muscle weighs more than fat. You may be losing inches but gaining muscle mass and that is good because the more muscle mass the more fat you will burn eventually. I'm sure if you keep it up you will lose the weight. Good luck! :)
my input too--sm
I agree with the other poster that you are building muscle, which does weigh more than fat. Personally, if it has only been three weeks since you started this, as you mentioned the diet changes over the past three weeks, I would think that a loss of 4.5 inches would be motivation enough. Don't even pay attention to the scale yet..that could be your worst enemy! It is not a true reflection of what is happening with your body. You will lose the weight eventually or start to see a weight loss soon, but you have to build muscle first, which is what you are doing, replacing fat with muscle. Hang in there..don't get discouraged by that scale. That is why they tell you not to even weigh yourself but maybe once a month. If you watch the scale, you will give up. at least, that is what I have been told. Wishing you all kinds of good luck and lots of motivation!!
thank you all for you input sm
i appreciate you taking the time to tell me your stories. i know desi (that's her name) has lived a long, spoiled life, but she's a member of the family and i hate to see the day come when she goes. i'll tell my parents about the websites you mentioned and i'm going to check them out myself. i'm on the computer more than they are.
thanks so much! 
thank you for your input
I am going to give it a try this weekend!
Thanks for the input!
I'm sure she will call around and check, it's just nice to sort of have a heads-up about what you might expect so I volunteered to ask around - what bigger community than this one?
Thanks again.
Thanks for the input . . .
I feel a bit better about it today. I'm not really worried about what I won't be able to eat, because I haven't been able to eat things like apples and corn on the cob for years. Believe me, I am used to a soft diet. I'll ask to see the temporary before they get to work - if I don't like what I see, I'll make a run for it.
I am the OP. Thanks for the input sm
She is a college student who spends 9 months in another state. She has a job but not enough to live on her own. She uses my car, we pay the car insurance and the cell phone. The problem is she thinks we are prying when we ask questions like with who, when, where etc. She has never given us any problems so far. Now my 21 who still lives home and does not have to answer to us is aways home around 1 a.m because she said at her age why do I need to be out after 1 am. I just tell her to call us if you are not coming home. She is only living home until she can save some money. She just finished college and took her nursing boards yesterday.
My cat is old, really old and need input about her
My older furkid is not well. She has never vocalized. She is probably about 90 or close in our age in cat years. I have had her to the vet just this past week, losing weight, now down to 5 lbs. She is sounding off now, not like she is in pain but then again how would I know? She is eating good, steady losing weight, treating a thyroid problem she has. When I pick her up after the meowing she quits. Is she just trying to get attention or ? Some said I would know about her end of life and if she were having pain but I don't know. Anyone?
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I guess you all are right about paying the full price. I have very good credit and don't want it ruined. I will definitely write them a letter and tell them. I'm not one to complain at all about stuff, but just feel like I get taken advantage of. I feel like sometimes these doctors and dentist can't get enough out of someone else, they'll make up the difference some how with a different patient.
Thanks all!
exactly. thanks for the input.
i can think of worse things than peircing his ears!!
thanks, all, for your input sm
i found a message board birth control pill forum and the experiences these women have had with BC pills is interesting. there were a lot more negative complaints about Yaz than positive. i'm really skeptical about taking pills that mess with hormones. i'm considering not taking it at all. i've had this pms stuff for years, just tired of the bloating feeling. mostly when i'm ovulating, when i bloat it feels like pressure on my bladder and i pee a lot more when i'm ovulating. sometimes i wish i didn't have my uterus any more.
as far as weight gain, everyone is different. my dad's side of the family gais weight soooooo easy. my mom's side they can eat whatever they want and the don't gain weight. unfortunately, i took after my dad's side of the family. i gain weight really easily and i know it's about controling what i eat. but i can't help but think there are other factors in weight gain too. people with diabetes tend to gain weight easily. i think some of you are being a little harsh on us weight gainers. there can be other factors other than food. when i was in my early 20s and went on the pill, i gained weight. but i have to say, i have to work harder at my weight (eating better and exercising) so i don't feel like a lazy person. i do feel like i'm a healthy person, but i just have to work harder.
I thank you for your input, but I know
from experience that spankings don't work either. Secondly, I'm trying to teach not to be violent. I don't think spanking him for hitting his brother is going to teach him anything but mroe violence. I realize that back in the day, spanking was the preferred punishment. My mom tells me that all the time -- that I should just "fan their butts", but honestly it has never worked for me. In fact, it makes it worse.
I won't bash you for your advice. Everyone has their opinion on this matter. We just don't happen to share the same opinion. Thanks and have a good night!
Thanks for the input
I have decided that from now on I'm not even going to look at the board until lunch break, and then at the end of the day.
I've tried going to bed earlier, but I still have the problem of not being able to get up before 8am. I found I do well on 7 hours of sleep, anything more and I'm overtired. But it's just getting those fingers in gear that gets hard.
I hear you on forcing myself to earn a certain amount, but sometimes the job has work and sometimes it doesn't, so some mornings I don't have anything to type - then I get to watch the Waltons. :-)
thanks for the input
Thanks for the input you guys! It seems like insurance is just rediculous anywhere I guess:( I thought I could find something cheaper with the same coverage but everywhere I check it is all the same:( My mom has a preexisting condition called hypothyroidism which I am sure doesn't help matters.
Thanks everyone for your input - sm
No clue what med would be best for me. Guess I will try whatever he prescribes and see what happens, and hope I am able to lose some weight. Read that Cytomel used in conjunction with levo helps it produce the needed T3 component which stimulates weight loss. Definitely going to ask about that. My cousin was able to lose weight after being diagnosed as hypothyroid years ago (20+), need to write her and find out how she is doing I guess as we have not written for a year or so. As far as I know she is the only other person in my family to have it. I don't think we have fluoride in our water (well), I drink it straight from the tap though we do have some dinky filter under the house, DH has not changed it in 18 months, been bugging him to do that, too hard for me as I cannot get the cap off the filter holder thing even with the wrench for it. I do have a brita pitcher too but generally we just use that for cooking and for the dog's water, and for guests. --Lots of good info here, Thanks everyone!
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wow, i never thought about "downtime". i sure hope we don't run into that problem much. the only time i've never had internet (dial up) is when the electric went out, which we have a generator we can use if the electric is out for any length of time.
thanks!
Thank you so for your valuable input. I
had no idea this was the humble-poster board. My bad. You really have caused me to pause and reflect....
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to pay to download music off the internet. i'm thinking of getting the smaller kind that clips. my music is like a getaway from the craziness in the house! thanks!!!
Thanks to all for your input! I think you're probably - sm
right about the territorial thing. She is a rescue who had some issues with being the lowest in the pecking order at her original home. I've had her 6 mos. and she is just now starting to act confident, and not like such a scaredy-cat. So that would make sense. My previous cat was male - he would instead do the food-burying thing.
Anyway, this kitty's behavior didn't worry me - it just seemed strange & funny. And yes, I DO enjoy her very much!
Need your opinions and input please. This is for the ones who have sm
 daughters in law in their 20s and 30s, please. I am in my mid 30s. I have 3 sisters in law (am i saying that correct or is it sister in laws?). Anyways, here is my dilemma. I am very much hated. I don't use that term lightly - I was told 5 years ago by one of the evil SILs that I was the black sheep of the family and that no one liked me. This one in particular went on and on about how the other sisters feel the same way. I eventually forgave her and them (even though at family functions no matter how nice I am they are just spiteful, mean, give dirty looks). I wish I had a camera.I am not kidding you AT ALL. It's really sad. My husband would do absolutely nothing until late last year when the situation got so bad around Christmas that he finally stood up to me to the middle sis who caused and started all the trouble in the first place. Their father died when they were all in their teens and my husband is the only guy in the family if that puts any light on the situation. Anyways, it's been basically a living helll being in this family. My family all love each other deeply no matter what, so I don't understand this kind of hate. Anyways, I was at a meeting a while back and one there were some ladies there who know me and husband's family. They were so sweet to me and telling me things like (these ladies were older), "well, if I were the mother in law, I would put a stop to that immediately!" Which made me feel good. Here's the thing. I'm really, really, really starting to despise and resent my mother in law for being so sweet to my face, yet she does nothing! She totally pretends like everything is okay. She continues to allow this treatment from the other sisters towards me and it just seems - well, not right. I've put up with this for a long time. It's to the point now where my MIL lives about 10 minutes away and I refuse to let her watch the kids, even for 5 minutes, because i've bee told (by a certain sister in law - and you know which one I'm talking about) that I am so unappreciative and never say thank you whenever my MIL has to keep my kids. That is a bold-face lie and just so rude and mean and cruel. My parents live 3,000 miles away. I am here because this is where my husband is from. I have no babysitter. I have used my MIL in the past to keep all 3 kids, but usually at her request AND I've been known to write thank you notes to her for watching them if only for 2 hours. I am so grateful for anyone who does anything for me. That's the way I was brought up.
Anyways, one of the sisters had a baby the other day. Was told only blood relatives only to see the baby and when I asked someone who does that mean - they flat out said, "You." I am hurt. Yes. I don't like them either. That's fine. But, what I need to deal with is my MIL situation. Why won't she say something? I can't. If I speak up or email or anything about the situation - boy does it get ugly. Basically, I'm told to go to helll. Seriously. I've even considered divorcing my husband over this, but then I think of how hellaciuos it would be having to deal with visitation and then taking the kids to MIL DIVORCED - and then I change my mind.
If you were the mother in this situation - wouldn't you try to say something, do something? nip it in the bud, as one other lady called it/ Or say things like, "If so and so isn't invited then we shouldn't go." Like say, on weekend trips where the entire family is invited except ME.
This one sister in law even sends birthday invites and party invites to my KIDS. not me. They are 3 and 5 and will say things like, "Tell you daddy to bring you to my party." It makes me sick. Literally.
Thanks for your input, but it would not work for
two major reasons. I am not permitted pets in my apartment. This is in my lease. Secondly, if I even hinted at this guy that I want the dog he would fly all over me. He now said to my landlord that everyone but me likes his dogs. He claimed to me and the police he really loves his animals and that they are well cared for. He would have a fit if I even approached the subject with him. Is right and I am wrong in his opinion. My landlord told him that he is wrong about me, and that I love dogs more than anything. This guy has a definite problem with being told anything. We could not even have a sensible discussion about it. He had to fly all over me and practically hit me in front of the police. If I stepped on his porch he not take it well, for sure.
You certainly are right about animals and depression. I have so many problems that I could not count them all, all appearing to be unsolvable. I feel trapped in every aspect. I know when I am with animals I just feel better and feel so much love. They are so important to me. My mother's dog is like mine and we laugh, hug, play games, etc. She had me in stitches yesterday, even if just for a few hours, then back to same. Today so far not bad. I heard the dog barking for several minutes, but that was a few hours ago. Hope it continues.
Thanks for the input! Much appreciated. np
Thanks for all the input - looks like bad and good. nm
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Okay guys, thanks for the input -- sm
I felt 100% better after I vented that. I wish I would have stopped myself sooner, but I'm glad I stopped at least when I did. There were a lot of comments I would have liked to have made to that woman and didn't.
As for winning and losing, yes I was irritated and yes it was selfish of me to want my kids to win that one (I guess that means I'm human). But more than anything, I absolutely did not appreciate being talked to by her in that condescending manner.
I still do not like the woman and never will, but I will make sure the next game I will be as far away from her as possible and not to take it so seriously. You guys are right and I thank you for the reality check. My kids are still #1 to me and always will be no matter what the scoreboard says.
As an aside, I never put down any of the kids, on either team, but in retrospect, I think my behavior over the incident was a childish. Gotta work on that!
Thank you all for your input. Most helpful! :-) NM
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Thanks for that helpful input...
Looking for input about MC+ insurance for kids. (sm)
Daughter had this on her children while she went to school, now they are asking her to furnish 2 quotes from other insurance companies to see if she qualifies to continuing with MC+ (but paying for it) or not.
The schools here have big signs up in the hall way encouraging people to apply for this. Supposedly you can purchase it at a rate based on your income. I don't imagine private insurance is going to be affordable and her job does offer a plan for her and her children, but not for 2 more months and it is HIGH dollar with low coverage.
Don't really want anything from the government, but if we can pay for it through them rather than private insurance would sure be interested.
Not trying to be dead-beat, welfare recipients, but glad to get help if available.
Disney World input (sm)
My daughter is doing a persuasive speech on why Disney World is the ultimate family experience. She wants to give some examples of intances where cast members have gone out of their way to make an individual/family feel comfortable or "special" outside of being their normal friendly selves. If you have any such experience, she would appreciate your input! Thank you :-)
Need the input on floor coverings
I had installed tile which I really love throughout my kitchen and the hallway which runs off the kitchen. I now have decided to tile my living room and great room plus 1 hallway. The living room and great room run off this previous tile I had installed. I love the color and would like to have the same there but hubby thinks we should have another color. I am totally undecided. Has anyone tiled and put in 2 different colors next to each other, how do you like and give me some thoughts from others. Thanks
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