Kinda off topic here, but I hate it when a husband is suggested
Posted By: by others to "babysit" his own kids. That ju on 2007-02-12
In Reply to: I don't get this from her note, her DH was supposed -sm -
I never babysitted by own child, I took care of her, by myself at that, but that is another story for another time. Just wanted to share that babysitting thing!!!
And also, most men are not nurturers (sp), we know this as mothers, but yes they can and should participate in child rearing as they helped created this human being.
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I know - my husband hunts a lot and I hate it (sm)
He hunts turkeys, ducks, rabbit, deer, pheasant, etc., even alligator a couple of times. I do disagree with it - but then again, I am not a vegetarian either - and I feel hypocritical sometimes to criticize it, as I am sure the cows and chickens we eat would rather not be dinner either. However, I do think bear hunting is sort of extreme - not typically used as food - and they don't hunt us, even though they could.
Yes, do exactly what kam suggested - more
They do that in our area all the time. Those riders will turn out in force, protect the family with a show of support, and not intrude on their grief. Please give it a try!
to the one who suggested
Hello! I just wanted to thank you so much for your suggestion! We had my daughter's birthday party last weekend and it was a huge success! The girls had no clue. I sent out bogus invites and they all thought it would be at 2:00 Saturday afternoon. It took them all a while to wake up and figure out what was going on when we'd pick them up. They had a blast going to the next house and waking up the next girl. They all went out for breakfast in the PJ's and we came back to our house. I bought boys undershirts and some fabric paint and they had loads of fun decorating them and signing all their names on each shirt.
I couldn't believe how often I heard "THIS IS THE BEST BIRTHDAY PARTY I'VE EVER BEEN TO!!" and "THESE SHIRTS ARE WAAAY BETTER THAN GOODIE BAGS!"
So many parents asked me how I thought up this brilliant party plan and I had to tell them all that I posted on here for suggestions and someone shared the idea with me.. I could not take credit and I just want to thank you!!!!
I want to tell you about what you have suggested
I think your call for a sympathy card is completely out of order. I think offending would be a good word if you sent this. The child has a malady that is correctable. Years ago my mother from nowhere sent a sympathy card to my aunt, her sister. No one had died. My aunt who was a nurse asked a psychiatric physician she knew what it meant, as no one in the family had died. The physician told her she has a death wish for you! I don’t know how true this was, but it happened. I would back off from much of anything right now, let the friend have a little time before pushing in on her.
You were always right, because you suggested this in
your 1st post, point 3).
I wondered only, but now you convinced me.
But she has to make sure to lcck the door between house and garage!
For those who suggested alcohol..sm
alcohol is a stimulant and will have just the opposite effect. Melatonin helps, but I don't like its after effects, and it does have some. I recently came across a native american remedy called Cloud Walking Tea. It is a tea and it works. I sleep peacefully with no after effects.
The ads I read suggested
Mucinex and it has no other ingredients, not cough syrup at all. That was the reason I asked if anyone else had tried and if any success.
No one has ever suggested biofeedback
dont have a clue as how that works. You would think asking up front - does the clinic treat fibromyalgia - surely to God they could get it right and a yes or no would save my time and expense from even going there - I spent a few minutes before working looking for an acupuncture clinic reasonably close- I would try that as one of the posts says above. I can touch my ribs and that is where the pain is and whether he says they cannot be front and back, I surely to goodness know what hurts. Not one person ever suggested the feedback though.
I suggested this on other board, but
reply was lost when message was moved. Are you perhaps allergic to this, or maybe you have an infection that you don't know about and it is reacting with a discharge?
My dermatologist had suggested but
I was disbelieving that it would really work, thought would take a lot longer than what you say. Was your loss extensive and what was it from? Do you still use? I am so hopeful now because feel I have found a kindred soul that has been in the same boat (or still is?). Thanks.
True, yet the lady still could have suggested since it was
the LITTLE GIRL she was dealing with when the mothers back was turned that it was worth more than $2.00. It really sound like the woman took advantage...Again, taking candy from a baby. That's my point. Such a shame.
I am so grateful to the post who suggested
this might have been my big boys problem because it was. At first thought I had gotten something smelly on me, threw away a good sweater but guess I had just had him in my arms and some how PVT and that is what my stepmom taught my brother and me- puke, vomit and throwup. Wasn’t she just great! The assitant at the veterinarian clinic was going to tell me does not happen with felines. Hold on, the doctor standing right there and sure enough, he expressed the glands after having to shave his rear end. That boy weighs 21 and a half pounds so he is a big one, probably cannot get to the areas he needs to clean good. Oh well, today he is at the groomers to cut down on that gosh awful smell he had yesterday. PVT again!
Like cat suggested if you have left over carpet
somewhere that is a possibility. We once cut a piece out of a closet so you never knew it was missing. BTW, Jennie Garth went home. Used to be a big 90210 fan so that was disappointing.
Yeah, I was gonna suggested a 'smackin'...
as the 'or' word, but I'm working on being more, um, understanding I guess is the word I'm looking for. And you know what, it's reeeeely reeeeely hard in cases like these!
OK, this is going to sound weird, but I'm surprised nobody else suggested it... sm
but the key to a good sex life is to know your own body. I mean *down there.* Without your partner! Get a little vibrator, they even sell them now at supermarkets and drugstores in the aisle where they sell condoms. I think the polite term is personal massager. Also get some lubricant. You can go the whole route with candles, in the bath, read a sexy book, use your imagination. Then once you figure THAT out, you can help direct your partner... show him what you learned. A whole new world will open up for you!
Guess it got moved. I suggested a large or 2 smaller
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Someone suggested trying spraying Clorox on toes daily
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Truffles, the other day you suggested chewing on coffee beans but
I think I found what I really need today and I had some Cuban coffee at a little shop up the street. I am in total love! The guy wanted to know if I knew what it was before I bought and told him drank some in a smaller cup in Santo Domingo, did not think it would be any stronger and goody for me, just hit the spot. The guy suggested my getting an expresso maker and might just do. I did not get around to chewing on the beans, though.
Okay, a bit off topic but here goes
So many women talk about the bonding that happens when you breast feed that does not happen if you don't. Now it seem to be okay to let someone else breastfeed your child if for some reason you can't. Where does the bonding come in? Who is the child bonding with? For me I breast fed the first child but did not the second. Who am I closer to? Couldn't tell you!
A little off topic, but
I was out to lunch one day with my DH and on my way home I came upon a crash that had just happened at an intersection...one of the drivers was a young girl (she happened to go to the same HS as my DD). The other driver was a 30-something mother of 2 or 3. The young girl had run a red light and T-boned the other car. The mother was instantly killed in the crash, with 2 of her children in the car with her. When the teen girl got out of her car...yep, she was on the phone...! And obviously she was not calling 911! So sad...my DD said this girl went off the wall after this accident.
Yes, having him is kinda like having a
bright side. But, like he said tonight, he's leery of the car even though everything looks great. We're the kind of people who buy something after thinking it over for a long time, and even when we do that, it turns out to be a dud. This time, he bought it after crawling underneath, checking the engine, taking it for a ride, and even checking the trunk out, yet he's afraid, as I am, it will turn out to be a dud again.
We just have no luck. For instance, he plays a daily number every day. It's always off 1 digit, yet if he doesn't play, that very number he might have played would come up straight. See what I mean?
I've been with him since 1965 with a break of 2 years in between, so I know about being alone and single. You will find your Prince Charming (if there is such a thing anymore) someday. Just have to keep looking in the right places. I wish you luck and happiness.
I guess I'm just asking everyone to keep your fingers crossed for us that something will turn out right for a change.
Not a funny topic at all.
I agree, i hadn't been reading all the posts (although i did now) and i think that it isn't a funny topic at all. My son is 6 and by this age they have discovered what their private parts are and they get aroused and i just think it's sick. Have you ever heard of Oedipus complexes? It's where the children become attracted to their parent! This can happen and it's not healthy and i just think (VERY PERSONAL OPINION AND NOTHING MORE!) that you're putting your child at the risk of developing some sort of issues. I 100% agree with Breastfeeding, i did for a little over a year. But at some point you have to disattach yourself from your child and let them grow up on their own in some areas and by treating them like a baby does not help them mature and go out on their own any. This was my 2 cents as well and nothing more, i just found it disturbing.
This is very interesting on this topic
http://www.jugglezine.com/CDA/juggle/0,1516,30,00.html
ongoing topic
I live in Florida and this is an ongoing topic on forums of local newspapers. We have a large Hispanic population here and while many of them speak English, many of them do not. If you go to Wal-Mart here, all of the signs are in English and Spanish. Many of the food products are in both languages. I actually know a couple through a family member who moved here from Cuba, must have been 35 years ago now, when Castro took their farm. The wife speaks virtually no English. She worked for Disney in housekeeping or something and retired from there. Even Disney didn't seem to care if their staff learns English.
I worked at a bank prior to becoming an MT. I had about 4 bilingual coworkers and we needed them. We had numerous customers who came in to cash checks or even had accounts there and didn't speak any English. I taught myself enough Spanish independently on the Internet and through books to be able to serve their needs. Now let me ask you, if I can manage that why can't they?
I don't think it's being racist or having a bad day. We all have to listen to ESL doctors who are practically incomprehensible. I wonder sometimes how in the world they passed the equivalency exams. I also know as doctors they can certainly afford a few diction classes but they don't bother. Meanwhile, we can't understand them, I don't know how their colleagues understand them, nurses probably have a hard time understanding them and many of these doctors are administering to elderly patients who don't hear as well. God only knows how they understand them.
English is the accepted universal language in the business world which is why people in other countries learn English. If you are going to do business in a predominantly English-speaking country then learn the language.
Good topic...
I am making my shopping list around coupons, buying more store brand items, cooking at home a lot more, and just generally hanging out at the house on the weekends cause we can't afford to do anything else. I cringe when I have to go somewhere in my car cause I don't wanna burn my gas. Thank goodness I can work at home, my son rides the bus to school, and my daughter drives but it's only less than a mile away.
Good topic- sm
In my lifetime I have had a Pembroke Welsh Corgi (best cow dog EVER), purebred ChowChow (real sweetie) two giant mutts (brothers), they were some kind of lab/shepherd mix. Both of them were with us for almost 17 years.
Also had an Irish Setter and this dog was a nut.
When my son was very small and we lived out in the country, he would todder down our long driveway. The dog would follow him and keep a watchful eye.
If the dog thought my son was getting too far from the house, he would gently knock him over and bark at us.
Pretty soon, baby boy would get up and head further down the driveway. After a few feet, the dog would again knock him over and bark at us.
This would go on a few more times until finally the dog would knock him over and just lay on top of my son and start howling like crazy... "COME GET THE KID!"
We had it on video but I don't know what ever happened to it.
That is a topic to just get me going today.
Ex-Idiot#1:
He got remarried to Satan's daughter (actually she is 12 years older, she might be Satan's sister). She beat my children and he allowed it so they deserve eachother.
Ex-Idiot#2:
He used to beat me. He took my son from me at 5 months old to travel the country in an 18-wheeler so that I couldn't find him. I did find him and got him back. Now he remarried. Thing is, the woman grew a brain cell. She booted him with nothing. He deserved what he got for what he has done to so many women over the years. I haven't heard from him in years, which is probably a good thing.
I told Satan's daughter to say hello for me when she visits Idiot#2 at her "brother's house".
Let's get back on topic, please.
This isn't a discussion about statistics.
Ahh a tricky topic...let me tell you the one about.....
Hex nut in the urethra man. Yeppir, AND he was a repeat offender, having been brought in for numerous urethral extractions..... his hex nut being his best.
Then there was toothbrush swallowing guy. (really!) You would think the curve of the toothbrush would prohibit swallowing. This guy was also a repeat offender. Lightbulbs, toothbrushes, razor blades, whatever ya got!
I love these guys. 
Off topic - mac and cheese
I must be living under a rock, but I was watching the Food Network, and they were talking about restaurants that serve mac and cheese pizza. I might have to try it, it sounded pretty good, but I can't think of anything more fattening - unless you add bacon to it.
Topic of conversation here lately
I was talking about the wages being offered now for MTers and no raises, pay going down and the like just the other night. I said pretty soon looks like the MTSOs will be charging just to have the people working. I am so very glad that most of my working in years past because like the previous person said, I also did around 60,000 years ago and now more in the 20,000. My husband said this can only happen if MTers allowed it to happen. I am not caught up in this hot mess like I would have been years ago but I understand what it is like to try to raise a family and yet the money might not be there. I don’t know what it will take but the workers here 1 day will have to do something about how this profession is heading
On the topic of consumer reviews :)
I generally have had very little luck finding a really comfortable bra. I am big busted and use underwires (yuck). Anybody care to share what their favorite brand of bra is as far as comfort for us more well-endowed women?
coming in late on this topic
I'm the grandma who has custody of grandchild. My custody papers allow 2 visits a months with the parents and more "as agreed to by both parties," but all are supervised and no overnight visits. I will not allow either parent into my home, so we were meeting at a fast food place with an indoor playground.
Because of suspected (and now admitted) drug use, I suspended visits until a clean drug test could be produced. In a few weeks, it will be a year. I talked to my lawyer about this before I suspended visits. I could not withhold visits due to failure to pay CS. I could be held in contempt of court and go to jail. However, since no judge is going to say it's okay for a parent on drugs to visit with the child, that is a different matter. In only 6 months, the parents are behind by $6k...I'll never see any of it.
My attorney told me the only way to withhold visits is if there is a situation that would place the child at risk - child abuse, parental drug abuse, sexual abuse, etc., otherwise you have to follow the court order or go back to court and ask the judge to revise the order with documentation of the reason for the request.
The noncustodial party can always go to court and ask for a revision of vistation as well to get more liberal visits.
OK. This is weird and maybe should be under the Confessions topic.
But I love the Godfather. I mean, I really LOVE that movie and Godfather II. I've watched those two movies a zillion times, director's cut, saga, DVD extras, you name it. (Not so fond of part III.) I'm not sure why I love it so much. Maybe my upbringing? I wasn't raised by mobsters, but I was surely raised in an Italian household. (I don't need the subtitles to know what's being said in Sicilian/Italian.) I like the complex theme, seeing Michael Corleone go from a righteous good guy to a powerful mob boss, twisting the admirable quality of protecting family into the distorted mess that brings him to his ultimate realization of his own guilt.
When I have I have the time, I get out some nice primitivo, some good cheese, lovely chewy bread and roasted peppers and watch those movies.
I wanted more info as well on this topic (sm)
so I Googled "delawing pros and cons" and then also tried "declawing video". I must say, after looking at both sides and hearing about postop complications, if I were in your shoes I would find an alternative to it, especially if its an older cat. Apparently the practice has been banned in California. Very enlightening stuff out there on the net about it.
This is a hard topic for me - I see both sides (sm)
I have had prayers answered, but I have seen such suffering too and I know those people have cried out for help. You can always ask, but you never know if it is going to be God's will to solve the problem for you or not. I don't see how you can have blind faith that your problem will be solved when not all problems that are prayed about are solved.
hey gourdpainter, i know this is off the topic of your post but
i think gourds and painting them are so cool. My husband has a big garden, and he usually plants some gourds. The only thing I've done with them is let them dry and keep them around for a while. It would be so cool to be able to paint them if I had the time and talent.
Discussion topic today
How on earth did you get custody of your deceased ex's cremated remains? Did you divorce him after he died? LOL
A twist off topic, but that's the opposite of my MIL
She wouldn't return anything, and expects no one else to, EVER. She cuts all the tags off and then claims to have forgotten where she bought things. She has even gone so far as to cut the size tags out of gifts. She once whispered to my husband, "I had to buy her an extra large, so I cut the tag out. I didn't want to embarrass her." That was for a robe she bought me when I was pregnant. Believe me, I knew what size I was! I hate to have her spend money that goes to waste on things that just don't fit, for example. Those could be simple returns, but she won't give gift receipts or even say which store she bought the gift at. I've given up. I appreciate the thought of the gift, but if something doesn't fit, I just donate it to the next clothing drive that passes by. Someone will use it.
Probably because it was a valid discussion topic below.nm
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Relationships - new type of topic
I'm reading through all the posts below (where did you meet your spouse, what was your first meal, etc). I'm wondering how many of you out there would be perfectly happy living by yourself. I absolutely hate those dating commercials (eharmony, etc). Why does society try to make us feel that we have to have that "someone special" in our lives or we are nothing. A lot of times that "someone special" turns out to be "nobody special" but you don't find that out until your married and its too late. HA HA
I have always believed that before planning your life with someone you should first be true to yourself. Get to know yourself. What is is you want out of life. Can you achieve that goal on your own. I always have felt I did not enter with world with a man attached to my side and I won't be leaving this world with one attached to my side either. I'm am me, I'm a whole person. I have interests, thoughts, and beliefs, that are not always the same as my "other halfs". I am married right now, but to tell the truth I would be perfectly happy living on my own also. I've got lots of family and friends to do activities with, so there is not an issue of ever being lonely. You can be alone without being lonely.
Just wonder how many people are so attached to their spouse they feel life would not be worth anything if they were without them and if so why.
it was about her shoes - not a political topic
I would just ignore it. Started off about fashion. You can't control what people are going to write about a certain topic. Sometimes the two can blend together. Since we're not talking bout the O I would just ignore it and write another post about something else.
You're being kinda mean
Funny because I am close to getting a divorce and was just thinking about this type of thing all day myself.
My son is 9-1/2 and he got an Easter basket from me and from his grandma today. My daughter is 7 - she turned 7 yesterday - had a big party and still got an Easter basket from me and her grandma today. They both had toys and candy in them - and muscial toothbrushes and new toothpaste ;-) from me. It doesn't matter at all if her birthday is near Easter - has nothing to do with it. And she is not too old!!!
Eating candy around holidays will not cause cavities - they come from poor dental hygiene and eating bad foods regularly. So, can't blame that on the Easter basket.
You are creating a feeling of competition that doesn't have to be there. If you love her, be glad for her that so many people love her. When I finally go through with my divorce, I want as many loving relationships as possible in my children's lives, whether I am comfortable with it or not, because I love them and I want them to be happy. Shouldn't you feel the same for your granddaughter?
Kinda reminds me of...
Dog the Bounty Hunter, with less cursing and more humor! No joke, first few times I watched Dog I was going "oh my gosh, Stephanie Plum!!" Books are getting so expensive these days I hesitate to buy anything new anymore, but by golly, I'll buy ANYTHING by Janet Evanovich, especially the Stephanie Plum series. I recommend them to anyone I meet who likes to read.
So...who is pulling for Ranger and who is pulling for Morelli? Joe's cool and all but I tell ya - Ranger has it going on! I really, really, really wanna see Stephanie hook up with him. I just have the feeling that Morelli is gonna cheat on her...just a matter of time. What do you all think?
my kinda desserts too...
yum!
Have to add...kinda funny to me (sm)
She also frequently calls and asks ME to come spend the weekend there too. They live an hour away. Whenever my husband(her son) is out of town she will call and say "I know you will be all alone over there and I thought you might like to come spend the weekend while he's gone." When I go, she wants to dictate everything we do, and a good portion of the time I end up sitting on the couch reading magazines. What I have recently started doing was saying, "No but you are welcome to come stay here." and she always says no, she has way too much to do!! Well,I do too! LOL!
that's kinda crazy.
she has been gone for a long time. I wonder if she's going to come back to help Jack with this mess he has created. She really is good for his character when he goes into bad things. Wonder how old Abby will be.
I'm kinda in the same boat
My 30+ year old stepson is supposed to be moving out today. Believe me, it won't last. He is the filthist person I have ever met and for his age is VERY naive and gullable. Won't be long before others see what I have been trying to tell them for years. He's lazy, selfish and totally irresponsible. It's just a matter of time before he gets a DUI. He totally disregards any advice or help my husband gives him and listens to his loser friends. If my husband lets him move back in.........that's the day I move out! I've got news for my husband....HE WILL BE PAYING MY RENT --- since he has the money to keep supporting his ADULT (and I say that loosely) children! Good riddins' to him! 
I need help --- kinda long ---
I am seriously in need of some help and I know it. I am so depressed that I cannot function anymore. My income is down so much that I am getting ready to be evicted from my rental (after losing my home earlier in the year), I am by myself all the time because I have to stay chained to this computer to try to get work as it comes in. I took an inhouse job, but figured out tonight that after gas money and buying clothes to wear to work that I am only making about $60 in 6 hours and I can do that in 2 if I am at home in front of this darn computer. However, my expenses are based on $200 a day!
I am crying all the time about everything. I can't help it. I have cried my way through 2 hours of typing tonight.. I am short tempered, the littlest things set me off.
I don't want to kill myself, but I don't think it would be a big loss "waking up dead".
I have no insurance so I cannot go to the doctor...
I have no relationship with my parents or my sisters anymore (have not spoken to any of them since Thanksgiving day). My children are driving me crazy. My son is irresponsible and out in the streets (he's 19) and I worry about what is going to happen to him and feel responsible for providing him a place to live even though he is not working.
My daughter works and has 2 kids and I feel bad because right now I cannot mentally, physically, or financially be a good "nana" to my grandbabies. Then, my daughter just called me tonight and told me that she is having a LEAP emergently and that the doctor said he is going to have to take so much it would be dangerous for her to ever have children so he is going to do a tubal while he is there... this just serves to remind me that I was supposed to be having paps every 3 months for precancer and so far it has been over 3 years because I lost my insurance and cannot afford to go to the doctor - or pay for the treatments required if I do go - and now if I got insurance, it would all be preexisting anyway...
My checking account is overdrawn by $600 because Dish network put a hold on $500 while waiting on their equipment to be returned and I did not know they were going to do that, so now the stuff that was already outstanding is bouncing and I will be probably be $1000 in the hole before it is all over...
I don't know if too much else can go wrong, but I can't handle too much more and I need some calgon or something -
sorry to unload, but ya'll are all I have right now...
What is going on with me? kinda long - sm
I feel anxious all the time about the most mundane things. This started about 8 months ago in earnest, but I have never been an easgoing person. I feel as though I am off the charts now, however. Example: Car renewal tags normally arrive in about 2 days from the time I send the check in. Four days have now passed. I am worried sick something is wrong and I will not get them back and the tags will expire. Hubby just rolled his eyes when I told him about this, and I do know that nothing is probably wrong and they are just behind this year, but I am dwelling on it and about another hundred totally mundane things right now and imaging the worst possible outcomes. It is like somebody turned on a switch 8 months ago and I cannot turn it off. Not been able to sleep without taking Ambien CR since this all began 8 months ago because I will wake up every 2 hours, be awake for 2 hours, etc., and I do not do well without my sleep. Started back on BCPs after 20 years because I thought it was perhaps hormone issues, but they have not helped much at all after 5 months. I have also had a complete physical with all kinds of biophysical testing and blood work and am in excellent health in every way. Not sure what else to do here and am really frustrated by the constant anxious state that is making me (and my poor husband!) miserable. Should I go see my PCP , a shrink, what? 
You're kinda mean.
Maybe she has a speech impediment or something. Maybe she's just not as intelligent as you are. Either way, correcting people and treating others like they're stupid isn't a good way to jack yourself up. Nice superiority complex you've got there, sweetie.
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