Kids have rich fantasy lives - sm
Posted By: NYMT on 2008-08-24
In Reply to: About Christmas and Santa - Lane
There is something of an art in preserving the kids' fantasies and pretend worlds and at the same time teach them about the real world. The poster mtmomof2 put it especially eloquently when she said she grew to understand the impossibility of Santa and it thus came as no shock to her. That was the way it was with me. As on of four kids, each of us kept up the pretense for the younger ones.
My own kids had even more proof - an accidental double exposure of our Christmas decorated living room with our son and a Santa on a float in a parade, which made it look like he was standing right behind our son. They are now 19 and 17, and plan on using that picture for their kids.
I never lied. I never said "Santa is real." There are lots of ways of perpetuating the fantasy without lying. My favorite was answering a question with a question - What do YOU think?, etc. My kids were quite sheltered and actually believed a long time - about age 10 or so, but never said they felt lied to or deceived. I think it's actually harmful to deprive kids of that kind of magic that only kids can feel while they're innocent and everything is possible. The realities of life will some soon enough!
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MADE OUT LIKE A BANDIT, STOLE EVERYONE'S MONEY, I AM RICH, RICH, RICH
Not. Tired of trying to explain to people who apparently do not understand the English language.
Learned to hate snobby rich kids.
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When our rich uncle got out of the poor house we'd be rich...sm
when we were young we'd think we'd be rich one day and it took us a while to catch on!
It was a dream/fantasy. sm
I was a little confused myself, but at the end of the episode Betty walked in and Hildy was crying in her bed. I guess it was her way of getting some closure. I hope that clears it up for you. 
Fantasy World
Sadgirl - take a look at your own name for clue #1.
Your problem is not being able to continue this "relationship", but rather that you have focused, fixated and obsessed on the unattainable. It's "safe" because in your head you know you can never be with him but in your heart you can romanticize about something that is not even reality. You need to start figuring out why you are doing that.
You say he treats you wonderfully. Yeah, in YOUR head he does. Here's a married man carrying on conversations with you that he now wants to keep out of his wife's view with your help. He knows it's wrong, why don't you? He's prominent in the community? What would you do if your written e-mail exchanges were ever to be made public? E-mails are forever and you have already jeopardized your reputation as well as your child's reputation. His wife knows about your "innocent" e-mail exchanges - what's to stop her from printing them out? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and you have a big bull's eye on your butt.
He's saying you will be OK after he retires, yet he keeps stringing you along with no regard for your emotional well-being. He keeps you at a safe distance. You don't see something so very wrong with that? You need to step back and look at this from the outside. He is exhibiting no moral or ethical character by communicating with you knowing how you feel about him. He's getting a big ego trip off you, the younger woman, and the attention you give him. Ever wonder if there are others he "chats" with that are like you? You think this is the man of your dreams? When you make the mental list out of qualities and characteristics you want in a guy, this Bozo fits the bill?
Is this something you will proudly be telling your child about some day?
You need to ask yourself some pretty hard questions regarding why you think this is OK. Is sounds like your self-esteem has hit rock bottom and you need to find out why.
I truly hope you can find the strength within you to stop all communication with this man. What a slippery slope you are on. You know it is the right thing to do to stop all this, or you wouldn't have written your post here in a public forum. Absolutely nothing good can or will come out of this "relationship" with Mr. Ego/Married Man.
Fantasy is always better than real life -
He is a stranger after all these years and nothing more. Stop lying to your husband and yourself. Be happy with what you already have and stop longing for what might be. Trust me on this. Went a similar route myself that nearly destroyed me and everyone in my path 8 years ago. I was very luck my husband forgave my temporary insanity!
Do you LOVE your husband? Want to spend your golden years with him?? Drop this fantasy at
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Anything really rich with A LOT of
chocolate! Funnt, didn't even like choclate as a kid, love it now!
RICH!!!!
HA!
why could not have I been born rich
instead of goodlooking? 
only if he is rich.......but really I would not date - sm
a guy more than a few years younger. I did date a few guys younger 2-5 years which I realized later was a big mistake (in my 20s). My DH is about 7 years older and works out well.
rich and famous
I have heard a lot lately about how these rich and famous movie stars really hate their "crazed" fans and the paparrazi. I make mental notes of each and every one so that if I should ever come across them in public, I can pretend I don't see them. I also make a note in my head of the people who are nice to their fans, just in case...
I want some dark, really rich
coffee and I do not know what to buy to get this taste. I have used Folgers, Maxwell House and others and never can duplicate what I drink at other places. As far as the Starbuck's I usuallly buy when out and around and just to give me a perk up. I can take or leave. What kind of coffee is really rich and good tasting, anyone?
I think the rich are just whining
I see no slump at all in my neighborhood. No one is cutting back on anything. I think the poor have been poor for so long, the pain has trickled up to the rich at last! What a bunch of babies. They might have to eat bologna instead of sushi.
Poor little rich girl!
With all Paris' money - can't she get a chauffeur to take her partying?? HELLO?? She deserves much more than she's getting!
I went with more rich colors in my home
I am not into the lighter colors. I have the white woodwork with white plantation shutters but my rooms are anywhere from cobalt blue (kitchen) to an eggplant in the dining room. Just got new slate in my bathroom with the golds, blues and the like and wondering if I should paint the walls there (this is a fairly new home for me, so doing bit by bit as far as decorating). I have a white bedroom but that may change also (just had new dark blue carpeting put in that room). I always leave my ceilings white. I love my workroom (which used to be a child's bedroom) because I had the room painted a dark colonial blue and it is heaven to work where I love the color so much but then again for once I love all the colors in my home. It was not always like this and I have about 3 gallons of paint in the garage that I tried and just did not like, returned and got another color that I did like. So far 5 rooms painted and counting.
I was not born rich but over the years
I have had untold wealth given to me, quite a bit. I think where this comes from is the fact that I always and I mean always think about the underdog. I give from my heart to things whenever I can, when I hear a story that I feel I should try to give, animals, people in distress, you name it and if the story says I should try to help a particular cause, I do. I really have tried to impress upon my children and grandchildren IF you give from the heart, it so much comes back to you. I have not run out of money giving, in fact just the opposite, had wealth literally fall in my hands and I think this is why. What a person needs to understand is I give because I really want to, not because I have to and I never look for a return but there always is. I cannot count the times when giving and here money comes back. This is how I try to live my life.
okay, that should be rich. I guess I'll never be it
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A tough situation? She's rich.
thinks of this young man now? Ohhhh, maybe it's okay because she's supposedly doing the right thing. Pulleezzee!!!! God bless her!!!
I beg to differ; NOT just the *rich and famous*..sm
this problem crosses every socioeconomical level.........it's not just involving the rich and famous.........
Oh, he still could be married. Never too rich or too thin! NM
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I am rich in compassion but poor in dollars and am
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It's the theme song of the rich and famous.
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again, weak comparison; we are educated in BCP now, she is famous and rich
nm
Probably the same rich & snooty folks who buy $800 Gucci and Prada sm
bags, Jimmie Choo and Manolo Blahnik shoes for $1000 a pair. I heard that Tiffany's is now offering a "plain paper bag" instead of their ritzy printed bag with Tiffany printed on it, b/c the rich are feeling guilty about continuing to buy this overpriced crap while the rest of the country goes down the tubes.
Not rich or snooty either, just love good quality
items and buy them when I want. Who wants to shop at the local mall and get something that everyone else wears and see it all over town? Just like jewelry; I don't wear the average items you see advertised every holiday season that everyone wears and every jewelry store sells. My guy gets my things made at a one of kind store, where at least I know I'm probably the only one who has it.
Been there - I just cut them off and out of our lives!
Don't feel any bit of guilt either. My in-laws, the whole bunch of them, are just nasty, evil people and I refuse to be around them. My kids don't even want to be around them. If my hubby wants, he can go by himself, but he doesn't even want to be around them. It took a lot of hurt, and evil doings for me to get this way, but I am here and will never have them as part of my family ever again!
I am Thankful they are out of our lives!
if one lives to be even 80 though...
At 50, that's still 30 years to go...a lifetime! Guess it's a relative question and I will be looking forward to your responses! 
I am the one who lives in FL from below.
You are exactly right. We got hit by Charley and then once repaired, policy was cancelled, thru the bank no less!
This is a joke, right? Your son LIVES with her,
and you wonder about any of this? Give me a break! If the coach were God Himself, that would be no excuse to hand over your mothering duties and your son to someone else, let alone someone you think is a B. Give me a break. What is wrong with you?
OP lives in Monterey, CA
nm
But no matter where she lives, she is still
just not that pretty and I personally would not want to be her, no matter where she lives. I love my neighborhood and I don’t have man hands, huge teeth, watermelon head, toothpick body and no one has ever complained about my voice. I do not like her show at all.
...though it won't be soon as he still lives here, but possibly not
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My MIL lives about 1/4 mile from me, and . . .
right now she is on a cruise, and I can't hardly stand it! She and I are best friends. I absolutely LOVE her. We are very much alike in our thinking . . . most of the time. Even when we don't agree, we still manage to talk about things and agree to disagree. I know I have a real treasure in her. In my book, MILs can be wonderful. I know that isn't the case for everyone, but I know it is very, very possible.
When my MIL gets back home on the 15th, I'm going to be extremely happy! 
I meant lives near me - sorry. NM
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I can ask my mom who lives there (just got off the phone, actually). sm
I do know that in the summer, the highs are around 70s or so. Does not get much higher than that. A Big Mac and fries with drink in Alaska (Anchorage) will run you about 6.00 w/o tax.
My mom received an expensive gift card for the doc she works for - for Nordstrom Dept. Store. Instead of spending it in Alaska, she is coming to Texas next month and thinks she will get double for her money at the Nordstrom's here.
They just bought a 4 BR/2BA home in the town of Palmer, AK (about an hour from Anchorage?) and they paid 200,000 for it. BUT, they are now selling their home and moving BACK towards Anchorage as she realized she cannot drive in the winter that far to work! She makes 22.00 an hour running a doctor's office. My dad works for the prison system and they are doing VERY WELL. He is retired A.F. She NEVER complains about money - like how much things costs. If anything, she says, "boy it's nice not to have to worry about money!"
Every year residents get a "dividend" check for a couple thousand dollars from the oil companies, too, from what I understand.
If you are a woman, Alaska is a WONDERFUL place to live, from what I hear. My mom and dad are still young (in their late 40s - early 50s) and my mom says that dad brings home "friends from work" and the way she puts it, if I were single and visiting I wouldn't be single for very long! Plenty of good looking, hard-working men and not enough women...........My mom has a weird sense of humor, but she's not kidding!
Of course, you MUST love the outdoors if you live there. My dad is constantly shoveling snow and working on their vehicles - at least 7 months out of the year, preparing them for the cold. He just bought himself a new snowmobile and he is an avid hunter and salmon fisherman. My mom is outdoorsy too, so it works well for them. I have no plans on visiting any time soon. I enjoy not having to deal with snow where I am at.
I hope this helps you a little bit. The further you go from the city the cheaper the housing. My parents want to move back to Eagle River,AK, but don't think they could get a decent house for the price they are asking in that particular area.
I'll tell you this. If I were going to move there I certainly wouldn't go far from Anchorage unless you want to live in the middle of nowhere! At least in Anchorage (or near Anchorage), you have full access to the airport where you could get on a plane and get away if you need to which is what my mom does often. I see her "all the time" even though she lives there. She flies out a lot! And that is because no one in the family goes to visit them.......Hope this helps!
FIL lives with us & his will be with his May check sm
The notice about the deposit said that it was going to be deposited separately but at the same time as his regular SS check, which is the 4th Wednesday of the month because of when his birthday falls.
Not everyone lives in small towns
I took the bus and T (subway in Boston) to high school and college, as did most kids. Try parking in Harvard Square, or anywhere in Boston for that matter.
When I moved out west to continue college in a city that did not have great public transport, I lived on campus for the first year without a car. After that I bought one for $1000, and insured it for $35/mo (this was in 1993).
My mom does not even have a DL, and did not have the money to pay my tuition, let alone get me a car for school, yet somehow we made it. Kids don't NEED cars in high school. There is always the big yellow bus if you live somewhere there is not public transportation. I was shocked to see how many high school kids were driving around in new SUVs and sports cars like Mustangs where I used to live in the South.
Just one more sutle way to push God out of our lives
Many people do not even notice this change, or many just don't care. Just like God was pushed out of schools, public buildings and trying to get God off our money. "In God we trust"? As a nation it is hard to say anymore. We were founded on Christian beliefs but separating church and state has been taken way to far.
So glad I did not have them their entire lives
because I had already raised my children and did not need to be raising stepgrandchildren and especially ones that had been left to fend for themselves and did not know how to cut up a piece of meat to eat it, no manners, nothing, took to Walt Disney World and they had never even heard of Snow White and 7 dwarfs but they sure knew about reefers, killings, rapings, etc. This is how they were growing up. I thank my lucky stars I am not in that situation anymore. I know personally of not only the neighbor who gets a check for her son being diagnosed as attention but also my cleaning lady, she also knows how to work the system, so she tells me and from what she has told me, I firmly believe it. Lots of people working the welfare systems yet.
I agree. We are considering our daughter's lives here....
NM
I am reading about all the pets we have in our lives
and hearing about the tragedy that has come our way, especially today. I know how much your animals(s) mean to you as they mean the same to me. I would ask all of you, not only the ones who have lost their friends and family today, but also the rest out there to consider an adoption from the humane society. There are a lot of anmals we can give good forever homes to. I give a donation each month to the humane society as well as take my newspapers there because they shred them and use for the animal beds. There is a little life out there waiting for a family, think about it.
Why are people throwing their lives away?
I am up in years, have worked a total of 50 years now (yeh, started really young) and still working. My mother could not afford to send me to college and years ago I did not believe I was college material. I did, thank goodness, find transciption, always extremely fast typist (self-taught by the way at 12) and good speller, hey what more can you want? Anyway, back to my post. What in the world is going on when highly educated people in high paying jobs being so dense as to try to pull off crimes that get them jail, prison time, fired from their jobs, and on and on. I just do not get this at all. Just when you think you have heard it all on the news, you hear something crazier! I have never been arrested, don’t want to be, try to live a decent life and would not think twice about trying to pull something that would compromise the way I lead my life. What are they thinking??
My daughter is at VT and lives in West AJ.
With her guardian angel watching over her, my daughter is fine. After the first shooting, she was released to go to class and was walking toward Norris Hall. The police told her to go back to her dorm. She is in lock down and hungry. What a sad day for the VT community. Please pray for the families who lost their students.
I have friend who lives on the other side
of the railroad tracks that cook these things.
Never ever ate that, swear on my furkids lives
Now I love beef but hardly eat that now- hubby wants us to cut back on that and the pork but that does not mean I do not love. I probably would throw up if someone served me liver of any kind. I was raised in Tenn but live in Georgia now and no I have never. I have seen liver in the grocery but as far as the other organs, just do not see them here (in town over 4 million) so have shopped in big stores. We have an international market and the next time I am there will check and see if they carry these items.
grew up in St. Albans, mom now lives in
Hurricane, used to go to Point Pleasant all the time for Sunday drives. Wanted to see that movie but haven't gotten around to it. I am old enough to remember the Marshall plane crash - couldn't bring myself to see it.
connectin xbox lives
i am trying to connect xbox 360 live on a wireless router and they are asking for0my IP address and other addresses. where can i find this. also, any advice on how to set his up.
Thanks
All cattle graze for most of their lives. All of them...
and there is overhead involved in grass fed beef. There is overhead involved in everything, but my real question was: How does finishing with corn change the "chemistry" of the muscle?
For us who spend our lives listening
we all sure have a lot to say! Love it.
If I remember correctly the mom lives - sm
on her own piece that she got in the divorce. The daughter lives next door on a piece of land the dad owns.(unclear if dad owns the daughter's home though). The dad (ex-husband of mom) lives elsewhere. In any case, a real mess. Dad needs to be locked up and evaluated or they may all end up dead.
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