Just the opposite in my family.
Posted By: Lllls on 2009-03-19
In Reply to: Do you yell at your kids/spouse? - GabbyChick
I'm Italian and grew up living next to and with my cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmother. My grandparents were "right off the boat" and everyone yelled. We yelled when we were happy, sad, mad, when the food was ready... you name it! It was loud and fun. My husband's family is not that way. I don't think my MIL would yell if she dropped something on her foot!
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
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Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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My GYN is the opposite....sm
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My mom just the opposite
Funny, its the other way around for me. My mom is completely not interested in spending time with me or my child. She would visit her DIL in my town and forget to visit me and my baby. I moved to her town - she'd visit me twice a year if I was lucky. She would babysit her other grandkids free - I had to pay her to get her to spend time with mine. She would run to my other sibling's houses for any little thing they needed - and told them she never came to see me because "I never need anything". I moved far away - she visited me for 2 hours once in 4 years, while on the way to spend 2 weeks with her sister (who she visits at least 2ce a year for a month at a time). She has time for everyone but me, or my kid. Luckily my child has many other relatives on the other side that spend time with him. But I only have one mom. I have begged her to visit me at my new home, which is a couple hours drive from a place she likes to vacation - but I am not holding my breath. She'll just wait till she gets back from her vacation and tell me all about it, to rub it in that she was that close and didn't tell me or even offer to let me meet her there. I suppose I should give up and stop asking her. I visit her once a year and I guess that's all she needs to see me.
Well for me its the opposite
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I too get the opposite
Lots of people call me or ask me for medical advice. I don't like it because, although I am familiar with most medicines, disease, etc., I am by far a doctor and hate to diagnose someone's illness. I do however like to make an educated guess as to that I think it is, but that's as far as it goes...
Actually just the opposite with this one:
This one affects mostly young healthy adults worst, they guess because their immune systems try to fight it harder:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/24/AR2009042404075.html
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http://in.reuters.com/article/domesticNews/idINLR47878620090427
I have the opposite problem
It's a regular twin mattress, and actually padded which would make it a little higher I would think, but there is way too much sheet. It bunches on the sides and I have to actually tuck it in.
Go figure...
Dealing with it on the opposite end...sm
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Oh heavens no, just the opposite
My hubs spoils me rotten and gives me more attention than I would have ever anticipated. If I bring up his name in talking, he wants to get the subject to anything except him. He is a love and a keeper.
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Have the opposite problem!
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no my dear...just the opposite...
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opposite thought -
the tougher the cut of meat the more time you marinate.
A New York strip or T-bone is a good (and more expensive) piece of meat so you would marinate it much less time. i usually keep it very simple and just do a splash of redwine vinegar, garlic, salt and pepper for these.
A flank steak, skirt steak, sirloin like for kabobs or fajitas (usually less expensive) need more marinating time to soak in the flavor and tenderize the meat (which is usually the main reason for a marinade). i have done kabobs in 30 minutes but they are better if you have a couple hours. sometimes the meat will not be as red after marinating for a long time but that is because any vinegar, lemon juice, or acid is beginning to break the meat down and make it more tender. a good marinade to try some time is regular italian salad dressing right out of the bottle. it gets a little sweeat when it hits the grill. i only go about an hour for this with all the acid though.
I am the opposite. My son met a woman--sm
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Open you heart--the step granddaughter will benefit but not as much as you will. Sounds like she needs all the love she can get.
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Actually I have the opposite experience. Everyone
I know seems to think I am a doctor and can answer all their questions concerning their medical symptoms and those of their family. I have had people call me asking me about meds and what I think they should do.
Need help with opposite problem sm
I have chestnut brown hair with blonde highlights which is getting too expensive to keep up. Stylist was charging over $100 and I told her thanks but I would have to start going to Super Cuts or someplace cheaper although I did appreciate her beautiful work. Well, she came down, then went back up again to $85 and that's too much. I have never ever colored myself and she said she had to start coloring my whole head with the brown, used to just highlight with both colors. I hate to lose the highlights as they make me look and feel better than just the drab brown. I see products that say highlight but if I have a brown base, how do you get both colors to come out??? Kinda lacking in knowledge of hair, perhaps someone else does this. TIA
opposite problem
For the last 20 years we have been "forced" to participate in the gift exchange regardless of our circumstances. This year, all of a sudden, we must all abide by a new "budget," but now we have money! I think it is just a power play and nothing more.
We had the opposite problem
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I had the opposite problem sm
I am a gifted dressmaker and did this professionally for many years. I mean, I can make anything from jeans, to triple lined parkas, to mens' suits from the fabric up. I am good and we can leave it there.
So, I marry this man who thinks that if it isn't very expensive from a nice STORE it is pretty well $ _ _ _ and he would never wear it or use it! I divorced him and part of it was his extremely prolific high spending habits.
I had purchased a piece of fabric to make him a suit, from Italian wool. The fabric and findings for that suit set me back $400 (in about 1990). When my younger son graduated high school, I offered to take him shopping for something to wear. He nearly cried and said NO MOM I want you to MAKE me a suit. I have waited my WHOLE LIFE to graduate and have you make ME a special suit. So, I did and that expensive stuff when to someone deserving.
It is all in how they were raised. My dad was raised to believe that all women should sew. He and his mom insisted I learn and I topped even her excellent skills. I have learned you can't change their opinions of this, no matter what side of the equation they may fall on. I would suggest you learn to do some sewing, OR learn to tolerate him taking his little projects elsewhere. Even if all you do is crafting and some quilting stuff, that is probably enough to impress him favorably.
That said, he has NO RIGHT to give away your sewing machine, it is YOURS.
Anyone really satisfied with their PCP or just the opposite?
I went to get a mammogram done this morning and got a lot of questioning about my last Pap, last breast exam by a physician, etc., etc. I over the years have really gone thru a lot with different physicians both for me and my daughter. I told the tech this morning could not remember the last time a physician had asked about my having a mammogram and I visited the PCP about 3 times in the past year. I also am under the care of a nephrologist, have seen a rheumatologist and the like. I just wondered if anyone else felt like they have the best of care and if some feel like the care they get is somehow lacking.
It is not saying we are more accomodating - it's the opposite (sm)
It means women over 40 aren't going to put up with the BS that many of us put up with when we were younger. It is a rebuttal to the old "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" cliche.
I feel exactly the opposite of you.
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I wish that was the case, but I'm the opposite.
Even after 6 years I have a very hard time with ESLs (and my largest account the doctor is from Peru). I hate when someone from another country tries to ask me something, I can never understand them and I feel like a total dope. One time I told a lady I didn't know where the item she was looking for was, when actually I couldn't figure out WHAT she was looking for!
Just the opposite here, hubby is into
what he terms as good food rather than fat food (fast food to us) restaurants. I wish I could eat out more but usually when I ask him, nah just fix something here. He is the cook so don’t argue with his cooking and to tell you the truth, most of his food better than what you get out, well Carruba's is high on my list.
It is completely opposite in my house
My son (16) is incredibly responsible. He gets up every morning and makes his own breakfast, I would gladly do it but he says no. My daughter (14) and hubby do not eat breakfast. My daughter doesn't have time becuase she stays in bed until the very last second that she can. My son does his own laundry and my daughter just found the washing machine this past summer. lol
It has been the opposite here in Maine this summer!
TONS of out of state cars all over the place, especially on the coast. I just got back from Massachusetts last week myself and did see quite a few out of state cars.
Just the opposite in this case, the authorities
waiting longer than say for me or someone else I guess because of them being physicians maybe. Having said that, when young children are killed more times than not it is parents, hard to believe but the authorities held back on this case.
I have the exact opposite of anorexic
I am overweight, 5Ɗ and weigh 218 as of this morning. The problem I have is when I look in the mirrow I do not really see me as being grossly overweight, in fact I think oh for your age you look alright. Is there anyone else that looks in the mirror and does not see what you actually are- oh no remarks about getting a new mirror, this is from several I have in the house. I have actually seen surprised before when seeing a picture of myself and basically thinking do I look like that? Thanks!
I have the opposite problem and am trying to get uninvolved
with some things outside of the house. I ended up involved in things that interested me. If I were you, that's where I'd start. Are you looking for volunteer situations or things to do just for you? If the town where you lives has a website, you will likely find a listing of clubs, volunteer opportunities and the like on the site.
Neither am I - quite the opposite - I guess if you have never been in this position you don't kno
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My current husband is just the opposite...
In the 8 years we have been married he has paid over $97,000 in child support for his 2 children. His youngest daughter is getting married (and will be giving up the rest of her child support) and the child support will finally end. There are dads and moms out there who do pay their support. I hope you all get the back money owed to you. My ex owes my 2 daughters between 20-25 thousand. I never counted on it in the first place and when it sporadically came in I was happy, kind of like a bonus every now and then.
lmao my hubs is the opposite
He will bring home ANYTHING with Vin or Pierce Brosnan in it, knowing that I like them. lol I think he has actually bought every one of their movies since 2000.
Babylon AD...I'll have to ask hubs about it. lol
A twist off topic, but that's the opposite of my MIL
She wouldn't return anything, and expects no one else to, EVER. She cuts all the tags off and then claims to have forgotten where she bought things. She has even gone so far as to cut the size tags out of gifts. She once whispered to my husband, "I had to buy her an extra large, so I cut the tag out. I didn't want to embarrass her." That was for a robe she bought me when I was pregnant. Believe me, I knew what size I was! I hate to have her spend money that goes to waste on things that just don't fit, for example. Those could be simple returns, but she won't give gift receipts or even say which store she bought the gift at. I've given up. I appreciate the thought of the gift, but if something doesn't fit, I just donate it to the next clothing drive that passes by. Someone will use it.
Just the opposite for me - 13 is my lucky number,
Same goes for odd-numbered years. Those almost always go well for me, and without fail, even-numbered ones are the pits.
SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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I have the opposite problem - my color lightens up.
I was fine when I could get this sable color that Clairol had, but I'm not finding it anymore. I let some new guy highlight my hair last summer, and I finally got that ugliness covered with the latest color I put on. It started out burgundy and a bit too purple, but now it's lightened up a lot. I don't have a whole lot of gray, but enough to show, and my natural shade of brown is sort of green with a couple of wide lighter natural highlights. Even though I told the hair guy not to get any lightener on those, he did. You've never seen so many different colors on one head until I finally got that mess covered. I like my $9 color job better than his $100 job.
I catch LAInk a lot because I am so totally opposite all
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To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
It won't be making any difference. I tried a couple of techniques for my adults and very soon I came to realize they found the antidotes for them. If there are 10 sites telling how to monitor your kids, there are 1000 more telling how to escape it. Down the road you will be pushing your kids to visit those sites (full of porn banners & adult materials) and nothing else.
Southerner too, and I have the exact opposite experience...
I put peanuts in my coke sometimes when I was a kid (at that time coke came in a small glass bottle), but not something I did all the time. It was okay...probably wouldn't enjoy it now. My dad did hunt and we did eat squirrel, rabbit, duck, deer, dove, quail pn occasion. These were not like what was for "dinner" but used when they would have a crowd over who liked those type of dishes. Gumbo (my favorite) also could be made with shrimp, duck, squirrel, turkey whereas the quali and dove were used for stew-like dishes..and they were delicious. My mother made something called "Court bouillion" made with fish, like a red fish soup ...loved it, but do not know how to make it. My dad would have a fish fry every once in a while and have company over to enjoy it. For regular daily meals, we had the usual meats of beef, pork, chicken, etc. .For us, we had round steak and gravy often, of course, rice for the gravy. And also, our main meal was at "noon" whereas up north some have it at the meal we call "supper". Not to say that all southerners had their meal at "noon" . I also tire of the generalizations people make, but it's only human nature I guess. Also, in the south (Louisiana for me), we called "pop" a "cold drink" or "coke". Anyone want a "coke" or "cold drink"? Ok. What kind do YOU want, Dr. Pepper, RC, orange, etc. ? Funny, but that's the way it was. Anyone in the south remember Shipley donuts? Loved them! They literally melted in your mouth. Wonder if they are still in business. To me, they were a smidge better than Krispy Kreme, but very close. In the South, we called the coin-operated laundry a "washateria", up north it's the "Laundromat". Fun reminiscing.
It had the opposite effect on me, I couldn't even get through 1 week. I might be a fluke, though.
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family
No she did not have Daniel throughout his whole life but there were times when he shouldn't have been with her but her mother would not take him without money. She was living in a motel with a bfriend and Daniel. She was broke and it was not pretty she had some really rough times and she was not always the "playboy" girl she worked in some really raunchy clubs.
I dont know about a brother but it has been a long long time age I do remember meeting a "sister" once and lots of different "boyfriends". There was always someone with their hand out.
I give her mother the benefit of the doubt but look at how things are going and what her mother is doing. There have been lots of back and forths in Vergie and Nicki's relationship and none of it has EVER appeared loving. Nicki was not innocent but I think she grew up and moved on with her life and her mother still wants to talk about her little Vicki.
No one is perfect not me, not you neither was Nicki, but her past was her past and she needs to be laid to rest, she went to extremes to establish her wishes let her be. Nicki is gone but the baby is here and needs to be sheltered from all this hoopla!!!
when it is a family, the family tends to think
since an addition is being made to a family during pregnancy, a lot of families see themselves as pregnant - as one - as a whole unit...nothing wrong with it - actually makes the entire family participate in it, which is a GREAT thing............not like the men of the 1950s who went to work and the moms did absolutely everything else....I like men/families who WANT to take part and be involved.
Old fashioned or not - I prefer the way the men participate today in all of it..........makes for better communication and all know what's going on in the family....
FYI to all, keep your old fashioned minds open because a closed mind will make you old WAY before your time.
There are 4 in our family and we each sm
get to pick one definite thing to do. My hubby says that is his pick. LOL
All the best for you and your family and keep..sm
 Keep us posted here - I will remember your *handle* countrymt and will be on the lookout for your posts!!!
I have family down there
My husband is originally from Boston, and we go down about once a month or so for a few days to visit his parents, brother, etc. It's kind of like a second home for me!
Family
My heart goes out to you, as I too understand that kind of pain from family. Just know that it is not you that is causing this rift. It is your brother, not his wife even though it is obvious that she is doing the manipulating. Your brother should not be able to be manipulated so easily by his wife's insecurities and jealousy of your relationship. Unfortunately in life, and in families perceptions get screwed up with time, and distance, and if one does not hold true to their fondness of one another, or respect or what I call the family gene that holds a family together through thick or thin, then there is nothing you can do about this situation. He obviously cannot hold true to his feelings for you because of his wife's insecurities. Just let things be and don't become bitter or begin to cut yourself off. Sometimes things change down the road for the better.
re: family
Yes it is sad that the family unit is being seen less and less. Yes self control is a responsibility....but that comes from the Lord...that is a fruit of the Spirit...so what I'm saying is it is our sin nature to stray and we will be held accountable for that sin...the only way to be forgiven for it is to ask Jesus for forgiveness and accept Him as our Saviour...don't know if I'm wording this correctly....
I pray that you get what I'm trying to say that we all need Jesus...I pray that I worded correctly...
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DH and my mom didn't get along well (although she was quite controlling and wanting to run our lives after we got married, and I do understand where he was coming from). Eleven years ago we moved 300 miles away. Now I see my mom and other relatives only very occasionally. Luckily she can come see us once in a while. I have to beg DH to go there, and my vision is so bad I can't drive it myself.
I haven't been "home" in 2-1/2 years this time. And yeah, I regret it.
I miss my mom, my family and my friends. But DH is never gonna change, and I have 3 kids, and I'm stuck. :(
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