Just the once, been single again longer than I was married sm
Posted By: not brave enough to try again on 2009-02-16
In Reply to: How many times have you been married? - Gabbychick
I married a homophobic homosexual who molested children.
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I was a SINGLE mother. I was not married at that
time. I DID NOT defraud the government or anybody else. I did what I had to do to feed my children. I'm glad you could make it all by yourself. I couldn't do it. Please stop turning your nose up at people who need help.
Use a dictionary - single=not married sm
From Merriam-Webster --- does not say "NEVER" married, just "NOT" married
Main Entry:
1sin·gle 
Pronunciation:
ˈsiŋ-gəl
Function:
adjective
Etymology:
Middle English sengle, from Anglo-French, from Latin singulus one only; akin to Latin sem- one — more at same
Date:
14th century
1 a: not married b: of or relating to celibacy2: unaccompanied by others : lone , sole <the single survivor of the disaster>3 a (1): consisting of or having only one part, feature, or portion <single consonants> (2): consisting of one as opposed to or in contrast with many : uniform <a single standard for men and women> (3): consisting of only one in number <holds to a single ideal> b: having but one whorl of petals or ray flowers <a single rose>4 a: consisting of a separate unique whole : individual <every single citizen> b: of, relating to, or involving only one person5 a: frank , honest <a single devotion> b: exclusively attentive <an eye single to the truth>6: unbroken , undivided7: having no equal or like : singular8: designed for the use of one person only <a single room> <a single bed>
At least she is single, not the married woman who took my father for $$$$$$$
talked about p.o'd. After my stepmother died (his wife)younger than me married women moved in for the kill. NO AMOUNT of talking on my point would make him believe they had anything on their mind except he was charming, I suppose. When something like this it is elderly abuse because they are using and trying to get money/property/furniture/cash/cars, etc. This woman made off like a bandit. I had started proceedings to have the courts take over his every day affairs. These 2 are close in age, your father and the woman so, you probably think she is going for the gold but lots of men dont even want to hear anything different. I think it is called stubborn.
I have been single again as long as I was married and there is not a day I don't regret leaving s
BUT it was still the right thing to do. I have been happier since and I am fine on my own, but it was extremely tough as he didn't pay child support and I could not find a way to make him (not for lack of trying though and a social worker whose job it was to collect his arrears kept telling me no, I didn't really need it!). Financially it was terrible, but the relief of his absence was enormous.
He was critical. He was always rude. My friends would only come to visit when he was on the road. The kids would pick up their messes, but he made more than they ever did, never helped and constantly criticized me for not being a perfect housekeeper like his mom...who didn't work, had a housekeeper and spent her days at the mall shopping. I had more kids than she did, worked always and ended up being too exhausted for him. He is a homophobic homosexual and going out on "mommy and daddy" dates was always humiliating because he spent the evening looking at other men's behinds.
I got out and suffice it to say, at quite a price financially and emotionally. I have not remarried, have only had one relationship in 15 years and feel too damaged to ever try again, but I am FREE from all of that.
My kids were pleased when he left and were all too anxious to help him to leave the house!
For some items you could buy men's, they tend to be longer with longer sleeves. NM
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yep, getting longer and longer for me too...
annoying!!!
The wood will last longer if you
use containers inside of it. If you want to disguise the containers you can put something like spagnum moss over the dirt and let it cover the edges of the container(s).
Sounds like it is going to be neat. What kind of plants? Climbing vine?
Sorry I just do not get your point as I no longer am
buying anything for the dog in any kind of way. I said I paid for the surgery and would do that again, no problem. I hate to lose her friendship, really I do but at the same time I am not going to be used. I did what I could and now feel up to them to do the rest. As of the, hmmm, say 5 months I have not helped out in amy way so your post means???
I am not sure why they are no longer speaking
but in due to the fact that she has no contact wtih him, I don't think he should have stayed in the house once he found out she was there. She was visibly upset when she realized he was there and began crying. My phone then rang so I missed what she said to her other housemates. It just seems like this is not the place for this to be handled.
no longer close....
That is what I thought half would be fair. But I know she wouldn't pay it. Because I have learned how she is. I realize I should have gotten it back way before then but I just said you know I am sure she has it put up and I will get it back. I had no idea she shampooed her carpet that often. And no I will not be loaning her anything else. From now on IF I loan something out( she is an exception I won't be loaning her anything) saying you break it you replace it is a good idea. Let's them no if they can't or don't want to replace it then don't borrow it. I did say something to my husband's brother about it. My husband and her husband are twin brothers. He did not offer any money on it. And when I told him I needed to get half of what it cost he gave no answer. My husband says let it go and learn your lesson to never let them borrow again. But I still think it is only fair to have at least half my shampooer cost paid.
In my 20s, I like my hair a lot longer
If I could no longer take care of myself, that's
up already. usually wait a bit longer, but had the time.
It is artificial and I don't like it, but...well, don't have the time to shop for a real one and deal with the mess. busy this year, and alone, so who cares? No Christmas spirit this year.
I would tell them not to visit unannounced any longer.
:)
Looking for cell phones you no longer need...
Hi! My church is collecting cell phones as a fundraiser. If you have an unused cell phone lying around that you would like to get rid of, please let me know! Just let me know what the brand, model number, phone co used for and I will let you know if that is one that is on the list. I will pay for the shipping to get it here!
Thanks a zillion!
Probably here on earth longer than you, but what I am talking about
is the fact that young females can have WITHOUT taking antibiotics. The post above me seems like it was set in concrete this was the problem and fabric softners. There are so many scare tactics here in the US and it just continues and everyone things the sky is falling, oh my!
Symantec (Norton) will no longer allow that
Years ago, we could do that - use one NA program on multiple computers - however-they changed that and they run scans all the time to see what's up and who's doing what. They are truly my most favorite antivirus program (tho there are better ones that cost more *out there* - i.e., panda). F-secure is also very good and I think is free or used to be free.
But know now, that eventually Symantec will catch you..........
2nd toe longer, wide space between big toe and
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If you are no longer using credit cards......
i've had several credit cards throughout my time and all but four are paid off. i don't plan on using the other credit cards ever. they do show up on my credit report. i would like to cancel the ones i don't use, but i've heard that it looks back on your credit report. anyone else have info about this? i think it's a better idea to cancel the cards you will never use again because of the identity theft going on.
Some puppies just take longer, and some breeds S/M
are sometimes know to be more of a challenge. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Maybe your local animal shelter could give you some help on this issue. Just like kids, they are a responsibility and will sometimes cause you some aggravation, but the love and happiness you get from her will outweigh the training period, I am sure. 
My teenage son has longer hair.
He keeps it clean and neat (right now he kind of looks like David Cassidy back in the day). When he starts letting it hang in his eyes, off it comes.
With teenagers you do have to pick your battles. He says that in a few years, it's going to start falling out (he's probably right) so he wants to enjoy it while he can.
Diabetes, probably no longer than 5 years
I know very well what hypertension and diabetes both can do, had a husband who was dialysis just because of uncontrolled hypertension and eventually dying. She was not strong enough to question (oh, well, she could not have even known maybe what they were saying) the ESLs and yes, there are older folks out there who cannot understand the first thing that comes out of their mouths. Do you not know older people who take everything a physician says as gospel and would not dare "rock the boat" so to say? She has responsibility here, mostly hers, but not being able to understand. They might have told her she was on the verge of kidney failure and she could not comprehend what they were saying and just stuck it out with the same people.
Flu season is lasting longer
I read an article recently, I think in TIme, that said that flu season was lasting longer and doctors were actually giving booster shots to their patients who had gotten flu shots at the beginning of the season.
Just not part of body that grows longer
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You're so right! I recently moved, and no longer
receive the San Francisco news on TV. Instead, I get the Sacramento News, which I don't like. So instead of watching TV, lots of times I just pull up my favorite SF news channels online, and watch it at whatever time I want to. It's great! You get it when it's breaking, and you can pick the stories you're interested in, instead of waiting through all the sports stuff, just to have a few words about the story you tuned in to hear get thrown in at the very end of the broadcast.
HOW did we ever live without the internet?
For the first time, I am no longer watching Idol
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That was the impact fee. It no longer exists. Some people even got it refunded.nm
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Cavities in areas no longer protected by enamel.
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She is DENSE, don't bother any longer. Like talking to a wall...
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When my arms no longer reached the keyboard, I was suspicious.
I then lapsed into a coma and didn't wake up until there was a strange person with spiked orange hair in my kitchen, demanding the keys to my car. It was either a burglar or my child - I don't know. They've never come back with the car, but that's not proof of anything so I haven't filed a police report yet.
I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now.
I'm with you 50 and single..
I too have sworn off relationships and very happy being on my own. I cannot and will not go through it again. Both my ex's were two peas in a pod. Unfortunately, I seem to attract the same type of people. At 52, I am quite happy being alone but also having a great circle of friends. It far outweighs being unhappy, angry, always hoping things would get better when they never did.
I am not a single mom but...
I was a single woman when I bought my house. It is one of the things I regret the most right now.
BUT ONLY cause I wasn't settled down, no family, things came up and i wanted to move. I also bought it right before the market crashed 2.5 years ago, and now I am in an interest-only ARM on an upside down mortgage.
Now, considering this probably wont happen to you because the market has already crashed, there still might be room to wonder if it could fall more, depending on where you are looking to buy. My advice is if you are going to stay there and that is your home, your job, etc. etc. then buying is a great idea and when you mention you are responsible for anything that happens to the house... well that is the chance you take. Depends on what kind of home you buy, how old, and if there are HOA dues. I still dont know how I feel about homeowner's associations, even though I belong to one. However, they will be responsible for anything exteriorly wrong with my house, but for $80.00 a month. you know? so you definitely have to weigh your options.
My main advice would be DO NOT RUSH. that is what I did as I was young and excited to be a home owner at a young age, but now all that money i worked so hard for since the age of 15 is gone. I no longer have the 50K I put down on the house. That is something REALLY tough to deal with.
I love being a homeowner, but I hate that I bought when I did. you know? I know I am not the only one in that boat of course but it is still very very tough.
Good luck!!
well, I'm a single mom....
I've been divorced for nearly 8 years. I have taken care of my son completely on my own. I do not have a huge social circle, but I know what I like to do, and I concentrate on my son, but one day that child will (hopefully) grow up and be on his own and so it will be just me. I know what I like, do what I like, but sometimes, having that special someone would just, for me, make things better. But, now this is the odd part, having been married to the wrong man, I would be perfectly content to have a "significant other" without ever going to the "married" stage. I am fine and have been fine on my own the last 7 years, learned a lot about myself. Now at 35, I feel like I want someone in my life, but I dont necessarily have to be married. Sounds odd, and most of my friends are the opposite. But, I'm also one of those people that never had a lot of boyfriends, etc. I was not the girl in high school who had crushes on a lot of guys, I chose to date and not have a serious relationship in high school because I thought I was too young for that, haha. I've seen both ends of the spectrum, I've seen completely happy couples, my own mom and step-dad for example, if I was to ever get married again, I want a relationship like theirs. They are each other's best friends, and still so in love, but they also make a point of doing things separately because they are, after all, 2 separate people; and I've seen people in my life who are in their 60s and still perfectly content to be single.
I'm in the middle of that spectrum, haha, I would like someone to share in parts of my life, but I don't have to marry him if that never happens either. :)
I do know that I'm picky on friends, and I'm shy, and I don't date much, its just hard to date. I'm a single mom, I work from home, I live in a small town and have only been here 6 years, but only made 2 friends, well, people I would consider friends, I work midnights, sleep during the day, and spend time with my son in the evenings and with our family on the weekends, so I really don't even have time to date, so its a darn good thing I am happy in my life, haha, or I'd be a lonely mess. Sometimes it does get lonely, but in an affection way, not so much in a socializing way for me, I don't know how else to word that.
A single woman
What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Please do not rush into a relationship with any man at this point. Enjoy this time and spend it getting to know your children better and just spending time with them. Also get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are - develop some hobbies and interests. If you've spent the last 2 decades in this kind of relationship, you haven't had much time to spend on yourself. Soak in a hot tub every night if you want to.
In a sense, you've just cut a huge wart off your foot and of course it's going to feel strange and unfamiliar. It was the wart that was strange, now things are normal. It just feels strange because you aren't used to it.
Hope some of this makes sense. If you think about it, I bet you are actually less lonely now than when he was there. Some of the loneliest people I know are in marriages and relationships. Some of the happiest and most joy-filled people I know are on their own.
So happy to be single.
Sounds like he has a huge stick stuck somewhere uncomfortable. Big hugs for you!
were you a single parent
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It was not my attempt to single anyone out
is simply curiosity about some of the posts I've read. Has nothing to do with Huckabee, constitution, declaration of independence, etc.
As far as the nice day goes... right back at ya! :)
Question for single MTs
I am divorced now for awhile. I am finding that I have absolutely no interest in dating! I look at the online dating sights occasionally but no one attracts me. There seem to be slim pickens if you know what I mean. Anyway, I seem to be very happy on my own. My question is, do any of you feel the same? I guess I'm just at a point in my life where I'd rather stay single.
not one single fear
zero, zip, zilch, nada...
we are born with two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. the rest we create or obtain on our own later in life. me: none, other than the two i was born with.
Single Mom Survivor here ... have
Looking back over my experience as an owner and as a renter, raising my children alone with limited resources:
Renting is easier and more cost effective for you than buying.
Pro's of renting:
1. Low deposit to get in the door.
2. Rent is usually reasonable and oftentimes contract won't go up if you are a good renter.
3. MAINTENANCE is the responsibility of the management -- you are not out for those costs.
4. You can leave with a 30-day notice.
Pro's of ownership:
1. You are building equity.
2. Tax breaks.
3. If financial crisis, it takes about 6 to 9 months to get to foreclosure so you do have some time to find another place.
Con's of renting:
1. May require a background and/or credit check.
2. Although evictions are subject to some jurisdiction (they must give you a 10-day notice), it can be quicker to evict you from a rental than from your own property.
Con's of ownership:
1. ALL maintenance and repairs are up to you. Can be very costly.
2. You cannot get out of this very easily - especially in this market.
Hope this helps.
She's not a single person
The cnn article is worded a little confusingly, but the woman is married and her husband is the one who is scheduled to return to Iraq, not her father.
I have no idea why she was taking fertility drugs when she already has 6 at home - unless they are not biologically hers. The doctors should be sued for malpractice for implanting that many embryos. The ethics guidelines these days state that they should not implant any more than two at a time to avoid situations exactly like this.
And now you see why they're single!
I think the internet is partially to blame. Guys start trolling for women and never stop the conquest. Supposedly hot babes to flirt with, who wants an average girl in real life?
If you could force the creeps to tell the truth:
"Sorry I blew off our lunch date, but I was busy having spur-of-the-moment cybersex with a stranger."
"Oh, I never intended to actually MEET you, I only enjoyed the challenge of seeing if you would meet ME. I prefer fantasies to reality."
"Disappointing women gives me a power rush. Score!"
"Quantity over quality, honey. Now describe what you're wearing. And what WAS your name again?"
Definition of a single man...
... I heard this and told it to my then-husband, who, oddly enough, did not find it funny. (Perhaps because the shoe fit all too well.)
Anyway... this lady said that many men basically had their d*ck in one hand and their umbilical cord in the other, and were looking for a place they could plug them both in....
Is he single?? LOL - not many good ones left. nm
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single-parent dating (sm)
I'm not sure that the length of time you have been dating is really relevant as other posters mentioned. If you feel you need to have the relationship defined, it should be and when it is, you need to decide what to do next.
It is SO hard to date when you have a child, especially a daughter that you want to raise with good morals and self esteem. In order to build a good relationship and be sure the guy likes your kid, you have to invest time and expose the child(ren) to him. If he's not *the one* then you have to repeat the process, thereby exposing you kids to men, attachments, and as far as I'm concerned, confusion on the part of the kids.
I came to this conclusion shortly after my ex and I split when my daughter was 5. I dated one guy, we broke up, and didn't date again until she was out of high school.
I also identified with a line in Jerry MacGuire; words to the effect that spending time with my kid was more fun and fulfilling than any frog or potential prince.
It's my opinion and only my opinion that we had our lives, made our decisions, had our fun, made our mistakes, brought kids into the world and they should be our focus. It's hard to focus and give full attention to a child when there is guy anxiety.
I know many have done it and have been extremely successful with merging families and doing the step-dad/mom thing. I just didn't think it was fair to gamble with my child's future... things don't always happen in real life like they do in movies...
All of this was probably of no help, but I sincerely think you do need to stop and think what is going to give you peace of mind, not necessarily happiness or instant gratification, and know that whatever does give you peace of mind will benefit your child.
Good luck, sweetie! :-)
I assume you're single.......
You need to call this guy. Call him at the office with a "question" and see where the conversation takes you.....Good luck!!!
Oxymoron indeed! LOL. Single is definitely best if you can afford it : )
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I am talking single mom by choice, not by
a death. I have been widowed before and still had a child at home and the insurance money then was split half for a burial and I gave my child the other $10,000. I do not believe in pity-parties as I see a lot on MTS. I am just glad I waited until later when having my children. I think the ultrasound is a way to make a women thing more about what should be her decision alone but would not have changed my mind then or now.
I am a single young person
and you know sometimes it is nicer to go out and do things on your own. I have found sometimes when I have gone out with people they do not want to do the same thing so you end up wasting energy trying to convince them or they lollygag and I hate that. As much as it is nice to have someone or a special someone to do things with, there is nothing wrong with being an independent and doing things on your own. As I see it, if I wait around for someone to magically appear to do things with, I may miss out on a lot of good things. As for bus trips, I live in the SF Bay Area and I know I have seen all sorts of neat bus trips to places like national parks, Tahoe, etc and you go in a group and explore.
a single paddling at school is different
from a parent keeping a paddle at home during the summer. I'm wondering why you need to go on and on about this.
My past is my past. I believe each parent has the right to raise their children in a manner that suites each family. My hope is that physical punishment is limited, but there are other methods of physical punishment other than paddling which can do worse harm to a child. Even verbal abuse can be worse.
Thank you for your sympathy for the decisions my parents made, but those things are in the past. BTW, I don't let people get close before of emotional manipulations by people in my adult life and not having learned how to stand up for myself when I was a child. Now I have learned those leasons and just use more caution about whom I take into my confidence. I'm not as screwed up as I feel you are trying to intimate :)
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