Just speaking for my brother, it made him more determined to have a good marriage SM
Posted By: Not in my family's case on 2007-09-20
In Reply to: Does divorce always mess up boys' lives?? (sm) - Worried mom
and is respectful and a wonderful dad and husband. I am proud of him for that. My dad was a good person, and so is my mom. However, together they were oil and water. I affected my sister and myself more than my brothers.
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You are bound and determined so
I would just have a lawyer ready because what you are talking about today and yesterday beyond what you are legally allowed to do, that being obtaining his health records and jail records. Any lawyer would tell you otherwise. Good luck. You did not answer age of consent in your state.
Sounds like you have a good marriage....
and have not had the chance to experience being alone. I also would never get married again as I love living alone, comfortable in my own skin and do not need anyone to make my life "whole".
I also think it is older women who feel this way. I think when you hit your 40's, you find yourself and realize your wants and needs that make you happy. You are not constantly making other people happy and ignoring yourself.
As for me, I could not imagine living with someone again. It would be an intrusion on my life - a life I love.
You really have no right to say "how sad". You are happily married and I congratulate you. I am happily single as are many other people who do not have to depend on a man or anyone for that matter for their happiness. Happiness comes from within.
You sound like you had a good marriage
That was a sweet statement to make about wishing you had that option. I am so in love with my husband and would hate to think about being without him. I enjoy his company every day. He travels but calls when he is gone. When he is home we share a computer room and he plays around on his computer while I work at mine. He is my best friend as well as my heart. I married him very late in my life after others but intend to keep this one.
How about good ideas for upcoming marriage
Any good ideas for someone getting married in the next year or so? A second marriage and not planning to have much of a ceremony. (Where, what to wear, etc.)
Thanks for any ideas. 
my mom made it good!
Squeeze out the excess moisture; put some mayonaise (no imitation) all over the fish, then roll in crushed pepperidge farms herbal stuffing mix and place on sprayed cookie sheet and bake (i think it was about 400 or 450 for 15 min?) Yum!
Made me feel good anyway - sm
I can see where the girl gets it though. Really pathetic.
They moved in a couple houses down about 2 years ago and I started locking my front door not long after.
All the neighbors had a BBQ party one night not long after they moved and that is when we all got a taste of how their house is run. The husband seems like a nice guy and I actually pity the poor man.
We are in the front yard of another neighbor and the girl comes storming up to her mom whining about not having something, think it was about a water gun or something. Anyway, the mom looks at dad and I am NOT kidding... she said, "Dale, what are you going to do about this?"
She wanted him to drop everything and race to get her a bigger one... AND HE DID! The girl was what.. 13 then? Give me a break!
Not long after, the girl started coming over unannounced, uninvited, and would just walk right in and make herself at home. Go through the fridge, turn on the television, you name it.
Thought, okay, the kid is rude. Then her mom came over one day did one of these tricks of opening up the door without knocking and saying "Knock Knock! ANYONE HOME?" As she is walking into my kitchen in the BACK of the house. She started doing this often enough that I started keeping the door locked.
She also will stand out in your yard and, while she's talking to you, her little precious dog poops. She simply says, Oops! but leaves the POOP right where it lands!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr
Lucky you. You got the one good one they made that year.
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Yep...I always made good grades...never got in trouble in school (sm)
Never get in trouble with my job...I know I don't have any type of learning disability. But I just can't stay focused. I keep wondering why I can't stay organized despite my efforts.
Thanks
I have a great brother like that too! I love my Big Brother!
Enjoy the love!
I have an older brother and younger brother
and I was a terrible handful, especially during high school compared to my brothers.
This post made me laugh and then brought tears to my eyes...good for you!!!
I think that is great you went to the school. I'm guessing he will turn out just fine if he's got a mom like you! *Hugs*
check out orientaltrading.com; has lots of pre-made kits you do yourself and good prices. nm
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My family made home-made mozzarella,
and it was very good. I was pretty small at the time, so I don't remember the exact process, just that it was done pretty quickly, and a lot of milk was used.
I don't know if you'll save a lot of money making your own cheese. The cost of milk is very high, too, and you need a lot of milk to make cheese.
Speaking of that
One time about 5 years ago, I was driving on the interstate, my SO now DH riding with me. Was just passing the rear of a trucker, cars behind me so there were witnesses to this and I couldn't just slam on my brakes, put on his signal and tried to pull out anyway. Since I was already passing him, kept going, and he ran me off the road to the center. Pulled back on and continued to pass him, had his window open and flipped me off. I didn't see it because I was trying to control the car, but the funny part was my DH (SO) rolling down the window and hanging out giving him a double one back all the way until I got in front of the truck. I said WHAT is going on!! He told me the bas%$@d flipped you off. Come on, they're high enough up to see there's a car right in front of them they want to pass. I told SO I'm slowing down and get that guy's plate number so I can report him. He slowed WAY down and stayed so far back that I finally gave up... Guess he wasn't in such a hurry after all. We still laugh about my husband's ~chivalry~ that day, him hanging out there giving him the double what for! Wish I had a pic of that for posterity 
Not dissing truckers here, my own brother was one for quite a while and have had a couple who stopped to help me and went out of their way when I had a flat tire on the interstate one time in rush-hour traffic on Friday afternoon. My brother said that was really nice of them because it's money out of their pocket, but he did always say to report truckers who are playing games because it's so dangerous.
Speaking for myself.....
it is quite the opposite. Any thread not adhering to the politically correct policies of this country is in danger of being deleted. Christians are not politically correct and never will be on this earth.
Speaking of AI
Is anyone here going to see them on Tour? Tickets go on presale tomorrow and I can't wait to get tickets. My friend and I take our daughters and go every year. We make a day out of it. We become groupies for the day. We've had great luck meeting most of the idols since season 5 and I'm looking forward to meeting Adam and Danny this year.
well, speaking from experience (OP)
I never "sat on the bench with my breasts out" after breastfeeding my son. Most women *put them up* after the job is done. Come on now, be realistic about this issue...
Speaking of condoms...
DS (15 yrs old) came home from school yesterday and I asked him what was new. He said the usual - "Not much."
Then.... "Oh, yeah, we learned how to put on a condom in sex class."
I about fell over!!!! Apparently, the teacher had a ... uh... plastic "subject" and she asked for a volunteer to come up and apply the condom to the ... uh... model. And it's called "Health class," but he refers to it as "sex class."
Whatever happened to food fights in school????
No, seriously, I'm glad they learn this stuff. You know what they say, "The More You Know...!"
His speaking out against it would scares me too. (nm)
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sorry, His speaking out against it would scare me too.
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not OP but statistically speaking there are far more
There are online websites documenting how many men versus women in each city of this country and the number of women today far outweigh the number of men......
jes sayin'.............
speakers not speaking!
help! i may need to test for a new job this weekend. Cannot understand why speakers aren't working. They are plugged into wall and correct port and turned on. Mute is not on. Checked in control panel and volume is up. I tried 2 different sets of barely used speakers. What else can i check? thanks.
And speaking of kids...
One time quite awhile ago I was pushing my youngest through the mall in his stroller. There were two boys goofing around in the middl of the mall with the parents right nearby. I had to stop suddenly because one of the darlings wasn't watching where he was going and fell over the stroller. I said, "Excuse me!" with just a bit of sarcasm and the father had the nerve to yell at ME because I was rude. I then informed him that his kid was the rude one and kept walking. That one still makes me shake my head.
You sound as though you are speaking from
Would you honestly want to be stalked by a man you thought you got rid of 19 years prior??? If the answer is yes, then I will gladly introduce you two.
I am not sure why they are no longer speaking
but in due to the fact that she has no contact wtih him, I don't think he should have stayed in the house once he found out she was there. She was visibly upset when she realized he was there and began crying. My phone then rang so I missed what she said to her other housemates. It just seems like this is not the place for this to be handled.
Speaking of spiders sm
We have a friend that just can't kill any living thing (I have no problem stepping on a spider, so sue me)anyway, she found a spider as she was getting in the shower, with a towel wrapped around her she went to set it free outside her back porch. Her hubby grabbed the towel, pushed her out, and locked the door. They were not in an overly populated neighborhood, but neighbors on each side could see. She says next time, she will just step on the spider.
Speaking of Salad...
what kind of lettuce/other green leafy stuff do you like when you order/make a salad?
A couple of times I've gone in restaurants and they have brought me a salad that looked like they went out back and pulled weeds. Now, I love veggies, but that's some scary stuff. I'm simple..I just want iceberg lettuce!...then I can add other goodies that I can identify.
Speaking of homecoming...
Doesn't it seem a little early in the season for homecoming? It's h/c at my DD's school also...I always remember h/c as being at least cool, jacket weather, not still warm in the 80s...
Speaking of Gardasil, I have a
Just curious if anyone here knows why they are not marketing this to males. I have two sons, and I'm not sure whether or not I would/do want them to have this, but I remember reading several months back about Australia providing Gardasil for males also, and my sister made an excellent point about males being more likely to have multiple partners or to not want to use condoms so more likely to spread the virus, even though they cannot get cervical cancer (not saying females don't engage in risky behavior, it just seems to me that oftentimes girls are pressured into sex and all too often they do it because they think there is something special about the relationship, when really it is all about scoring for the guy, but that is just my opinion and I do know there are good guys out there, and my sons are being raised to be a part of that group), so it makes sense to me that males should also be protected from contracting the virus to begin with, and that vaccination of males quite possibly could offer a greater measure of protection overall than vaccinating females. Just wondering what you guys think.
and speaking of slang......
the word bling just kills my ears I hear people my age (50s) and older saying it and that makes me cringe, especially if they say bling, bling.... guess next time I'll just say "Oh, snap"
speaking of dachsunds...sm
My friend has a dachsund about 7 months old and she is just impossible almost to house train. She said it doesn't matter how much she takes her out or how much she swats her with a paper for going in the house she just keeps on. Does anyone have exp with housebreaking them?
Speaking of girdles.....
I just saw Dr. Rey's undergarments advertised on HSN this week. They are supposed to be great and also very comfortable. You might want to check those out. 
I am speaking with very little knowledge here..
I have only met one (1) pit bull in my life. It was very pleasant, wanted to be petted, and never hostile. What I did notice is how muscular it was and I remember thinking that I wouldn't want that dog to snap at me. All dog breeds are capable of being aggressive (especially if there is a dominance issue), but some breeds are more muscular and less *intidimated* by humans than other breeds. It seems to me (dog experts, please correct me) it would be easier to pull a Yorkie or a Cocker Spaniel off an attacked person than a pit bull. I don't know how that applies to bigger breeds like labs or retrievers.
However, my humble opinion does not make up for the fact that you could face the loss of a loved family pet. I hope it works out for you.
Speaking of pictures.....
My husband never knew his maternal GF, but was named after him. His maternal GF died long before he was born. Well, by the time my husband was in his 20s, he was the spitting image of his GF, right down to the mustache. My children used to look at the picture of their great GF and think it was daddy. They could have been twins. So, to have his mom name him after her father and then he turn out to be his spitting image, that is unbelievable! She had four other sons and none of them look like their GF.
Speaking of banks...
My DD opened her first checking acct a few weeks ago. She received her ATM card in the mail and, being a young woman, didn't want to wait on the PIN to come in the mail. So she took the card to the bank and had it activated. After this, the PIN she selected at the bank would not work, so she took it back to have it changed. She walks into the bank, tells the woman she needs to change her PIN cause the original one doesn't work...the woman takes the card, slips it into a machine, gets the new PIN from my DD, and she walks out with her card with a new PIN. The kicker is...the woman at the bank DIDN'T EVEN CHECK HER ID!!! For all she knew, my DD coulda found that card and brought it in to change the PIN so she could use it!
Speaking of shopping........
Anyone remember how the old stores were when there were 'Main Streets'? Remember the wood floors and the merchandise in wooden bins on tables? Remember the cookies and candy they sold that was all encased in glass? No escalators, and only the best stores had elevators? Elevators with a man asking 'what floor'?, elevators that creaked and had criss cross bars across the front, instead of doors that closed? Evening in Paris perfume for our mom's at Christmas, Old Spice or hankies with his initial on them for dad? Remember when all you could use was cash? And of course, those wonderful lunch counters? I remember one of them sold sardine sandwiches! Anyone remember?
Speaking from experience!
I was always attracted to younger guys, too. I met a guy who was 15 years younger than I am. Never been married, had no kids, minimal baggage, etc.
It started as totally physical on both of our parts, as I was always a 'use 'em and lose 'em' cougar.
Fast forward...We've been living together for 1-1/2 years and are getting ready to make this legal next week.
It's NOT age that matters. It's life experience that makes the connection and erases the chronological gap. My BF has lived as much and been through similar things in his life as I have been in mine. We have everything in common, from life experience to music to movies to our quirkly senses of humor. In areas where I'm weak, he's strong; in areas where he's weak, I'm strong. We're the perfect complement for one another.
Initially people think we're an unusual couple, but once they spend any time at all around us, they realize we're so much alike that we can almost read one another's minds and are perfect together.
Don't let that age difference influence you...Go with your heart. I never thought I'd change my ways and settle down, but ANYTHING is possible.
Good luck to both of you!!!
speaking from experience . . .
A similar thing happened a couple of years ago when my daughter was in 6th grade. A girl a couple of years younger told her she was going to kill her. This girl has some problems, but after thinking about it and talking with my husband, we decided to go to the principal. Now most kids say this not meaning it, but they need to LEARN IT IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. It is WRONG, it is AGAINST THE LAW and they can be arrested for making terrosit threats like that to another person. it's this warped sense of what's right and what's wrong that leads these kids to major difficulties later in life. The principal tried to blow me off, but I told her one more time and I go directly to the cops. My daughter had nightmares and slept with me a couple of nights until I went to the principal and talked to her and told her what I would do if this ever happened again. This little girl never said anything like this again and is very aware of who I am and how she acts around me. CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THEY ARE BEING WATCHED AND WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG. IT'S OUR JOB AS PARENTS. Haven't we all typed the ER reports where they hold a person for 24 hours after making threats??? I don't care how hold the child, this is a great lesson for her to learn.
Speaking of the dinner...
My son and his best friend, along with their dates went to a quite expensive restaurant before their senior prom in downtown Atlanta. Between the 2 boys, they probably had just enough for dinner, no dessert.
After their meal, the waiter brought out 2 big plates of dessert. Well, the boys kinda panicked...not knowing if the girls had ordered the desserts behind their backs or not, and knowing that they couldn't afford to pay for them.
Long story short, the waiter told the kids that someone in the restaurant had sent over the dessert and picked up their check! My son was so excited, he called me from the restaurant...thinking his dad and I had done this wonderfully generous act. It was tempting to take the credit, but we didn't.
They have no idea who it was but it made their night! I know, not related, but just a nice prom story!
speaking of scumbags
My BIL had ALS. My SIL put him in a nursing home and immediately got herself a boyfriend. When questioned by the family she said she needed someone to help her through this ordeal. BIL died, she remarried. Nobody in the family speaks to her anymore.
speaking of ignorance...sm
This young man, in some countries, would be considered a *man* by now and more than likely raising babies. Most *courts* in this country allow a *child* to choose which parent he/she wants to live with when the parents divorce. If the *child* is old enough to choose who he/she wants to live with, he/she should be old enough to decide if he/she does not want a *treatment* that is going to cause him/her much anguish and pain and suffering. A 13-year old is not a *child*, but a young adult and has had enough life experience to know what he/she wants out of life. If you understand this correctly, the mother is not refusing *treatment*, but rather refusing chemotherapy! There is a difference. The Bible states that for every disease and illness on the face of the earth, there is a cure and treatment. I do not believe it is referring to the thought that by throwing a bunch of harmful *chemicals* into the body that some pharmaceutical research person dreamt up with thoughts of $$ in his head, as a *cure*. Nature has already provided us with whatever we need to treat ourselves and our diseases. This is what this mother is searching for. How would you like to have someone tell you that you had to have a treatment that you don't want? Would you want someone to force you to be throwing up every half hour and lose your hair??? I highly doubt it.
Speaking of working or not......
My MIL is OBSESSED with whether or not we have any money and what we do with our money. It IRRITATES me to no end! I mean we HAVE our own money, we don't ask her for money, so get out of our bees wax!
She came to our house when I was re-decorating my bathroom. I was doing it in roses and I was buying the stuff for it piece by piece and she was in the store with me looking at stuff and I showed her the garbage can I was going to get and it had roses and matched everything else, although I didn't get it that day. SOOOO my MIL goes to the dollar store and buys me a plain white trash can and brings it over and tells me and my husband that she got that for a dollar and SAVED ME $19.00 for the 20 bucks that I was going to spend on a garbage can!!!!! I told her I wanted the other one because it went with my theme and she told me that was ridiculous because this one serves the same purpose! I was so mad, but trying to hold my tonge and then my husband told me he didn't want me getting the other one cause it may "hurt her feelings". He said if i got the other one to just trade them out when she came over. FURIOUS, FURIOUS, FURIOUS, that woman STAYS in our business, it's horrible!
speaking of coffee -- beans that is,
does anyone dip their c. beans in baking chocolate for snacks? I heard you can do this, but wondered if they are real hard, too strong or just plain tasty this way???
Just speaking the facts, ma'am, ;)
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Speaking of Maury and You are not the father.
How come it only takes Maury 2 days to get results of paternity tests and they still haven't determined who Anna's baby's father is ?. Maybe Larry and Howard - are not the fathers ? Why do they need her DNA anyway ? Is there a question about her being the mother ? All very strange. But I do agree, poor thing, at least she with her first baby right now. She was quite wacky but still she was Anna Nicole.
Speaking of cats getting birds...sm
We have 2 feral cats that we feed (they've been trapped, spayed/neutered, vaccinated, then released, as the feral cat groups advise). They're actually very tame with us now. We've named them Isabelle and Nigel.
We have a covered patio area, almost entirely enclosed, where we feed them and have beds for them, so our dogs can't get to them (we call it the *cat house* LOL).
About a month ago, we went out to feed the cats at night, as usual, when what should fly into the cat house but a baby/young bird! It caught Isabelle's eye *immediately* (Nigel didn't seem to notice/care) but it was up high and she didn't move towards it. She seemed to be more focused on my husband as he prepared her food. I thought about trying to shoo the bird away with a broom, but I didn't want to startle it and send it right towards the cats.
Well, next thing you know, the baby bird decides it's time to fly away. As soon as it did, Isabelle took off after it at warp speed. It was amazing, really. She was up and over the fence after it in the blink of an eye. We stood there in shock, thinking there's *no way* she could have caught it. She was too far away from it when it took off. But then a few seconds later she jumped over the fence back into the cat house with it in her mouth, already dead.
Poor little thing. I wonder whatever possessed it to come in the cat house with 2 humans and 2 cats, at night. So sad, but that's the circle of life, I guess. ;o(
Speaking of weddings, tell me if I'm just being petty. SM
My father who is 68 years old and is getting married. I'm not all fond of the woman he is marrying, but it's his life and I'm not a kid anymore, so whatever. Thing is his woman is planning this obnoxiously big wedding complete with formal wedding gown and all -- 200+ guests with a fancy reception with dinner and dancing for everyone. Then she wants a honeymoon to Paris which she is planning. And I haven't even mentioned the engagement ring, let me just say $10,000!
So obviously I think this woman is over the top and a golddigger and a few other choice words I can't post on MTStars. Don't you think an older couple each in their second marriage should have a smaller, family and close-friends only kind of a wedding? Personally, I think if she wants such an extravagant honeymoon, she cut costs in the actually wedding and reception.
I've been holding my tongue, but I really want to say something to my dad. Should I? Ever since he starting dating this woman, I've been polite and friendly, kept my mouth shut. Now that he has decided to marry her, I'm like WOA! Am I just being territorial?
Speaking of dangerous LIARS
Have you made note of the people running OUR country into the ground - while killing with abandon in Iraq, etc., ad nauseam?
Speaking of leather furniture sm
Does anyone have any idea how to make worn spots look like new again? We have a huge medium-tan set, not the darkest, not the lightest, 3-4 years old and some of the seats and arms are beginning to look very faded. I hate to put the wrong treatment on there but it was very expensive and doubt the store would do anything about it. I think it's starting to look shabby but it's my husband's fave and he refuses to "see it" fading. Thanks.
Speaking of B'day surprises....
We were married 9 years ago at a Holiday Inn Convention Center room that was just a perfect place to have a wedding at. Well, they tore down the building and replaced it with a smaller hotel. During the time it was being torn down, we would happen to drive by and I would make comments about never getting to renew our vows there or spend an anniversary there because of it no longer being there. On my birthday a couple years ago he gave me this box that was extremely heavy. When I opened it, there lay four red bricks. I'm looking at him strangely as I am reading the note enclosed then the tears start falling. He is a police officer in the city where the building we were married in was being torn down and he was able to get these bricks from the building after telling the construction crew about us being married there. I know it sounds crazy, but he couldn't have bought me anything expensive that would have matched those bricks. They are priceless and definitely my most favorite gift from him. We now have four children and my plans are as each one gets older, I will let them decorate the brick with paint, pictures, etc of special things to them or memories they have of the family. My only problem is I don't know what to do with them after that. We have a fireplace and I think arranging them someway on that will be neat, but that's down the road a ways as they are still young. Well, back to the original topic of this post, it doesn't matter if the gift is expensive or not. A gift from the heart is what makes it special.
Speaking of Michael Vick, did you see...sm
How many of those dogs were rehabilitated and rehomed? Some are living on a sanctuary. Really. There were a few who could not be rehabilitated though and had to be put down but a lot weren't and are great dogs now. I just wanted to add that since speaking of Michael Vick. I know it probably won't make a difference to you but I didn't know if you knew some actually were rehabilitated.
BTW, I am adamantly against fighting pit bulls. That is abuse pure and simple.
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