Just sitting here shaking my head
Posted By: Anna on 2007-05-26
In Reply to: regarding the prom for little kids in the previous post: Yup, they have one. It's called a (sm) - SP
on this, you said it ridiculous and especially for the parents who pay for this. Shame on them all. And people are wondering what is happening with the kids now.
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After a while, just shaking the spray bottle sm
worked with my cats. My MIL had to lock her cat in the laundry room at night (huge room, bigger than some bedrooms! LOL) because she kept biting my FIL's tubing to his oxygen tank in the middle of the night. After my FIL passed away, the cat started biting the tubing on my MIL's air mattress. At that point she gave up and gave the cat to a friend.
Hope you have better luck with yours! If you give them plenty of "safe" scratching alternatives, and spread catnip liberally on them, it should at least cut down on their clawing the couch. Be sure the scratching surfaces are sturdy, though - those two-foot cylindrical scratching posts are worthless. Here is one that might work better:
You could try shaking Cheyenne pepper around the porch. nm
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Did you hear Greta say she was twitching and shaking? -hmmm.
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Oh! Head in the SAND! I thought you said head in the CAN!
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Sitting
I have three things to sit on - a rolling stool with a tractor seat, a straight chair with or without back pillow and an exercise ball. In this way, I can vary my posture, stay more alert, and even get a tiny bit of exercise with the ball.
I am sitting here laughing at both of you
What martyrs you sound like, working at night so you can be there always for those children, not a boyfriend so to put those kids first, sacrificing. I could almost throw up listening to all the people talking about their being a single mother, and? so? It is like a badge of honor. Women have raised children for long years before these days and did not bend over backwards trying to sacrifice, just part of raising children. I was a latchkey kid, my kids also (oh, guess what- I actually had to work away from the home in earlier years!!) and my grandchildren were latchkey kids. We ALL turned out alright, no gangsters, no murderers, upstanding people. The reason kids are out of control now is the way you pamper, pet and sit the kids on marshmellows and do not let them be real kids. Kids get hurt, part of life. You need to say you are sorry for the post about not watching her kid 24/7, ridiculous! And get a real life besides the children. There are other things in life, really there are.
Thanks so much for that. I was sitting here feeling SM
terrible, even after all these years and telling people who do not even know me is humiliating.
Don't want to take the focus off of the initial poster who is having this decision to make now, but please just let me say that I was emotionally drained and just coming out of a short but very abusive marriage. I met this man and we were friends, nothing more. That grew and grew and soon I was looking forward to going into work. . . THAT should have told me something right there!  Then in a weak moment I went out with him and that was the beginning of the end. I was so in love with this man who made me finally feel good about myself and told me I deserved to be loved and treated right. I waited and waited for him to leave, even though he had little boys and that was killing me. I just could not see going on without him. After I wasted the time and suffered the heartache he was gone. Probably the only truthful thing he said to me on the phone was . . Don't cry over me. I'm not worth it. I come from a good decent family and this can happen to good people when you need to be loved. That is why I want to caution this woman again, please, please, do what is right. It's not the easy thing to do, but it is the right thing. If this man really values her, why is he still conversing and carrying on this friendship when he knows how she feels, and he knows he is not in a position to do anything about it?
Thanks gor hearing me out. I feel like I had my second shower of the day. You have a good heart to acknowledge me like you did. 
i get low pay from sitting at the computer all day
actually I think my neck problems are from my computer use, staring up at the screen for so long
an 8 1/2 yo baby-sitting a 6 yo?
that seems really young, how long are they alone before the parents get home? Next summer I am considering letting my oldest who will be 14 baby-sit my youngest who will be 11 if i find a job outside the home, but even that makes me nervous.
i'm sorry i don't have any good advice for you. if it were me, i would be tempted to take him to karate class or something so he could learn to open up a can on the brother if necessary
hehe.... well, at least he's not just sitting there
;D
I have a *to do list* sitting on my desk
every day because I can't remember anything and I'm early 40s. :)
I remember cat-sitting for a fellow-MT once.
She was a first-time cat owner also. They had a little Maine coon, and she claimed he didn't play. She was only a year old, so I thought that was strange. I dragged a string for her and she proceeded to show me an extremely playful side, leaping onto the couch, running across the back, leaping to a chair ... I was rolling on the floor over this supposed non-playing cat. So make sure you leave a string toy. Or do you have one of those wants with a feather on it? or the other fishing-rod style toys. My cats were crazy for those toys that required owner involvement. And forget trying to read - my cats insisted I pay attention to the game during play. Cat servant indeed.
When sitting down to a formal dinner
which way do the dishes get passed.
Clockwise or counter-clockwise around the table?
wow, just sitting there waiting to pounce, are you?
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Wannie, they are probably sitting on their fat behinds
right now not offering much to society, as much as they would like to think they are special. They can look down their noses at those who have had to ask for assistance and say what they will because they have sad, pitiful lives and only feel superior lambasting others (I guarantee one of them is looking up the word lambasting right now?). Be prepared for some snappy, snarky comment from one of them. They are unhappy with themselves which is why they must degrade others. You have done nothing to warrant their scorn.
tis bilateral swelling from sitting. sm
When I put my feet up when I go to bed the swelling goes away. I am wondering if the TED hose really work, etc. etc. They both get pretty tight around the calf when this happens. I do worry that it might progress to a DVT so I try to move around as much as possible.
So cute! I'm going to be puppy sitting sm
a pug this coming week. Her name is Sadie, and she is 6 months old. She is SOOO cute. I kept her for a couple of days last week to make sure she would get along with my dogs okay, which she did after they got used to each other. She is my first experience with a Pug, and I really think she's adorable.
you need to keep your butt muscles tight while sitting
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I agree...just a bunch of yentas sitting around...
without much to say...I tend to think their main audience is the stay at home mom or others who most likely only get their news from them, don't seek out other sources. Whoppi Goldberg is Rosie only she is smart enough to research what she talks about.
I have 2 kitties too who love sitting under the tree. However,
my question is: Where did you find the Wii????? LOL
Anyone else get low back pain from sitting at the computer all day. Any
suggestions to help this.
Intense pain, especially sitting & pooping.
Added stool softeners for more comfort, changed diet to change the constipation. Try "Hemor-Rid" (spelling?) in the pink tube. Soothing, helps shrink them, and doesn't stink, like Prep-H does!
Hope U feel better soon!
My cat chewed through the cord on mine while sitting on my lap LOL
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Hayseed..you crack me up.. I needed that. I was sitting here on the verge of tears..depressed..and
you made me laugh. Sadly, even her dad couldn't save her though. She lived with him but he was on the verge of a heart attack ( I feel his pain). He said he tried to avoid going home because he would get heart palpitations which I now recognize as anxiety that I also get around her. He just couldn't deal with it anymore. She drives everyone away and that hurts me too but yeah I keep thinking the only way I'll ever get away from her is enroll in a witness protection program..and of course, I feel guilty for wanting to get away from her.
What's the difference between talking on cell and talking to person sitting across from you?
You should be ignoring people at other tables and MYOB.
when I roll in the driveway I see my dog sitting there staring out, waiting, waiting, and (sm)
When he sees me he yawns and stretches, then puts on this act of being all bored and sits on his tail so I cannot see it wagging... like he was not eagerly waiting for me the whole time and seeing me is no big deal. Every single time. If I have someone with me I'll say, "watch what Walter does..." and he does this every time. Oh, by the way, don't feel bad for this guy for having to wait for me once in while, he has the life of a king.
Thanks for the head up!
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I think you hit it on the head with that one. NM
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It sure looks like we could head toward ...sm
a great depression. Well about the questions. My mom is queen of stocking up. I do some too. But not like her. I need to do it more. But the things you stock up on are like mostly things that will stay good a while like can items and flour and corn meal and cooking oil and cereals. Just look at the dates and see when it expires so you can see how long it will stay good. Canned items you have a few years usually. Stock up on drinks, tea, coffee, sugar. My mom puts sugar, flour, and corn meal and rice and things like that in stock piles in her freezer. It will keep a long time in there. What my mom does and me too is look in the sale paper at the grocery store and when something goes on sale and is a good deal buy plenty. Like one time they put hamburger helper on sale for $1 a box and my mom bought 10 of them. Just look for good cheap deals and stock up. Toilet paper too. Paper towels. Soap. Whatever. Just when you catch sales get a little here and there and put it up. Don't go spend a fortune in one day.
As far as shortages of food I have no idea.
$4 a head?!?!
Wow. Plotzing right next to you. jeez.
I put up a greenhouse last year, which I love. It's still being tweaked so I haven't completely maximized its use yet, but all my plants made it through its first winter. We even planned ahead and my handyman ran electric and water into it, so it's pretty self contained.
I love growing things, but don't necessarily like to be outside for the growing of them. Weird, I know. Plus, the greenhouse lets me stay away from my creepy neighbor who makes passes at me while his ailing/dying wife is inside. 
The other thing that I've started doing to try to cut costs is hanging the clothes out on a line. I've seen a lot of comments about that lately, too. I'm really curious to see how much of a difference that makes on the old electric bill.
I think your gut has already told you what your head
knows - avoid this change at all costs. I won't go into all the reasons I would avoid because you know them in your heart - best of luck!
Wow. You SO hit the nail on the head with this one--sm
It seriously sounds like you have been there before and found your way out of it somehow. I so applaud your way of helping this poor exhausted woman, and I feel badly for her, because I have been there too. My ex was ALOT like this, controlling, passive-aggressive, and had a very abusive anger problem, as well. She did not state how long she has been with this man, but if things don't change, I fear abuse may be the next step. In my experience, people like this do not change. You do. Sometimes the only way to change the situation is to leave it, entirely. forever. I am also sorry to say that when I left my ex after 13 years of abusive control, he moved on to the next one...she took her own life after 14 years due to the same treatment. He married again after that, with the roles reversed and his wife controlling him...he took his own life last year. The ones who suffer? the children. MY children, his children, who will never be the same because of all of this. Think about all of this *exhausted*. It is only meant to help you open your eyes, see your options, and ACT on them...for your sake, and your children. Hugs to you, as well. Your post brought back some very unpleasant memories for me. Good luck to you!!!
The coroner's head . . .
What's with Anna Nicole's coroner's head. Has anyone else noticed this? The left side of his head is just out of wack. Do you think he has craniosynostosis?
his head IS very very bizarre
I also noticed this. I have never seen anything like it in my life! It almost looks like part of his skull is gone. I kept staring yet didn't want to look, if you know what I mean!
Did you hit your head before or after fainting?
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When I got this flu, I did have a touch of the tummy trouble, but no fainting. But both sides of my neck were very sore to the touch. Must have been nodes, but weird that it was such large areas. I took Tamiflu, and the neck soreness went away, but I still had chills and exhaustion for 2 weeks.
my mom said same thing about wet head...
it's like if you spill the salt, it's bad luck....these are old *wives tales* perpetuated WAY_BACK_WHEN....a.k.a. superstitions for some of them...
don't walk under a ladder
don't let a black cat cross your path
swallow a watermelon pit and you grow a watermelon in tummy
swallow a piece of gum and it stays in your system for 7 years or clogs you up
(Most of them are ridiculous and a waste of time)....I have owned black cat(s), purposefully walked under ladders, spilled salt and think nothing of it, swallowed gum and/or small pits of fruits, and I'M STILL KICKIN.......and getting OLDER THAN DIRT *L*
you hit the nail on the head! Thank you for saying better than me. sm
He did not offer to pay for the car. When you are in marching band in high school you don't always have the luxury of working. He taught music lessons. That was enough for spending money not car payments. He has a scholarship but other than that I pay for everything.
We had a good talk this afternoon. I told him that there would come a time in the not too distant future when that trip would be allowed. However, I want a phone call before he leaves and one when he gets there. I want to know he made it safely. Honestly, I told him I was not mad about this and I understood that he wanted to see her, but lying is wrong. End of story. When I asked him if he was there I wouldn't have been near as upset if he had told me the truth but he kept digging his hole deeper and deeper.
I don't know what my husband is going to decide to do about the car. I asked him to consider leaving it. I told him I don't think my son will do it again. I told him that it is important that the girlfriend's parents like him and pulling crap like this is not going to endear them to him.
I put the idea in my husband's mind that maybe he could take a picture of the speedometer when he gets there tonight so that we know the milage. He is going to talk to him tonight. If he did that, he will still have local use of his car. I don't know. Everyone is pretty upset right now. Me, my husband, my son, his girlfriend, her parents.
I actually think that maybe he understand where I am coming from. I reminded him what if I got a phone call saying he was in an accident and severely hurt or worse and I think he is safe at school.
Wow - you hit the nail on the head - for me (sm)
"...hung onto the relationshipeve afer it was obviously not good for us. I think we just had to prove that we were good enough to be loved." That is exactly how I ended up in this marriage and exactly why I have been in it for so long. I was so determined to prove that I was good enough to be loved. Unfortunately, now there are children involved and I have to figure out what is best for them.
My mom always held my car over my head....
and it honestly just encouraged me to lie to her. My kids are younger, so God only knows what I'll do when they are teenagers, as I know that is a very hard time, but your son is in college now, and I think it is reasonable for him to want to drive to see his girlfriend on weekends. I was always a pretty honest kid with my mom, but losing my car was a big deal, so I did lie to her from time to time, because even though I felt bad lying it didn't feel as bad as losing my car would have!
Is your son maintaining good grades? If so, I wouldn't worry about his texting or how much he is talking to his girlfriend, because I honestly think that is his business and he will have to learn some hard lessons by messing up - not by having his mom tell him how life is all the time. Sometimes you have to learn that you can fall and pick yourself back up. If he is getting really bad grades, however, then of course you should step in because you don't want him messing up that scholarship! I'm already afraid for when my boys go off to college because I know how much many college kids drink and party and am afraid they will drink too much or something and get hurt, but if your son is just wanting to see his girlfriend then that might actually keep him from partying as much as other college kids. Are you just worried that he will get hurt on the drive to see her or something? Does he have a safe car?
I would say just be careful. If this girlfriend is really nice and he feels like you "messed up" his relationship with her in any way he might try to get back at you by dating a "lesser quality" girl or something. Good luck to you. I'm sure this is a difficult situation, but it's great he got a scholarship and is a good kid overall.
I eat different from hubs because I'm the veg head & he
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Like a head-on collision?
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Oh, I see a halo over the head
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Head or Heart
I followed my head, wish I would have followed my heart.
Get your head out of the sand! nm
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shower head
 I'm looking for a shower head that will help me get all the shampoo & conditioner out of my hair. I have one that allows me to adjust the settings and that helps. I think the problem is that I am so short that even with the high pressure it doesn't completely remove all the shampoo since I am so much farther down than the shower head. I want to get one of the removable ones but before I went and spent the money I was hoping for suggestions. Whenever I go to my hairstylist, my hair always feels so much better for a week or two after she rinses it with that high-pressure sprayer so close to my head. I'm sure her shampoo makes some diffference too, although I'm pretty sure it is just not being able to completely rinse my hair out that is causing me the frizzies. Thanks for any suggestions on a reasonablly priced shower head.
Where is John's head? (sm)
It's in his crotch.
OMG! - you have hit the nail on the head!
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Help me get that song out of my head! (sm)
Help! I can't get the song "Help Me Rhonda" out of my head now!! Too funny!! That may actually have to be one of the worst songs! LOL!
Very well-put. You hit the nail on the head.
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I think you hit the nail on the head.
I have also had a few more days to think about what the other posters said too. Whether I want to admit it or not, hormones do make the moment seem worse and make me want to snap into all or nothing.
You have some great ideas. I agree that she didn't need to get me a gift if she wasn't coming to the shower, and probably would have preferred that rather than get me a gift of the wrong gender. At any rate, I will send her a nice thank you and call her to see how her wedding went since I was not able to be there for the big day. I will also make mention to her that evening before I leave that I would still like to see her, if even for a few minutes. It's a male/female shower at a sports bar so if nothing else I would like to get to know her husband better.
I don't want this to ruin the small bit of friendship we still have left or my shower but she was honestly the only person I was really looking forward to being at my shower. but I must get over that and be greatful that we are still friends in some way.
I wish it had been drilled into my head
I went to spend the night with a friend (this was about 30 years ago) and I was molested by her father. It took me 2 years to tell my parents. Trust me, I had many talks with my kids when they were younger.
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