Its so weird, but this is common for these families
Posted By: Yup on 2006-12-21
In Reply to: I am in the same boat. I have no desire to go to my in laws for sm - Wow
with BPD members - when a new person comes along who is actually healthy emotionally, they are always "blamed" for everything. I wish I had more time to share some of this fascinating data, but I have to work...and there are probably those who aren't interested. When you experience these sick games for years, and then actually read the exact same stuff in medical/psychiatric journals, it is just mind blowing! You realize its NOT you and you're not imagining this stuff. Very enlightening. I wish you all the best.
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Prayers for both families
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Will work to let other MTs with families have day off.
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I come from one of those fighting families.
There have been many, but the defining event would have to be at my father's viewing when his own brother started a fight in front of the open casket. If it were a screenplay, it would have to be a comedy, because the reality of it was too painful to endure. Needless to say, I don't deal with my family unless I have to. I've had too many holidays ruined over the years, and when my children were small, I realized that their holidays would be ruined, as well, if I kept returning to these toxic family gatherings. Now we do things on our own, and life is much nicer. We don't have the Norman Rockwell gatherings of 20 or so people, but that's ok. Maybe some day when I'm a grandmother and great-grandmother, our healthy family will have grown to Norman Rockwell size, and then we'll have a family group that wants to spend time with each other. That is so much better than dreading family gatherings!
Suppose most of our families came from there
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Yes, it runs in my families I got it from
my mother. My mother had high blood pressure all her life and never took any medicaments against it. Some people just have high blood pressure and taking medicaments might even do more harm than good. My mother is very healthy and now in her 60s.
I, too, do not take any medicaments, none.
The bikers are the ones protecting the families
because of all these other rude people who decide that a funeral is a place to protest, whatever..They form a human/motorcycle barrier in between the protestors and the ones grieving.
My heart aches for the families
who will shortly be notified that their child/spouse/loved one will not becoming home. Too many senseless killings these days.
I can surely relate! Families can be so --sm
cruel sometimes. I really think that they don't even think about how their actions or lack thereof affect others sometimes, but we sure feel the hurt, don't we? Hugs to you!
Do you know any organizations that help families in need (one-time need) (sm)
these people need help just for one month getting their bills paid - what organizations are there that do this? I know they exist in Florida. I am now in NC and just trying to help these people find out where to go for help. Anyone have any ideas? It would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
How about ideas for siblings and their families? Here's one
I have three siblings, with spouses and children. Not only is it expensive to buy for all of them, but it's hard to know what to get. Last year I went to a craft store and bought cheap baskets on sale. I bought each of them a 2-month subscription to the movies that you get through the mail, NetFlix (can do Blockbuster if you want). I put the gift certificate in the basket along with the big boxes of candy that they sell at the show (.99 cents apiece at Walgreens), a few packets of microwave popcorn, and a 6-pack of their favorite soda. They loved it and everybody enjoyed the movies over the next couple of cold winter months. You can purchase the movie gift certificates on line at their website.
I guess we are one of those boring families, too...sm
We don't fight during the holidays, but then we really don't talk much either. My mom has Alzheimer and my brother just doesn't say much. I try to carry on a conversation, but it is hard to when you are met with silence.
just a liaison between the patient's and families...
and the nursing home, so if they are not addressing your needs, this is an appointed advocate--not employed by the nursing homes--whose job it is to address your concerns.
Our families are important to all of us, but we make it work sm
We fit it all in. Family, food, fun, and a litte work. It is not a really big hardship for most MTs.
Brown/Goldman families at odds now
it has been all over the news- Goldman wants the money, Brown family speaking out saying should not get, I think they consider it blood money. Never would have thunk that 1- huh, seemed so buddy-buddy at 1 time and now on the outs.
Definitely think it runs in families. Both parents, 1 sister
and I all have hypertension. I take 4 different meds with another one for p.r.n. use. My is pretty well controlled most of the time. The highest it got was 230/140.
St. Vincent de Paul helps families in any kind of need
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Hope you appreciate them -- the guys' families do care and do help. Hard to believe for some....
I am sure by posting that you care, but some just use and abuse and it's always about the maternal side of the family until they need something again. Congratulations for posting and giving the guy's fanily some credit for a change. We are humans, not just a bank. OMG let the flaming begin!!
Don't be a jerk. Most of us were lucky enough to be born into English speaking families.
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in families of SEAHORSES-males carry/give birth
Fran is right..Tends to run in families. If you are, dont bother with Synthroid..I went to Armour
thyroid and never looked back. I tried Synthroid for over a year and they could never get my thyroid back in..I struggled with cold intolerance, fatigue, dry skin, and the worse..weight gain..like 30 pounds and then a doctor put me on a more "natural" thyroid which was Armour. I got my energy back, lost weight etc..I would never use Synthroid or any other synthetic again. Be aware that a huge number of doctors dont like prescribing Armour but I insist that it's the only thing that works for me and they do prescribe it..Good luck to you..
Thanks. I guess what I am really asking is when do most families stop taking Summer vacation and
start getting ready for school opening.
We have something in common
you and I have the same ansswer for number 13. My daughter will be 18, how old is yours? Isn't that a really special thing, I love that her birthday is near Christmas.
These are very common...
most are bought earlier in life, but you are not a bad person. These are actually very interesting enhancements to an already "spicy" time. We enjoy these, not every night, but on occasion. They are a blast!
it is common --
when people take sleeping pills or narcotics, esp in combinations, they can wake up somewhat disoriented, forget what they've had, or believe they need more...and can result in accidental overdoses.
We have a lot in common when it comes to TV
Love Y&R and boy it is heating up right now. Really enjoy Ellen and am also a Foodie!!!! I never really watched Old Christine althought I think Julia Louis Dryfuss is incredibly talented. In the evenings I tend to watch reruns of Will and Grace, sex and the City, and then I do a 180 and also wathc The Andy Griffith Show. LOL!
it is common,
and a bother, but not usually a representing a problem (per my daughter vet).
It sounds like you sure do have a lot in common.
I believe everyone has a soul mate, in case that matters. Best wishes and have fun, fun, fun! 
Common questions that men ask
Questions that I've been commonly asked in the "dating world" since I'm single.
"Why arent you married"
"Do you want kids?"
"Why hasn't someone snatched you up"
"Do you date?"
or when the guy states...
"I'm a really nice guy"
"I'm a great catch"
"I've always been too busy to meet someone special until now"
Another thing..for some reason, I find divorced men who have kids living with their mother to be a turn off.
I feel that they made their families and now they are dating while the brunt of child care is now on their ex wife.
Maybe it's ignorant of me, I don't know. I really admire men who LIVE with their children or I'd prefer to date men who didnt have children at all.
I guess the purpose of this post is mostly a rant..anyone identify with any of this?
It is rude but common.
I guess you can assume the non-responders will not be coming but it is not uncommon for people that do not respond to show up anyway. If that happens, embarrass them loudly when they arrive! :) I found that including an email address on the invite helps, some people are just weird about calling, especially if it is to tell you that they can't make it.
welcome to my world...we have so much in common.
we have 14 kids in 6 houses on my street. all under age 10. the kids are all staying home all summer. i did put my 2 in summer school but its only 4 hours in the morning. we have been going through this for way too long. our rules are that my kids have to stay in my yard,,,they can have friends over, but they are not to get out of my sight. sick of having them bullied, and then myself bullied when their parents find out i have yelled at their kids....lol, i had a post a few days ago about my trashy neighbors and they bad kids...the topic went on for a while.... long story short...we are selling our house and getting out of here.
Common sense
I remember in 9th grade, back in the 1970s, we had to give a speech for English in front of the whole class. Mine was on first aid. I demonstrated several pretend procedures on a volunteer. Then my volunteer was suffering from a snake bite, so I was demonstrating the technique that was in vogue at the time, where a knife was used to cute the puncture wounds and so the poison could be sucked out. I pulled out my demonstration knife and my teacher suddenly came on camera to examine my knife. Not being a dummy, I had made a cardboard knife, colored the handle part black, and covered the blade in tin foil. In the back side I had taped a fine-tipped red pen. It looked real on camera as long as you held it the right way. That teacher didn't like me, and he spent a good 30 seconds examining the weapon, during my taped presentation, before he was satisfied he could not get me in trouble for it.
No, I was no dummy.
These must be common dreams
I have the same ones with my teeth falling out and I'm always dreaming of being in school either forgetting my combination or not been able to find my classroom.
A common effect...sm
According to the Ohio State University Extension, it is because there was excessive preheating--longer than 5 mins. I assume they mean while the tomatoes were being heated prior to being placed in the jar. From experience, it does not affect the taste. As long as the seal is tight, they should be fine. Just shake the jar before opening. Welcome to the wonderful world of canning! Did you get tomato bits on the ceiling like I do every year? 
Your husband and I have a lot in common sm
I have decorated my house on thriftstore and garage sale finds, ultra cheap sales or hand me downs. Far from being tacky or old, it is cozy, comfortable and inviting. People come in and don't want to leave.
I am a cheapskate and I admit! I love being the way I am. Now, of course, I have my exceptions, like owning $20K in sewing machines to practice my craft...
Sewing is NOT free and it is NOT cheaper, not all the time. The difference is that if I sew a coat I will have for 20 years (have one I have had for 16 right now) rather than 2 or 3 years. I can put better fabric into something that is important, or needs to wear a long time. I have a closet full of interfacing, zippers, rick rack, hem tape, thread, lace, ribbing, trims, ribbons, buckles and assorted junk. When I go to sew, I go in and pull out what I have that I can use and often I have everything I need. THAT saves some money if you don't mind storing 50 zippers for which you paid a dime each. I can also makes pants to fit my strange behind. There is a lot of joy in it for me too, or I probably would not mess with it.
Shoot, 20 years I ago I charged $22.50 an hour for my sewing skills. Your husband needs to wake up on that score. If I were your friend, I'd happily do his stuff...for my going rate of $30 an hour today! LOL he'd love that.
Use some common sense
Just as women have things they are uncomfortable with, weight, breasts, etc...men don't want an ugly uncircumsized penis, so get over it and do your boy a favor. Not to mention all the health reasons. Sheesh! My son or husband hardly remember the little skin at the top of their penis being taken off. Give me a break!
This is very common for men after this type of surgery....sm
I would see this a lot when I worked for a group of cardiovascular surgeons. Make an appointment for your husband & yourself with his surgeon so that they can first off assure him that this is normal. Some hospitals have post-CABG support groups and if your hospital has this, go as that will help him. Men especially have a hard time post-CABG because the male ego is "I can do anything and won't get sick" and it crushes their ego to have their heart become diseased. Continue to try to get him involved in things without nagging. The doctor may also place him on an antidepressant short-term if they feel it is indicated. Good luck!
Of course they're common! Now just show him how to use it so he can get
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I think that's probably a common and rational fear (sm)
I can't stand it and I imagine most people, especially females, but also males, don't like it either.
I heard the name Hogg is quite common in the
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The common date here in Oz is 1 December,
and then everything down on 6 January. I can't imagine not having a tree until Christmas Eve.
Most common sense folks on here would know that
some get all riled up when you start talking about moochers! Now, this lady is a plain out and out moocher. She now has 14 mooching babies, of course, through no fault of their own but their mother's greedy selfish ignorance.
I tried to have a rational discussion about moochers on welfare ther other day and for the life of me couldn't get one poster to get her mind wrapped around the fact that there are truly JUST moochers out there, who do not work, do not contribute to societ; they just take,take, take, and do nothing productive. She thought I knew nothing and that welfare was ONLY for those TRULY in need. This is exactly what I was talking about. I see it every day in my community, the baby making factories who refuse to work, sit on their butts, and have more babies, all paid for by the taxpayer. This is a perfect example.....same situation only she had 8 at one time instead of one by one until she finally got to 14.
Maybe the poster will get a picture of what moochers I was talking about and stop acting as if she were being targeted.
Since this lady is on disability, all her 14 children will also receive a monthly disability check. Now, multiply that times ALL the illegal babies here with all their illegal parents also getting assistance and you wonder why this country is going down the tubes and why California is going belly up?
Quite common terms in the South. We
call everyone something like that, whether we know them or not.
My point was that it was common for everyone else's kids...
to be there. The day before I left, one of the VPs was having a pizza party in the break room for her daughter and some friends...not even relatives.
Seizures are fairly common in Springers.
But what is the age of onset? Usually if age of onset is after 5 years, it is something other than epilepsy. But in a very young dog, it probably is epilepsy. A friend of mine has a Australian shepherd (named Major) that was having multiple grand mal seizures a day. Medicine helped, but what made a big difference for her was changing the dog's food to Canidae. Of course it's not in place of medication, but the dog went from multiple seizures a day before medication to 1 seizure a week with medication (may have had to add a second med, not sure), but then changing to Canidae improved him to 1 seizure in 6 months! She also has a Pembroke corgi (named Minor) who alerts them to each seizure before it hits their Australian shepherd.
She named her dogs Major and Minor - what a nut. :oD
It is very common in the south to keep your maiden name as your middle name. But, I sm
was talking about not taking your husband's name at all.
excellent common sense post!
So true! Great post!
my point is I would like people to be aware that it is common (sm)
so there is not such a stigma about it. I don't think it is as big a deal as people make of it.
Sadie, you either have no self-control, no common sense...
or you are just plain stupid.
I am confident but also overweight and I have the common sense
to not wear clothing that I look like a sausage in. I have upper arms that do not look good in short sleeves so I do not wear. I do not think it has anything to do with confidence, I definitely am not short on that and admire myself in good looking clothes but I know what and what does not fit properly. Any woman who likes her fat rolls showing, her midrift bulging and several different bellies hanging down all at once does not ooze confidence to me, rather seems like they are insecure and dressing so maybe someone might notice.
very common for anyone wanting a life, LOL! i have one and my DH is kinda jealous of me using it so
agree, sex toy parties are great fun and there are actually a lot of things for men there too for themselves or to use on you also. tell him he ought to be thankful it is a toy to enjoy and you are out playing the field, lol. but FYI, get a brief case and lock it up!!! i have had my kids find mine too and it was a double header so it was really, really embarrassing. DH bought it years ago and i only used one end but it was still great.
I live on the East Coast where this is extremely common
for "older" women to be having babies. As long as you're healthy, I don't see it should be a problem. I was WAY too young when I had my daughter (19) and really wish I would have waited until I was in my 30s. The biggest problem I see here with women in their 40s having babies is that a lot of them are so focused on their careers that they don't spend enough time with their kids. I would think 39 would be okay, but you really are greatly increasing your risk of complications/birth defects if you wait much longer.
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