It would depend on why they're still at home. sm
Posted By: TechSupport on 2009-03-25
In Reply to: Would you ever kick your kids out of your home? - ArlingtonMT
If there was no good reason for my son to remain at home, I'd sit down with him and give him a reasonable time line for finding his own place, and I'd tell him why I was doing so, for his own good. And, we'd help him with some up-front expenses in doing this if need be. "First month, last month and deposit", furniture, etc. can be an insurmountable barrier for a young person.
If he was staying home because he really did not yet have the financial resources to make it on a month-to-month basis aside from the initial costs, I wouldn't force him to leave, of course. But if this situation persisted, we'd have to talk about his plans for the future and whether he needed to think about a different line of work that would support him, and things like that. Then, if need be, we'd help him get the training or education needed to get that done.
On the other hand, if I thought that there was some other reason - perhaps something psychological, like lacking the confidence or maybe something even more serious - then we'd talk about getting him into some couseling to help him overcome the problem.
I probably seem like a soft marshmallow in describing these different approaches, but if a kid is staying home when he should be learning to fly, it seems to me the last big thing you might do for your kid is to provide whatever transition resources that will launch him on his way.
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Why not call him at home or mail a note to his house & let him know you're interested? Or see if
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Believe it or not, it really does depend
I've been married 13 years. I've caught my husband in about 3 lies during that time -- nothing major, nothing having to do with another woman. In 2 of those cases, I was angry that he lied. I can't even remember what he lied about, just that it was something stupid that he could have and should have just told me.
The third lie really hurt and for that reason I remember the situation. In the end, we worked it out and I haven't caught him in any more lies. That's not to say that I don't occasionally tell him a "white lie" about how much something costs.
I think it would depend on whether
he was truly remorseful, and if the betrayal killed my love for him.
It might depend on where you live, but ....
my husband never votes at all, anywhere for anything, and he has gotten more jury duty notices than I have, and has served on juries (I have not).
If you really want to know for sure, I would call the place that sent you the summons, and ask them.
would depend on what CD it is. and is your child 12 or 17?
i just bought my 13 yr old son a ps2 game that had some kind of warning on it, but he has already been playing it at his friends, just found that out...so i thought..whats the big deal..
It would probably depend on what info
I worked at the clerk's office and we were not supposed to look up arrest records for personal issues. We could walk out in the lobby and pay to have someone do a record search. Essentially, someone just had to be aware that we were doing it. I could've come home and looked up arrest records on anyone I wanted to online.
However, other info that is not considered public record, specifically driving records, SS#s, driver's license #s, etc., obviously we were not to look up unless it was needed for court. As I did mention above, it would probably be better for her to obtain the info on her own by going to the clerk's office or sheriff's office just to be safe!
well,that would depend on the climate. nm
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It does really depend on the child and I have been
told I am unfair. My 9yo daughter has to go to bed by 9:30 p.m. My 10yo son has to go to bed by 10:30 p.m. Now, naturally, she does not think it is fair BUT she needs more sleep to be able to be up by 6:30 a.m. My son is actually usually in bed before his bedtime and some nights even earlier than her bedtime. He has realized that some nights he needs more sleep than others. He is not difficult to get up. Then we have my lovely daughter who can just be a little "booger" to get up in the morning no matter what time she goes to bed :) All kids are different. Play around a little bit with it. Give them some leniency with it. See what works for you and of course him/her. Have a wonderful week!
i've had to depend
upon others awhile when i had several major injuries. You learn humility and appreciation. No one wants to be dependent upon others, but in reality, we are not as independent as we think, but dependent upon our God for our blessings.
don't want to depend and don't want Depends...nm.
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Restraining orders also depend on
the women who take them out. A lot of them still see the guy and let him back in the home. Mine worked well for me and if I told you about my ex and the things he did to me it would turn your stomach. A restraining order is at least a documented event that can work in her favor should her guy try to be Mr. Personality and make her out to be a loon. JMHO, but there is no way I would leave the home (and in my case I didn't). I madie it as difficult for him as possible without disrupting my life or my children's lives. I also got a gun and learned how to use it....
Depend on Hayseed to be up on the technical terminology!!
ROFLMAO 
Child support - must depend on state, my
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A lot will depend on size of baby & how your body accommodates birthing sm
My daughter was 5 lb 3.8 oz, and afterwards I thought Wow! That wasn't so bad, why does everyone say giving birth is so hard? Well, my son almost 4 years later was 7 lb 13.8 oz and had a 14-in head circumference. It was a difficult delivery to say the least, although I did not tear or need an episiotomy with either one. I do still have other lingering problems due to my son's birth even 8 years later, but I will deal with them for now. The pain afterward for me was worse from the tubal I had the next day than the delivery itself.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
I agree, though. It is sad that all this is coming out the way it is. I believe she was a good person...she just had a lot of problems, mainly drugs. What is really sad is that all of this is going to be seen by her daughter one day when she grows up.
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
Home sweet home.
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Home, Home, On The Range SM
where the beer and the cantaloupe play . . . where seldom is heard . . . .
What happens at home stays at home. (nm)
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She is home, by that I mean she is 1 mile from her home.
I am the one that moved away. My brother lives there, but she requires 24-hour nursing care right now, and he is unable to provide that for her. My son is graduating high school this year and I plan to move back to take care of her, but I just can't until then. I did tell the adminstrator that they have 24 hours to figure this out, and then we will bring in the police. I have also threatened to go to the media, and this facility has a very excellent reputation and is run by the Brethren Church, so I would think they might not want bad publicity. It is a pretty small town and this is one of only a couple of care homes in the area.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
It's Your Home
And I would keep the display just as it is. He had no right to come to your home and tell you to take it down.
Yes ~ I just got home...
They took it back with no problems and he even let me open the new one at the courtesy desk before I took it home. Looking back now, and don't ask me why I remember or even noticed, but you know how when they pass stuff over that little round magnet thing at the checkout to disable the security sensor inside, it kind of makes a little noise, kinda like a little "boing" sound? Well, when I did the exchange today, he passed the new ink over that circle and it made that noise and for some reason I remember the other one didn't make that noise when I bought it. Now, I know why.
Like I said, don't ask why I would remember something like that. My head is so full of useless stuff like that it's a wonder I can do my job!
Where is Home?
I'm not talking about where you live now, either. I'm missing my "home" today, and I'd like to know, where is "home" to you? Do you ever miss it? Will you be heading "home" for the holidays?
All the guy can go home now
- not good with names but the black woman who sang a Whitney song and the black woman who is really shy - Either one of those 2 will me our next American Idol! Remember where you heard it first!
Yes, now way down here. Sometimes I want to go home so bad.
But I don't want to shovel, so I guess I'll stay here! Maybe I'll go back when if my son decides to go to the U of M. Go Gophers!
Not really, did it hit home with you or
sound like your situation? I wrote as overall but if the shoe fits, so to say....If I have major issues, have not really found them yet so don't know where you are coming from, makes no sense to me but guess to you it does. My hubby has eyes for me and that is all that counts here.
home is everywhere and no where :)
i grew up in 1 place, but have moved many many times now...traveled with the racehorses, married a racerider and keep looking for greener pastures i guess!
19 and at home!
My 19 yo boy lives at home trying to get through college, and yes they think they own the world at that age. But rules are you live here you follow and respect the guidelines. Our boy broke some other rules agreed upon and now his curfew is 12 am Mond-Sund. You can't spank the kids, but making life just a bit difficult works well. If he decides he does not need to follow that curfew then he was told he can start supporting himself (HA! That wouldn't last).
If you ran away from home.....
where would you go?
This is probably it for us unless we get put in a home
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Thanks! He is home already!
He is obviously in a lot of pain. The car trip home was rough. I sat in the back with him, trying to help him. I should have thought to put a dog bed back there, but I didn't. He is lying with his tush on a dog bed and his head wedged up under my chair, breathing fast and shallow, trying not to cause himself any pain. He still has a chest tube in, and we couldn't get him to lie down with the chest tube up, so it's underneath him. It's also time for a pain pill, so I'm going to have to wake him up for that, poor baby.
If I have the nerve I'm supposed to try to get more air out through the stopcock. I can't do it if he's going to lie on that side though.
My son used to come home
drenched in cologne that he kept in his car. Like that wasn't a give away. Now that he's 20, he just comes in smelling like a smoker. Yuck. The only adult he is around who smokes is my father and when he found out that my son was smoking, he tried so hard to quit. Now, my DD has also started smoking. She had asthma as a child and is on the BC pill, but she knows EVERYTHING, so there's no talking to her.
WELCOME HOME!!
WELCOME HOME CEDRIC! I hope you'll be very happy with Misha and her family!
God bless !!
Jan
Is your new job another at-home job with a - sm
nationl, or did you find an inhouse job? I'm in your same situation, except that my bills are current. Still, that leaves $0 for emergencies, car repairs, and a pittance for food.
After searching high & low, it appears that it just isn't going to be possible to find an at-home job that pays more than about 9 cpl, and unless I want to spend my waking hours doing nothing but working, and STILL be in the poorhouse, I just can't afford it anymore. For some reason the few inhouse jobs that are left pay by the hour, and have far better benefits.
So, my New Year's resolution is to get out there and find a better job. It was great working from home, but I want to get back to having a life again.
Well, you must be at my home 24/7, right
I talk with her all the time- I offered the washer and dryer because I have the money to do so, just recently updated my dishwasher, offered mine for hers and my husband I went over and he installed for her. We have offered many times to assist with things around her home, this is not new- she makes less than us, my husband can fix things and he will for her, she has a new home so we are available. We give time and love- just speaking with a hospice patient long distance sorta overrides other things at that point.
Who goes home
There's some speculation that nobody will go home since it's American Idol Give Back week (isn't that what happened last year)? But if someone goes home, I think it will be Carly or Syesha. The one I really think should go is Kristy Lee Cook. I really don't believe she's in the same league as the rest.
Have you seen my car or home?
I do not believe so. I would love for you to see the ex-spouse's lifestyle though.
Home
Western Colorado. In a flash!
Don't think its home alone as much as
having something to do...atleast for my hubs. I work at home so I'm almost always here but he can't stand to stay home most days. He has to be running somewhere for something. Drives me nuts! I always have a list of things to do around the house. It is never ending.
How often is she at your home?...sm
Maybe if you could just try to hang in there for the time she is there. How is it when she is not there? Do you guys get along, does he spend time with you? It sounds like she is a spoiled brat. You have obviously done the right thing letting him know how you feel but why don't you try just ignoring them and doing your own thing when she is there and see if he likes being ignored or pushed to the side. Her banging the door and cryng when it is shut is ridiculous. He should not allow her to be so spoiled. If they wanted to go places and not include you more power to them. Less time you have to be around the little brat. Look at it like that. LOL. He should not allow her to call you "she." That is disrespectful to you. You have a name. I don't have this problem. Don't have any stepchildren. The only advice I can give is give them all the time they want. Ignore them if that is the way he wants to play it. If he says something about you ignoring them or not being socialable say oh I thought that is what you wanted since you don't include me in anything. I would just do my own thing and let him do his with the little darling.
Home Ec
We still have it at our Jr. High School, the boys and the girls both have to take a half semester of it.
Yes, this is his home too
and for me keeping the cat mainly outside that comes in occasionally is an okay compromise. It took both are hard-earned money to buy this house and keep it up.
Like another poster said, we are overpopulated with cats. They are getting dumped and the mama cats are having babies left and right. I am getting mine fixed because of this. I found a home for 2 of the babies but I need to find 2 more homes.
Not sure who is going home, but
I absolutely loved Danny last night.
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