It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
Posted By: just me on 2009-04-27
In Reply to: Why do some men - MSMT
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
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you can't be really sure that is what she would have wanted. When my cat died, many years ago, she went away to be by herself when she died. We had to look for her to find her. Some animals just prefer to be alone. You spent time with her before she died, and then you made her comfortable. Perhaps it was easier for her to "leave" if you weren't there with her. I am so sorry for your loss.
the underlying read-between-the-lines message of the insurance lobbyist's message was (sm)
to, yes, appeal the denied claim. However, she lobbies for the insurance companies. She comes across sounding like she's on the patient's side but in reality she is on the side of the insurance company. The insurance company gets to deny whatever claims they want right off the bat. That leaves the SICK patient (who needs the coverage NOW when they are sick) to have to go through the appeals process. That could take quite a while. Imagine a cancer patient being denied some form of treatment that is going to help them. They now have to go through the appeals process (or pay out of pocket) in order for that treatment to be covered. In the MEANTIME their cancer is progressing. From the point of view of the insurance company, if they drag it out long enough they don't have to pay for it at all. That same insurance lobbyist was on 20/20 a little while back and basically came right out and said that the insurance companies COULDN'T AFFORD to pay for coverage for sick people. She's not on the patient's side.
I do not even have to have a ring but
when my hubby and I married in Las Vegas in 2000 (I had been married before, he hadn't), I had to let him know the minister would ask for a ring and therefore on the way to get married he and I stop in a shop and got a simple gold band for me (I didn't want him to feel embarrased at not having anything when asked) and you know what, I would not take anything for the marriage I have. We have been married 7 years now and I adore him. If you love him enough to marry him, you could care less really about a ring to impress. That is what your post sounds like to me. So many important things about a marriage and a ring is not high up there.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
Yes he is - and he deserves a ring!
I am a New Englander and now very well liked right now as I was rooting for Peyton (hate greedy people - LOL)!
anyway - what a great game - glad I'm still alive after cheering for Peyton!
what do you think about choosing your own ring
My boyfriend who wants to eventually get married hates the fact that I want to choose my own ring. I also don't want a proposal like finding it in my baked potato or something. I'd like to be able to say this is the ring I want, buy it and when ready give it to me at a dinner with our parents or something like that. he is having a fit. and trying to make me feel like I'm nuts. Anything wrong with being able to choose your ring?
ring advice
My hubbie to be took me to a nice jeweler locally to have me sized (my finger that is) and I took the opportunity to talk to him about the rings that were displayed and why I like or disliked them. I like very simple (but elegant) jewelry. My hubbie listened and when my ring was presented to me I was shocked and elated as well as surprised. He had taken the info I had given him and had designed a ring for me that was practical yet gorgeous and I LOVED it.
So given him a litte guidance and let him do it his way you may be pleasantly surprised.
Note: I became pregnant with my first child and took my beautiful ring off and put it in my wallet and it somehow got lost. I still to this day weep whenever I think of my ring and he is working on replacing my ring and as much as I look forward to having a ring on my finger again however no ring will ever replace that ring in my heart or on my hand.
Give your hubbie a chance if you cann't trust him with picking out a ring can you trust him with your heart?????
Maybe get the ring stretched and
then coat the inside with clear nail polish.
Definitely Ring My Bell.....
it just goes on and on and on
Does this story ring true for you?
Talked to the mom of one of my daughter's friends on the way home from work yesterday. She told me her husband is going to federal prison for 8 years because he recieved some child porn via e-mail (didn't say who/where from) and reported the e-mails to his ISP. She says the ISP reported it to the FBI, and the FBI never tried to trace the e-mails back to the originator but arrested and prosecuted her husband for them being in his possession.
I've decided not to let my daughter go to their house again. The little girl is welcome at my house, but even if the story above is mostly true, what prompted him to be getting those type of e-mails and why is he even opening them? Would like to know if other moms agree or I am going overboard?
No, But I Only Wear an Engagement Ring....
It's not the biggest diamond in the world so it doesn't bother me. The whole "bare wrists" is another story, however.
The ring is symbolic of a union.
If you can't even agree on who should pick out the ring, you may want to rethink your union with this gent. There are going to be so many issues that will arise in your marriage that will need you to come together and make a decision. It starts now though. Some food for thought. I would rethink the whole reason for wanting to "get the ring". I would not focus too much on who picks it out. You may want to see a marriage counselor beforehand to see if you two are the "right fit". It doesn't sound too good starting out a union in this manner. JMO. Good luck.
Some questions for you--it may ring a bell
Do you get headaches when this happens? How long do these sweats last for and how often do you get them? What's your BP normally?
I have a reason for asking, I promise.
Another possibility is ring worm. (nm)
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And didn't propose but gave a ring...nm
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I picked out my ring and absolutely regret it!
I really wish I would have had him do it all and we would have just slowed down. I love my husband to pieces, but it would have been nice to have a proposal and a surprise to see my ring for the first time. We kind of just agreed to get married and then went ring shopping together, but now I wish there had been more romance involved. Just let the boy pick it out - If he knows you well enough like he should if you plan on marrying him, then he'll surely pick out something you like.
Ginger Quince here..kinda has a ring to it!
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A wedding ring doesn't matter. Either
the guy is true to his wife and family or not, wearing a ring does not make a difference.
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
A mother ring with my 3 children's birth stones:-)..nm
 - My husband is good to me!
I agree with that along with loud obnoxious ring tones.
Does "thou shalt not kill" ring any bells?
God created marriage for sex to be a blessing that would bring people together and create families, not sex outside of marriage so that babies could be optional.
My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring
or any jewelry for that matter. He's allergic to gold and can't even wear a watch. I suppose he could wear silver, but to me it's no big deal. He will wear it on special occasions but his hands swell up. I also know some men who don't wear it when they're at work if they run machinery, ect where it could get caught and get their fingers ripped off.
PJ wearing
How many of us stay in our PJs all day?
Ive been at home now for about 5 or 6 years - I cannot seem to break this bad habit of mine!! I think it is beginning to wear on me. I miss "having to" buy new clothes and looking nice everyday...now, I cannot seem to find a "good" reason to get fixed up for the day home by myself!!!
Anyone else go through this!!!
PJ Wearing!
Almost every day unless I have an appointment of some type! No makeup and hair in a ponytail! It does feel good, though, I have to admit to "fix up" every once in a while and sometimes I do miss it but not enough to put forth the energy most days.
Maybe you shouldn't take any.
Curious as to why you listed biracial up there. What does that have to do with anything?
It doesn't sound like you really want any of them. Maybe foster care where someone wants to take of them would be a better place.
so therefore, i shouldn't have this cat and should get right of it
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I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
I have been wearing them for years and
was told by orthopedic guy to wear those or Clarks and I have worn and love them. These last ones I got have killed my feet though and I have a problem on the outer side of the foot hurting. I looked up the Crocs someone suggested and those looked pretty comfortable, might try those. Might have touch of peripheral neuropathy, never know when the feet are going or not. Thanks
Has anyone heard of a 5 yo, nearly 6 yo wearing a bra
bra. She wants a bra. She has been asking me for one for weeks and she won't let up. There were bras hanging in the kid clothes section at Wal-Mart and she begged and begged for one then but I said no. She is not developing at all but she claims some of her fellow kindergarteners are wearing them. What are other mother's doing. Is this a new trend? I don't know. When I was 5 I never heard of a bra.
Wearing Bras
Yes, I just for the first time this year bought bras for my daughter. She seemed okay with it, but she's slightly overweight, so I felt this would be easier than buying T-shirts that are not long enough to tuck in. So, we went with the Sport Type kind that she seemed to like at first, and now I've noticed she's not wearing them. So, I asked her why, and she says she just forgets, which is highly possible, since it's only been since school started. I just feel better knowing she's wearing something, but of course, she was wearing T-shirts. So, what is one to do? I really do not see any harm in the bra. I am totally against having little girls dress beyond their age, but we're talking underclothes here, so if the child is comfortable, then just try one to see how she likes it. My daughter was kind of embarassed as it was actually my idea since I felt she needed something under her regular shirts, since they tend to be thin and unforgiving in her situation. Good luck to you, but I in no way, shape, or form believe that bra at 5 means thing at 10 and even if it does, so be it. I think a person has a right to a certain degree to wear the underclothes of their choice if any at all! 
I just think there could be worse things that she is asking for at 5.
They may wonder what you're wearing!!!
 or what we're drinking  , but who cares! AHHH, the luxury of working from home! I can wear or NOT WEAR whatever I want. That's all part of the biz!!! On the norm, I have to go out and pick-up tapes, so I'm with the post above. Shower mid morning after getting hubby and kids off to school so I can do it in peace, and then if not going out, maybe sweats and if going out, then jeans/shirt. Boy, do I save a lot on WORK CLOTHES!!! To poster above, I am taken very seriously!! I make loadz of money!!! They take me very seriously when I'm making my deposits at the bank. 
Today I'm wearing
Obsession for Women.
I like a mixture, keeps me from wearing out. NM
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And I see nothing wrong with a guy wearing a bro.
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Yep. Sweating while wearing
something that has nickel in it...it is a chemical reaction.
It sucks big time. I had a BF years ago who gave me this really pretty bracelet that was gold plated. I wore it and it put a welt on my wrist. It was painful even.
I cannot even handle the button on my jeans. I have to make sure I have undies that go that high or tuck my shirt in, it is that bad. Once I had a pair of sandals and I was allergic to the buckle. That was awful too.
They shouldn't be treated the same
A 15yo and an 8yo should not be treated equally anyway. If the 15yo wants what the 8yo wants, tell him/her they can have the same bedtime, curfew, privileges etc. if they want everything to be fair.
You're right. I shouldn't
tell him it will be a long time before I die. I was just trying to comfort him. We have also talked about how everybody will die when God decides it is their time. We are regular church members. He has been raised in church and knows all that, I guess it's just now really sinking in. My husband will take care of my kids if I die. As far as if we both die, we have that taken care of also. We were married 18 years before we had them. They are definitely God's little miracles to us! I'm sorry for your loss, but you're right; you will see him again someday and I'm sure he has never left your heart! God Bless you and thank you for your kind advice.
Shouldn't I have a better self-definition by now?? sm
I am up early, not sure if this will interest anyone, but want to sort of wonder "out loud" on here for a moment. I am 40 years old, yet I still am ambivalent about my religious beliefs, my political beliefs, etc. I find myself not being steadfast either way...I don't know if that means I don't yet know who I am (though by now you would think I should!) or if that means that I am just always going to be a flexible thinker? I sometimes read posts on the liberal board and the conservative board and I can always see both points of view and find ways that I feel they are both right and sometimes both wrong so I never lean to far to either side. I grew up going to a Christian church and I believe in the general overall beliefs of Christians, but then I don't discredit other religions that others grew up with either. And I don't necessarily agree with everything that most mainstream Christians believe. Does all of this mean I am ignorant? Or is it ignorant to be too closed-minded to believe that others also have valid points of view, that I don't always have to be right, and that there is more than one way to be "right"? So sometimes I feel "undefined" and wonder how I can ever define myself...then other times I think I have defined myself exactly as I want to be. Does anyone else feel "undefined"? and is it a good thing or a bad thing?
What amazes me, though it probably shouldn't
is the number of people on this thread bashing someone for doing things right, when anon up above just suggests the OP file bankruptcy. What's wrong with you people? You think it's okay to just turn your back on the mess you've created? Not one of you commented on that poster's suggestion, yet you waste your time bashing someone who does have their act together. I would rather have PhillyChick in my corner anyday over anyone who thinks it's okay to just rack up debt and walk away. You people need to get your heads checked.
Before you say it, this has nothing to do with whether the OP has extenuating circumstances or not. The OP wasn't even asking about bankruptcy. The OP was asking for suggestions on how to pay things back, and for that, I applaud her.
well it shouldn't be. She should at least get to get a second opinion (sm)
I think she is being diagnosed to easily with something that can stay on her medical record and that is so unfair.
Maybe because no one has said to them they SHOULDN'T wear it...
nothing uglier than muffin top under too tight shirts, fat thighs in too tight jeans, sucking down an soda and eating a burger. Some people need to look in a mirror, or better yet, shop at a real department store, spend some money on good quality clothing, stop trying to dress like a teenager, and bring along a friend who will tell you how you REALLY look in the clothes you try on.
I am wearing white socks
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Wearing panties sure does not make
my feeling of security. Under PJs?? You don’t sleep with a teddy bear still, do you?
Have you tried wearing Crocs? I love them! nm
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Yeah my DD just turned 9 and has been wearing 5s - sm
now for a few months. I wear a 7 and can actually squeeze into her a a pair of her open-ended sandels. She has always been in the 95th percentile for height and weight, but is slowing down some, now at about 88%.
If they are wearing bras at 5, it will be thongs at 10
makeup at 12, and birth control pills at 14. How about these unbelievable salon parties some of these mothers are doing for their 8 and 10 year old girls; taking all the girls to the salon to have the hair and makeup and nails done. Today, just about everyone is a ''wannabe''. I want to be rich; I want to be beautiful; I want to be famous; I want to have big boobs; I want perfect teeth. I want a nose job. I want to be thin. I want a designer handbag. I want a cell phone, an IPOD and a blackberry! Why, because everyone that matters is or does! Everyone they look up to. Everyone on TV! That is all they know.
Ask a group of very young girls today what they want to be when they grow up and see how many say, a singer, an actress, a movie star or just plain rich and famous in any way possible! It's terribly sad what this world has turned into. And some parents are just as bad because they want this for their children, also.
TV and media magazines should be banned; it's not only destroying the kids but adults also. How many of you feel your self-esteem lowering more and more by seeing all of this stuff? How many of you have contemplated plastic surgery, veneers, teeth whitening, losing weight, especially in the last ten years? How many of you suddenly are feeling bad or envious of others because you don't have that big gorgeous home or that expensive great car?
It's a horrible world we now live in and that's why I am not having children.
And don't tell me I don't know about children because I have two nieces and a nephew that I practically raised.
Good day ;)
I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
Is anybody wearing green today?
 I forgot, but when my kid tried to pinch me (oh brother), we realized I had a green coffee cup and some green lines in my shirt. HA. So, do you care about this green stuff? Frankly I care about the green in my wallet, so I am typing more than thinking about green beer today. LOL. Happy St. Patty's Day! (green face icon)
About the same time he starts wearing a bra . . . NM
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wearing your heart on your sleeve
I too have spent too much time thinking about this. From your post, your description of your daughter's intelligence and your own dismay at the rudeness of these people, I can only come to one conclusion.....You are hanging around people less intelligent than you are. Not figuratively, but IQ. You are sensitive, they are obtuse.
However, I have also discovered that the people who use a simple "hello" as currency to give or take away, are broke. The worst snobs in my neighborhood are broke and don't want anyone to know. They try to hide their financial status, but you don't so you are scary.
I have been treated the worst by the mean and stupid. Think about what a breath of fresh air your daughter is to that little boy. I am glad you went to the party.
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