It seems highly unlikely to me sm
Posted By: april on 2007-02-12
In Reply to: Been to counselling - Exhausted.
that this guy is capable of change. And the best thing you can possibly do is think about your girls and what you want for them, how you want their childhood to be, and how you can avoid further trauma to their psyche. This type of dysfuction is devastating to them and will, if left unchecked, eventually lead to them seeking out dysfunctional relationships in the future. Children learn what they live and have no reason to believe that this family dynamic is not normal. It certainly is not healthy for them. As you filter through advice that you are given and make decisions about how you will deal with this, ALWAYS make your girls the first and foremost consideration and make all decisions with their best interest in mind.
Exhausted, I wish you and your girls the best. I also have a 16 MO daughter and cannot imagine my DH acting this way. Sure, he doesn't LIKE to change poopy diapers, nobody does, but he will do it if she needs it. He will do anything for her.
As their mother, you are their most important role model. If you continue to be his doormat, you can be sure that they will just the same later in life. You have to show them that this type of life is unacceptable and that you always consider their needs and emotional health to be your first priority, always.
HUGS!
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Had it for a colonoscopy. At one point, I remember saying, "Oh!" - must have felt something, but I don't remember. I asked about it as soon as I woke up, and they said that was the point they gave me a little more. Honestly, I felt nothing and felt great after. Maybe they had a hard time intubating the colon on yours - you know, sometimes there are twists and turns. They could have had to maneuver your position quite a bit, but I do think that nurse's statement was not very professional.
First of all - would highly recommend
a sound machine such as those sold by Radio Shack - or a CD of white noise - more energy efficient than a fan running constantly and much warmer in the winter!! I use my constantly!! We hung pieces of white board from tiny nails over 3 of the windows in our den to block the light from the TV screen - especially useful in the summer... they have warped a tiny bit and we probably should have made them a little bit wider but they work - they are not unattractive - could easily be covered with a fabric to match the room if I so desired - and are light-weight so they come off very easily and I drop them behind the couch when not in use.... we have three narrow windows going across.... you can get this wood cut in any size and could work out something on the sides and bottoms - some kind of lever thing to tighten them down - we just have done nothing but hang from two tiny nails at the top as that is all we needed - but covering them with fabric might just be what I do soon!!
Highly recommend them.
They don't make the food tasteless, but I usually marinate the chicken/pork/steak that I grill for flavor.
They are highly rated, and I just got some, but
my sister claims that Avon has a product that actually has higher amounts of the same active ingredients and is supposedly better. I don't know which is better, but I know that some of the highest priced products don't rate well at all.
highly recommend... sm
Had it done a few years ago. My cousin is going through menopause at early age and just saw doc today... she is going to have a saline infusion-type ablation, which is done in the office. I had mine done under anesthesia, but very quick and painless afterward. If I have again before proceeding to hysterectomy, will see about the saline kind done in office.
I highly doubt it
I have no clue how that is even possible. I really don't think that you can. You might want to ask Verizon, though.
I highly recommend pet insurance - sm
Please, everyone with a pet of any kind, consider it. It can be a lifesaver (literally!), and I personally like the peace of mind it gives me, whether I ever need to file a claim or not. Try Veterinary Pet Insurance: http://www.petinsurance.com/
There are other companies too, but this is the only one we've used. It saved us a small fortune when our Rottie got bone cancer in his front leg at just 4-1/2 years old. After the diagnosis, we got a CT scan (same machine they use for people - $$$) to make sure it hadn't spread. It hadn't, so we went ahead and amputated the leg (also not so inexpensive). He felt great, was out of pain, adapted easily to 3 legs and was his old, happy self. But just 6 months later the cancer was back, and we had to let him go. Poor baby. It all ended up costing about $2000.00, and we were reimbursed about $1200.00 from the insurance, so it was a big help.
I think we just had their basic policy too, not the more expensive one (that would've reimbursed more), but I don't remember. I think we paid around $300.00 a year for him (including an optional $99 routine care coverage addition to the policy). The cost depends on the age and breed of the animal, and you can make monthly payments or pay all at once. They insure all kinds of animals too, not just dogs and cats.
We have VPI for our 2 youngest dogs (2 y/o Rottie and 5 y/o husky mix). Personally, we will never be w/o it again on any of our dogs. It's just such a relief to know you have it. VPI also has a routine care plan you can add on to the policy (or not) that reimburses part of your yearly costs for shots, spay/neuter, teeth cleaning, flea/tick products, and heart worm meds, and we like having that.
My oldest dog, my baby, is Wiley, a 12 y/o Siberian Husky. Much to my regret, I didn't get insurance for him when he was younger. Now it's too expensive (and they don't cover preexisting conditions). Same with my senior Siberian, Alexx, who died earlier this year - I didn't have insurance for her because it's too expensive when they're seniors (if they'll even cover you then). So I'll be paying off credit card bills for Alexx (who was very healthy until the last year or so) and Wiley (mostly Wiley) for yeeeeeaaarrrs to come.
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I highly doubt you'll get someone to do all of that for
Housekeepers actually make more like 60-75 dollars a visit. You may get someone who is just looking for some pin money to do what you're asking, but I'm sure they'll want more than 15 dollars. 
That one is highly unlikely! LOL! He doesn't believe in germs! LOL!
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I think you post is HIGHLY unlikely to happen because (sm)
I read people well, and what I read in the mother's post is proof positive that she is a very loving mother. Her daughter is going thru normal teen behavior.
May I ask you; do you have children? Because if you don't, you have no idea what you are speaking about. Only parents can TRULY understand this situation.
Mom: This pic is for you. It represents serenity and faith that ALL will be fine. My thoughts are sincerely with you during this trying time, but please trust me, it WILL pass.
Smart how? This was Oct of last year. I highly doubt SIL sm
is at any risk at all.
I understand the whole quarantine thing, but this is taking it too far. I'm sure this guy has had tons of clients. It just does not sound prudent to have to quarantine each and every client. Sounds absurd.
I am nearly as bad as he sounds as far as having highly sensitive skin -
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That Bach stuff is highly recommended...
for horses as well! They sell it in almost every tack store and catalog I can think of--I never knew it was for people too! What a riot!
Odo Ban - I highly suggest it. The smell is terrific. sm
especially if you have animals, etc. My friend gave me hers as she bought it from Sam's Club and I love it. You get a gallon jug and then a sprayer. It's an all-in-cleaning. She even puts it in her towels when washing. I just am very pleased with the smell. Just a little suggestion if you are having guests this holiday season!
Highly recommend the movie "Bordertown"
JLo and Antonio Banderas. You will be moved and inspired to act. HIGHLY recommend.
Live in Georgia and highly support it
If this had been the case with octomom the people would never have to support her litter.
Parvo is highly contagious for months -
She will be contagious for months and she has already infected the yard where we live. I did not do anything wrong - she contracted this virus when we took her to the vet's office last week for her first set of shots.
I just don't see what exactly they are doing if she is not vomiting, has never developed diarrhea, and she is eating on her own. It does not seem to me like they are doing very much except charging me money to keep her!
Parvo is highly contagious for months -
She will be contagious for months and she has already infected the yard where we live. I did not do anything wrong - she contracted this virus when we took her to the vet's office last week for her first set of shots.
I just don't see what exactly they are doing if she is not vomiting, has never developed diarrhea, and she is eating on her own. It does not seem to me like they are doing very much except charging me money to keep her!
I highly recommend Lane and Ethan Allen - sm
We have a Ethan Allen BR set, very good quality, about $3500 for a King bed, dresser, mirror and men's dresser/cabinet. I have my mom's old Lane loveseat and recliner, they are about 12 years old and still look and feel brand new. My mom used the recliner every day, the loveseat was used less often. They were not cheap but certainly worth it, cannot remember exactly what she spent, I would think about $1500 at least on those 2 pieces (she also bought a sectional and recliner of the same pattern for another room at the same time which my dad still has and still looks great too). Stuff like Haynes and The Dump just don't seem to last (I have friends with furniture from there). Have fun shopping!
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