It might depend on where you live, but ....
Posted By: deb on 2006-12-20
In Reply to: Can someone settle this question between my husband and I? - missyMT
my husband never votes at all, anywhere for anything, and he has gotten more jury duty notices than I have, and has served on juries (I have not).
If you really want to know for sure, I would call the place that sent you the summons, and ask them.
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Believe it or not, it really does depend
I've been married 13 years. I've caught my husband in about 3 lies during that time -- nothing major, nothing having to do with another woman. In 2 of those cases, I was angry that he lied. I can't even remember what he lied about, just that it was something stupid that he could have and should have just told me.
The third lie really hurt and for that reason I remember the situation. In the end, we worked it out and I haven't caught him in any more lies. That's not to say that I don't occasionally tell him a "white lie" about how much something costs.
I think it would depend on whether
he was truly remorseful, and if the betrayal killed my love for him.
would depend on what CD it is. and is your child 12 or 17?
i just bought my 13 yr old son a ps2 game that had some kind of warning on it, but he has already been playing it at his friends, just found that out...so i thought..whats the big deal..
It would probably depend on what info
I worked at the clerk's office and we were not supposed to look up arrest records for personal issues. We could walk out in the lobby and pay to have someone do a record search. Essentially, someone just had to be aware that we were doing it. I could've come home and looked up arrest records on anyone I wanted to online.
However, other info that is not considered public record, specifically driving records, SS#s, driver's license #s, etc., obviously we were not to look up unless it was needed for court. As I did mention above, it would probably be better for her to obtain the info on her own by going to the clerk's office or sheriff's office just to be safe!
well,that would depend on the climate. nm
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It does really depend on the child and I have been
told I am unfair. My 9yo daughter has to go to bed by 9:30 p.m. My 10yo son has to go to bed by 10:30 p.m. Now, naturally, she does not think it is fair BUT she needs more sleep to be able to be up by 6:30 a.m. My son is actually usually in bed before his bedtime and some nights even earlier than her bedtime. He has realized that some nights he needs more sleep than others. He is not difficult to get up. Then we have my lovely daughter who can just be a little "booger" to get up in the morning no matter what time she goes to bed :) All kids are different. Play around a little bit with it. Give them some leniency with it. See what works for you and of course him/her. Have a wonderful week!
i've had to depend
upon others awhile when i had several major injuries. You learn humility and appreciation. No one wants to be dependent upon others, but in reality, we are not as independent as we think, but dependent upon our God for our blessings.
don't want to depend and don't want Depends...nm.
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Restraining orders also depend on
the women who take them out. A lot of them still see the guy and let him back in the home. Mine worked well for me and if I told you about my ex and the things he did to me it would turn your stomach. A restraining order is at least a documented event that can work in her favor should her guy try to be Mr. Personality and make her out to be a loon. JMHO, but there is no way I would leave the home (and in my case I didn't). I madie it as difficult for him as possible without disrupting my life or my children's lives. I also got a gun and learned how to use it....
It would depend on why they're still at home. sm
If there was no good reason for my son to remain at home, I'd sit down with him and give him a reasonable time line for finding his own place, and I'd tell him why I was doing so, for his own good. And, we'd help him with some up-front expenses in doing this if need be. "First month, last month and deposit", furniture, etc. can be an insurmountable barrier for a young person.
If he was staying home because he really did not yet have the financial resources to make it on a month-to-month basis aside from the initial costs, I wouldn't force him to leave, of course. But if this situation persisted, we'd have to talk about his plans for the future and whether he needed to think about a different line of work that would support him, and things like that. Then, if need be, we'd help him get the training or education needed to get that done.
On the other hand, if I thought that there was some other reason - perhaps something psychological, like lacking the confidence or maybe something even more serious - then we'd talk about getting him into some couseling to help him overcome the problem.
I probably seem like a soft marshmallow in describing these different approaches, but if a kid is staying home when he should be learning to fly, it seems to me the last big thing you might do for your kid is to provide whatever transition resources that will launch him on his way.
Depend on Hayseed to be up on the technical terminology!!
ROFLMAO 
Child support - must depend on state, my
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A lot will depend on size of baby & how your body accommodates birthing sm
My daughter was 5 lb 3.8 oz, and afterwards I thought Wow! That wasn't so bad, why does everyone say giving birth is so hard? Well, my son almost 4 years later was 7 lb 13.8 oz and had a 14-in head circumference. It was a difficult delivery to say the least, although I did not tear or need an episiotomy with either one. I do still have other lingering problems due to my son's birth even 8 years later, but I will deal with them for now. The pain afterward for me was worse from the tubal I had the next day than the delivery itself.
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
Where do you live?? I live in Atlanta
and have been to the symphony here and definitely no hats- you can never go wrong with black dress/slacks. I like to dress a little more for this but the rules are definitely not prim and proper here.
I come from the old school, but live and let live - sm
Well, I tried "cohabitating" with a boyfriend when I was 22. We dated for a year, and 3 weeks after we moved in together, he went back to his ex-wife. Never again. I've been married 18 years now to the same guy. Guess I lucked out.
I don't think it's right to do in a biblical sense (even felt that way when I moved in with a guy but my young hormones took over my common sense) but it's sad more people aren't married, they choose to just live together without a great commitment. Then again, as my atty (he lives at the end of our street so I see him often when walking the dogs) always says, his father told him it should be $5,000 for a marriage license and free to get divorced.
As far as the children are concerned, well, I think you should be married before you have children but again, live and let live. I just don't like seeing children have to grow up without the other parent if it can be helped.
The NFL network recently interviewed a former NFL player, Warren Sapp. He was asked why we have so many jerks in the NFL like Terrell Owens, Adam Pacman Jones, etc. He said they all shared a common factor - no father or father figure in their lives growing up. He said to look at players who are humble and don't cause trouble - they are the product of a 2 parent household. It's sad to me because it's commonplace now, not the exception to rule, which I think it should be. I graduated high school in 1985 and even back then, a girl in school who got pregnant got sent away "to live with her aunt for a little while". It was a shame to be pregnant and unmarried but it's a sign of the times.
I sometimes wish I could have grown up in the 50s instead of 70s. :-)
You have? Where do you live??? lol
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that would be everywhere, not just where I live. nm
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don't know where U live but where I live the 80+ y/o.
I know plenty of 80+ y/o people where I live (and I'm 25 years behind them...kinda sorta)....who are MORE active than many I know much younger. I see them going to the airports to jaunt around Paris/Spain, or just several times a year flying cross country to spend holidays with families, etc, etc. So if you see 80+ as *old* or *very old* - think again. It's an individual basis kind of thing, in my mind - OH AND BY THE WAY, none of the people I speak of have had plastic surgery of any kind and look FABULOUS!.........GOD BLESS 'EM!!!! Good genes - genetics - 
I you live in the
Pittsburgh area I know where you can find someone. Elsewhere..no clue. It is an avenue worth pursuing though.
How can you live with him?!
Honestly, you say you can't live without him, but yet he is mean and horrible! And think of what this is doing to your kids while you stay! The effects of living with an alcoholic may not be so apparent on the outside of your children, but believe my they are hurting! Been there, done that!
Advice: Get out now for you and the sake of your kids. My father was an alcoholic and still is to this day. After 15 years of marriage to him, my mother finally left and took us kids. Best thing she could have done for herself and for us! It was rough at first, but looking back I am glad she did it. She proved to me she was a strong woman and what a great example that you did not have to put up with the abuse from another person. My brother and I to this day have minimal communication with him. Well, at least I do. My brother has written him off!
Resources: A good lawyer and counseling for you and your kids.
I wish you all the best!
Not sure where you live........but
You're wrong. In this state, the teachers are not that well compensated, just the administration. THey do pay out of pocket for resources that they have put in for and supposed to have available that is determined by the school system, but supplies have not come in and they have to go out with their own money and order this stuff. They don't get answers from adminstration but still have to make sure they have the supplies ordered by the school system to teach the kids. The amount of work they do here is from 7 in the morning until 5 in the afternoon....no, they cannot leave when they want to. Most work all summer, either tutoring or summer school, or find summer jobs elsewhere just to make ends meet. I suppose it depends on the state one lives in, but here no teacher is retiring with 80K a year pension.
Others ought to live by this
My mother told us sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you. To try getting back at something so minute is the reason today why people are in such a rage. Another thing she told me- consider the source. Enough said.
I also live in AL - try these -
Caladiums and hostas would do really well for leaf color. Bleeding heart is so pretty as well! Happy planting! :-)
Who'd want to live there? Yuk.
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Do you live so far out in the
sticks you don’t have people called BABYSITTERS? Glad you had such a good time.
I live in MID TN too.
Has been a mess with the heat and humidity!!!!
I don't see it here where I live
Unless it's being hidden, all my friends have been married for years with no cheating issues. I don't know of any divorced couples in my circle of friends and/or acquaintenances. My parents have been married close to 50 years and I've been married for 16, no cheating here. Not saying it doesn't happen, because I certaily know that it does, but it's just not that way here.(Again, maybe it's hidden or maybe I do live in that bubble).
Can she come live with me
I'd love it if someone else did my laundry. To me she's just being a grandmother, but then again, I'm not there and can't see everything she does. I'd be happy she was so involved and that your daughter has a grandmother. So many of my daughter's friends don't.
Where do you live?
Hayseed where do you live? I'm in St. George Utah and it is the desert here but it is starting to cool down finally! Been over 110 all summer!
Where are you?
No, where I live we have them here
it is a cross between a bear and a deer- so it is a beer. And to think, I don’t even drink. That is a HAHA for today.
I live in
North Georgia and I have a huge medical center all around me with loads of physicians.
Ha, yes, I live in the
middle of nowhere in North Texas! I don't even know our population, but it's small! Maybe a more than 400, though, but not much! I have only been to 2 WOF also. I can't pick a favorite either and they are akk good. I didn't go this year, but when I went last year, I got to take my 80-year-old mom with me. We had a great time together-have really never done anything togather like that my whole life. It was great. Me, my mom, my best friend and her mom all went with our church. I'm actually off this weekend! Have a good day.
You must live near me
Because that is going around in my area.
Live in FL too
I miss the snow, change in seasons, bugs that don't attack when you step outside! When it even gets a little cool here, I am in Heaven. Tonight the temps will dip into the 40s. I am originally from Chicago, grew up in Maryland, but have been in FL for almost 20 years now, and I still yearn for the North, although I have two children there and two down here. I also cannot afford to go to Disneyland in Orlando because they recently raised the prices again, but have done that once, among other things. I think it is great you have such a wonderful house with a pool. The humidity here in the summer months is horrible!! You just wilt when you walk outside. Those people I know from up North envy where I live, but trust me it's not all it is advertised to be. Just would love some snowballs for Christmas:)
I am with you! I live in Fla and see it a lot.
Bugs me every time.
So they all 4 live there?
Why then do you only refer to *her*? It's both the husband's and the wife's responsibility to pay the bills...are you on his back also?
Where do you live?
NM
I know what you mean. I live in
Louisville and the 2 weeks before Derby is nothing but parties. If you don't live in an area with things like that going on for more than a day you don't understand. Don't get to do as much as I used to.
Hi, I live here -- sm
Are you moving to the beach? I have been here for 20+ years, be glad to share any information I might have to make your transition easier. You can email me if you would like.. welcome to the sunny seashore that is Myrtle Beach!!
I don't live very far from this.
It has been watched for some time. We are just happy it did not turn out to be another Waco.
Some of the resturant owners are surprised that most of them did not know what steakfingers are. lol. They grew their own food.
You must live near me - nm
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WHAT where do you live!?
let's trade LOL
If you could live anywhere...where would it be?
Some day I hope to move to Hawaii. I figure I won't have to travel a lot of see family cause everyone will want to come stay with me! One day I just want to pick up and go...sell most off my belongings and just start over.
Always thought Las Vegas would be a fun place to live, but I think it would get tiring and old after a while.
I live in MI ... 13,000?!
Where in Michigan did you find a house for 13,000? Is it a mobile home?
I don't think the cost of living is especially great here ether (in comparison to the wages earned).
Curious what part of Michigan and what type of house.?
Not too often, but we live about
45 minutes away from one set of nieces and nephew and about an hour and a half away from the other set. I don't think they would ever come just to stay with me, though. They are actually spending the night with their cousins, my kids. I'm just not that fun. 
The set that is 45 minutes away stays over about 3 times a year, the other set only 1 or 2 times a year.
If yours want to be at your house frequently, make sure they know that they are responsible for their own messes and hold them to it. It is the least they can do if you are feeding them.
My biggest problem with overnights is that one niece won't go to bed. I have actually, at this point, banned her from spending the night anymore. Maybe I'll come around some day, but not any time soon. She wreaks havoc on the rhythm of our house and it takes my daughter a couple of days to recover.
I think it is really nice that they want to be with you.
Live in WI
I live in northern WI and it is only my husband and I in the household. I think we spend about 75 a week. We used to spend less living in south-central WI, but found groceries are more expensive up here.....
I try to use coupons whenever possible. I definitely get more bang for my buck...
Where do you live?
Some companies sell their products regionally and they're not available everywhere. In SE Michigan we have Dearborn Hams and they're really good.
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