It may be a minor inconvenience but definitely get your phone number changed.
Posted By: sm on 2007-03-17
In Reply to: I made such a big mistake - --
I went through a similar situation, but the guy I met and went out WITH FRIENDS with only ONCE went nuts on me and did the same thing, calling all hours of the day and night, showing up unannounced, at church when I picked up my daughter from Sunday school, he was sitting in a chair next to her and had no business even being there and didn't even go to my church. I asked the Sunday school teacher about it and she said he said he was my daughters stepfather! I said, no, he is not and he's nuts. I quit going to that church and I really liked that church, but I had to protect myself and my daughter. Finally, when I was at work he broke into my house, broke every pane of glass in all of my family photos hanging on the wall and stole some of my panties from my dresser and there was a note in my underwear drawer and it had the B word written on it. I was scared to death and I called the police and they arrested him. I was so upset that I moved to another city that was still within driving distance of my job, I changed my phone number, and my brother even got me a different car so he wouldn't know I still worked at the same place because he would drive by and see my car. When I got to work every morning, I parked out of sight and came in through the back instead of the front the way I used to. Oh, I also changed my last name to my grandmothers last name.
For the last several years I have lived in another state and am happily married to a very nice man, but I'll never forget that horrible experience in my life.
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I have had my phone number for 6+ years.
When I first received it I kept receiving calls from agencies for a specific person. I told them this was not their number, etc., and had no idea who this person was. After a while, they stopped calling; but now after 6 years I am getting them again for new debts, so this person is using my number (which may have been their old one) still. I just tell them I have had this number xxx years and this person repeatedly uses it for their info and eventually they quit calling. I did have to speak with a manager once, and after that they stopped.
Way to block phone number?
I just answered the phone and same ole, same ole company calling that I do not wish to talk with. If no return phone number comes in on my ID, is there some way after the fact of blocking this number out?
No, but I've let someone use my phone number....SM
Big mistake. We rented out our home for a while and let the renter use that home phone for outgoing calls. I forwarded my calls to my cell phone from this number. She couldn't receive calls, just could make calls. But, now I'm getting calls from bill collectors and I wonder how many databases my phone number is in due to her using my number. Won't do that again.
1 vote per phone number would be fair...sm
that way they'd really know what people think and not who has the fanciest speed dial modems that casts hundreds of votes per phone line.
Mine has an emergency phone number to
call when things happen out of the office hours. THe recording at the office should say something about emergencies and what to do about them.
Block his phone number and don't answer- sm
the door. Also get a restraining order if you have too. Call a doctor or hospital and find out what is necessary in terms of committment, stop threatening him and do it if you are legally able to. If you cannot then give him some phone numbers of services that can help him tell him he has to help himself. No wonder your mom divorced him, sounds like a 2-year-old who wants everything his way and takes utterly no responsibility for himself.
Minor regrets
The only real regret I have is in believing him when he said he was going to "be a father" and stay home every time I tried to regain custody. The younger boy suffered for this because he was left home more often after the older was grown. No, he didn't try to take the kids right away. I think he waited until he saw I was completely overwhelmed with single parenting and then pounced, two years later. I have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS about leaving him!!! I never would have my 22 year healthy marriage and two kids with my present husband, who is a honey in every way, had I not left.
Wow...you know what? this is one of our more minor issues (sm)
More and more I am realizing I have to get out. I have been talking to an older friend recently who is telling me that I have never really even had a marriage. He has done the e-mail thing for a long time. He sends me a note that says, "Put this on your calendar". No questions asked. And oftentimes, I learn about his future plans through other people, who know before I do!
If a child is a minor, it is the parent's
responsibility to get them to school and make sure they stay there. One mother here in my town had to go and sit with her daughter at school everyday for a while just to be sure she was there.
You're the parent, she's a minor child
This is sadly too common. Your daughter is pushing your bottons in a big way.
I remember being that age and partying it up. One day it just became very boring and that was the end of it. Sadly, many people I knew didn't have it quite that easy.
My first real love and a friend of his were killed from DWI at 19. Not only did they hit a car with a family of 6 (who managed to live), the rest of us had 2 funerals to go to. The priest for my boyfriend's funeral was actually his uncle!
The pattern she displays is not good. Many "good girls" hit this age and venture into situations which they're ill-equipped to handle.
My guess is that she's doing plenty more than she says. It's not that she doesn't love you.
I have no idea how expensive it is to get a drug test done on her hair, but that may be one avenue. Of course, it'd be easy to get hair from a brush, etc. I have no idea how you could get a UDS unless you simply asked her point-blank for one (since she claims she has nothing to hide). I'm just not buying it, I'm sorry to say.
About 2-3 years ago a friend of mine from high school was found dead in her apt. from alcoholism. This was one of the girls who had parties at her house in high school. She didn't even live to see 50 and died alone, sick, and miserable. When I found out from another friend I was surprised at first, but started retracing backwards and it was clear as a bell. Her father was an alcoholic. We didn't realize the significance of alcoholism in previous generations like we do now.
I also agree with another post I read about that this is "your" home, so she needs to abide by your rules. Of course, Dr. Phil says that all the time, too.
I can't have kids, but I remember being one. Speaking of Dr. Phil, maybe you could check his boards, too.
It's so frustrating to get to this point, but just know that many here will support you and offer as much advice as possible, even if it may be from an MT without kids.
Please keep us posted, and best of luck to you.
This is a minor source of contention in my family - sm
My husband and 17 year old daughter love going out to eat, whenever and wherever. I find that most restaurant food is way too gussied up for my tastes and I prefer my own cooking to anyone else's. Not to say that they DON'T like it. I'm a good cook and so is my daugher. To me, I can think of so many better ways to spend the money of a dinner out, one evening of which equals usally about half of our food budget for the week. It's hard to justify that kind of expense just to get out of doing the dishs.
So, in answer to your question, about once every couple of weeks to fast food, once a month or so to Friendly's and only on special occasions to a real nice restaurant.
So what? It's a minor blip in everyday city life.
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I would take his phone away or make him pay the bills for the phone
He can use the postal service to write her letters if he wants but there is no excuse. College is not highschool and if he's gonna make a go of it...be the parent and discipline....my opinion but take the phone away.
Adult photos are legal. FBI stepped in because the sicko had pics of a minor.
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age is just a number; one is only as old as
I liked the Number 23 as well!!
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number one cause of
Is cheap soap. Cough it up for some Tide brand or something dye/fragrance free and use plain ole Ivory soap.
Then I would wash everything in the house in hot water, including the drapes and have the carpets cleaned, just in case it is from the dogs.
The person who last had our number...sm
still uses it, so we get calls for her all the time! We got this number over a year ago when we moved and constantly get calls for her. We always tell them this is not her number anymore, but I guess lately she's been using it to give to loan places because they told us this. They apologize but it still stinks. She has a lot of debt out there, especially for school loans. We don't want to change it, though, and go through the same thing again and having to tell everyone our new number for nothing. We're also signed up at the Do Not Call website.
that was more than a number of years ago...nm
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It should be 3fatchicks.com (have to use the number)
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Know exactly what I stated and any number
approaching 8 is a litter. I have enough sense to know difference between normal births and in my words, nothing but a litter. The mother needs to be spayed. Now come back on that, also.
Is there a way to block a number...sm
from calling your house if that caller is calling from a cell phone. My mom has tried to block my dad from calling her house and it says this number cannot be blocked. I was also gonna block his # from my phone as well. I know it sounds terrible but my husband just came home today from working out of town and we were trying to watch TV and spend time together. My dad wouldn't quit calling. I mean we are talking every 10 minutes. I answered it about 4 times thinking he would quit calling if I talked to him. No he would just keep calling. And I am not exaggerating -- it was every 10-15 minutes. It will make you want to throw the phone out the window. All he says when I answer is I'm bored. I am like ok and why don't you watch TV or call a friend or something. He will literally keep calling and say I am just so bored. I can't take this. Why won't your mama take me back? Blah Blah Bhlah. My mom said a call from a cell phone can't be blocked. There has to be something I can do. I was gonna block my house # and if he keeps calling my cell I can just turn it off. Does anyone know a way to block a cell phone call?
call this number if you care so much...
`-877-IDOL-AID
or go to www.one.org
or savethechildren.org
THIS IS WHAT AMERICAN IDOL WAS DOING LAST NIGHT - COLLECTING MONEY OF which half was going to the poverty-stricken in the USA and the other half to Africa.
This was such a non-superficial American Idol...but again, did you even watch?
Josh Groban brought some of us to tears with those African children singing with him, as did Carrie Underwood in Africa with the children - very touching indeed...to say the least.
If you have their number call them back
I recently bought a repo'd house, and I have been getting constant calls from the creditors of the former owner...how and why they got MY phone number is probably not very legal, based on the address I presume, as I put myself on the "do not call list" the minute I got my new phone number. Capitol 1 in particular was calling me every single day at the crack of dawn (I work 2nd shift) wanting this guy. Finally I wrote down every number that had been calling me on a log and started calling them back, and behold it was the same company calling from a different number every time! I began insisting on speaking to supervisors and threatening them with a harrassment lawsuit. They promised to stop, and then started again in 2 weeks. So I started calling them back again. For now it has stopped, but I don't know for how long. I guess I'll be getting mail and phone calls for this guy forever more (he recently subscribed to some magazines and they're all being sent here). Sure would like to meet him in person and force him to fill out a change of address form!
now divide that over the number of taxpayers
and don't forget to figure in her tuition that we will all be paying. SICKENING!
Just the opposite for me - 13 is my lucky number,
Same goes for odd-numbered years. Those almost always go well for me, and without fail, even-numbered ones are the pits.
There was a time a number of years ago -
when everything was so frustrating at work, at home, and everywhere else, I came within a heartbeat of just getting in the car and leaving EVERYTHING behind: Abandoning my job, my friends, my family, my apartment, even the pets in my apartment. EVERYTHING. Just leaving and becoming somebody else, somewhere else.
But I decided to give it just ONE MORE DAY. The next day I called in sick and didn't go to work, just to give myself one more day to think about it, and to pack and close out my bank account, just in case I was really going to do it.
The next day I went in to work, and guess WHAT? The boss had been fired! From that point on, things started looking up, so I stayed.
A number of years ago I was discussing
tubal versus vasectomy with the assistant pastor's wife. They had 3 kids and were done, but her hubby didn't want the vasectomy. Someone had told him it increased prostate cancer risk or something like that. News to me. Anyway, she really did not want a tubal because she had seen her mother suffer so terribly after hers, and her mother eventually had to have a hysterectomy. That was the first I had ever heard of such a side effect, but I didn't forget it, and have since heard many people describe the same thing.
A vasectomy makes so much more sense if you are paying out of pocket. My husband's insurance was through a Catholic organization so we had to pay ourselves, which is why we chose that option.
It's not a psychological problem. It's just not a side effect that everyone has.
How? By Googling "normal number of sexcapades?" nm
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My german shepard has the number one name Max - but it is short for his registered name Max-in-a-mil
My Rott is Rock Haus
and last but not least I had to snakes male and a female named Felony and Miss Demeanor.
Oh and my Bichon is Mandolyn Lee
to confuse the roman numeral II for the arabic number 11.
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I did notice that but I hate to put my SS number on the internet. I know they said it is secure but
how secure is anything. I just wondered if anyone could give me an idea of the length of time it takes. Thanks.
Even if you have not changed anything - sm
you can still develop an allergy. I was told years ago that your body chemistry changes every 7 years or so; don't know if it is true, but it seems that way in my experience. I have developed shampoo allergies in the past totally out of the blue, as well as skin sensitivity. Do patch testing on her arm, place a dab of everything she uses on her inner arm, leave on for 24-48 hours (no showers) covering with a band-aid and then check to see if there is a reaction. That is how I found out it was the shampoo I had been using for years; stopped using the shampoo and my rash went away instantly. But regardless call the dermatologist, make an appointment, I cannot believe you have not called them because you think it will take too long to explain to them the problem; tell them skin rash, period. It may just be a reaction to the drug she is on as well, so once she is off it still may take weeks to clear up and she may need somethings to counteract the reaction. My daughter a few years ago had a reaction to Omnicef, they had to put her on 2 other drugs to get the rash to go away, then taper her off them once the rash disappearred, took about 2-3 weeks for the whole process. Call doctor today, get her in ASAP!
5.4, I think. But might have changed since this was
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it is too easy to confuse the roman numeral II for the arabic number 11.
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Christmas Story is my number one off all time - never get sick of that flick! nm
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I switched to an unlisted number. It made a huge difference! nm
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When I checked the 800 number for update on my IRS refund check to be mailed it is now
a week later and no refund check in the mail after the date they gave on the 800 line. Anyone else have this problem.
I can't get into it anymore...has it changed?..
I just get "picture of the day" and not the live cam I used to see. ???
This was some years ago and probably has changed
but I was the custodial parent. My ex-husband stayed behind in child support, never caught up and owed me over 3 thousand when my child reached 18. He wanted me to "drop" off my child at another place, did not want to perhaps run into a new guy at my home and the judge said my child not a puppy dog, if he wanted to see he would have to pick her up there. Whatever the courts say, not what you or the next one says, is what goes. Getting the police involved is fruitless- they will tell you need an attorney, go thru the courts, etc. Calling them is taking up their valuable time and they are not at liberty to state who a child should go with. What kind of court order is there and if not, there certainly should be something before you start playing these games. I do not think nonpayment of child support now days plays any part in whether a child is allowed to visit with noncustodial parent. Basically when a court says so, you have to abide by their orders.
Things may have changed
when he was like 2. I will never do that again. They put a bunch of needles filled with different types of serum up both of his arms and all over his back. Then they had to be watched to see which one he reacted to the most. The allergist claimed he was allergic to every food out there and every tree and mold. So, I just laid off the milk and kept him inside on high pollen days. He would have been bubble boy. Thankfully, he's fine now other than an occasional sinus drainage problem, which I think the pollen or something or other must be high right now.
Yes, a friend of my DIL had this and changed
for the worst. She lost weight in her body but her extremities did not and she did not look that good. She changed completely in personality, went from mother and part-time teacher to thinking sex goddess, running around with lots of guys, stealing- things she never did before the bypass. I also saw a television show on bypass surgeries and the stories were similar to this, lots have experienced complete character changes.
In many ways she has changed
Far from perfect but definitely better and being with Nick has definitely helped. Of course, she was just recently holding over Sharon and Brad's head their affair and could go to jail for it, so I guess that is the Phyllis you remember. I have only been watching the show for about 3 years.
times have changed
dont make a big deal about it or it will become a big deal. so buy her the little sports bras that look like half T shirts. this is also good in the winter as it helps keep them warmer. no big deal.
The age for some retirement has changed
I am almost 65 (next March) and my retirement age is 67. It has gone up with people living longer and people born around my year and later will find their social security starts later than 65. I am still working and hope to continue- I have retirement money starting next April from place outsourced from (being independent contractor, that will probably pay part of my taxes for the month, ha!) I guess I should go ahead and contact SS so I can find out if and when I should sign up.
I have a friend who changed her name.
She now wants to be called Sunshine. It would be one thing if the name fit her, but she's the most negative, complaining person I've ever met. I refuse to call her Sunshine. She corrects me whenever I call her by her given birth name, so I just roll my eyes and call her, "Hey!" I think it dishonors your parents to change your name. I've known her by her given name for over 20 years. I'm not changing just because she decided she doesn't like it any more.
A lot has changed in 5 years --
I don't have any personal experience with bankruptcy, but I have a few friends who do. One of them filed several years ago and I think a lot has changed since then. I don't think it's as easy to do anymore and I think you still have to pay some of it back. It's also harder if you have assets to file bankruptcy, so you might want to look into it a little better.
On an another note, it's rather upsetting that so many people think (and not just you) that it's okay to just throw your debt over your shoulder and walk away. I'm sure everyone has their reasons for racking up the debt, but in the end, it's a decision you made. I think people should be more responsible for their actions. Too many people live for the moment and let the rest of us pay for it.
I would have changed seats anyway sm
Less inconvenient than being sick! If I see someone coughing or otherwise obviously sick, I hold my breath as I walk past them if I cannot go way out of my way to walk around them...lol. I used to be a classroom reader with the first graders at my son's school...I built up quite the immune system that year ;) Didn't volunteer this year for my daughter's third grade class...lol
remember they changed it?
It always happens before Halloween however someone in the government changed the daylight savings time weeks... my calendar on sunday says "daylight savings time ends". does that mean saturday night, i guess someone said below!
Unless things have changed
As far as I know, you have to have a converter box, if you don't have a HDTV TV. You can't use a DVD or VCR player for a converter. Maybe what they meant, is if you need a converter box, and don't have one, the only way you can watch your TV, is using a DVD or VCR player, playing the DVD discs, or VCR tapes.
I have bought 5 converter boxes, ending up taking two back. First one I got was a Magnovox, and I didnt' like it. My antennas wouldn't fit it.
I took it back and exchanged it for a RCA one. I couldn't get my money back, with the coupon, so, had to exchange it, and am stuck with the RCA one. It works OK. Not great.
Then I reviewed and found the TiVax was recommended. I got it. I liked it, till I got a DVT Pal today. It is better than any of them i have tried. I traded a Zenith for it, didnt' like the Zenith. My antennas wouldn't fit it, either. So I took the Zenith back, got the DVT Pal.
The Pal is the only one , so far, that I have gotten 4 stations. The others I have only gotten 2. With the ZEnith, I got none. I think I'll stay with the DVT Pal. I have one more coupon left.
No slump here so nothing has changed. NM
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