It is unfortunate.....

Posted By: Lucky on 2007-07-24
In Reply to: I need a view from the outside - TLR

that the first family event after this fight is her birthday. I totally understand your feelings, believe me. I feel the same way about my SIL but I have to tolerate her if I ever want to see my brother, whom I dearly love. Fortunately he and I talk on the phone all the time, which helps.

All I can do is tell you what I would do in your place. I would not go to the birthday dinner. That is just asking too much. But I would attend all the other family get-togethers that I normally attended, just avoiding her as much as possible. I would not let her prevent me from seeing the people I love. If she tried to start an argument at a family event, I would just say, "I don't have anything to say about that" and walk away. If there was another family member I could enlist to act as "buffer," I would do so.

Is your sister bipolar, either diagnosed or undiagnosed? She sure sounds like it. I should know. I live with it. But as long as I take my meds, I have reasonable control over the ups and downs.

Hope some of this helps. I'm sorry this is happening in your life.

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I need a view from the outside - TLR
- It totally depends on what you were accused of..... - SM
  - Or...take notes from Dwight from "The Office" (sm) - Hayseed
    - love Dwight and The Office!! - kris
- Be the bigger person and forgive! Course my opinion - might change if I new the whole story. (NM)
- It is unfortunate..... - Lucky
  - I am so happy so many of you care. - TLR
    - It sounds like every one caters to her moods - sm
- it's better for us not to have contact with people like that - continued contact means it never ends.
- Follow your instincts - TTMT
  - I want to do what is right, I mean - TLR
- Let your heart heal. I love Hayseed, but I am the same sm - nm
  - What a wonderful post. I truly thank you - TLR
    - If this helps...I know people who know people (sm) - Hayseed
      - U R 2 funny! - ER MT
      - my thoughts, as well. - N/M
      - Sometimes I think of that, too. - TLR
- It's hard, but be strong for your mom and go. - Hayseed
  - Thanks, for making me laugh. - TLR

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