It is fine for them to stay home alone that evening (sm)
Posted By: NC MT on 2007-11-14
In Reply to: Opinion - HELP! :) - Sunshine
They will have to understand that previous plans have been made. It sounds like they really just don't want to have to do quite so much driving on Christmas day and so to spend the night before makes it easier. Either way, they get to wake up with your family on Christmas morning, which will be a wonderful treat for them. I think they will be fine to just stay home - they have chosen not to go with you - that's their choice. It's really not a big deal.
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You should be thankful that he wants to stay home--sm
SOMEtimes, having outside activities leads to OTHER recreational activities that are not conducive to a happy marriage. I would be very happy to have a stay-at-home husband. JMO. :^)
Stay at home mothers
Dont you just love this. Just saw an article on stay at home mothers and how much they should be paid for their work week, think they said $183,000 plus- get this- they were saying how much time they put in each week for their work, how hard it was and the interviewing showing scads of mothers with their children at the play grounds, swinging, running around, just seemed to be having a good ole time to me. Ah, just to be a stay at home mother, nothing like that hard work!
Thank you, Lilly. As a stay-at-home mom, your post just sm
meant so much to me because I must work in order for us to eat and I refuse childcare for my children. They are so well-adjusted and extremely polite. Your post really made my night because you were an abuse therapist and know that we are not neglecting our kids, but are doing them a great service by keeping them here with us. Thanks again.
I stay home!!! (I think I have social anxiety). nm
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If neither has a job, apparently nothing else to do but stay home & make babies. nm
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We usually stay home but this year we are renting a room downtown (sm)
so we can dance and drink a little and not have to drive. We've never done that before so I'm excited!
It doesn't matter "where you stand." What works for you is fine. What works for me is fine.
Comparing ourselves as to frequency is ridiculous.
Make sure to nap every day so you can still use the evening hours. And don't go in Oct. when the
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Christmas starts on the evening of 12/24, not the day after T-giving
I'm Roman Catholic, and we celebrate Christmas until the epiphany. So our decorations are up until then.
I also remember a friend of mine who lived in upstate NY. She said that they had a local tradition where she lived that said they left decorations up until Presidents Day. She was the only person who ever told me that one, so I don't know if that's so.
Exercise for at least 45 minutes in the evening. Will unwind
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Primrose Evening Oil....healthfood stores
been there, done that - am finished (thank goodness!!)....I was really at my peak of 'tude (attitude, what you called CRAB *lol*) from 42-45 with pre- perimenopause.....it DOES get better once it is all over (does take about 10 years from the very onset to the finish). But are we really *finished*? I guess we are in menopause the rest of our lives even if we are *done* and the 10 years has passed....*lol* But I swear, it DOES get better 
Well I am early morning and evening worker
My body just does better and so I tell myself it is okay. I go strong from 5 to 11, out to deliver, back and then work 1 to 3 at a clinic, back home and then 7 to 9 sometimes later. Before I had the clinic I still took afternoons off as I am not a good producer in the afternoon and so I worked from 6 to 11 and then 6 to 9 or so. But I have my own accounts and can let me body dictate when my productive times are.
Walk along the pier in the evening, antique shopping,
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Afternoon or evening ceremony? What is the other mom wearing? What looks good on you?
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Mowing in the evening hours improves air quality...
My son has asthma. I've learned learned a thing or two about air quality and air pollution.
I don't know if this is why the OP's neighbor is mowing late, but I mow late and yet I get it done before 10 p.m.
Quite frankly, I think some of you all are being a bit sensitive! And just as much as your right to peace and quiet is being infringed upon, you are trying to infringe upon your neighbors rights to do what he wants in his own yard and inside is own house!
One time I was typing on a calm Sunday evening and my son came into the room...
said, "I told you we should buy me a new bike," and I looked up at him and his arm was all bloody and his left flank and hip were all bloody and grungy, I shot off an e-mail to whoever was there on Sunday night and took him to the ER with a broken arm. Bike was also unrepairable. By the way, I offered to buy him a new bike not too many days prior to this incident and he said he didn't need one.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
See, I knew if I posted after the noon news it would be different after the evening news! LOL nm
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That's fine for you
Don't knock anyone other's way. It's not normal to have irregular periods. It's hard enough to keep track of my own (which I do, PCOS and all), so why not jot it down so I know my daughter(s) isn't going through something just chalked up to being a teenager when something might be wrong? People know if they haven't had a BM in a week; that's certainly not normal. However, that is easier to make a mental note of than periods. Sure, it's not something anyone wants to talk about over the family roast and potatoes, but it's something that needs attention. Jotting a letter down is far less invasive than asking how many pads are saturated in a day or something (which I would certainly anyway do if there was a problem).
We are nurses (hubby and I) and we like to keep on top of things when they are out of whack. I'll take the reins on this one when this is an issue for us.
That's just fine with me!
Just reading that list put me in the Holiday SPIRIT! Now between your cookies and that egg nog with laying under the tree (no not under the table, under the Christmas tree), you are all definitely getting me there... now to walmart for Charlie Brown music and to put money in Salvation army (I know type-A again). LOL. Anybody got more cookie recipes, there's a lot of pauses in between dictations here.... Thanks again! :)
It's probably just fine to eat...but..sm
if you're concerned you can always create homemade alpo or fancy feast and put in in ziplocs and freeze it....It's better than the stuff in the can and my animals love vegetables and real meat mixed with their dry food. Just an idea.  Cat
As far as I know, he's fine. sm
My dad does not take care of himself. He's physically fit, but he smokes, been smoking since a young teen. He eats whatever (fried foods, hamburgers, etc). My dad doesn't go to the doctor. He has a family history of cancer and heart disease. His mom died in her 40s of cancer. I think he's afraid of getting cancer/heart disease. In his mind not knowing is better. He's the type where if I'd say "Dad, I'm concerned about your health, I wish you'd quit smoking", he'd smoke even more. I'm afraid my parents will not live to be old people. Neither one of them eat well and they both smoke (no offense to anyone who smokes). My mom's dad has had a heart attack and her brother has had a heart attack. My dad had a really rough childhood, and I think he needed some counseling, but that would never happen. He's very head strong and hard headed. Thanks for listening. I'm very happy with my family (hubby and two boys), so I try to focus on being a better parent than my dad was to me growing up.
Their dad is fine - where would you have them go? (sm)
People amaze me when they think kids should be ripped out of an imperfect home and thrown to the wolves....do you not think these children would be sad, upset and terrified and scarred for life to be torn from their family? They are not being abused or treated badly. There is no reason to suggest taking the kids from their parents that is just ridiculous!!
If their Dad is fine then enough is enough sm
The Dad has to protect these kids then from the fallout of what the Mom has chosen to do if it is truly what the original poster has outlined. He shouldn't let them hear any conversation that has to do with a "booty call" - that is not language meant to be in children's lives, sorry but if he's that great, then the posting person should get together with him and map out a plan for the fallout from the mother's foolish move and the words "booty call" should never be used in these children's presence. Just reading that post cries out for help for these kids, the words are very volatile and crying for help. Read the post again and one can't simply expect these kids are not going to hear some pretty grown-up stuff over this ordeal. Poor kids don't need to be in the middle of this. Not suggesting throwing them to the wolves, normal thinking would be a caring family member protecting them, not the cops or the state, for Pete's sake, read it again. "Booty call" - not Parents Magazine talk!
Went through it fine without anything...
just some OTC Estroven, which worked well for me. I'm 48, started peri around 44, have gone over a year without my period...done! Some hot flashes and mood swings, nothing I couldn't handle. My doc wanted to put me on BCP, gave me a script, but I didn't bother filling it. Had my levels checked, doc said congrats, you had a fairly uneventful menopause. I don't like to take drugs of any kind....too many women out there are taking a handful of pills just to try to get through the day; not my style. There is something to be said for eating right, exercise and a healthy, happy frame of mind. I don't want to take a pill to be happy, take a pill to sleep, take a pill to lose weight because I have no self-control with food. To each her own...natural worked for me.
It will probably be fine
I agree with what the above poster says, about separating them and making the introductions gradual. You might find that you cat loves having a friend. Of course, he will act like he hates her when you're around, that's a kitty act and they're really good at it. But when he thinks you're not looking, he'll probably play with her and really enjoy the company. Good luck.
In between fine but those flares....
like woke up Friday morning just a big ache. I got very upset 1 time and that night almost had to go to the ER, in that much pain, worse than any childbirth have ever been thru. Talking about the memory, thank goodness doing MTing have lots on auto because in every day life have to write myself notes or would forget everything. Took half tablet of pain pill today but then could hardly finish my paper and can't do that when working, would be zzzzzz at the computer.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
That's all well and fine but it goes both ways
Then Christianity and even the mention of God should be kept out of all forms of government, local to federal.
I guess only Muslims can be terrorists. Was McVeigh Muslim? Stop generalizing.
Oh, and what is a mosk?
I'm sure if I was an American Muslim I would be welcome at a mosque.
I'm sure you'd welcome a Muslim with open arms into your congregation.... after he goes through the metal detector.
Okay, I'm done.
Ceremony was fine...
I just thought maybe something interesting would pop up. Just nothing exciting, in my opinion.....
If her numbers are fine
I would not worry. If the drugs are toxic and make her feel worse, then it really is about the quality of her life. Take care.
Got mine fine but sm
Yahoo is very, VERY glitchy. Sometimes you will get 25 emails from several months ago. My blog on Yahoo 360 has disappeared about three times. Blog comments also come and go.
If you are using your Yahoo email for business, you might consider switching over to Hotmail. They have just upgraded to Windows Live Hotmail and it is very similar to Outlook Express.
JMHO.
Really? I'm 50 and it works fine for me; however, sm
I do use a good moisturizer before applying. I also have to use a bit extra of cream make-up to conceal redness and then apply the Bare Minerals.
I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Thanks honey! We would be fine without my job thanks
to living right and not beyond one's means. And BTW, bon bons are fattening, you won't catch this MT with seat spread! Well, this has been fun, but my work day is done and Christmas vacation has begun! So, toodles to you all. Very Merry Christmas!
it will be fine without the vanilla. nm
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BTW my FIL recovered just fine - sm
and that was almost 9 years ago.....he whined for about 2 years that he was dying though, have no clue how my MIL lived with it. He will be 79 in March and doing very well.
I think that is just fine. Plus, I have found...
that most old people like my child, although I find old women to be less tolerant than old men. I wonder why that is. Maybe because they are the ones who spent the majority of the time with their own children? I certainly did not think anyone whould watch my child for me, just maybe not be so quick to judge, especially those who have never had children of their own.
You'll be fine and so will she.
Wow! You should be very proud of 38 years of full-time mothering!
The way I see it, you have two issues here. I think you acknowledged both in your post. One issue is letting go of your youngest child, your only daughter. But the other issue is the what-do-I-do-with-myself-issue. You've been raising children for 38 years, and now YOUR life is going to change. That's probably the biggest part of this transition, in my opinion. You have to be about your own business now.
I went through all of this myself. There were days when I wanted to feel sad and lonely in my now-quiet house. But there were days that were so much fun, because I could simply do whatever I wanted and not have to worry about kids at home. Gradually, the fun days came more frequently, and that situation was the norm for me.
It's like any life transition. You have to get used to it. And getting used to thinking about yourself first is a big transition for any mother, especially one whose been mothering since 1970! You deserve the time. And your daughter deserves the opportunities you've given her. You'll still be close, but in a more adult way. It doesn't have to be the way you describe your relationship with your grown son. With your daughter, you may still have very detailed conversations, but yes, you are going to have to get used to there being long stretches of time between those conversations and visits. But you will get used to it.
And I'd like to disagree with the poster who didn't like the idea of a young woman traveling the world. I think that's exciting and wonderful. She'll learn so much from traveling. It really makes me bristle when people say that women shouldn't go places or do things because it's "dangerous". Every moment of life on earth has some sort of danger attached to it. And yes, some things perhaps are more "dangerous" than others. But I know people who limit their experiences in an effort to avoid danger, and I just think it's sad. I don't consider myself a risk taker, but there are just too many wonderful things in the world. Life is as precious as any valuable gift you can imagine. And like a valuable gift, it should be used and not locked up for display purposes. I hope your daughter has amazing experiences in her life, and I hope she comes back to you and shares her excitement with you. And while she's doing those things, you go right ahead and get out there, too! Go do something for yourself or with you husband! Ballroom dancing sounds like fun!
I transcribe for a PT and she is doing fine - sm
my checks have actually got up a little lately by maybe $20 or so every 2 weeks. I don't think she is going anywhere.
You'll be fine....
This is not unusual. You are young. I'm 38; hubs 35. We've been married for 17 years. You'll have times when you miss the single days, but you'll also have times when you're glad you have your better half. This is all normal. You are not crazy.
What you can do though is ask him if it would be okay to be uninhibited and spontaeous at least once a month. Maybe one month you pick something you'd like to do (like go out and have a beer) and the next month it's his turn.
I think the doom and gloom of this profession and the economy has people wondering "is this it?" Well, yes, to a degree it is, but life is so short! Party it up! Have children a little later or now, whichever suits you.
I, however, do not see anything wrong with your feeling the way you do. We all would love to run for the hills at some point, but we need a stay point as well. It's all healthy human nature!
You will be fine. I got married sm
right out of highschool (6 weeks) and have been married 36 years come July. I remember in the early days having feelings like that. You love your husband, you have a good marriage and your feelings are normal. Whatever you do, don't give it up looking for greener pastures! Too many marriages give it up for reasons that you are stating...which are not reasons to throw in the towel and they are sorry later.
Way down the road when you mature a whole lot more, you won't regret it.
Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
I agree, though. It is sad that all this is coming out the way it is. I believe she was a good person...she just had a lot of problems, mainly drugs. What is really sad is that all of this is going to be seen by her daughter one day when she grows up.
My advice is that she will be fine with MIL visiting.....
There is a fine line hear.....
Your terms "pestering us" in reference to your children is wrong. It sounds like there is verbal abuse and child neglect going on in your home (baby hungry and dirty). You might want to watch what you post here as this is now in black and white that you have not been properly taking care of your children. I want to support you, but it doesn't sound like even you (the poster) are interested in taking care of the children either. GROW SOME NADS!!! If I were you, I'd seek help from social services in your state.
Fine. But that wasn't my point.
There's no need to jump all over someone who wants to help. I applaud the unselfishness.
I think it is perfectly fine, as you have to wear it, not him!
I did not pick out the exact ring, but definitely discussed the cut and style I wanted. My feeling is if a man truly cares about the woman he would want to get her the ring SHE wants, not the one he can afford or the one he picks out. I'd be more worried about that to be honest. JMO
my computer updated just fine--sm
with the downloaded windows update, but my smartset alarm clock did not. This is the SmartSet I am referring to, not my computer. thanks though.
FedEx or UPS will be fine if you pack it
It is how they come to you if shipped! lol
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