It's the shock value - like saying you're an atheist
Posted By: in a Christian church on 2007-10-02
In Reply to: I am so tired of hearing so many people I meet say they SM - Can't figure it out
The best thing to say to these people - and I quote from the famous Cordelia from "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" - "What is your childhood trauma??!!"
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You are assuming I am atheist...I am not.
You think lightning bolts will strike me??? LOLOLOLOLOLOL!
As an atheist, I sometimes wished I could believe...
...it seems that it would be so much easier sometimes! I mean, think about it. There's this huge support system for believers--instant friends, acquaintenaces, counseling, etc. For the most part, the religious folks I have met are some of the nicest and most understanding--they would never pick fights over if one chooses to believe or not. They are happy, comfortable, and at peace with their lives (or so it seems to me anyway).
I'm not saying I'm not happy, uncomfortable, or not at peace, but there's just this sense of community with churchlife that we atheists really don't have and that's kind of a bummer.
Someone who is atheist clearly is not going to Heaven. No judging, just stating fact as
per the Holy Bible.
Shock
I think you are in shock. Obviously your husband is gay or at least bisexual. This is a serious matter to both of you, as it affects your mental state, your health, and how you are going to handle it. You must talk to him immediately, and you both must go to a professional, preferrably one that specializes in this type of situation. You have to come to terms with this. Good luck and my best to you both.
Total shock
That's all I have to say. 
Not really shock, more like static..sm
I have the lap dog version of the training collar. I have never used more than the first or second level (there are four levels on mine), and mostly just use the "bad tone" to get their attention. I think it's the best invention ever. I used it on me first also. Even the highest level is more like static. I've had worse static getting laundry out of my dryer!
Culture shock?...sm
Leaving a major metropoliatan area in Upstate NY and moving to seriously rural area in South Central KY was quite a culture shock....The entire road in front of our house was gravel up until a coupla years ago....finally got city water too! It's a very small town without even a stop light....just a K-8 school and post office. The boys begged me for 3 years to take them back to civilization. It took that long to assimilate.
I went to work 40 miles away and wiggled my way into MT after having worked in a large vasc surg ofc in NY. I've met a lotta nice folks over the years here from all walks of life and finally learned how to make a decent jam cake and cornbread (not sweet).  Cat
Well aware, still a shock
when you see it laid out in black and white,and it becomes a reality.
Shock has been ongoing for several years
and if you have had, you know just how bad it is! I have never had any pain that travels up or down the leg, just that foot thing only when I happen to walk, oh joy!! This is really odd but I have awakened in the night with a really harsh pain over the top of my right foot, only on the top where I would have to take the other foot and bear weight down it because of how bad it hurt. I know I have a curvature of my spine but really don’t have back pain per se. I am so tired of trying to find out really what is going on, so many doctors, so much of my time, no many things I have tried. This current used to strike sometimes as much as 6-10x a day, completely throws you off balance.
I believe Simon AND Randy were in shock too!
No, I think I was in shock and also with my older sister
who said, "let's go!" and rushed me out of the store as she was probably embarrassed and I was always getting into trouble. LOL!
mrsa=toxic shock
Did she express anything to get a culture...that is the only way to be sure, and also to be sure what antibiotics she needs. I don't want to scare you, but I nearly died of this ib 1994...I had a cyst/boil. I was waiting for it to get big enough to drain...I get these about every three yrs. This was in my armpit, from shaving. It spread throughout my whole system. Three yrs before the one on my big behind got bigger, but since it was not near any vascular supply, it was just painful rather than deadly.
You can't take this stuff seriously enough. Most of the older antibiotics will not touch it.
The main thing is to get something to culture. That is the ONLY way to be sure what you are dealing with.
We chase each other around the house and shock each other.
Yep, micro suede couch. I've been boiling water on the stove and running the humidifier, too. I can tell it's dry here because my sinuses are acting up and my hair is flyaway. Other than that, static guard or dryer sheets as the other posters suggested.
Never saw it coming, am in complete shock! sm
Wow. I did think it was somewhat distasteful that at the end they offered a memorial site for him, as though he (Kutner) was a real person. Hopefully, however, this will raise a bit of awareness to the importance of paying attention to those around us.
hc
sticker shock at the grocery store..sm
I wanna vomit as well and hubby really has no concept of how high food has gotten.....
Still have 2 kerosene heaters that I won't part with in the event of a gas outage....but K1 is $3.50 a gallon.....I know what you're talkin' about trying to fill the tank with oil (I'm originally from the NE). We've got enough quilts and long underwear to make it through...And, I found insulated coveralls, Carhart (your winter uniform) $7...I hit the consignment stores and lucked out on that one!
A lotta people take for granted things like heat and food and have never chopped wood. In any event,it's great to know that you're okay. Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjCzhckeEb4
You can buy mild shock pads to place on furniture.
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You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
Um, exactly where is the shock collar? I see a regular collar here.
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Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
you're welcome. nm
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I see what you're saying...but
heaven forbid, they break up and one of them dies, wouldn't you want the same thing. If she were to die, wouldn't she want her husband to have the same choice she is wanting??? I guess I'm just concerned with pushing this on the husband and he doesn't want to do it. I hope it all works out though. This is a hard decision to make.
You're welcome!
I hope you can come up with something, I've "been there and done that".
Should be you're not, not your not
and actually in the minority as I do work a full 8 hour day, no chasing after kids, walking the dogs, doing housework so you got it exactly right, in the minority as opposed to a lot I read about on here.
Aww, sorry you're going through that...sm
My husband can get into moods also, but I honestly won't allow him to talk to me like that. In every relationship I've ever been in, I wouldn't allow it. In the beginning when I was pregnant with our second child, I wrote him a long letter telling him I needed more help and would not accept anything less. I was so stressed out with working at home and taking care of a 2-year-old and being pregnant. That was it! Ever since then, I swear he does more than me! If he talks to me in a certain way, I demand an apology and I get it, not always right then, but a little later. He knows I won't take it. We've been together for 15 years now, and that is a big thing in keeping us strong. He doesn't take my crap, either:-) He's still my best friend so it's worth it to make it work. Stand up to him and make him respect you! I say that with much care.
Because you're mom, LOL.
Moms just know these things.
We're all in this together ...
I think. It's always reassuring for me to know that other people are dealing with the same stuff I am.
She was furious when she found out I had gone through her purse, but too bad. You live in my house, you live by my rules, sweetheart.
Another thing that gets me is where she was getting the stinkin' things anyway. She works in a restaurant where her coworkers smoke but I hope they would know better to get them for a minor. As far as I know, she hasn't started up again.
you're welcome--sm
a lot of physicians are almost insistent on someone taking the synthroid, and it makes me wonder how much stock they have purchased with the manufacturer. They always try to say we don't need the T3 that is included in the Armour, but I know I feel a whole lot better with taking it. I didn't even know I had a thyroid problem until I went to a doc with flu like symptoms and wanting to sleep 14 hours a day. I saw a doc from India in an urgent care clinic, who I had never seen before. I was hardly in the door yet and he said *how long have you had that goiter?* I was stunned. I had seen so many doc's in between and none of them ever picked up on this. I was on synthroid for five years, and never really felt much difference. I read up on thyroid problems from all sorts of web sites and decided to try the armour. Unfortunately my doc at that time would not prescribe it for me. HE did not believe it in. *hmmmm*. I had to go to an endocrinologist, as well, and still had to BEG to try it. He reluctantly gave it to me and it took a while to get it up to the level that would even out my TSH levels, but I am now at 120 mg and seem to be holding. I do feel better, but as I said earlier, I still battle with weight loss/gain. but every body is different. stick to your guns, get what you want, and check back in three months or so and let me know how you are feeling/doing. email me if you wish.
If that's what they're doing ...
it's fine with me. I thought it was interesting, but different that we suddenly focused on 2 characters I didn't remember. But there they were in scenes from the past that I did remember, LOL.
No, we're not out there saying come on
But by nature cats do roam. We have a big field in our back yard and he only goes out early in the morning and goes through the brush. He comes up on them when they fly up and he will jump straight up after them. I have gotten many away from him simply because the first thing he does is bring them to the back door, but when he meows to be let in, they fly away. My husband and I certainly aren't thrilled about it, especially during the springtime, but cats do go after birds and the big old hawks flying around our house could easily scoop up our tiny little female kitty, and I suppose that would make it even?
You're right
Trying to leave while he is there, especially in the middle of an argument, is a gesture, not a serious attempt at leaving. All it does is make him angry and more vigilant.
And you're right that even the best organization can't guarantee complete safety. But they can offer shelter, advice, compassion, and some safety. It's better than trying to do it on your own.
I'm sorry if you have been in this situation before. No one should have to go through that. But unfortunately, many, many women do, every day.
Maybe you're right about his
tummy hurting. You can give dogs Pepcid; ask if you can give something like that to your cat to try.
Are you aware of any weird low-cal foods your cats like? Like cooked vegetables? If so, maybe that would help. Or offer grass to chew in the house.
I'd go to one of those holistic places and see if they have suggestions. They might even have aromatherapy for cats, HA!
I agree it's hard to correct a cat's bratty behavior. Next time consider a dog, LOL.
Tell us what they're about, or if there's another
author you could compare them too. Are they romances, mysteries, stories about moms or what?
you're welcome............sm
there's a lot to them to explain and I will supply one of 1000s of links...but to me it's like a person is damned if they do, damned if they don't living with one of these types....
here's the link :)
http://www.ptypes.com/passive-aggpd.html
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're so not alone on this one!
I've been going through some extreme stress of late...I actually asked for a "mental health day" yesterday and was refused...and I don't ask for nuthin' unless I really need something. I was going to take that time to go for a hike in the woods--that always clears my head and relaxes me.
But right now I'm waiting on a delivery of firewood soon...I find that taking an hour or so to stack it or chop it works for me, but that's just because I'm a psycho. ;-)
I hope you find some relief soon--I totally know where you're coming from!
Can't really help, but you're not alone!
Unfortunately with mine I pretty much always ended up in the hospital on IV medication after days of vomiting. I got them every month with my cycle, so eventually the doctor put me on the Depo shot so I wouldn't have my cycle and that pretty much stopped the headaches. However, I just stopped taking the shot for other medical reasons and I definitely fear those headaches! I'm so sorry you have to deal with them!
You're welcome
Neither of my parents was alcoholic but our family was MAJORLY dysfunctional. So I can definitely relate. And I have a son who is 20 years old. Seems just yesterday he was in middle school....sigh.
OMG, I think you're right
Just call me stupid. LOL. I looked up GE Owens Illinois, and I think that did pop up, but I thought he said "in" and not "and". Thank you so much.
you're welcome *S*
For the entire month of Ramadan, the folks of the Muslim/Islamic faith fast all day (but go to work and all the stuff they normally do but cannot ingest anything during daylight hours) and then eat/party all night....
Maybe not what you're looking for, but
I just went upstairs for more coffee and one of my cats was playing soccer with a dead cricket on the kitchen floor. He seemed quite content , but I still had to throw it away.
I wish my cats were more sociable. My young male, Tripp, will come downstairs a couple of times a day, sniff everything and go back upstairs. I hardly see my female, Lucky, at all during the day. Not that I want them knocking stuff off my desk while I'm trying to work, but there must be a happy medium somewhere.
Ya know you're right....
time with your kids is the best thing no matter what you eat!
I think you're right
Hopefully the school will do something, or else the ex will decide to homeschool if he's really fanatic about this. I do plan on calling the school on Monday and see if they will discuss this with me.
You're welcome! (nm)
"nm" means no message...but since you are here,
What kind of makeup do ghosts wear?
Mas-SCARE-a
I've been working too long.
Cause you're there and cause they can!
I know exactly what you're going through!
I think I was in as much pain if not more when my child's heart was broken. I think it is very sweet your son is sharing this with you and all you can really do is offer comfort and understanding. Lots of kind words such as "this will get better" and "if it's meant to be, it will be". Obviously the situation you describe has gone on since the beginning of time (well ok not quite) but it is very common when one goes off to college. So sorry you both are going through this :(
You're right (sm)
You're right and I do tell them how lucky they are and tell them she loves them and remind them that she won't be around forever. I am thankful for her...not trying to get rid of her...just trying to decide whether to force my kids to spend the night or not.
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