It's the other guy's wife that's strange. I can see guys drinking, watching
Posted By: football and even going to SC, but other wife? Wei on 2008-02-03
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- It's the other guy's wife that's strange. I can see guys drinking, watching - football and even going to SC, but other wife? Wei
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And the drinking age is....
This might have changed since my kids were growing up. When the kids and I visited Jamaica, no drinking age there and so my 15 year old son was allowed to drink, even his much younger sister could order from a bar but in the US the age was 21 and so that was what I expected out of them. I personally would hold any parents legally responsible for letting under aged kids drink at their home. I am too much of a stickler for the laws of the land.
husband's drinking
I think, from what I have read, is that he can only help himself in stopping. Has to hit bottom....after AA and being sober would be the time for your support. I think by staying with him now you will be co-inabling. He knows you are there, so he probably feels "so what, she's still here and I'm still drinking". He has to want to stop, until then he won't. Remember, it is a disease, and it can't be cured, but can be taken "one day at a time". Best of luck.
drinking for 2 years is not trying it out
Your daughter is headed down the wrong path. If she's been smoking for 2 years, she's not trying that out anymore, either. Apparently, both of these new habits "fit" and she's taking them home. The fact that she says she feels relieved not having to hide it anymore is a sure sign she has no intention of quitting. I strongly urge you to discipline her. Children need discipline. She may hate you for it now, but your job is to be her mother, not her friend. Both of these habits carry dire consequence over the long-term (which I'm sure you are aware of) and both of these habits only get worse over time.
Yes, I tried alcohol and cigarettes when I was 16 (no drugs) but only a couple of times. To this day, I still don't like the taste of beer and never drank any other alcohol until I was over 21. When my mom/dad found out what I was doing, I was severely disciplined - grounded, spanked (yes I said spanked at 16), and was stripped of any privileges. This definitely deterred me from participating in these things after I was allowed to resume a normal life. This may sound harsh, but I'm thankful today my parents put an end to it when they did. I intend to do the same with my children. I think that's the problem with a lot of today's youth -- they're parents are too worried about being their friend, instead of doing their job as a parent.
What is Nicki drinking?
I know she is drinking the drink that David drugged, but it looks like white wine or champagne. WTH? It certainly dosesn't look like sparkling water or whatever the recovering alcoholic normally drinks.
I would not drive after drinking it!
Use in place of wine:)
drinking soda
I think that drinking soda aggravates that. Cranberry juice and herbals teas calm this sort of thing down for me.
Legal Drinking Age
Many of the states that have chosen to specifically prohibit alcohol consumption by those under age 21 have a variety of exceptions. For example,
Some States allow an exception for consumption when a family member consents and/or is present. States vary widely in terms of which relatives may consent or must be present for this exception to apply and in what circumstances the exception applies. Sometimes a reference is made simply to "family" or "family member" without further elaboration.
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Some States allow an exception for consumption on private property. States vary in the extent of the private property exception which may extend to all private locations, private residences only, or in the home of a parent or guardian only. In some jurisdictions, the location exception is conditional on the presence and/or consent of the parent, legal guardian, or legal-age spouse.
Some States also allow exceptions for educational purposes (e.g., students in culinary schools), religious purposes (e.g., sacramental use of alcoholic beverages), or medical purposes.
http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/LegalDrinkingAge.html
if he quits drinking and changes for the better, you have your answer
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Lowering the legal drinking age from 21 to 18
I didn't know this was going on.....
The article is long so I didn't copy all of it. See the link below:
College presidents from about 100 of the nation's best-known universities, including Duke, Dartmouth and Ohio State, are calling on lawmakers to consider lowering the drinking age from 21 to 18, saying current laws actually encourage dangerous binge drinking on campus.
The movement called the Amethyst Initiative began quietly recruiting presidents more than a year ago to provoke national debate about the drinking age.
"This is a law that is routinely evaded," said John McCardell, former president of Middlebury College in Vermont who started the organization.
"It is a law that the people at whom it is directed believe is unjust and unfair and discriminatory."
Drinking 9-12 beers a day means he is
No, sure donot see that. Was he drinking the beer
on the unicycle? LOL
Try drinking 8 glasses of water a day...(SM)
I just spoke with a friend whose husband was advised by his doctort to drink a lot of water for his back problem. He did and it worked and he feels better overall. Could be the bones in your feet are dry and building up with calcium.
My daughter was drinking heavily, she didn't know that I knew but she would
act strange and when I would try to come close to her casually, she would pull away. I waited til she fell asleep and could smell the booze on her breath. The next day I told her I would buy lunch if she could go grab it and when she left I went in her room and found to stashed bottle of some cheap rum. I know it sounds bad but I put some ipecac in the bottle and then waited. I didn't put much, but it was effective. She blew chunks and blew and blew. She thought she just got sick, but about a week later I did it again and after she got sick that time, that was the end of her drinking. Smart girl, eh? She somehow figured out that drinking rum made her sick! I may sound like a terrible mom, but I also don't have a drunk for daughter now either.
Red Cross told me excessive tea drinking could cause anemia.
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Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit drinking.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit smoking.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit sniffing glue.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit amphetamines
Try drinking lots of water today, bet you feel at least nm
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I would have called the police right from the start, especially with underage drinking.
the mother could be brought up on charges of furnishing aldohol to minors for starters. Don't put up with it for another minute. The police will not tell who called, they just show up on the door step and take care of business.
Good luck.
EXCUSE ME! Smoking and/or drinking does not make you a bad parent! sm
I smoke. I drink margaritas when I choose too. This does not have any effect on how I raise my children. One is a straight A student. The third is an average student. Then I have my 21yo who is excelling in the nursing program and just told me tonight I was a great mom no matter how she used to argue with me, which she did and regularly. Smoking and/or drinking does not play a role in life unless you are an alcoholic. Just because someone drinks, they are not and guess what... they can still be a mom/dad and raise wonderful children.
If you want to pick something that is wrong, how about a church that teaches children to fast when they are only 11 and already underweight (not mine but a friend's). That is more wrong.
It is just like drinking Coors light determines you will have a boy baby and Miller Lite a girl. sm
I have heard that actually; however, it is not true.
I did hear that too much Mountain Dew makes one impotent!
Don't know who dreams this stuff up, but I would have to say it is not true at all. My hubby only drinks Coors Light and we have a boy and a girl, go figure! LOL
That is so strange
Those are the exact dreams that I have as well. The locker combination, never getting to class, can't remember where my class is and I had the teeth falling out one about 2 weeks ago!!!
Strange how so many minds can work the same subconsciously.
I always figured it was because I have "issues" from high school, lol.
So nice to know I'm not the only one who dreams those things constantly!
strange. . .
a peep show. . I think you're over reacting a little. . . Give this poor mom a break. . yes, everyone has problems - I sure do - but this lady does not need this sort of bashing right now. . how is that helpful to her??
This is strange
because my DH and I have talked about this often. I do think consumers get the short end of the stick because the government does not release drugs as quickly as they should. They also will not recognize a treatment because if doesn't have FDA approval. I do think the FDA does keep us safe at times but I also think they are too slow in approving many drugs that have been safely used in other countries for years.
My DH and I also have talked about how if they came up with cures for many of the diseases what would they have fund-raisers (think about the millions MDA has brought in) for and wouldn't it put many of the researchers out of business? Because drugs and cures are big business.
Strange...
I took my daughter to the doc today with these exact symptoms. Neg flu and neg strep. She is really sick but with what? She has amoxicillin and Dytan.
Really? It seems strange
that you never discussed it. If my man would not admit it, I would pester him to death becuase I couldn't stand it.
And I am very shocked that he just accepted you making him change his lifestyle so (not making any moves alone) without a word. ??
Not strange here
My daughter has her 9th grade dance and if they're from another school they have to sign a form or they won't get in. The same if they're not in the 9th grade but are in the same school district.
Very strange
I was just going to get on and ask the same question. For about the past month, my legs, mostly from the knees down, have felt tight and achy. They are swollen and red, blanching when I poke them with my finger. I too will sit with them up for a while and they feel better, only to go back to where they were when I sit again for any extended period of time. I have been trying to drink a lot of water, stay away from salt, etc. I don't know what is going on. If the support stockings help, I will also wear them.
How strange!
You said in your experience "the longer a girl waits, the more socially awkward she feels, and the more promiscuous she becomes once she finally joins the party." You also wrote that "being the only virgin left in the school would also cause psychological damage."
I don't understand that at all. So caving to peer pressure should be the deciding factor in when a person loses his/her virginity?
Not for me. I was a virgin until my wedding night, at age 23. I've been married 25 years. My husband was also a virgin. I wasn't socially awkward, and I certainly didn't become more promiscuous when I finally "joined the party". I was, however, college educated, living in a large eastern city, enjoying all life had to offer which included a lively social life.
I'm not very fond of the idea of purity pledges and big group celebrations where fathers present their daughters with promise rings, etc. I don't think a public declaration is needed. I was simply raised to respect myself and to be responsible. My father and I were very close, yet we never once had a conversation about "saving" myself. But throughout my life with him (he died when I was 21), he made sure that I knew how loved I was. I knew that he felt I was special. He was always a gentleman and treated my mother and me, and all women, with great respect. From his wonderful example, I learned how a woman should be treated, and I settled for nothing less. I'm sure this upbringing is a major reason why I enjoy a strong and loving marriage with my husband.
Compared to the purity pledge idea, I think my father's method is a much more effective way to raise up a woman with a healthy attitude about herself and her sexuality. I know it's not the experience that most women have, but I certainly wish it were.
get your son out of there. What a strange
attitude and behavior of your in-laws. Continuing like this they will never get closure. This will render everybody depressed. Is this sort of a cult?
Strange, isn't it.............sm
how we assign super mortal status to celebrities?
Farrah was just a girl from Corpus Christi, Texas, and MJ was just a boy from Indiana, yet their lives and deaths and the manner of same has become fodder for the media. Before anyone says "sour grapes" let me say that I am happy for them that they achieved superstar status with all its attendent perks. I just don't quite understand what makes their deaths any more interesting than the average person.
May they both rest in peace.
I can say she looks strange, she does but
then what about him? He was such a good looking guy at one time. Know he had the money to get all the plastic surgery done but why would any reputable physician do the surgery?
Strange Situation....
OK, I'm not sure if I'm overthinking this, but I'd love your opinions and advice.
We're good friends w/our next door neighbors -we go to each other's kids parties, have lot's of cookouts, and do lot's of things together. The last thing was our Christmas Open House. They were here, all was 'normal' and we all had a good time.
For the past three years we've celebrated New Year's Eve together. I mentioned it at our party a couple weeks ago and she kind of himmed and hawed b/c they may be out of town, but then, no, they would be in town. She'd let me know.
Then, later that week, a friend of hers who is an acquaintance of mine called me about this makeup she sells. In casual conversation she mentions an open house our neighbors are having and says she'll see me there. Uh, what open house? We were not invited, no mention of it, no come by after your family leaves, nothing. The acquaintance kind of back-peddles, but there's no going back. Their open house was yesterday, and from the looks of their driveway there were 30 or more people there.
Their kids came over today to play with our kids and the little was saying how we should have come over, didn't we see all the cars? I wanted to, but didn't say we were'nt invited.
Now, should I swallow my pride and just call over to see about New Year's Eve, or just let it go?
Only that this is strange, because a similar
feeling has come over me. I had a fling years ago that lasted a couple years. We never committed, would just meet up every couple of weeks or so. We both had a *relationship* but we were still in our early twenties. I wound up getting engaged to and marrying the guy I was in a relationship with, dumb move, very young. When this guy heard I was engaged he dumped the girlfriend and asked me not to get married and I guess finally wanting to commit to me. It broke my heart, but I didn't want to break my fiance's heart. Anyway, that was the last time I saw him. Wound up divorced after only 2 years and moved about an hour away from there. Heard he had married too around that time.
Now, I find myself thinking of him all the time and just learned he moved too and lives about 10 miles from me. I'm with my 2nd husband now for around 10 years, but c'mon is anyone really still feeling those butterflies and excitement after all these years? The answer is not usually. Why do you think affairs happen in the first place? And I do think this is probably a very common feeling especially if it was someone you were crazy about. You kind of think maybe you can start up again where you left off at a point in your life where let's face it things are not all that exciting. Let me just mention my husband is a great guy but lately we've had some major disagreements about things which I believe has made me start feeling this way. You however mention you are *content* in your relationship and sorry but something has to be wrong somewhere. Maybe the bedroom? I do however agree with the other posters that it would only cause more problems. I have given this a lot of thought myself and decided not to contact him unless I end up divorced first and I find out that he is no longer married. And for now I guess I can only imagine. :)
yes, people are still strange....sm
Unfortunately people are still bent-out-of-shape about these types of things. It's too bad. I am so non-racist having grown up in NY in the civil rights era......
For example, I married outside of the culture and religion and my mother insisted I would *lose my roots* - she was dead wrong - I became so much more in touch with EVERY culture, including my own.....
We need to show tolerance.......I am only intolerant of the intolerant.
No. Never have been for some strange reason.
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The strange response is actually yours
or you didn't get the sarcasm/humor of my post. Ever hear that saying? lol
What a strange comment.
You were able to discern that from my post? I find THAT strange!
Actually, your assumptions are quite wrong.
I will say a prayer for you, that God may grace you with wisdom and patience.
Strange sitings
I was 10 when I saw a similar craft right at tree line, dark (not shiny) gray. I live in the South also - Louisiana and wonder about that mystery often. It too was huge, silent, and disappeared when I bent down to talk to a younger sister. Looked up, and it was gone. Took just seconds.
Strange experience
...No, but of course it was disturbing to me for a long time, and I consulted various sources, spiritual, native American, books, anything, and about the closest thing I could feel okay with, was a native American Indian told me that sometimes when a loved one is about to die, you will see an owl, or dream of an owl. When I thought about it, the shape of that thing above me looked like an owl, but a big one. Wing span must have been maybe 5-6 feet.
Thank you! This just sounds really strange
to me. And as the OP said, he didn't even drastically change his name, it was just a simple shortening of it. Who cares???!!!! I wish all I had to worry about on a daily basis was something as silly as that!
My husband grew up being called by his middle name but when he got older, he changed to his first name. When we go to visit his family, they call him by his middle name still and my family calls him by his first name. It's actually kinda funny and my husband is certainly not bothered by it!
SIL, not so strange but interesting.
His name is Craig and his twin is Cliff. Creative mom, huh!
strange sighting for me
There's an opossum under my birdfeeders eating for the second day in a row. I think he has his nights and days mixed up. He's so cute though. I just want to go out and squeeze him, he's so fuzzy. What gives though, why is he out in the daytime? His eyes are all squinty like he just woke up.
Sounds strange to me
What self respecting guy keeps borrowing money? Although I don't know his circumstances, that alone would make me leery. You don't want to get involved with someone needy like that IMHO. I'd sever the ties with this dude.
Seems you have a strange interpretation
of our feelings on this (those of us who don't feel it's such a good idea pretend there is a real Santa).
I had a strange occurence once on
vacation. I was outside my motel room smoking early one morning (we were outside Atlanta in June) and a guy walked up dressed in heavy pants and a long-sleeve flannel shirt. He asked me if I knew how to get to the Univ. of Georgia. I told him no, and then he said that he and his buddy were just around the corner and needed some help loading something and could I help them.
Being summer, 90-degrees already, him in a long-sleeve flannel shirt did not make a whole lot of sense, and then asking me to help (unless it was me they needed help loading) was a little suspicious. I told him no, but would be glad to yell for my husband who was just inside the room. You have never seen anyone take off so fast in your life.
I called the motel office, but of course they were long gone. I was just glad they said something to me and not some young girl who probably would have not thought anything about it. There are scary people out there.
You were right to be cautious about helping them. You never know.
This will sound strange, but
I promise it worked. I had a BAD UTI for a couple of weeks, drank tons of water, took AZO, took cranberry tablets, drank beer, you name it... the only thing that worked was I read on the internet to take Alka-Seltzer. Something about the alkalinity. Anyway, that INSTANTLY relieved most of it, then I took one or two packets a day for a few more days to be sure, and that did it. Google it if you think I'm kidding -- that's the only thing that worked for me.
You are not strange. these things happen--sm
and if you ever watched *crossing over with John Edward* or his new show on WE *crossroads* with John Edward, you would understand about these experiences and know that your loved ones are trying to communicate with you the best way they can. He has many books you can read on the subject and you may even learn to communicate back. To me, and in my own opinion, I am envious, as my departed relatives, some of whom I would dearly love to hear from, do not do these types of things. Have a Merry Christmas!!!
Really strange response, are you on their side or
what? Probably they bought a ticket to get here and I would think it could work the same to return to their native lands. My religion as well as others in America are not so honored. I think something stinks and maybe it is just not the feet (although could be a combination of that and the armpits).
Also, isn't it strange how some of us are pretty much unaffected (sm)
by it and others are dying from it. I don't understand why. I have had it for 27 years and no liver damage. And although I never did drugs, I can't say I have the healthiest eating habits and drink occasionally.
Got it, very strange- what about the lakes in Orlando
with the amoebas that have killed 2-3 kids when they went swimming and 3 in Texas this summer. Just heard on CNN. Posters went up, lots not paying heed. Authorities say these are always there but when water gets 80 or above tends to bring them up from the mulk on the bottom. Symptoms are like meningitis and within a few days the people have died. Always something new and scary. I am moving to Canada- my daughter visited there and said the news not directed to scare like here in the US.
What a strange response. Are you an older gal? I am SM
too, but that is no reason for your curt response. I see nothing wrong with mother doing that, since few young girls are able to at that age. It takes them a while, since it is new to them.
Have a little more compassion, please.
Did anyone get funny or strange gifts? This is
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