It's not the fact that he goes on those sites
Posted By: It's how she feels about it on 2007-06-14
In Reply to: Thank you someone for having a little bit of security! - pdqtrans
My husband and I have used porn during our marriage to "spice things up," and I was perfectly okay with that. The OP is not. This is an area of marriage where I think there must be either agreement or acceptable compromise, or the marriage will not work.
Yes, they should try to work things out before giving up on their marriage. But it doesn't sound promising.
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try looking at these sites - sm
Craigslist under Louisville had a real estate section/rental section.
Try BuyOwner.com. you can rent or buy to own.
Try sublets.com.
My DH looks at some sites now and then - sm
but just the picture sites; he does not pay or do any webcam sites. He listens to Howard Stern too, which is mainly where he gets the website addresses and he checks them out. He does not do it very often though and he knows I think it is s-t-u-p-i-d but I don't feel threatened by it though I don't have those girl's bodies or boobs (I'm not even an A, his ex was a D) He does not go there to get off though. But if he started to do webcam or pay sites then yes I'd have something to say. He know this too. I know him well enough to know he would never cheat on me; but if he ever did I'd be out the door. But your definite and mine vary on that score. Looking to me is not cheating, he'd have to be in the room with them touching them somehow. Though again I do not like the webcam thing and would not tolerate that either. This is an issue you should definitely discuss with him before giving up on your marriage.
Not sure of any sites to look at, but
I was taking care of my 90 y/o grandma until a few months ago. She used to live with my mom and then when my mom passed away I took over her care. She really didnt need any type of health care, as she is very healthy for 90, but I had to do all her domestic care as she was just too old to clean, wash clothes, grocery shop, et cetera. She recently moved into an independent living apartment, so much of that has eased, but she still needs some looking after. It is not an easy job, but the rewards are wonderful. It pleases me to be able to care for my aging grandma. She is an awsome person and I hope I can do everything possible for her. Good luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for. Grandparents are a blessing!!
Fun web sites
Fun web sites along these lines. They even give some tips for achieving the looks. You could print them out.
http://www.fiftiesweb.com/fashion/fashion-wh.htm
http://reviews.ebay.co.uk/ROCKABILLY-Retro-HAIRSTYLES-How-to-achieve-the-look_W0QQugidZ10000000002156781
The sites I read
made it sound like that is traditional thinking, that stopping use of laxatives will always or usually reverse the condition. But I also saw a site or two that admitted that there have been studies that didn't correlate the two things as always going together. And melanosis coli causes no symptoms, so if you were there for something symptomatic and she didn't treat you, I'm not too impressed with her doctoring. They have good choices now for chronic constipation, and there can be anatomical reasons for constipation; it doesn't make you a head case. MiraLax works well, and it's now offered OTC.
I think this was the site that said melanosis coli didn't cause symptoms, or else something else that I found interesting.
http://www.medicinenet.com/melanosis_coli/article.htm
Here are 2 sites I've used before. sm.
The perfumed court specialize in samples of perfumes, My friend turned me on to them who gets samples from them all the time and I've gotten quite a few as well.
http://theperfumedcourt.com/
The perfume emporium has a section on mini perfumes.
http://www.perfumeemporium.com
Happy shopping!
good sites
Thanks for the sites. I had her call her grandma and talk to her dad. I dont think she will cut her hair again... or at least until she is a teenager rebelling against society or what not.
This was on before and she noted on many MT sites s/m
that the "work" they did was all practice dictation, not her real work.
Sheesh, no I don't shop on either on those sites. They
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Truthfully, I'll be using both sites
I don't know why we necessarily have to chose. I'm here or there for the information and fun at times. I visit other MT sites as well.
Here's a couple of safe pet food sites.....
http://www.flintriver.com/
http://www.petpromiseinc.com/
Does anyone bead? Just tried it and I'm hooked!! Any good web sites? Thanks. nm
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Good ideas below, also bento sites (sm)
For variety, if he's at all food adventurous, try bento type meals (Japanese).
Lunch In a Box has a great article on food safety for bentos. Some things you may not have to refrigerate if packed safely. Also Fit & Fresh is a good brand of boxes with custom-fit ice packs to keep stuff cold for 6 hours. Combine that with a thermos with warm food and you've got a good winter meal.
If you find yourself fascinated by bento as I was, Just Bento is another good site for info on it.
I don’t read the sites you give as I disagree with you
and don’t need to look any further. What you say is wait until a guy gets old enough, may not have issues and then if he does get it wacked off then and then go through much more pain than he would certainly remember as a child or even have as a child. Yeh, makes a lot of sense to me.
Thank you for your kindness - i did find a few things on competition sites sm
but they were all pretty boring, lol. we are going to do like you suggested and rent some of those movies this weekend to get that frame of mind going. i coached her little league cheer group and we won first place at competition so she is kinda counting on me for help, but i am brain froze on cheerleading, LOL!
I love that site, one of my no-fail smile sites.
Love the picture; I love my kitties.
Chiropractor sites often discuss point tenderness
at those dimples like you are describing. I really think it is due to psoas muscle tightness from sitting too much for your job. If you do see a doctor, make certain you mention the point tenderness in that dimple area. And definitely stop sitting on a foot (as I sit here on one foot to take pressure off my sitter bones).
http://www.squidoo.com/psoas
But this article was also interesting:
http://www.massagetherapy.com/articles/index.php/article_id/602
Oops - PC will take manufacturer's coupons, not those printed off various web sites. nm
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Go under Internet Properties, Privacy, Sites and you can block any websites you want from there
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Sounds good! I can tell you that these dating sites do not work. I have never seen so many needy
men on them. I wont meet anyone without talking to them first by phone and believe me when I tell you they all have their stories as to why they are broke, why they have been married 5 times, why they are still raising kids at 60 years old, etc. What you suggested sounds good. I have a few lifelong male friends that I usually always go places with so I never really had an opportunity to meet other new people when I go out and about so I plan to start doing more things on my own. I really dont mind doing that. It may be fun actually. Appreciate all your ideas!
The sad fact is, from what you have said (sm)
the dog is likely dangerous not only to cats, but to everyone else, as others have pointed out.
I would do some research with the hard facts about aggressive dogs and make an appointment to sit down with her and have it out. She needs an intervention as she is in denial about a potentially disastrous situation.
The dog most likely *should* be euthanized at this point.
Other than the fact
I have a daughter instead of a son, and we haven't been married quite as long, I could've written your post... I also feel like I'm a hermit now, always was a little shy, but MUCH more so now. I think I have depression now too. I'm 40 by the way. I don't have any solutions, but just wanted to say you're not alone.
It's not the fact that she maybe has a point
in that post, but the fact that she takes every opportunity to jump on any person here who works at home with children and makes broad generalizations about how we do our job and how we don't.
Me, personally, I did this to stay home. I however did not work full time when my kids were babies. There is no way I feel like I could have. I am working full time now that they are out of the house in school. Yet, I was accused of being one of those "unprofessionals."
I agree the OP needs to find another solution, because the one she has isn't working.
The fact that she reached out to you
...is a very good sign. It means that she hasn't entirely given up hope yet. But she needs all the support she can get. I don't know what resources are available in your area or what she has already tried, but she needs to get into therapy immediately and she needs to find a way to obtain her medications and start taking them again. There are agencies which can help with problems like these - you can help her search for them and help her do whatever is required (filling out applications, etc.) to get her going - because of her depression, she may not have the energy to do all of this on her own right now.
The most important thing you can do is to let her know that you are there for her, that she is important to you, and that ALL problems are solvable - maybe not in exactly the manner we would prefer (it is possible she may lose her house) but sometimes a situation that seems so dire at the time may end up having an unexpected, positive affect on our lives. Believe me, I speak from personal experience.
Kudos to you for being so caring and concerned about your coworker.
I know for a fact it was wrong and someone
else who was also devastated when he died because she felt like a mom to him. This is not someone who knows someone either. This is my family I am talking about. I'm not going to put all the details here on a message board, but I am going to say all sources I don't care where they came from are wrong by stating that her mother cared for him up until he was 6 years old. They are false or mistaken. Maybe she claimed to have taken care of him and that's fine, but she did not take care of him for the first 6 years of his life.
The fact they depreciate instead of
what houses are supposed to do - increase in value, is one reason not to. But I had a townhouse I just adored. Lawn was taken care of for me.
The mere fact
That you ask if you are overreacting means that you, unfortunately, are playing the victim. NO ONE should question whether or not they are overreacting, when in their gut THEY KNOW that in fact they are being abused. You husband has no respect for himself or you....it was smart of you to cut him off from sex, but obviously that has not deterred him from trying to break you down even more. This isn't about sex, it's about power and control. GET OUT NOW.
As a matter of fact, he did.
Actually, a few years later he took the boys, then 8 and 14, because they needed the discipline of a dad. Bad mistake! He'd convinced me he had changed, but then went out to his play rehearsals and band practice every night, leaving the boys at home. I'd sue to get custody back, he'd shape up for awhile, I'd back off, and the cycle repeated until I ran out of money. The boys are grown now, doing basically okay. He's just pathetic now.
Yes in fact one of them is already spoken for
from a little girl that goes to our church. The little girl who owns the guinea pig and bred her has such a love for animals that she would not let them go to anybody that wouldn't take care of them! For her 13th birthday instead of asking for presents for herself, she asked each girl that was coming to the party to bring a gift for a dog or cat and then took them to the animal shelter and spent her birthday giving away the gifts to the animals and playing with them, brushing them and just being with them. She is an awesome young lady!
As a matter of fact -
I love making cinnamon-rasin bread with this same recipe. Also, it's great for homemade pizza and bread sticks - and a lot cheaper than sending out, though maybe a little more labor intensive! Worth it for the taste, though. I've also made fried dough on special occasions. Great minds DO think alike!
Why don't you appreciate the fact that he cooks???
I mean, seriously. You said, "he messed up my good cake pain?" What the he**? My husband doesn't even know here our dam cake pan is. Quit complaining, pull your big girl panties up and either leave or stand up for yourself! Sitting in another room crying? Don't give him that much power. He sounds just as mad as you are. I bet it's not all his fault. I've been married a long time. When one person acts like that they are mad at the other person. Talk to him. Don't whine and complain. Be proactive and leave if it's that bad, although he rented a room to be with you so it can't be that bad.
I don't think your nuts. In fact...
I just noticed my back STOPPED itching. I had an itchy back for the longest time...always rubbing against doorways like a crazed grizzly bear rubbing on a tree trunk, using a coat hanger to scratch myself, bathroom towel, you name it.
I think what was causing my problem was my chair! Whatever the fabric was on it was causing my back to get really heated and probably caused it to sweat and caused the itchies. I have a new chair and it just dawned onto me that I don't itch anymore! Well, I mean aside from the usual wintertime dryness, but nothing like before.
Anyway, it's just a thought. By the way, I'm jealous that you have Valium. Always wanted to try the stuff but no one likes to prescribe it anymore it seems. I just down some cheap wine instead. Works just as well I guess.
Hope you get some relief soon!
No, as a matter of fact
I did not revel. I did not know what to think seeing here there saying that. Unfortunately, I don't live where she was speaking and the news channels did not show the whole speech, only parts of it. I do have to say that now she is putting it out there that her comment was aimed at "gangsta rappers." That can't be factual, or if it WAS, I sure did not see anybody remotely fitting that description in her audience. Why can't she just say, "Woops, I said it, but did not mean it and I'm sorry. That was inappropriate." Instead, she has all sorts of commenters out there blowing smoke trying to CYA for her, trying to twist it and put it into a context that casts her in a better light. Frankly, I am sick of her more than I can say. She should be thankful to live here in the US where she got into a great college when she had a very poor GPA, which would never have happened anywhere but here in the US.
I pray it is not fact ..
I pray it is not fact ..I can't imagine a tabloid reporting such news without a reliable source. I know, I know. They are scum and do bad reporting all the time.
as a matter of fact, it's not so dum...
See, the cats have it both ways. They are predator without truly being prey. Plus, their numbers are great enough that it's conceivable they could impact local populations. And honestly, domestic housecats are "exotic species" to the North American fauna, not a natural predator or part of the normal ecosystem at all. So, yeah, the guy has a point.
But then I'm biased, I admit, because I keep my own cats indoors and I'm aggravated no end with the neighbor cats who come and spray in my yard. :)
You need to reinforce the fact to him that
just because you work at home does not mean you are available for whatever. You have a responbility to your job too and should fairly well set hours as if you were in an office. I have had to explain that to my kids (19 and 14) that just because I am home does not mean "I am at home."
As a matter of fact
I will be spending Thanksgiving with my daughter (age 39) and some of her friends and we plan to break out the old Trivial Pursuit! Can't wait - it sure beats watching sports on T.V.
It is mainly the fact that the seller will not..sm
respond to any emails. All he has to do is respond and say yes it has been shipped. It leads me to believe he is avoiding me.
We try to buy organic and in fact
going to the local farmer's market today- we buy chicken like that and also hubs likes to get vegetables and fruits like that also. You are right though- the only way is doing your own farming or knowing where they sell organic.
Fact or Opinion
DS is stuck on two questions.
"I enjoy reading books by Judy Blume" Is this fact or opinion. DS says fact, I say opinion.
Next
"My mom loves for me to wear blue shirts" fact or opinion. I say opinion, he says fact.
I'm confused now because if I were to say that I enjoy reading a certain book, I would consider it fact for me.
Not looking for sympathy, in fact
I figure to get the opposite! Doesn't matter! I'm a smoker ... yeah that's right, a dirty low life scum of the earth polluting your air smoker! One of the few little pleasure I have in life. When the price of cigarettes went sky high, we started "rolling our own". It was a lot cheaper, for a while. The price of the tobacco went up, but still much cheaper than cigarettes. Well today, DH was informed at or local tobacco store, that because of a new tax hike, it will go from $9.14 a can to over $20.00 by April 1st? Ok. I'm done, let the stoning begin...
What I meant was the fact she was so old
probably was unaware of the video being recorded as she was showing her behind. I am older and on senior trip the driver had GPS and most of the seniors were talking back to it, thinking it was a person sitting somewhere and giving the driver directions, talking to it just like it was a real person. Some elderly folks just not up with the technology. You are right, she should have just closed her mouth. I do not argue with the law.
if you think that the fact that my 1st reaction
to seeing the photo of this dog posted on the board was 'scaaary', gives you the right to take 'actions' against my right to post on this forum, you are**********
You can insert here the worst names you can think of.
I do not know this dog and when the picture came up on the screen it frightened me. This was not what I expected, abd it has nothing to do with being
'immature.'
You have NO right to play forum police here!
It's YOU who is harassing me!
I agree. In fact, I found it fun because
I was 5 and my twin sister had it too, and dad kept bringing home presents for us, LOL.
I love your answer regarding the fact that
she probably won't notice for awhile- it will probably just slip her mind. My adorable hubby called tonight to ask me to take something out of the freezer. He was on his way home, said to leave out for about an hour or so and then I was supposed to put back in fridge. He said, oh, that's all right hon, I know you'll probably forget so I will give you a call back at 5 just to remind you. He just loves on me!!!
What I see on this board is the fact women
really do not accept the fact if you have a hubby who doesn't cheat, google, stray, look at other gorgeous women, or mistreat you - they just do not believe you can have a husband who takes the cake. I have seen it time and time again. I think a lot of women are so miserable in their lives with their husbands and think they have to put up with mistreatment they don't believe it when another has a hubby who is all that! If I hadn't approached my hubby about marriage, I probably would still be a widow. His family thought confirmed batchelor at 49 and he, like I, value each and every day we have together. Raised on a farm, good work ethics, painfully shy and wants to just blend into the woodwork and hardly makes eye contact with someone other than me, very difficult in social places for him but so thankful for this gem. I just wish people on here, if they have hubbys who stray, mistreat them, Google others, whatever know some men just not that way and it has nothing to do with their sexuality...
As a matter of fact I did. I used to agree with you (sm)
but since doing my own research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a bunch of crap.
In fact, I've re-read the first 3 o4 4
already while waiting for others to come out. I really need to re-read the rest because there was one detail about Draco that I didn't remember.
You know the thing I'm talking about? Did you remember that?
I know for a fact that you dreaming of your ex means sm
that you are "yearning" for a closeness like you once felt. If you are married or have been for a long time, when you are neglected emotionally, spiritually and physically, your body goes back to something you once had that was good.
I don't know if it is our subconscience trying to tell us something (like leave your loser husband if he's not doing a thing for you), but it's saying something to us.
In any case, that's what they usually mean.
"I know for a fact" to me screams I am smarter than
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Me too. In fact, in dresses and tops
I actually need petites to have them fit right. Otherwise there is room for a hunchback in the shirt or dress! But my arms are long, like a monkey.
I'm 5ƌ" with a 33-inch inseam - not sure about the arm length - how about you?
BTW, my inseam is the same as my 6Ɖ" husband's!
Ever notice how men's shirts can be bought by neck and sleeve length size, but all women are supposed to be proportioned the same?
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