It's just good manners to send a card, sm
Posted By: my opinion on 2009-01-02
In Reply to: How important is it to you to receive a sympathy card - unloved
if only to acknowledge in writing a person's loss.
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I agree, I would send just send a card....
maybe a mass card if they are Catholic.
Why would you send in an RSVP card
for dinner. The answer I would give is NO. I got an invitation to a cousin's wedding, someone I never heard from, her mother (paternal aunt), never heard from her either and I laughed and threw the invite in the garbage. Why would you even think you had to go or even respond?
Send her a card saying a donation was made in her name.
Give it to someone or some cause that will appreciate it.
I was just saying I think it would be out of line also to send her a sympathy card...
I AM leaving her alone. I am just asking for other insight since I don't understand this. Like have other people done this. I am not pushy. If I were pushy I would keep calling and asking to speak with her or go over. I am respecting her wishes. I haven't been over because she said she doesn't want anyone over. How am I pushy?
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Credit Card Reform Can Cost Good Card Users
Part of article:
Credit cards have long been a very good deal for people who pay their bills on time and in full. Even as card companies imposed punitive fees and penalties on those late with their payments, the best customers racked up cash-back rewards, frequent-flier miles and other perks in recent years.
Now Congress is moving to limit the penalties on riskier borrowers, who have become a prime source of billions of dollars in fee revenue for the industry. And to make up for lost income, the card companies are going after those people with sterling credit.
We pay off our balance every month. If they do this (punish those who have sterling credit) Ridiculous!! I'll stop using my CC and pay by cash or check.
So much for reform.
Good for you, now send some of your Will-power my way please. nm
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I think a card is a good idea to let her know you are there for her when she is
good and ready. Those cards did help me.
I wanted to tell you that my PPD was so severe I ended up overdosing and spending 2 weeks in the hospital due to severe depression. It is a serious disease.
I Love Sally's! Good idea to get the savings card for $5.00
also. You pretty much make it back and-then-some on just a couple of purchases. And they are not expensive to start, I don't think. MUCH cheaper than the stuff at the salons where they can charge $20 for a bottle of shampoo! I have had much success with finding products you can't get anywhere else, such as salon-strength reconstructors/deep conditioning products the salons "won't" sell you, and charge you 15.00 or so for one application, because they want you to keep coming back for them! Cha-ching! Salons are truly such a rip off. At Sally's, I'm like a kid in a candy store! ;)
Have U renogiated credit card debt when minimum payment got too high? Do they take your card away,
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IMO a card would not be out of order at all. Except a sympathy card, of course.
I totally agree a sympathy card wouldn't quite be the thing, but it sounded to me that the original poster of that idea didn't mean a sympathy card like one for death. I think sympathy in the sense of "hey, you had a rough time of it with this birth, and maybe things haven't been the way you imagined, but know that I'm thinking of you and I'm here if and when you need me."
I got PPD when my breastfeeding relationship didn't go right, following a birth plan that went seriously awry, and the reality of a fussy, picky baby instead of the happy, sleeping one that I had imagined.
I *did* spend a lot of time on the phone, but then everybody's different. I would have loved to get a cheerful card from a friend, however. Does anybody NOT like a card?
Whatever happened to MANNERS?!
I think it is extremely rude to bring your pet into shopping malls/stores! Just like I also believe that children should be taught to behave well while in stores! What is wrong with people, why on earth would anyone ever think it's okay to bring an ANIMAL inside a store?? Of course I also think it's insane to treat an ANIMAL like a baby! Some of you people really need to wake up and realize that this "precious little baby" is NOT a baby, it's a little creature that licks its private parts!! And for those of you crazy people that posted down below, I'm a perfectly happy person and actually like most dogs, but I again I think it's extremely rude to subject other people to my pets.
And you were not taught manners
growing up - so rude.....Your post sounds like the wedding gift receipt I got which was also rude - the couple already had a thank you printed out- I took the time to get them 1 - they should have the decency to write a quick note- to have printed was not the way I was brought up.
Miss Manners, you got it going on!
Just irritates me no end reading these no sense of etiquette posts. Pay for anothers honeymoon? Here is 1 person who would not give $. If you can get an invite to someone to try and shake them down for a gift, then get thank you note to the shooken one. Oh, by the way, don’t need the correct grammer police, just spoofing on this board but not about manners- they really never go out of style and same through the years. It is only people who don’t have enough sense to get in out of the rain that makes their owns. Still tacky.
I disagree, it is bad manners to just drop in - sm
now if you have friends that you have that open door policy with fine, but most people prefer warning so they can do a quick house clean/pick up, or have the opportunity to say no, now is not a good time. My mom always taught me to (1) wait to be invited over to someone's house and not invite yourself over there, (2) call before visiting someone. I like to be called first since our house is usually messy and this allows me time to put things away and clean up some. At my one neighbor's friends in the summer people descend upon their house every Friday night, it is crazy, eat all their food and drink all their beer, she has had it. She doesn't mind now and then but this is a regular thing. She's a direct type of person too but she doesn't want to come off rude and tell them all to get lost either. We only go down when asked and we are pretty good friends probably because of it.
People have no manners today when it comes to -sm
parties. For any of my kid's B-day parties in the past I have had to track down at least half of the parents (5/10) to see if their kid was coming. Even for my wedding a few did not even bother to RSVP (luckily they did not come as I did not included them in my head count); and had 3 say they'd be there and did not show (1 was my husband's boss too, didn't even get him a wedding gift either and they had worked together for 20 years). -----------unless the RSVP says "Regrets only" the recepient should call to advise you if they will be able to come or not.
i swear sometimes i wonder how people have NO manners
it's really weird to me you know... just the common courtesy of some people is GONE, or never there in the first place.
Also what happened to please and thank you ?!!
Ms. Manners, maybe you need to come up with the times and realize that not everything in this world
anymore, but people do what they do to be happy in this world. You should try it, you might like it.
Your mother has some nerve and if she knew manners
she would know basically it is NOT her wedding, basically she has NOTHING to do with it and should keep her nose out of it. You or someone else needs to clue her in on where she stands, no where basically. Does she have some mental issues? If she put up that much fuss, I probably would disinvite her to the wedding and I am not playing. Don’t be spineless, tell her...
Who teaches these well adjusted kids manners? NM
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send the 2yo to the
I have found the best way to handle it is to refuse to buy my husband any clothes at all. He has to go and buy his own clothes, and live with the look. It is none of my business. I only fill requests for bags of socks.
I always send
I always give a beautifully illustrated children's book, which truthfully people are never impressed initially, but after they cuddle their babies and read to them about 100 times in the middle of the night when they are sick, and eventually teach their kids to read the book back to them, they usually decide to keep it forever.
But receiving blankets are nice also.. :)
I wouldn't send it and this is why . . .
People like this get off on how they are hurting people. She can see in your email that you are hurting, and although it is a valiant and kind effort on your part, she will see it as a sign of weakness and groveling, which is what would delight her.
I'm so sorry you're put in this situation. You sound like a kind, gentle person and you certainly don't deserve the way she treats you.
The only thing I can suggest is to be around her as little as possible (family gatherings, traditions, etc.) and always choose to be in another room, on the opposite end of the dinner table, etc., as physically far away from her as possible.
Continue to be pleasant, don't stoop to her level, and you don't owe her an apology for anything.
She's the one with the problem, not you.
Know anyone can send email...
I said sent in error and that is what happened, not that you had anything to do with this, you did not. Apparently by saying independent and asking about how to send in taxes, this person thought I was maybe owner of a company. Maybe rereading the post I held no one accountable, no one. I would never respond to a post like this because of it being from India and just too many scammers out there for me. The first sentence says - - I don’t know where they got my email unless this site is giving it out - this sentence did not come from me.
Where are you? Wish I knew how to send
pictures so I could show you what our place looks like. I live in suburb of Atlanta and even the bigger homes in my neighborhood, say the 2-3 story places do not run, say over 400-500$$. I could not imagine paying huge price for a home to have a cracker box. I think lot of people paying huge amounts for homes would be surprised if they went on line and checked for homes say in Henry County or Fayette County, both just right outside Atlanta. You really get a bang for your buck here. Not only the cost but wonderful place, clean, quiet, really nice. What are the costs of your homes there?
Maybe I should send milk
I can't believe the milk prices elsewhere. Anyone want NY milk. LOL.
Let me send you my address...LOL!! nm
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Send some to Arkansas PLEASE! :)
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Send the over 60 crowd to war....
 Maybe this should be on the politics board but it's funny on any board......
Drafting Guys over 60
----this is so Funny & obviously written by a Former MARINE-----
New Direction for any war: Send Service Vets over 60!
I am over 60 and the Armed Forces thinks I'm too old to track down terrorists. You can't be older than 42 to join the military. They've got the whole thing ass-backwards. Instead of sending 18-year olds off to fight, they ought to take us old guys. You shouldn't be able to join a military unit until you're at least 35.
For starters:
Researchers say 18-year-olds think about sex every 10 seconds. Old guys only think about sex a couple of times a day, leaving us more than 28,000 additional seconds per day to concentrate on the enemy.
Young guys haven't lived long enough to be cranky, and a cranky soldier is a dangerous soldier. 'My back hurts! I can't sleep, I'm tired and hungry' We are impatient and maybe letting us kill some asshole that desperately deserves it will make us feel better and shut us up for a while.
An 18-year-old doesn't even like to get up before 10 a.m. Old guys always get up early to pee so what the hell. Besides, like I said, 'I'm tired and can't sleep and since I'm already up, I may as well be up killing some fanatical son-of-a-bitch.
If captured we couldn't spill the beans because we'd forget where we put them. In fact, name, rank, and serial number would be a real brainteaser.
Boot camp would be easier for old guys. We're used to getting screamed and yelled at and we're used to soft food. We've also developed an appreciation for guns. We've been using them for years as an excuse to get out of the house, away from the screaming and yelling.
They could lighten up on the obstacle course however. I've been in combat and didn't see a single 20-foot wall with rope hanging over the side, nor did I ever do any pushups after completing basic training. I can hear the Drill Sgt. In the 'New army' now, 'Get down and give me ... er .. One.'
Actually, the running part is kind of a waste of energy, too. I've never seen anyone outrun a bullet.
An 18-year-old has the whole world ahead of him. He's still learning to shave, to start up a conversation with a pretty girl. He still hasn't figured out that a baseball cap has a brim to shade his eyes, not the back of his head.
These are all great reasons to keep our kids at home to learn a little more about life before sending them off into harm's way.
Let us old guys track down those dirty rotten cowards terrorists. The last thing an enemy would want to see right now is a couple of million pissed off old farts with attitudes and automatic weapons who know that their best years are already behind them.
If nothing else, put us on border patrol....we will have it secured the first night!
Share this with your senior friends. It's purposely in big type so you can read it..........
OMG! Please tell me you didn't send this
While I fully understand wanting to protect your kids and trying to deal with the bullying this is definitely a letter that would create a bigger problem (at least that is the way I read it). If I was the receiver I would be outraged.
If my kids were being bullied, I would call the parents and introduce myself and tell them about our kids being in the same school then very politely and gently tell them what has been happening to your kids.
When I read this letter I was picturing myself being the receiver and found myself infuriated. It is very condescending, and is basically telling the parents they are really lousy (can't write the true word) parents. There has to be a better way to deal with this.
I would not send son back.
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he did send a thank you letter
the following day. See I don't know if the secretary gave the interviewer the message and he didn't call back or if he didn't get it. If he did get it I'm worried if he calls again he'll seem to pushy.
They should just make it a law that you have to tell them right after the interview!! LOL
Anyone know of a place I can send...sm
My father took our wedding pictures as he is good behind a camera and we wanted to save some money. But now (a year later..lol) I want to have some of them cropped and black and white and softened, etc. Anyone know of a reasonably priced place I can send a CD of pictures to and have them edit them and print them out for me so I can finally create my wedding album? Thanks in advance.
$50 a week if I send DH. $100 or more if I go
I always overspend cause there's always something on sale that I will need sooner than later. DH goes by the list and the list only.
I live in PA and there are only 2 of us now.
Send me one of those. LOL I get pumpkin pie
only if I buy it. DH doesn't like it.
Tried to send but guess what?
My street address ends in Trace and it said I had to put in road, street, etc.- would not accept the Trace. I appreciate it anyway.
Wish you would send some this way (Atlanta)!
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Yep, see above. I did send them and feel
wonderful! It was even more fun than giving gifts because it seed more old fashioned and personal. Thanks for the egging on. As the above poster said, now I can't wait to see if anybody responds! Merry Christmas to you!
Send them a letter . . .
stating that the debt is not valid. They will have to prove the debt is valid within 30 days before they can continue trying to collect. A lot of times, collection agencies buy up batches of bad debt for pennies on the dollar and do not have documentation to prove it is a valid debt. Many times, they give up after this, but will sell it to another collection agency. Also send a letter telling them to stop contacting you. It is a good idea to send these letters certified.
If they cannot prove it, dispute it if it is on your credit reports. Also check your state's statute of limitations for collecting debt. In my state it is 7 years. If they do not collect it by then, they are legally out of luck.
Lastly, if they prove it is a valid debt and it is within the legal time frame, you can negotiate a payoff with them. Don't pay more than the original debt because they only paid pennies on the dollar for it.
Here they send deputies after you.
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PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm
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I just wanted to send my sympathy your way...
May you find comfort in the Lord.
No, she did not send me the exact thing,
did not know I would have to explain, she sends me rah-rah-rah all for the war type things which I delete. I choose to read other things instead of this.
After we type in the post and we hit send...sm
After we type a post and click on Post Reply - we get sent to an authentication page to type in a code...like 2d4s or something. Someone last week had asked MTStars to fix it so that when we get to that page, the mouse/cursor ends up automatically in the box so all we have to do is type the code, versus how it was before - we had to place the mouse/cursor into that little box. MTStars addressed this poster by fixing it. I was not the poster who asked for the fix but I certainly recognized the fix and was just thanking MTStars for fixing it.
Have a great weekend!!! 
I would love to send you 2 books. Please consider sm
this. I lost 2 family members on the same day back in March and I know your pain. email me and I will get them out to you.
I know you are looking for on-line help, but these books can be read in a day. Very easy reading. One book I know the author personally, attended a class he taught, and is a very good man. Email me.
Kim
And if recruited, would send my child to
Canada.
Ooohhhh---send some to me so you won't pop! ROFL
I love fresh tomatoes from the garden. Slice 'em up, a little salt - that's a meal!
I would send it back - word does have it
In MS Word this is how I get my line count to submit on my invoice....
At the top screen click on tools, then click on Word count. I use the line that is characters (with spaces) and divide by 65. Have used this method for 5 years and have never had a problem.
So cute! Could you send more pictures? n/m
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Don't just send a note to the school...
Call the principal. We had something like this happen last year at one of the schools here where I live. It is a serious thing, because some of these kids actually try to carry through.
I would send copy of it to my employer. -(sm)-
Just to let them know what the human cost is for their greed, chintzy paychecks, lack of work, and lack of resptct for their employees.
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