Isn't life kind of short to be worried
Posted By: about someone getting "disability", which is on 2008-04-23
In Reply to: Okay you have touched a nerve with me - let me explain
probably peanuts compared to what we make working. Do you really think people on disability live the good life? JMO.
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Life is too short
Unfortunately, life is actually way too long to be very, very poor, old and alone, and if you can't get along with anyone when you are young, you are not going to be that hot of a catch at the nursing home.
Life is short. Who knows what could happen? Go for it! NM
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Life is too short to be married
to someone I am unhappy with and especially, not in love with. I would not cheat but would be honest about my feelings and get out of the marriage. Before acting on anything, I would make sure I was divorced as should he. People will get hurt unfortunately, but I could never stay in a marriage knowing I loved someone else or I was unhappy. Life is too short and goes by too quickly. I want no regrets.
People will not like this answer but it's how I feel.
Life is short and you only get one go-round.
Is this what you wanted out of life? No marriage is perfect, but being faithful is a basic requirement, not to mention the deadly diseases out there. That's all I'll say other than to add, you're much stronger than I am & I hope it all works out for you & you find happiness & peace, one way or the other.
Me either...31 years now! Life's too short to be uncomfy!
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Are you unhappy enough to leave? Your life is too short...
to spend it second guessing your relationship! It is either good or bad, worth fixing or not... It is your choice. If a man treats a woman like crap and she continues to take it she is also to blame. You can leave you know! There are good men out there, don't settle for less than what you deserve. If you want to be treated poorly those are the kind of man you are going to attract, the lousy ones. Women must stop being the victims. People treat you the way you LET THEM treat you. And those that say stay together for the sake of the children are nuts..especially if you have daughters, look at the example you are setting. I would much rather have a single parent (male or female) who was happy and well adjusted than be in a miserable two parent family where there is no mutual respect and love!
Besides many times life in jail is short anyway
or the criminal ends up with his own kind and fits in fine and learns more... so, if they live long enough (not killed by the other inmates) they learn how to be a better criminal. I just am agreeing there should be no parole. But oh boy, I'd never want to see the inside of one of those places.
Life is too short to deal with nasty people. See mom alone when you
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Life is too short to live it in fear. I'd rather sleep in my car -sm
than with someone who mistreated me either physically, OR 'just' psychologically. And even if the kids don't actually see anything happening, you better believe they're still picking up on the bad vibes.
The fact that he mentions killing HIMSELF, in addition to you, is a major red flag. If a person reaches a point where they actually talk about doing something, they're alot closer to doing it than when they were just thinking it to themselves.
Guns in the house. (Guns, pleural!) Not good. I'd have insisted those be gone before the wedding day, myself. (Haha - it'd be in the prenuptial agreement that I'd never get married without!)
Anyway, living in fear for the sake of the greater financial 'security' of having 2 incomes is no security at all, in my book. It's a huge sacrifice of your freedom, peace of mind, & safety. The greatest security you can give yourself or the kids is finding a way to provide for yourselves WITHOUT the 'help' of an abuser.
Sadly, it seems that simple kind gestures in life
are no longer taken for that - they are either considered some evil, twisted, perverted gesture or go unnoticed because of the society we have become.
So little is done face-to-face anymore with all the modern technology we now have - and, as great as it can be, a lot has been lost along the way. I can't keep thinking had we not progressed so rapidly and so far would common courtesy of others be so far removed from us as it is now....
NOW - if you sent an email card I bet you'd get a response! LOL (my cynical sense of humor!)
Bless you - I would love to get a card like that from a neighbor who was being complementary! Dn't stop - someone, somewhere will figure it out and say "thank you" or "how are you doing today" - all the good guys can't be gone or in hiding!
short arms, short-term memory loss...
I too suffer from Short Arm Syndrome. Add to that the short-term memory loss that middle-age brings and I have now discovered I need to lasso the &*%$ reading glasses around my neck or my day will be spent wandering in circles asking the dog where my glasses are.
I have two pairs, per advice of doctor. I do not wear glasses all the time, so he thought I was not ready for bifocals. My son gave me a wonderful eyeglass case for Christmas that is big enough to hold both pairs should I ever venture out of the house amongst the living.
I did manage to find some "sporty" looking around-the-neck-eye glass holder thingies - what DO you call those things? I'd use twine before getting those multicolored beaded ones. I have a neon coral one and an emerald green one. Too bad I can't find the former, I can't remember where I put it.
I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
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Office; Life on Mars; Lost; Life; Pushing Daisies
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worried
Is there anyone in her family that it can be reported to so they can get her some help. Help is definitely required!! May be you can talk to her and see if she would be willing to go to counseling. What about even asking her doctor for samples because she cannot afford. most docs will do that.
I got a little worried
when she did that last kick at the end, it looked she hurt herself. We rewound it a couple of times and it definitely looked like pain on her face.
I would have like to see her perform alone. Not a big fan of Beyonce
I was worried as well...
For the same reasons, I thought the chinese girl was going to take it all the way with the way they were scoring our girls but in the end the judges came through thankfully!!
Has me worried too.
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more than a little worried
I have been watching my 403B get smaller and smaller. At this rate I will be working until I am 75! I know all the reasons to keep the money invested, buy low, sell high, etc., etc., but every time I get my statements I just want to cry.
Would you be worried
Would you be worried if at 13 your daughter had a lot of friends who are boys? My daughter also has a couple female friends but not around this area. I am working so I can't take her someplace... all she wants to do today is hang out with boys. She is downstairs in the kitchen now making lunch for the 2 neighbor boys because I told her she couldn't go out for pizza with them. These kids are driving me crazy today! What would you do?
The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
They should be more worried about the effects
especially in a larger state such as California. Smoking is an addiction, but I personally feel that there more of a problem with obesity. People are trying to quit smoking, but are they really trying to quit eating? JMO. What someone does on their own property, whether it be an apartment, townhome, etc., is their own business as long as there are no laws broken.
I think even Simon is getting worried
He said if Sanjaya wins he will quit. He must be getting a lot of votes. Even Howard Stern is pushing people to vote for the kid.
He treats you like that and you are worried about where he
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You are so welcome!! I was also worried about the smell,
especially since I noticed it was also for horse manes, but it sure did help our hair. So glad it helped your little one!! :)
I'm in CA and was up all night worried ...
that I might have to evacuate because of the fires here. My kids are scared. My cell service is down so can't call my PS So, I emailed her early this morning to let her know I might have to be evacuated and if so won't be able to work. No answer. Emailed her supervisor. No answer. Luckily, (so far) we haven't had to evacuate, but I am sooooooo tired from staying up all night with worry and from getting prepared in case we do have to leave. On top of that, I feel I have to work since I didn't get a reply. So I'm trying.
So, whatever. Who cares if I get a reply. But then I started thinking, wow, they REALLY just don't care. It's not like I'm suprised, of course, but still, when something like this happens it really just make you feel bad .  I'm just trying to console myself thinking that maybe they are just too busy or both of them didn't get my 2 separate emails.
In comparison, my sister, who works for local huge defense company.....Let's see, her supervisor called HER 3 times already to see how her family was and gave her (and other employees affected) the entire week off WITH pay. I don't expect that much, but even a call to say it's okay to take a PTO day would have been nice.
I would be worried about illness.
Especially with such a drastic change from the kid he was. As an example, schizophrenia's usual age of onset for men is age 16-20 and is accompanied by many of the same behavior you mention.
Certainly, if he had some other serious illness he may be trying to consciously or unconsciously push you away or alienate you rather than tell you what is going on.
I dunno, it just seems that there should be a compelling reason (illness/substance abuse) for a personality change this huge out of the blue.
Good luck with this, my prayers are with you.
Worried about autism.
Hey everyone, I was just hoping someone with experience in autism can either confirm or shoot down some fears for me. My mother says that she is 90% sure my son has autism, and although we have had concerns before she mentioned anything, the doc said a couple of months ago to wait until he is 2. He is 22 months now and his next appointment is next month. This has really been worrying my spouse and I recently and I was just hoping for some input.
My son shows some definite red flags, but at the same time seems perfectly normal. For instance:
RED FLAGS: (1) His speech is pretty delayed. He will say "uh oh" and "daddy" and a few other words, but nothing else really and it is near impossible to get him to say any of the words he knows with prompting. He babbles jibberish constantly, however. (2) Sometimes it seems like he is ignoring us, but this is usually when he is occupied with something else. Sometimes he will look at us to his name, sometimes not. It does appear that he is deaf at times. (3) He never points at anything that he wants or is interested in. He will either get it himself or drag us by the finger to whatever he wants. (4) He lines objects up. They are never in any particular order or color and he doesn't get upset when we mix them up or take away one of the objects, however, they are usually the same type of object, ie. cars, dvd cases, blocks. (5) He won't give kisses or hugs when asked, however, does without being asked every once in awhile, hugs much more than kisses. (6) Compared to other children, he seems very behind in listening and really interacting with others.
NORMAL BEHAVIOR: (1) He loves other people and children and will often act silly if someone comes over to our house, showing off. He will bring out toys that he hasn't played with for awhile. (2) He isn't afraid to look us or others in the eyes and always has a ready smile. (3) He loves to cuddle and has no problem with it unless he wants to play. (4) If one of us pretends to cry or if he accidently smacks a friend who is his age and they cry, he will look concerned and give them or us a hug (and a kiss if we are lucky.) (5) He plays with his toys for the most part how they should be played with and gives his favorite stuffed bear rides in his trucks. (6) He has no problems with schedule changes and loves to go places different. (7) He has no repetitive movements with his hands or body, at least none we have noticed.
After actually listing these things, I feel a little more at ease, however the red flags are pretty strong and are very apparent on a day to day basis, especially his speech. I'm thinking he is somewhere on that spectrum at least. Thanks for listening as this has been the cause of some tears lately.
If you are worried, call a different vet.
I think diabetes is hard to deal with when the dog won't eat properly. There are so many variables that I think you should call a different vet. Good luck!
Are you worried about our economy?
so many jobs moved offshore, banks failing, mortgages being defaulted on. It's got me a little worried.
I am seriously worried about Paula Deen
Every time I see her on her show, she looks bigger and bigger.
Poor lady, she is so sweet, I really like her show, but she just uses an obscene amount of butter... so so fattening. I don't see how she going to make it, eating the way she does. Yikes.
Everything she makes looks delicious but I know I can't make or eat any of it!
I am so worried. Anyone have this experience? My 5 year old son sm
has been caught putting on his 2 year old brother's diapers. He got up in the middle of the night the other night and I caught him. He got embarrassed. He does it during the day behind locked doors. He does not wet his bed. I kept finding clean, used diapers around the house and thought I was losing my mind.
I am not comfortable discussing this with pediatrician yet. He's been doing it for about 2 weeks. I can't imagine what this could be. He gets really embarrassed if I try talking to him about it. He clearly knows it is not right. He has no faults at all - plays baseball, very boyish young child - and then this creeps up. Anyone out there know what this could be?
Only idiots who can't read need to be worried
It clearly says you shouldn't take them with high-fat meals.
I've been taking them for 2 weeks now and have not had any such effects. I'm not on a super low-fat diet, I just use common sense.
Gotta admit -- I was a little worried
Not because I doubted their abilities, but because it seemed like in the first rotation or 2, they were showing some serious bias to the Chinese. Shawn Johnson's balance beam was way better than Ying Yilan's and yet her score was ranked higher (not talking about the difficulty value, just the execution score) Even the commentators last night were talking about it. Nastia's uneven bars got a lower score than it deserved as well. I'm glad to see the judges got their heads out of their you-know-whats for the last 2 rotations and gave these girls the scores they deserved.
I do feel somewhat bad for the Chinese girl, though. I hope she doesn't lose a few fingers or toes over this. Of course as young as she is, I'm sure she'd recover quickly. That's something else that seemed strange to me, the American girls seemed very emotional and yet the Chinese - nothing (at least not last nice). Could that be because our girls have a few more hormones running through them, like any normal 16-year-old would? Hmmmm
Should I be worried about my 8 year-old's reaction? sm
Last night my 11 year old son and 8 year old daughter were watching one of those rescue shows on TV....they had just show a little girl being found safely on the beach after wandering a couple of miles away from her parents. Then they started the story of an 11 or 12 year old boy....I had no idea they would ever have a rescue show on TV if it had been unsuccessful but the boy died! My daughter was devastated. It was almost bedtime, no less, so I held her a while and she cried and I consoled her. Then I took her to tuck her in and said prayers and sang to her like every night...but she told me she was feeling really strange inside because of the show she had seen. I tried to calm her down by staying with her and rubbing her back and continuing to sing but she started shaking really hard...and continued to shake. I told her that I had looked up the story on the internet and that it wasn't a true story (a lie to try to make her feel better), and she was glad, but she continued to shake. So I took her to the other room and rocked her for about an hour (which of course I have not done much of in the last 7 years or so). She fell asleep and then I went to put her in her bed and she started shaking again. The shaking was so bad that I could feel it through her covers!! She is just a tiny little girl! She said the shaking was so bad it was making her legs and back hurt :( I ended up taking her to my room and letting her sleep with me but I am concerned that she would get upset to that point. I know the show was sad, but is it normal for a child to shake like that? It really scared me!
Worried, horrific rib pain (I think) and wondered
if anyone else has ever had this, what did it turn out to be. I was diagnosed with fibro but this is really unbearable. Any thoughts?
You're worried about the mother? Doesn't sound like she did a very good job herself! nm
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Are you the Anon who was worried abt possibly violence or hubby taking your kids? m
Best of luck to you for taking the steps to change your life. I wish you well.
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
Definitely short ones
I love in Fridays when my doc does all his patients that were tested for allergies that week.
Short. Not in the least bit Jewish.
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hopefully this will be short-lived
I'd still send pictures, etc., especially to your grandparents. Good luck!
My hair is very short right now.
Short layers and all I have to do is spray a little hairspray on it and run my fingers through it and I'm good to go. It has gotten much thicker over the years and hair color has helped with that too. I hate that I have to color my hair, though. I started going gray almost 20 years ago and I just turned 40.  At some point, I will bite the bullet and let the color grow out, but haven't gotten there yet. Not ready to be totally gray.
My hair is short
When it starts to get even a little long, I have to go out and get it cut. I don't like the way my hair or the way I look when it gets too long. I just put some gel in it and go. The only thing I don't like is that it can get dry in the sun. I've been dying my hair for about five years or so (46 now). I won't let it go gray, but that's just me. My daughter is only 4 so I feel I would look like her grandmother if I let it go gray.
My 8 y/o is a size 5, but she's SHORT...
for her age! I really hope she grows into her feet soon, looks like she has clown feet :) She's only 4 ft 3 in., but has some of the biggest feet for her age.
I have only seen short segments
as I am flipping through channels and man, is that show filthy! Is the story line that good?
Long and short of it -
While I can appreciate his desire to stop spending so much time in his car, I think the solution he is suggesting would only be very good in the short term at the most. The reality is you all probably need to sell your house and move closer to his job.
I always wanted to be short in HS, like
most of our little cheerleaders were. Now I see my height as an advantage, and i have to admit that even my freakishly long arms do come in handy. Funny how priorities change ...
My dad short-tempered and
was always yelling and pounding tables and children about the dumbest things, and mom was cold, bored and depressed, so it's hard to say.
It's so hard to shop for Mother's & Father's Day cards!
for short people
why is it the one item i need is on the very top shelf so far back i cannot reach it?
my short list
Milk
Liver
Okra
Tofu
Indian food
Thai food
Sushi
my short list sm
Lima beans
soft-cooked eggs (where the yolks are too runny and the whites aren't quite firm - and forget any with the shell accidentally left in)
fishy-tasting fish
Chicken/turkey liver (beef and deer is okay)
raw onions
big gobs of mayonnaise (a little in salad is okay)
tuna without celery.
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