Is this an answered prayer or is something wrong? (sm)
Posted By: AnonymousMT on 2008-12-27
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I have been in the process of getting ready for a divorce. My 11 year old in the past had asked me not to because he would have to spend to much time with his dad. Later he asked me about it, I told him it would be a few months, and he said he was "ready to go right now and get out of here". I have prayed and prayed about this and yesterday my son said it didn't matter to him either way, whether we divorce or not, he will be fine either way. He said it in such a calm nonchalant way. It almost makes me think he is at peace about it all. On the other hand I am worried that maybe he is just giving up or just not willing to talk to me anymore about it? He does seem very calm and ok with everything though and does not seem sad or depressed or worried. Could this be the answer to my prayers?
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Since it was a prayer request it probably should have been on prayer board. nm
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Thanks so much, all who answered!
You all had some excellent advice, and I sure appreciate it. There are valid arguments on both sides of the question of whether or not to have a curfew for an 18-year-old. We decided to stick with the curfew, and made it clear to our daughter that she was to follow it, or the car would be taken away for a week. While she lives in our house, I want her home at a reasonable hour.
By the way, I do NOT implicitly trust her. My older daughter taught me how foolish that was after a late night car accident (she said she thinks she fell asleep at the wheel). I've been through the teenage thing long enough now to know that we really have no idea what they're doing when we can't see them. I just don't want her on the road at 4 a.m., even if she is 18.
Thanks again for your great advice.
I just answered your email *S*
 
You just answered a question I had.
I wondered how many symptoms it would help. It would be fantastic to be rid of periods, but how disappointing it doesn't do anything for PMS. So it sounds like you would still have whatever intestinal problems that go along with the hormone changes too. My colon is much more trouble than my uterus, unfortunately.
Once again, question not answered
WHO IS THIS PERSON?? Never heard of her and I am entitled to ask who she is, remember gab board to talk about anything.
ok you answered my question down here...
doesn't the daughter want the ashes or have any ideas what to do about the ashes? 22 years is a long time......
ok and here you answered my question about ...
I should have read the entire thread before I ever posted, eh? *lol* - All my queries have been answered, have a daughter who does not particularly care to have the ashes...but your fiance' does care and I understand the latter's feelings on it...
My suggestion is force the ashes on daughter - leave them at her house as you are getting ready to leave, then you leave...just my opinion, of course....
You answered my question....
Did not think pain, picking up she does not meow, just lays there. Thanks because never had a cat before to reach an old age and be on her last leg, like I suspect she is. I will just keep babying and taking care of her as much as possible.
you already answered you own ? about husband
A change in behavior like that is more than suspicious. Don't be blinded by how he was even a year ago. That was then, this is now. Not sure if you saw Dr. Phil last week about the swingers, but if not, check his w/s just for add'l info. If not that, there's clearly another woman (or man, maybe?). The fact that suddenly you're being left out is no accident, darlin'. I've known married men who do that
down-low thing (ick factor, but true), and everything else in-between.
Are you able to get someone to tail him (a PI, or even a friend who can be trusted)? Also, like I tell everyone, CHECK THE CELL PHONE CALLS! Many cheaters continue to get caught by this, as crazy as it sounds in 2008. The first thing you need to to is set aside your emotions, hard as it may be. So far you've been really smart. This way he's less likely to think you've already gotten a head start on him.
You wrote for advice, but you obviously know you're not being treated right here, and we support you. But don't be blinded by what "was" in the past 10 years. It really sucks, but it's sadly the truth. Many before you have been in the same position. Never again will I ever put all my trust in a man. I'm not bitter, I'm just telling it like it is. That doesn't mean there aren't great men/marriages out there, but there are far too many players and really good con artists!
Incidentally, to this date I still get an abundance of married men hitting on me, so single, married, separated, it matters not. So please get the info first, then remember to keep your self-respect. A man who is cheating, lying, or simply leaving you out of the picture altogether is no man you want to spend the rest of your days with. Don't mean to sound hard, but too many women waste valuable years trying to fix a man, when they should be cutting their losses (regardless of kids or no kids), and maintaining their dignity.
Please keep us posted.
Be strong!
That was answered in another post
I apoligized to a relative 1 time that got very upset with me. I called, told them over and over as they cursed me out I loved them (they had cancer by the way) and they finally said I could visit them again. I bit my tongue from then on- agreed with everything they said, never had my own thoughts any more but I was able to visit. Never did I say what I wanted to- just went along with the flow- so yes it meant that much to me and I will say sorry.
You answered your own post by questioning me
you said your children tell you everything. You at the same time said your 18 year old son had sex at 17 and told you about it the other day, meaning he had sex, what a year ago and he is now telling you, irregardless of whether he felt bad about it or liked it. It is good that you take the thought that your children tell you everything. I see many disillusioned parents who thought the same way as you do.
I guess I answered my own post
The person posting above said Florida did not allow,something about all their capital punishment?? Whatever she meant by that. You are right, the poster is from Texas and I stated (without my knowing her state) I be willing to bet Texas did the whippings.
She asked, I answered. Cool down.
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You've answered your question.
They wanted to be on Oprah, etc. This was a stunt.
Well you answered a question that was not asked (sm)
I did not ask you if it was acceptable nor did I ask you if it was right. I asked if it was something most women end up dealing with at some point. Because the statistics I have read say that it occurs at some point in the majority of marriages. I wanted to see if that was true according to the sampling of women on here. Thanks for not patting me on the a&& though - I would have had to report you.
If I had answered with my first thought, X-rated back
but would be off this board so I will say after my bath this morning just put on some Lubriderm as my skin tends to be very dry.
Say a little prayer
I just applied for a clinical job. They are looking for an MA, LPN or RN, but then under education requirements, it said "None." So they will probably send my resume into oblivion, but prayers could help.
I say a prayer of thanks every day
I know we are truly blessed, especially when I read a lot of the posts on these board. Our house is paid for, I personally have 2 small (under $200 each) credit cards to pay off and my car payment.
I am thankful each and every day.
I said a prayer for you nm
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Just say a little prayer for her - she needs help! May God Bless her. nm
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prayer board
Do you have a line right up above your post that says "Mental Health Board - Autoimmune Board - Prayer Request" ? For some reason I can only see this when I'm on the Gab Board.
Regarding prayer thread below (sm)
For those who responded about it being wrong to pray and that they were going to know have to have a Bible beside their Dorland's....how closed minded are you? We have freedom of religion in this country - should we take away our freedoms now? If two people of any religion want to pray in this country they are free to do so as long as it does not impose their beliefs on anyone else. Asking a Transcriptionist to type "we prayed" is asking him or her to document the happenings during the office visit just like everything else is documented. I am sure the doctor already knew of the patient's religion and they were both of the same religion - the doctor did not impose anything on this patient. I believe everyone is free to worship or not worship as their own beliefs dictate....you cannot take away that right - this is America - right now we still have freedoms here that many countries don't have the luxury of having....please don't try to take our rights away!! I would gladly transcribe any report mentioning any religion if that is what the doctor dictated because being fair and having freedom means that we don't judge anyone's religion, whether we believe they are right or not. If you are not religious, that is also your choice. I recently typed a chart where a woman was using the alignment of the stars to determine the best time for her to have surgery....I typed it like the doctor said it, because that is my job, and I did not judge her, because that is not my right.
I will lift her and family up in prayer...
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The only comfort I can offer is to wish you well and say a prayer for you. sm
I'm sure all will turn out fine, too. My mom went through early stages of cervical cancer in her mid 40s and she is doing well. Best of luck to you and keep us posted and updated.
Maybe you should have posted on prayer board. nm
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Is that what the prayer request board is for?
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It was a prayer request; put it on PR board, please. NM
Goldbird
Thank you for the prayer. I will copy it, if you do not mind.
I took a couple of pictures of her this morning. I think I will put this prayer with her picture in a nice frame. Her name is Sixer for her 6 toes on one foot.
the post is on the prayer board, with my reply :)
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We have a Prayer Request board - it belonged there. NM
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A child's prayer request from our kid's choir last night....sm
Matthew, age 6, during our children's choir prayer time last night asked for us to pray for his dad, who was just arrested. When I told him that hopefully his dad would get out of jail soon as I'm sure he missed him, his response was "I don't think so. My dad goes to jail a lot." He wasn't sad when he said this - just said it matter-of-factly. All I could do was tell him that he's not the only child who has a parent in jail and that we'd pray for both of them and his mom.
We hardly wear skirts ever and mostly meet at the church (basis of prayer)
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You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
click on Gab, see prayer heading at the top, click to see
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Could someone tell me if there is a Christianity board as well as a prayer board (sm)
or are they one in the same? I have some faith related questions, but don't want to post on the prayer board again if it is specifically for prayer requests. I do not see a Christianity board listed. Thanks so much.
Please don't take this the wrong way
but after reading your note and the way he is "flirting" - sounds like he's thinking below the belt. Unless that's what your're interested in also he could be trouble.
Um, wrong!!!
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what is wrong with you (OP)???
How in the WORLD is playing peek-a-boo with your child ICKY?? Wow, hope you aint a mom..........................
it is very sad, but you are wrong about these
horses being exploited. I have horses. I have been part of the horseracing business and my husband's life was spent riding racehorses. These are very well-taken care of animals, and by nature love to run. They generally work for minutes a day (except on race day) and then are pampered the rest of the time. There are exceptions, but these horses are very much loved by those that work with them. There was absolutely no monetary benefit to keeping Barbaro alive. They could have collected huge amounts of money through their insurance had they put him down right away. They could not breed this horse; Tb's cannot be AI'd. They tried to save this horse because they loved him and he had poured his heart out to run his best. Just yesterday after watching the Sunshine Millions races, i told my husband that they've tried long enough to save him, that it is time to put him down. I agree with that decision.
wrong -- MOST don't end up this way.
Many of these horses go to working ranches, competition of other kinds, like barrel racing, etc. There are also numerous organizations set up by the racing assocation and others to find them homes in the general population. If you really want to know where much of your packing plant horses come from, look at the BLM, wild mustangs. They sell here for $25. yup, even bred mares. So these people that have no heart, buy em and turn them around for a profit at the packing plants. BTW, a feed lot is generally a term for steers in a concentrated lot being fed-up for slaughter, and horses are used there to work the cows.
VERY wrong! What would
you think if you caught your husband in the same situation. It seems to have become an addiction. Stop now cold turkey. Read the 5 love languages book and see if you cannot reconnect with your hubbie or go get some marriage counseling.
Is this right or wrong?
I am a female in my early 40's and I have never been married and do not have children.
With every job I've had, some people feel the need to interrogate me about why I've never been married.
I never bring up the topic myself.
I usually answer, I've never found any one, maybe I will meet someone, etc.
I recently started a new job and have told co-workers when they ask if I've ever been married, I tell them I am divorced.
Now, I barely hear a peep about being single, whether these folks tell me they wish they were single or complain about their kids.
I just think it is rude to ask someone why they have never married. I would never ask someone why they married their spouse.
Is this right or wrong?
It's definitely wrong.
That you're so good in bed that limiting yourself to just one man would be a crime against humanity.
Then ask them, "Which one is YOUR husband, by the way?"
So everyone else was wrong, U only one to get it right? nm
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You are so wrong
As a former teacher, I'm appalled at your ignorance. Teachers start at salaries lower than truck drivers. Of course it varies from region to region, but generally it is about $28k to $29k. Some of these positions require a master's degree or a specialist degree, which is above the Bachelor's degree.
As far as the hours teachers work - they are really never off duty. They have papers to grade, meetings to attend, clubs to sponsors, committees to serve on, parents to phone, write, email, and and websites to update daily. Then, there are the workshops and/or college courses they have to attend to keep their credentials current.
Summer vacation? Who teaches summer school? Who works 1 or 2 jobs to supplement the lack of income for the 2 summer months, to keep up the student loan payments, take a college course or a workshop mandated by the school district or the state dept of education?
Then, there is the fact they aren't allowed to be human. If a teacher is seen drinking in public, smoking in public, or smacking their own child's bottom, they are bound to be pilloried by some self-righteous citizen.
You need to shadow a teacher for a week and then coime back and tell me how easy the job is and how well paid they are.
If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and we wouldn't have the teacher shortage we have.
Did I mention the number of teachers who are assaulted and permanently injured by their students every year? I'm waiting for 60 Minutes to do a story about that instead of the extremely rare but so publicized cases of teachers having sex with their students. Anyone else notice that it's the female teachers who get the publicity? I know a lot more male teachers having sex with their students - of both sex - than female teachers.
Nothing wrong with that-
it sounds like my friend who comes over to my house and hangs out with me and cleans my house for me. Sometimes I give her money when she needs it and I can afford it; Also she drives my other car and I pay the registration and insurance on it. She is unable to work and the amount of disability she gets is impossible to live on.
There's something wrong with her, all right! nm
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