Is it tacky to hand someone a Christmas card...
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I got a card at Christmas that I did not open
and put in a drawer- so no not everyone wants a card. The poster needs to mind her business and cool it. I would be totally put off by a popping in to see me, taking a dinner over for me, etc. etc. I think the mother said new mother does not WANT to be bothered. What is so hard to understand about that? Lots of people are worn out after giving birth and want time to recuperate. The poster made to do about her friend not accepting calls while hubby home and she does, and so? The new mother in her own home makes her own rules and the rule she has for right now is not seeing any people or talking on the phone, her wishes.
If you celebrate, that would make a great Christmas card! (nm)
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Jewlery making kits/supplies? Can you teach them to knit or crochet? Hand sewing? Hand-made
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Have U renogiated credit card debt when minimum payment got too high? Do they take your card away,
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Credit Card Reform Can Cost Good Card Users
Part of article:
Credit cards have long been a very good deal for people who pay their bills on time and in full. Even as card companies imposed punitive fees and penalties on those late with their payments, the best customers racked up cash-back rewards, frequent-flier miles and other perks in recent years.
Now Congress is moving to limit the penalties on riskier borrowers, who have become a prime source of billions of dollars in fee revenue for the industry. And to make up for lost income, the card companies are going after those people with sterling credit.
We pay off our balance every month. If they do this (punish those who have sterling credit) Ridiculous!! I'll stop using my CC and pay by cash or check.
So much for reform.
IMO a card would not be out of order at all. Except a sympathy card, of course.
I totally agree a sympathy card wouldn't quite be the thing, but it sounded to me that the original poster of that idea didn't mean a sympathy card like one for death. I think sympathy in the sense of "hey, you had a rough time of it with this birth, and maybe things haven't been the way you imagined, but know that I'm thinking of you and I'm here if and when you need me."
I got PPD when my breastfeeding relationship didn't go right, following a birth plan that went seriously awry, and the reality of a fussy, picky baby instead of the happy, sleeping one that I had imagined.
I *did* spend a lot of time on the phone, but then everybody's different. I would have loved to get a cheerful card from a friend, however. Does anybody NOT like a card?
I think it's tacky (sm)
to have showers for second marriages and beyond. My MIL got married for the THIRD time three years ago and not only did she have another wedding shower, she threw it for herself in her own very large 3400 sq. ft. home! I attended but thought it was in very tacky and greedy of her!
Same here!. I don't want to be tacky, but if I am
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Tacky…NM
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So tacky with capital T
I would be so offended to get an invite like this, would not care where it came from. I probably would not go and if I did, hey $$$ would to me equal 3 but I don’t even think I would show up. I got invite before from relative, had not seen nor talked with them in years, invite to wedding, threw in garbage.
Got a tacky thank you note
I went shopping for the gifts and got a printed thank you note. That is just tacky-back. If I have time to shop for a gift, you can at least send a 2 sentence thank you- hey could mention my name and what I gave also. That is how you do things.
Throwing yourself a housewarming is tacky...(sm)
Oh my.... Do NOT register for gifts. That's just so incredibly tacky. If someone asks you what they can bring you or what you'd like or where you are registered, the ONLY proper answer is to say, 'Oh no, please... We'd just like to have our (dear friends/new neighbors) over to help us celebrate our new home. Your presence is present enough!' If they bring something, then they bring something. But to register for gifts is just too tacky. A housewarming party is NOT a wedding shower!
A housewarming is for you to serve your guests food and drink as a way to show your home to your friends and meet your neighbors, not as a way to grub for gifts... which is exactly what you're doing if you're even giving ideas for gifts when someone asks! Truly, if someone asks you what to buy, you need to act horrified by the mere thought that guests to a housewarming would need to buy you something.
Okay, I just found a great link. You really need to read this. http://rebecca576.tripod.com/etiquettebyrebecca/id60.html
If someone invites me to a housewarming and then says what I suggested above, I'd certainly bring something because I was raised not to attend any sort of party without bringing a little gift for the hostess, be it a bottle of wine or a platter of brownies or a nice plant. But if someone were tacky enough to register for a housewarming? Oh no... I wouldn't even come.
She's making them buy their own dresses? TACKY!! NM
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What an extremely tacky and insensitive
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Tacky. One Word. Homeowner's insurance.
Have the parents stick around an be responsible for their own children then. 
...nm up there. Love those tacky sequined, bent out
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Very sleazy and very tacky. There are other gossips shows, but
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What are people supposed to call Christmas Eve and Christmas Day now?? (nm)
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Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
Yes this is getting out of hand....
it is getting out of hand by some of the posters who are disagreeing with others. I am the OP and I was only looking for opinion's from others. No fights, no trash talking...just honest opinions. I have received lots of comments and I have thanked everyone for their comments. Each and every comment gave me new insght to consider. It is really sad how posts from others makes me look like I am looking for a fight here! I have said in an earlier post that I appreciate all the comments and I am just going to write this one off as an extra-personable customer service experience! I do have a sense of humor, ya know! I am not looking to sue anyone! I was simply asking for input from others as to whether or not this was a big deal or not! I got mixed answers, but I am shocked at how out of hand that this has gotten! Please read all of the posts from the OP only if you would like to make an assumption on what my intentions are, which I think that you will see that I was only looking for opinions.
Thanks for your input.
On the Other Hand
If you never let up and the pictures don't work, she will do anything in her power to hide it from you. My mom has nagged me since the day she found out and that made me go to great lengths to keep it from her. My brother's wife did the same thing to him and he would smoke at work and not at home. Then, when he came to visit, he would take me to the store so he could smoke on the way there. 
I know she is only 16, but if she doesn't want to hear what you have to say about it, she'll just keep hiding it and keep smoking unless you two come to an agreement.
Good luck. I do hope she quits.
Off hand
I can only think of Susan Lucci, Barbara Walters, Suzanne Sommers ... many who are getting up there have better looking arms than I would expect. Of course, they probably have other tricks too.
I think the surgeries are a bit touchy ... it seems often certain things will look better because of it and others worse. I had my nose done (for instance), and my profile looks better, but I liked my old nose from the frontal view.
Another thing that scares me is it seems there are so many infections from hospitals nowadays. I think one has to really think it over for sure.
Thanks for the info! : )
raising my hand too..sm
and personally, due to the amount of money involved in ALL professional sports, I cannot help but think that most of it is one big set up and the public is being ripped off by feeding in to it, sort of like the professional wrestling teams. that is just a thought though, and not meant to stir up any one's irrational emotions about sports. I also think they are TOO competitive and families are pushing their youngsters into sports WAY too young, just to bring in the big bucks later in life. Part of my work is for a pediatric orthopedist and a youngster of 3 years old suffering sports injuries, in my opinion, is WAY too young!
second-hand smoke
With any luck the weather will be good and the party will be held outdoors....If not, take her out to lunch or make a special lunch/dinner at your house just for the 2 of you....perhaps get your hair and nails done together or just piddle around in the consignment shops...do something that the 2 of you enjoy. If you've known her since Jr. High or thereabouts, she knows how you feel about smoking and I don't think she would be offended. The 1-on-1 time together would proabably the best present she gets....and you get to catch up everything without interruption.
I know, I did it yesterday...Made chicken and dumplings from scratch and sauteed squash and a light fruit salad, watched a video slide show that my friend made on a Mac laptop of renovation of the log cabin that her mother was born in (narration, music and all).....Her daugter's wedding is coming up in 3 weeks and the young lady wants it to be at the cabin. Then we tried on mother-of-the-bride outfits she'd brought over, we critiqued, exchanged jewelry that would match. We talked for about 3 hours non-stop and coulda gone on for another coupla days just reminiscing and trying to work out the kinks of the wedding and chowin' down on comfort food.
Just an idea....Hope this helps.
I have to hand it to Lee C. Bollinger,
President of Columbia University. I listened to his speech and particularly liked:
“Let's, then, be clear at the beginning, Mr. President you exhibit all the signs of a petty and cruel dictator.”
And his ending:
I am only a professor, who is also a university president, and today I feel all the weight of the modern civilized world yearning to express the revulsion at what you stand for. I only wish I could do better.
Mahmoud Ahmadinejad called Bollinger's introductory remarks insulting, (Well, duh!) What, did he expect....to be handed flowers and a key to NYC?
hand quilt
A baby quilt is not too large, so I would hand quilt. If this is your first, do a very simple pattern such as a window pane about 3-4 inches apart top to bottom, then side to side, or quilt around design. Get a good beginner's quilting book. It will really help you learn. Happy quilting!
Thanks to all. I think I will try hand quilting. Seems
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T hand signal
Wow, way back when I was in high school, if a student was doing this, he was probably on a basketball court and wanted a time-out called. What's next....
Hand claps. sm
I had a dog that went deaf. Bless her heart, it took me almost a year to realize she had gone deaf. She would respond to hand claps - I don't know if it was the vibration or what, but she would alert at hand claps when dummy me finally realized she had gone deaf.
The phone is yours, don't hand it in.
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Are you going to hold his hand on the subway, too?nm
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Do you know that about Cuba from first-hand experience?
I traveled through much of Cuba a few years back and unlike the other countries mentioned, there are no luxuries that fund education or health care...but, having said that, and stating that the country is very poor, many things that are in place today are much better than before Castro. The education system is quite extraordinary for those who excel in school and wish to take advantage of it and are true to the communist idealism.
The economy is now mostly based on its tourism industry, and still it is a bargain to visit there. This will probably change soon, though, as the government is investing heavily in building new hotels and resorts. They are working hard to build relationships with countries outside the US influence and are just beginning to tap those potential benefits.
Having experienced healthcare services while in Cuba, I must say that everything was top notch. I did have to pay for it. The clinics for non-Cubans are not free, but it is exceedingly affordable. What amounted to an emergency room visit and observation here in the US was handle with an ocean-side view room with cable TV, my own private doctor, private nurse and private pharmacist and including a week's worth of Cipro was less than $177 US.
Yes, there is a lot of poverty and third world hardships (my personal belief is there is no longer a reason to have the embargo and I am against it), but the people are wonderfully interprising, hardworking, long suffering, happy, friendly and very pround about how their lives are so much better now than under the previous dictatorship.
They have come a long way under Castro's rule (I'm not debating I think he is perfect, but he is very loyal to his country and ideals).
I am so sorry to hear that. If you re-think things you have it on hand. SM
I know Ray was reluctant, but having tried everything else over and over he went for it., Thank God for him, my niece and their son he did. They are all so happy, as we all are. He was very lucky and experienced no really bad side effects from it. His mom and dad both died of cancer, and he has always wanted to set a good example for his son. Ray Jr. turns 16 this month and always has said he will not pick up a cigarette after seeing his grandparents die and after seeing his dad's fight to stop. I pray he holds to this.
Always negotiate and do your homework before hand!
If you do some good internet research you can find out what the dealer actually pays for the car before their mark ups. I bought a new car several years ago and took this information with me. It was about $3000 less than sticker price and I only paid a couple hundred over this base price AND they went to another state to get the car that I wanted because I didn't want to wait for one from the factory. They will push you hard so be ready to stand your ground. Also, ask them to throw in license fees, plates, taxes, etc. in the price. Many places will do this if you finance through them and some will give you a gas card for $50, free oil changes, and what not if you ask at the end. Just remember, the worst they can say is no. You will likely never see this person again. I would recommend using your own bank for financing. If you use theirs I feel they use that to their advantage and finance you the sticker price and make it more difficult to bargain.
Second-hand and generic items
I am shopping for second-hand items at resale shops and buying only sale and generic items at the grocery store. I don't drive as much or as far as I used to to shop. I am working more hours, although for less pay as an MT.
I think the the crooks (politicians) who put the American public in this position should be prosecuted.
Would rather have someone hand it than e-mail cards sm
I only use these on occasions they don't usually make cards for. I send one to my bro for Vets day with Flag and music, he loves it but not for Christmas, please!
I do both ways, wash by hand and also
clean out food particles and wash in the dishwasher. I have no reservations about doing that. The only thing I don't like are family plates set on floor and animals eating out of those and reusing. Yuck.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
I gave my daughter a hand mixer and...
you would have thought I gave her a check for 1 million dollars! She is a semi-single mom (deadbeat boyfriend who does not work, she does, but that is another story!) with 3 children who works hard at a just above minimum wage job. She gets by though. I asked her what she wanted and she said new pots and pans, a cookbook and a hand mixer and I got her all 3. I asked her yesterday what the best gift she got was and she said the mixer. Made me very happy to know that something so little meant so much to her!
lol, you're posts are getting a little out of hand with the duh post below and this one.
in a kinder tone. The topic is not the concern to me, it's the tone of your posts. Thank you.
Isn't it throwing the first hand of dirt onto the casket
Putting their body to rest, they loved ones toss the first handful of dirt? Maybe I am wrong.
Can't even imagine how Anna N. mother could walk on her daughter's freshly dug grave, never heard of such a thing.
There was a reason A.N. Smith was like she was and her mother may have been big part of it. That she had a multimillionaire daughter who didn't share the loot with her must probably made the woman insulted. Unevenly distributed wealth distorts close family relationships like nothing else can.
Anybody use a hand-held steamer for your ironing? sm
I saw one of those "infomercials" for The Tobi and was wondering if anyone used this or something similar for all their ironing, and what your opinions may be. TIA.
Gently hand wash it in the sink and let air dry outside. nm
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glad you chose to hand quilt...sm
I've always felt that machine quilting was cheating...I like nana's idea of the yarn ties...that was the first one my grandma taught me how to do. Mommy also quilted and we'd hit the quilt shows where you have to wear white gloves before touching any quilt.
Recently went to the Museum of the American Quilter's Society in Paducah, KY (couldn't touch....it took all my willpower, believe you me).....The unique artistry and craftsmanship of each piece was breathtaking....a lot of applique and embroidery was employed as well...painting with thread and material...whoa! My friend and I split up and studied those quilts for about 1-1/2 hours and then we asked each other "Which one would you choose to take home?" Cat
what does arthritis feel like? -- blew out my hand
Last night, while simply reaching for a cup of coffee, the entire back of my right hand developed excruciating pain. Stiff real bad right now. It feels like all of the bones from my knuckles to my wrist on the top of my hand are all cramped and grinding. Loaded on pain pills right now, still pain. No health insurance. Could this be arthritis? What's it feel like? --- help
Hand him a bottle of sleeping pills and say
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Talking on the cell phone requires one hand to --sm
be on the phone and not on the wheel, unless of course they use a headset, which most do not! They have less control of their vehicle.
Besides, it is hard to ignore people at other tables who are talking on their cell phones, when they have to talk so LOUD to be heard over the background noise, that you cannot help but hear their conversation. I personally do not care what they are talking about, nor do I want to hear it, but cannot help it. Personally, I think people who take their phones with them into restaurants and public places, and have them constantly ringing and talking loudly about private stuff, are just doing it for attention, and to TRY to annoy other people. There is such a thing as cell phone etiquette too, you know, one of which is to leave your cell phone off while in public.
I agree. Hand him the headphones to have a listen. And stress how
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I have a lot of pain on the fatty part of my hand just below the thumb. Anyone have that? nm
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