Is it polite to drop in on somebody
Posted By: Unexpected on 2006-11-26
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unexpectedly without calling? Our church is going through something right now, and we haven't been attending. So a couple dropped by our house one evening without calling. I was NOT ready for company. I'd been working all day and I don't have kids and I never get visitors. They barely know us. I was dying of embarrassment as they had their little visit, trying to get us to go back. DH had no choice since they were looking right in the window of the door that time. Well really it's my husband they think is great. I don't think they like me at all, despite the fact that I'm the one who was going every Sunday. I don't think they think I was involved enough, but there was one thing I was doing faithfully. DH was just going to please me and my mother, He actually has discouraged me from signing up to do things in case I embarrass him by being late or something. But it's him they call on the phone, trying to get us back.
It's not my fault when the big wigs in the church break some rules and cause trouble and make people look for another church. It's a free country. But just now while we were watching a movie somebody rang our bell. We were sitting just out of their sight, and we didn't get up. Do you know we have been assigned a Deacon who we have never even seen at church? He has sent us a couple of cards in the mail, but never introduced himself. We were told he sits in the balcony. A deacon in the balcony? Is he hiding? I chose this church because it is one DH is comfortable at, but then again they aren't exactly bringing me up to speed on what I need to know to get involved. It just seems like they are set up for people who have grown up in that kind of church and know what to do already. There are lots of other churches that have more structured new member plans where I think I won't feel so lost. But what to do about these unannounced visitors?
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no, I have to say that came from Tim O'Leary and his drop acid tune in, turn on and drop out ment
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Well, I was trying to be polite (sm)
He had some mannerisms that were the opposite of attractive to me.
But I am really happy for you! What a great story!
I think the polite thing to do...sm
Whether you're interested in him romantically or not (which I guess you are?  ), would be to acknowledge his lovely, handwritten note by calling him or mailing him a note to thank him for it.
Then the reason you're calling him is to thank him, and you don't have to "make up" a reason to talk to him. Just call and ask to speak to him. When one of his assists answers, you don't have to say you're a patient or say *why* you're calling. If he's not available right then, you don't have to leave a message (with your name and phone number, identifying yourself to the staff) just ask when would be a good time to call back.
It just seems to me that he's put the ball in your court, by sending you the note. Maybe he's trying to see if you're interested, without being unprofessional. If you wait until your next appointment in six weeks, well... that's a long time. He might think you're giving him the cold shoulder or just aren't interested.
So I say call him and see how the conversation goes - professional, or more casual...? Or mail him a little note to thank him, and include your phone number and a casual mention that he can call if he'd like to chat.
Just my thoughts. Good luck to you!
Nor did I profess to be polite
Duh!
i don't think polite will sink in with an alcoholic.
First be a friend and tell her she really needs help. Encourage AA. Offer to take her there. Then set the boundaries, that she either gets help or needs to find another place to live by such-and-such a date.
I find they tend to be polite and reserved.
It makes me feel like the rest of us must seem loud, nosy and obnoxious to them, but then again I tend to be paranoid when people are too quiet, LOL.
crating is just a polite word for caging.
Hopefully the Buddhists are right about reincarnation. Anybody who would put an animal in a cage (which is exactly what a crate is) deserves that same fate--to be at the mercy of the type of ''superior'' human being, lacking compassion, who can still get a good night's sleep after doing that to an animal. Yes, an overweight pet will probably have a shorter life--that's just how it goes. But it will certainly have a happier life than the poor unfortunate one whose oh-so-powerful owner ''runs the show'' at its expense and sticks it in a cage for her own convenience. Have a little compassion and try putting yourself in the place of the animal. ''Run your show'' in ways that don't involve breaking an animal's spirit and making its life miserable. In short, pick on something your own size (mentally and physically)--not an animal.
So nice to find one that is polite about it. Could have been lewd like most guys:(
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People are more polite in the deep south. There is a sense of decorum.
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If you heard me tell someone to drop it, you would
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I disagree, it is bad manners to just drop in - sm
now if you have friends that you have that open door policy with fine, but most people prefer warning so they can do a quick house clean/pick up, or have the opportunity to say no, now is not a good time. My mom always taught me to (1) wait to be invited over to someone's house and not invite yourself over there, (2) call before visiting someone. I like to be called first since our house is usually messy and this allows me time to put things away and clean up some. At my one neighbor's friends in the summer people descend upon their house every Friday night, it is crazy, eat all their food and drink all their beer, she has had it. She doesn't mind now and then but this is a regular thing. She's a direct type of person too but she doesn't want to come off rude and tell them all to get lost either. We only go down when asked and we are pretty good friends probably because of it.
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'and drop out mentality' (got clipped above)
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It's just as rude to assume everyone will want to drop everything to talk to you when you call. n
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