Invasive in-law

My poor MIL.  She wants to be involved, I know and I do want her to be a part of her GK life but some of the things she does is so unnerving.  My oldest daughter started K this last year.  This is her first GK.  She came Friday to watch her perform during half-time during the football game.  They called them mini-cheerleaders.  That was great.  No problem with that.  She stayed through Labor Day.  Everything was okay.  She was going to leave yesterday but we asked her to stay and watch the kids so we could go to that parent teacher meeting and she agreed.  She kept making comments about how she wished she lived closer so she could help dd with her school.  She could go over her school work with her and such.  I am thinking to myself “no that is my job as a mother.”  She used a lot of the “I wished I lived closer…” phrase and I was thinking, no I am glad you live 80 miles away.  Well, today when I picked dd up, MIL just helped herself and looked through dd folder to see what dd did and read the teacher comments.  I would have liked for her to ask first.  Then she said “did the teacher send home those flashcards she was talking about, I will go over them with her now.”  I said no, that probably won’t start until next week as next week they will be going a full day.  This week they are only going a half days.  Oh, then she tried to get dd to eat lunch.  I said MIL they ate at school.  She just ate chicken strips, fries and gravy.  She said Oh, I see.  There is a sign on our refrigerator that they get out at 12 after they eat lunch.  She read it out loud to me earlier this morning but I guess she forgot.  I am just so glad she left because I had enough.  I have been taking Celexa and it helps me deal with that better but if I shoved the whole bottle up my bun I don’t think it would have helped if I had to spend one more day with her.  That sounds terrible I know.  Man the last time she was here, she did our laundry.  I found my undies folded neatly on my bed when I got home. UGG!!  I hope she did not think they were pillow cases. 

Her feelings are so sensitive that if you tell her to back off, she interprets it as “you hate me, you don’t want me to be a grandmother.”  That is so not true.  The problem is is that she has no one, nothing to keep her occupied anywhere.  She has no friends, no activities.  All she has is the doctor appointments, getting the mail, going to the grocery store.  She is starting gain some friends but I can tell that is not what she wants to do, she wants to be in the middle of us. 

• Invasive in-law - How does one get along
  • Look in mirror - Patti
  • I wish my mother would be - more involved
  • "Invasive" MIL - Lilly
    • Gee Lilly - can't you find something better to do
      • MIL - Lilly
  • My MIL lives about 1/4 mile from me, and . . . - CA-MT
  • Wish my DIL had shared my g-child - MIL myself
  • Can she come live with me - LinK
    • Forgot to add - LinK
  • MIL - Robbie
  • She knew she was visiting and would be leaving (sm) - My 2 cents
  • lived with us for a year. - mil
  • I am not in your shoes, but from your post, you sound a little - sensitive to me. -sm
    • Yeah, I know. Poster sounds a little insecure to me. sm - I know
  • I do understand where you are coming from - trose
  • OMG - NDMT
    • No H is an only child LOL. - Previous poster.
      • See, my husband is the baby... - NDMT
        • I know. - Previous poster.

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