In response to the above poster. I know where you are coming from.
Posted By: my answer was snide on 2006-11-07
In Reply to: I can't believe some of you!!! - Previou food stamps user
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I am "juvenile post" poster. "Looney" poster is some
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not poster you responded to but that poster has
everyone with different opinions is allowed to post here and poster said they were making a contribution in the name of pro-peace....give that poster a break please....
Are you sure no one is coming by every day (sm)
to give her food and water and at least a little attention?
I can see where you are coming from
Oh I don't know, just heard they was giving out free food! Go figure.... How did she hear that with no power?
Please, if you will tell me exactly where these are coming
from. I have read a few places but I want to know exactly what you are speaking of.
So if the end is coming
I've been hearing this crap all my life due to a religious upbringing. Oooh, we'll be persecuted and have to go live in caves during the end times. I'm over it!
The only thing one can do is get right with God the best they can. And that's between them and their deity.
If the planet shifts on its axis, the sun sends out a flair, or any other global disaster, there is no way to prepare for it, physically, mentally, etc. You'll either be in the right place/time or not. You'll either die, or not. Whatever unpredictable circumstance you're in, you'll do the best you can.
And if nothing unusual happens at all on winter soltice 2012, it will still be a matter of surviving whatever socioeconomic mess we are in at that time.
Live your life one day at a time, that's all you can be sure of. Don't worry about tomorrow because God is already there. Why go nuts like we did preparing for 2000? I refuse to stress on it, I did enough time doing that when I was a child having religious propaganda shoved down my throat. I did more stressing during the 2000 non-crisis because my boss was paranoid and put ME in charge of safeguarding all our electronic medical records from the big crash that never happened. This time, I don't give a hoot, and I'm not doing anything any different than I would any other day of the year. Tell your loved ones you love them and go the heck to bed!
its all coming to an end sm
What did you think about last night's performances , who is the winner.
I liked Kris better. Adam killed Kara's song. I also think when the judges talked to Kris after his last song it felt like they were saying goodbye to him and saying he did not have a chance to win. I hope Kris wins to prove them all wrong. I would have loved to see Allison be in first or second place.
Wow. I think this would be my response ...
I'd ask him what he wanted for supper and when he told me I'd tell him to go out and buy it.
LOL
Your response is what I have said all along
that being, people who are not there because of something they have done, but fell down on their luck, totally different. This is not covered under you do it to yourself type posts.
I did get a response....sm
the principal called me and said that 2 other drama students parents had called him about the same issue. The drama teacher did set a schedule at his insistence and sent it home with the students yesterday. It ends up that this is her first year teaching so I reckon' it's things like this that she still has to learn.
Thank you for your response! sm..
We have ordered one that has a built-in NTSC tuner that is supposed to get all analog programming as well as a built-in ATSC tuner that will take over on the digital channels. I'm anxious to see how this works. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for your response!
It is the worst offender of my "falling out." I am seriously considering a reduction, which would hopefully take care of my problem. Thanks again for taking the time to respond!! I appreciate it!
In response
Thank you for your opinion. There are several reasons that we (my DH and I) chose the name that we did. The first is that we were looking for a name from both sides of our families, as my daughter has a family name and my other son does, too. The second is that my pop (step-dad) is a wonderful Papa to his grandkids, and his name happened to be one of the only names that were in both sides.
I do not feel that I discounted their feelings. They knew before he was born and never said a word about it.
My pop raised me. I love my daddy, and it is not that he did a bad job or didn't want me or anything like that, but he was sick and couldn't.
Thanks again, I do appreciate it!
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I'm scared most days of the week with our kids (grown men), my husband's kids, grandkids and great grandkids ...It's nice to know there are people out there thinking of you and your daughter and trying to make good suggestions....Whatever she chooses, she'll be just fine. Cat
What can anyone say in response to that? (sm)
I read it and just thought "wow". I hope she makes it back safely. Your brother sounds like he is just trying to hold his family together while she goes through her crisis or whatever it is. I know someone who is behaving similarly to this and I don't understand. She is obviously being extremely risky in doing this. It's just crazy. I'm sorry your brother and his children are going through this.
In response -
I have a good job - I make over $50,000 a year working as a transcriptionist.
When I say "take care of me", I don't just mean pay my bills (although that would be nice too). I am very self sufficient!
In response -
I have a good job - I make over $50,000 a year working as a transcriptionist.
When I say "take care of me", I don't just mean pay my bills (although that would be nice too). I am very self sufficient!
response -- sm
hi. no. benadryl did not work. It does not appear to be an allergy of any kind. In my reading up on Lichen Planus, it did mention that corticosteroids helped some with the itching and the pain, but it never worked for me. There may be some homeopathic remedies on the internet, but you will have to investigate those. I have not tried yet, as for right now, my symptoms are in "remission". They did mention that stress tends to bring them out, as well. A person can be stressed about some things without really feeling stressed, but I have noticed also that when I am really upset about something, the symptoms will recur shortly after resolution of whatever I was stressed out about. I truly believe it is chemical-related and I am diligently attempting to de-chemical my home, with going "green" on everything. It is not easy, particularly with usual hygiene products, i.e. deoderant, soaps, etc. There are so many chemicals in EVERYTHING we use, wear, eat, that it is almost impossible to live without them. I know at the time of my last outbreak about a month ago, I had recently tried a different deoderant. I do believe that may have been the culprit along with some stressful situations I was undergoing at that time. I do not believe a regular medical doctor or dermatologist would be very helpful either, unless they really understand what Lichen Planus is and the symptoms it causes. My last outbreak lasted over a month. My mother recently had to stop using laundry detergent with dye and fragrence, as well, and I think the longer we are subjected to different chemicals, the more sensitive we are becoming to them. I hope your son begins feeling better soon.
I don’t see where your response had to do with anything, really. NM
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Response
The son and the girlfriend both need to learn that adult actions have adult consequences. You teach people how to treat you. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated. Your son is 18 and an adult and he needs to move out of your home and learn how to be emotionally and financially supportive to his child. Video games are no longer a priority. Learning to provide for the child is. The young lady needs to get out of the passive/aggressive drama queen role and grow up also. It's not about either one of them anymore, it's about the child (should she choose to carry it to term). The child is not a bargaining chip for money and attention. Quite frankly, you don't need her permission you can go to court and petition for visitation. Unless they both grow up, you're going to get stuck seeing more of that baby than you ever wanted to--you will be the dumping ground when they want to do something more "fun".
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I don't think you are being selfish. Are your husband and/or son developmentally challenged that they cannot read a calendar or see and understand all the ads on news and print media for Mother's Day specials? Please do not buy into this. You teach people how to treat you. Who says you have big behind? Don't allow this emotional and verbal abuse. Set some boundaries so they learn it is NOT okay to treat you this way. You are not the man's personal shopper; you are his WIFE and that merits respect. You are are a hard-working MT, from reading your post it's plain that you are bright and articulate, and you do not deserve a reprimand from someone else who for whatever reason did not followup with his own mother. You have a lot to be proud of in yourself. Smile in the mirror and remind yourself of that every day so you don't doubt yourself.
Response
My response is actually not going to reference my own mother/daughter relationships. The reason is that my own mother is now gone, and my relationship with my daughter is good. The relationship I think applies to what you're saying above is the relationship I have with my husband.
He acted for 20+ years as if he was always right, and I'm just the stupid numbskull he picked up alongside the road for kicks and giggles.
I went along with his program for many years. I catered to his every whim, followed him around like a puppy dog, and cried when he kicked me around like an incontinent puppy dog.
Then one day I woke up.
I found separate interests (I had actually had those interests all along, but had stifled them because they weren't HIS interests). I nurtured those interests. I truly realized that I am a WHOLE PERSON whether he is there or not.
When I finally got that through my thick little skull, guess what happened?
He follows me everywhere now.
Funny thing....
I find that annoying now.... All those years, I thought that that was all I wanted.
Guess I was wrong.
So my advice to you?
Go ahead and start keeping your daughter at arm's length. However, never forget she is your flesh and blood. But don't let her get under your skin. You're worthy and valuable whether she believes it or not!
When you really truly believe this, her whole attitude toward you will change.
Trust me.
My DH keeps coming in to inform me that...
he has today off, paid no less, for his birthday. One more time and I am going to hit him upside the head with the gnome! 
What is this world coming to?
The clue for your caller would have been when you said "hello"? Don't ya' think? 
Anyone get HBO? Even the coming attractions from
But I understand where they are coming from
because usually self-employed is an iffy thing and the bottom line is where you apply for credit wants to know with some certainty about will you be able to handle a mortgage. I am independent myself but since starting did not ever think about this coming up, of course do not plan on relocating or buying another home (only been in my new home for 3 years now) but being independent never crossed my mind about things like this.
Furniture coming up now
what I want to know, will your groomers put these nails on for you? Also am planning on the wood post and getting a spray bottle. Wish me luck!
I sort of know where you are coming from
with the prices of houses by me. Most people probably don't realize that 400,000 in some areas does not get you much and you probably can't find a 3 bedroom decent house for under 350,000. I think people are getting the wrong impression and thinking you want to live way beyond your means when in reality you just want a decent place to live. As I said, I'm in the same boat and it stinks. Just be careful; sounds like way too much debt to be comfortable with your current situation. Have you thought about moving somewhere cheaper? I am sure your wife can find a job as a nurse anywhere, maybe making even more money; also if she is an RN they can work just weekends and make a full time income. For you, you can always work at home doing MT full time and part time with 2 companies putting in 50 or so hrs a week for now. You'd save on any kind of childcare that way at least while the baby is an infant. But then you may have to put off school. Unfortunately this is what happens. We can't have it all as much as we'd all like to. Sounds like at least you do have a few options, though, the way I see it; so good luck whatever you choose to do.
I totally get where you are coming from
and I don't know anything about your situation, but it seems like it would be a good thing that he looked on his stepdaughter as his daughter, although I can see how you would feel the way you feel since your brother was her father and it wasn't his choice not to raise her, and somebody should have acknowledged him as well.
I was adopted and to me my parents are the parents who raised me- because to me that is what makes a parent a parent. Had I been referred to growing up as my parents' "adopted daughter" that would have been painful to me and only a constant reminder that I was not their biological child.
Again, I don't know anything about your situation or your niece's relationship with her stepfather but if it was a good one I would think it would be nice that he thought of her as his actual daughter. He probably had just not been thinking about how it would make you feel.
How are you coming along with it now Hayseed? nm
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Weekend coming. What is everyone doing?
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I do understand where you are coming from
My MIL is a very big part of our lives and is very close wtih my son and daughter. That is all well and good but for years she would ask the kids if they wanted to go somewhere with her (like a day trip to a nursery or shopping without asking me first. If I said no we already have plans then I was the mean mommy. It took me several years to finally get through to her that I would really like for her to check with me first. She did this again last Sunday asking my son to go to a nursery with her that is about an 1 1/2 hours away. He is now 16 and I know we didn't have plans for that afternoon so I overlooked it. Be glad that she lives 80 miles away. Mine lives 8 miles. We used to live in the house right behind the family business that she had my DH run. She called one day saying she was going to town and did I need anything. Yes, a gallon of milk. Oh, I'm not going to the grocery store, just the post office and bank. I guess if I had needed stamps or a roll of pennies she could have helped me out. LOL. Just take a deep breath, smile through gritted teeth, and be thankful she wants to be a part of her grandchilden's lives.
My sympathies for what is coming...sm
I know the look you are talking about. It breaks your heart. I lost my dog a few years back. He was the first present my husband ever gave me and I had him for 15 1/2 years. We have other pets, but nothing takes the place of him. My best to you and your kitty friend. Take Care.
coming up soon, next week I think...
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Coming to? I think we're beyond that.
This is mild what he did compared to what else goes on. Where've you been?
Can't you see it all coming to pass? sm
Everything we learned would happen is happening right now.
Are they coming through your screens?
If so, a friend of mine told me to spray my screens with bug spray. Of course, I misunderstood her the first time and sprayed mine with hairspray -- big no-no! I had bugs galore trying to beat down my screen to get in. But anyway, if you have screens, trying spraying them with bug spray.
My boy is FINALLY coming around . . .
The last year or so he has been quite obnoxious and I was thinking what happened to my compassionate young man? Now he is 12-1/2 years old and the smart-alec is disappearing, or at least he doesn't rear his ugly head much these days. It's just so different with boys that I am not sure how to handle it. I could help my daughter, because I knew what she went through, but my boy . . . that's a different story!!! He has been kinder, his voice has dropped, he is breaking out, oh yea, hormones are kicking in. I think boys don't get emotional like girls though, they get mouthy and aggressive. There's your difference. IMO
do you know where the fish is coming
from? Kind of scary after watching some consumer reports. The state of Alabama is one of the few to have a fish inspector and he will not order fish in a restaurant in his own state! You don't even want to see where they catch fish in China or what they are fishing in. That is being sent over here. Good luck.
I think I understand where you are coming from
but please know that I am not some sort of angry person that "bans" MIL from seeing our child. These issues have gone on for about 7 years and we have tried to be logical and kind to her but she just doesn't get the message. I don't think its her place to talk about s*x with or around my child, nor do I think it is her place to talk about Santa in front of him, as he still believes. It is a shame that some feel they have to protect a child from a grandparent but hey, you can't always trust your family. It's sad. You do, however, have to protect your child and their innocence - that's your job as a parent. My child still has contact with his granparents, it is just limited and in a long distance situation, many kids do not see their grandparents but once a year so I don't see this being detrimental to the relationship to prove a point that otherwise goes unnoticed. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, as you said, IMHO, and I don't want anyone to get the idea that I was endorsing cutting all ties.
About the coming change to all...
If there's anyone left on the planet (well, maybe it's just this country) who doesn't know this, and isn't sick and tired of hearing about it, seeing TV spots about it, etc. It's been going on for what, almost a year? It started before Feb 2008 because some got the idea THAT was when it was going to change, but it was 2009- over a year away.
I haven't paid much attention to it, after hearing that if you have cable or satellite you don't have to do anything, that takes care of it, but was noticing recently, one of our TV channels has (at times) a marquee running along the top of the picture, telling about it. At first I thought it was some breaking news like WW3 or the troops coming home from Iraq, but no, it was the same stuff about the change to digital and SOME TVs won't work (but some channels will still be in no digital, maybe the PBS ones can be?)
Thinking it was some big news story, I read it, and I don't know if it's been saying this all along but, along with saying you won't get (or might NOT get) good or any TV when it changes, unless you get a converter box, it also says YOU CAN USE A VCR OR DVD (as a convertor)!
Not a lot of people don't have a VCR or DVD player and if not, you can get a cheap one for $39.99 or so.
So, you can hook up your antenna to the VCR or DVD player and that "converts" it to the digital the TV needs, and you also get the VCR and DVD player (if you don't already have one)? So, why haven't they said this before? Or, if they have it wasn't stressed.
People can get coupons to buy a converter box, more wires and things to hook up, when they can use their VCR or DVD player (or buy a cheap one and watch tapes or DVDs or record, etc. on them, too)?
Maybe I have this wrong, but I know it said you either MIGHT need a convertor box, OR a VCR or DVD player to get the digital signal (just not with your TV and anntenna)
Just thought I'd pass this on, in case anyone who uses an antenna still hasn't gotten a converter box but might have a VCR or DVD player (or would rather buy one, instead)
The handle are coming off ...
and DH has welded a few back on. This set is about 10 years old, but it shouldn't be doing this.
I did, but got more money coming
in April, in fact more than twice what I am making now so intend to throw quite a chunk each month towards the card and whatever else my little heart wishes.
Family coming over
We make marinated chicken wings, 7-layer dip, meatball and Italian sausage sandwiches, potato salad, and of course BEER - lots of that ;-)
GO STEELERS!!
Not at all surprising, saw it coming
surprised she stayed as long as she did. When he was arrested for his drunk driving and his verbal outbursts the couple separated then. He has been seen in bars with other girls and the latest was romping in the ocean with a young thing, not his wife. These things have played out in the National Enquirer and other rags for some time.
Thank you for a well-written response
Of course, there are parts of what you say I agree with and parts I don't. :)
In my case, I had to step in or the state would have taken the child. The dad was a bum...but when I look at how he was raised and the he** he went through, I understand how scared he is of even trying to be a father. I don't excuse it, but I understand it. I understand it all the way to family court where I will be getting a child support order against him next month <G>. Got one on my own daughter, already. My daughter was born with a mental illness and was a teenage mother. It was a time bomb that finally exploded in a world of drug abuse. But to treat the addiction without the mental illness will never result in a productive member of society. So...that being said, holding these 2 parents accountable is futile...other than financially (okay, even I laugh at ever seeing any of that money). They are infrequent visitors in my GC's life. That is simply the way it is.
I look at European countries and see multigenerations living together even still, where the older family members help raise the young children so the parents can support the entire household. That was what I meant about a community raising children. We as Americans don't function in that way overall as a society. We splinter and break apart and when young adults need help, often it means the children go somewhere else (usually aunts, uncles, grands). Sometimes in divorce, one party has more _power/control_ (usually due to finances) and has a greater say in how, who and where the children are raised. I suspect there is some of this dynamic occuring in the OP's life that she felt she couldn't share. (My story is out there...but some are not as open). Some divorced people use children as pawns, and this, too, is as sad as parents who cannot take responsibility for their offspring.
But I do fully support any parent, who for the sake of the children, can try to enrich their young lives and teach them tolerance, patience, forgiveness, acceptance, and learn how to deal appropriately with situations so that they can grow into strong, proud adults. I suppose my point in all this was in my original response. Bad things can be found everywhere...but if we can teach our children how to deal with them in a positive way, we have given them the gift of maturity.
Thank you for your response. I did appreciate reading it and respect what you had to say.
LOL................very funny response!!!!
 
My take on your husband's response is...
For him to have made this response, that "I think she wants me," after your having told him that there was a potential job opening that seemed attractive makes me think your husband is insecure. For a man to mouth those words to his wife, whether true or not, is a sign he is trying to attract your attention, in my mind. I say this as I think that if she were coming on to him, you'd have picked up on it first of all and secondly, she'd certainly not want the wife of a man she was giving the proverbial wink to, working with her at the same company.
Is he depressed or is he possibly feeling insecure because he has to rely on your income and he knows you are not satisfied in your job situation, I wonder?
See response to your above post
Always respond regardless that the response is
Unfortunately, many people think if they don't respond you are supposed to take that as a "No". That is just bad manners. I once responded to a candle party with a "Yes" and the hostess even said, well I just put that on their. You didn't really have to call. Go figure.
The strange response is actually yours
or you didn't get the sarcasm/humor of my post. Ever hear that saying? lol
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