In keeping with the question down below about in-laws...

We have all done our best to accept my brother's wife, but she grates on everybody's nerves. Now, that we can handle, but a few years back my mom bought a new (second-hand) car and gave her old car to my brother. She even gave them $500 to buy new tires for the car.

Then, when my mom's "new" car turned out to be a lemon and had to be in the shop for a week, my SIL refused to let my mom use HER OWN CAR that she had given them while her "new" car was in the shop - even though my SIL was NOT working and my brother had a car to go back and forth to work.

Yes, I know my brother needs to grow a backbone already, but that kind of set the tone for my SIL's relationship with the whole family.

So - what's your in-law story?

• In keeping with the question down below about in-laws... - Do YOU accept YOUR in-laws?
  • We had a very hard time with my SIL - trose
    • Oh yeah money is another issue with my SIL - Do YOU accept YOUR in-laws?
      • My SIL wanted a divorce until - trose
  • Out of my 4 sets of inlaws.. - Beenaroundtheblock
  • I have the SIL from H**L!!! But love my MIL & FIL..sm - familygirl
  • My MIL passed away.... - PAMT~MDM
    • I laughed when you talked about FIL - What do you mean?
      • He's just a grumpy old man - PAMT~MDM
        • What you are missing here is - What do you mean?
          • Oh, I didn't miss it... - PAMT~MDM

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For those who have been married for a number of years and are still in love with your spouse, how do you keep that "spark"?

Spare us the intimate details , but share with us how you and your spouse keep the flames of love a' burnin!

I'm in my 50s, but because I'm female and usually travel alone, I make sure someone in the family knows what plane/train I'm on or the general route I'm driving and I call them when I get there and when I get home.  Usually, I just leave a message because it's roaming minutes on the cell, but they know I'm OK.  That way, they don't worry without cause.  Should they ever have cause, then they can tell the cops where to start looking for me.

On another note, perhaps your son doesn't value what he's been given because it has been given to him on a silver platter.  I didn't have a car until I could buy it myself.  I had small scholarships to a private school, but my dad paid most of it - and it cost the same as buying a new car every year (which was not his style).  If I had pulled anything even vaguely resembling what your son did, I'd have been pulled out of school at the end of the semester and brought home to find a job I could walk to in my little rural town.  I'd have been paying room and board at home, too, until I found a place to live.  When I came to my senses and came crawling back to dad for help, he might have cosigned a loan to send me to the regional state school in the next town over, a fate worse than death.  I knew for a fact dad would do this if I got out of line or got bad grades, so I made sure I never did.

My son was born in September 1994.  We found out 8 weeks later he had pyloric stenosis after changing formula, etc.  I worked in Radiology as an MT at the time and had the GI study done there.  The radiologist was so nice, but informed me that our son was severely dehydrated and would need urgent surgery.

The surgery took place the night before Thanksgiving.  My in-laws brought my husband and I a plate of their meal with utensils and all.  Thankfully, our son (first born) came through with flying colors and is in perfect health now.

My parents were supportive on the phone, but my Dad had just been diagnosed with cancer and was too weak to make it in to see us. 

So, I guess it was the worst and the best Thanksgiving ever and one that I will surely never forget for a very long time.    

If you have a pet running around in this town you will be fined up to $500 whether the dog did anything while running about or not. 

I do hope the little girl gets past her fear of dogs someday.  I have a 6-year-old that has that same fear but she has never gotten bit so  I don't know why she has that fear.  She has turned now many playdates because of those tiny, barking house dogs.  One friend in particular wanted dd to come over and play so bad but dd refused because of the dog and I explained that to the mother.  I suggested that the litlte girl is welcome to come play here, after consulting with dd first and she agreed.  ( I wanted to make sure it really was the dog not the other girl).  So they come over, with their little barking, jumping dog and turned it loose in our house and dd started screaming and crying and very rudely ran them both off.  I felt bad because dd bluntly told them to leave but I did not get on to her too much about it because it did not make sense to me.  I had just explained that dd was very scared of the dog so why did they bring it to my house and turn it loose in my living room.   The dog was not mean, just very very hyper. 

MIL shares that same fear and does not know why.  She quit visiting a friend because their hyper little dog kept jumping on her and the owners would not do anything to control it.  I guess dd and MIL are 2 peas in a pod when it comes ot that. 

In Michigan, the school HAS to provide transportation for the kids.  Someone on here posted they had to have a bus pass that cost $150, that is insane.  I'm sure I pay for it on my property taxes, but I hate to think of the person that couldn't afford that. 

Our school district buses the middle/high school kids together, which has worked out fine.  Middle school starts at the 6th grade.  I take my kids to school every day because the bus for them is here at 7:15 a.m.  We have a very strange setup for our elementary schools.  We have two elementaries that have K-2 grade and then one elementary for 3-5 (we used to have two, but they combined them last year).  Being that I have a 2nd and 3rd grader, they both get picked up at the same time (if they were to ride the bus) at 7:15.  3rd grader gets dropped off at 8:25 at his school and my 2nd grader gets dropped off at his at 8:50.  So, 7:15 - 8:50?  That is insane!  We live about 7 minutes from both schools.  They do ride the bus home as they are the first ones off. 

But as to combining buses with middle/high school with elementary?  To me is unacceptable.  The bus drivers have a hard enough time controlling the kids.  Even with the way that ours is broken out, the youngest grades sit towards the front, with oldest to the back. 

And during budget crunch time and the super bought $10k in office furniture?  He should be called out on that during a board meeting.  I'd also contact the local newspapers so that the word gets around.  All school districts are hurting and every little bit helps.  If he wants new furniture, it should come out of his salary.