If you love your daughter and she loves
Posted By: .- on 2009-05-19
In Reply to: You gotta understand, I have been seriously - Mother talking here
you, this will be solved. But, I would not change the way I am. I would try to talk it over with her. Are there specific problems that cause this estrangement?
I mean, your daughter is no teenager anymore that her behaviour could be excused.
There are children who will always see in the mother first of all 'the mother' and not 'the friend'. And sometimes this is caused because the mother always acts as a mother toward her children.
I think your daughter should mellow down and respect you as her mother and show her love for you, same with you. There has to be a way to achieve this, communicate and compromise.....
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