If you have kids you have to be careful sm
Posted By: anonamiss on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: What would you do? - sm
This is an issue they will never forget, not ever, so be careful you don't accuse him in front of them. Make sure you do it in private. I would copy the note and show him the original (just in case he rips it up). Work it out without getting anyone else involved. If you don't have kids and it's not true, you will laugh at it for years. There are lots of nuts out there and you never know. I would have to show it to him. My thoughts and prayers are with you, as I have had friends who have had this happen, either by phone or in person and everyone loses, everyone. Don't make yourself sick over it, dig for the truth, perhaps it's just a jealous coworker rearing his/her ugly head. Don't wait for it to go away by itself, it will only fester and make you sick. Good luck with everything, come back and let us know how you do.
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Be careful...
My hubby had one, we had one boy, then got a suprise of twins, neither of us ever wants more kids. My hubby is terrified of needles, doc, etc. also. I thought it was a mutual decision, but found out two years later that he feels like I forced him into it and I hate to say it was such an issue with him that we almost split up. So be careful about making the appointment for him. He needs to be fully on board for it!
On a better note, my hubby had no problems, or complications. I was in the office with him for the whole thing, that made him relax more I think.
Be careful what you wish for.
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You have to be very careful with
the bamboo. Obviously this person found some good stuff, but if you Google bamboo flooring, most people find it is ruined with scratches the first day. So if you want bamboo, I'd find out this brand and check it out in person too. The bad stuff is so soft you can scratch it with your fingernail! It is kind of logical that it would be soft since it grows so fast.
Good luck!
Please be careful
Our local news did a special report on the damage those kinds of flea control products can do to the nervous system of cats in particular. A young, healthy cat can probably handle it, but older cat or those with health problems are at risk.
I used to use Advantage on my dog but since he is mostly an inside dog I hadn't had to use it for a while. About a year ago he had some fleas so I used it on him and he was sick for three days (he was 9 years old then). The vet checked him out thoroughly, blood work, urinalysis, fecal tests, everything normal. The only thing that was different was that I had used the Advantage on him about 24 hours before he got sick.
There is a link below to an article which discusses this issue.
be careful...
Avoid the Humane Society. If you are afraid of the neighbors now, you have no idea what you are in for if you involve the HS. They will go after them for leaving the dog out to be in the street and then all you know what breaks loose. Leave a note that their dog was struck but don't sign it. The dog needs to be checked out for internal injuries. Don't implicate yourself. It was an accident. Go easy on yourself but protect yourself too.
Please be careful
I know unfortunately from experience this is a very difficult situation to be in as I have been in similar relationships in the past. While it is hard enough to get away from situations like this when alone, I know having children involved makes this even more difficult. What your husband is doing is definitely abusive to you and your children. In my opinion, he does not deserve you and your children. My heart goes out to you.
I hope you can find the courage to safely and secretly talk to someone at a domestic violence shelter. If you do decide to seek help from someone there, please be sure there are no traces of you contacting them either on the computer or otherwise. I wish the best for you and your children. I'll be praying for you to make it through everything okay. Speaking from my past experience, there is hope for a much brighter future without him in your lives. Also, hopefully if it goes to court and you explain your side, he will have no chance for unsupervised visitation with the children. If you do go through with leaving him, it may be necessary to move to keep you and the children safe. When you decide to, I think the safest way would be through a domestic violence shelter. Keep your head up. I hope everything works out for you.
Be very careful.....sm
I live about a little over an hour from New Orleans. That is a crazy place, especially at Mardi Gras. The crowds will get so bad you can get stuck in the crowd and cannot move. Just be careful.
Be very careful what you say sm
They will record you and play it back. I emphatically stated I did not want the service, could not afford it, my records would show I did not need it. I offered to keep my own number, pay as I went, bought $100 worth of minutes good for one year and I am into it 6 mos. at more than half left. I was paying $60 per month. They balked at first and they threatened to play back my agreement, I told them to go ahead as I had not agreed to anything but canceling. They sent me a new phone, said I needed updating,which would have automatically bound me into another year. I sent the phone right back, called them, told them I would keep my old phone, my old # and would do the $100 for a year or I was done with them. I am very happy with my old phone, my same # and the hundred dollar plan for a whole year.
Be careful...
IF you have to file they will ask about change in names on anything you own. It will throw up a red flag. It might be best to leave your name on the land/car, etc than make them think you are trying to hide something. I am so sorry you're dealing with this. If you have to file, the world doesn't end, I know from experience.
Be careful
Don't overdo the fat-soluble vitamins A, D, E, K.
The amount over what your body can use does not just 'pass thru' - it gets stored in fat and can potentially cause toxicity. You'd be better off taking a calcium supplement and doing some light weight lifting or weightbearing exercise.
Happy MT is correct, vitamin D helps your body absorb calcium -- with one minor correction - sunlight doesn't help your body metabolize vitamin D, it actually is how the body produces it, but we all know you can go overboard with sunlight, too. There's a thread about this from the last week or so, someone asked a question about whether you can get the UV that produces vitamin D thru a window -- the answer is NO. I posted another link about vitamin D there, but in the meantime, here's a good one:
http://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/vitamind.asp
oh well, then I have to be careful, thanks!...nm
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Be careful when responding!
I'm not saying that the OP is anything more than someone trying to make interesting conversation, but there are lots of little innocent looking surveys on the 'net that Phish for your passwords. Since our emails don't show up here, I'm not really concerned, but I've seen this on MySpace, and I know phishing happens a lot on MySpace. Lots of folks use pet names or former pet names as passwords. The same goes for name surveys that have you do "fun" things like surveys asking you to find your porn name by putting your street name with your mother's maiden name, etc.
By the way, my pet's name isn't on the list!
Yep, be careful, dear...
I had a similar experience with a dentist when I was in my mid-20's. He wasn't that good-looking, I was married, and not therefore not tempted, but he did make personal, complimentary remarks when I went into the office for a check-up on a Saturday when his staff wasn't in. My first impression (even back then as a naive and young 22-year-old) is that probably he just wanted to see how many of his female patients would "bite." (No pun intended.) But...if he is not married, and you're able to go into this with a skeptical eye, see where it may lead...expressing wanting to get to know you better is pretty flirty, to my thinking!
Be careful having it dyed
We had our family room rug dyed, and instead of a light rose color, we ended up with a hot pink capet. This was supposed to be a reputable company.
Careful, Misha. sm
He seems laid back now because you're in the 'honeymoon' phase. He's a husky, he's lulling you into a false sense of security! LOL Just kidding. He is a handsome boy and looks very sweet.
I might have missed it - you said you're fostering him, right? Is it really just fostering, or will you be adopting him (whether you intended to or not - that's called failing fostering 101, and I have done it *twice* myself! LOL)
Big brother needs to be careful
I sincerely hope your son didn't run wants/warrants, DL, car registration, LEADS or anything else on sis's boyfriend. My sister is a deputy sheriff, and if she did anything like that for a personal reason, the sheriff would have her badge in about 2 seconds flat. That is a major no-no and one of the first things they learn if they work in the radio room.
Be careful of the color of the tea...
my dad drank about 1/2 cup of diet coke and he had to go back the next day for the test....they said it had to be the coke causing it to be too dark inside...but that was for a colonoscopy.
I think people do need to be careful with that
I think there are a mixture of factors contributing to addiction. Yes, I have seen studies that relate addiction with genetics or slight chemical differences in the brain (took a class on addiction). However, having grown up with addictions in almost every member of my family, I think it can SOMETIMES (IMO) be dangerous to tell someone who is an alcoholic that alcoholism is a disease. In may case, may family members said "see, I can't help it! It's a disease" - ignoring the fact that they have at least some control in the matter, unlike someone who has cancer. I guess the best way to describe it is a mixture of both, sort of like the nature v. nurture argument. The reality is probably that it is both - related to biology AND choice.
Be careful of what type of massage too!
I got my husband a massage for a gift once...what a disaster! We knew nothing about them...I thought it would be relaxing. NOT! Apparently it was for something called a "deep tissue massage." What the heck did we know--a massage is a massage. We almost had to call the ambulance to get him off the table because the lady just totally messed up his back, even though on the "getting to know you sheet" I had specifically wrote down that he had degenerative disk disease. So here was this poor grown man, in tears, extreme pain, and completely embarassed that he couldn't move. The massage lady was freaking out saying she had never had anything like that happen to her. The total kicker was no money was ever refunded to us, and we never even got a call at home to check on him. I was just so preoccupied with getting him safely into our pickup truck with minimal embarassment to him and getting him home.
Thinking back, he says he wouldn't have minded the whole ordeal at all if there was a "happy ending" to his massage, but alas, this was a "legit" place
 Men.
Careful not to generalize "too" much
I am dying to get OUT of a 'fancy-pants' area and back into the country, but there are tons of stuff not so much fun in the country, too, like being ostracized (Sp?) for being different. I'd give my eye-teeth (where did THAT saying come from?!) to find a middle ground: Progressive rural.
Be very careful - two people from this area
have been murdered there. Apparently not too far off the beaten path, if at all.
Careful with the Campho-Phenique (sm)
sent you an e-mail about it -not supposed to swallow it - no spray, just the gel and just a tiny bit - we use it but I pulled it up online and it says external use only
Be careful if you decide to wean
and hand feed with formula and syringe. Don't know about your type of birds, but I have a parrot that I hand fed with a syringe and the breeders instructed me and watched me do it myself to be sure I was doing it correctly before they let me take him home. Apparently you can kill them if it goes down the wrong way, but it was really easy feeding him. Maybe there's somebody in your area who is a bird expert you could talk to?
Be careful while visiting Switzerland
Swiss restaurant to serve meals cooked with human breast milk
A Swiss gastronomist has stirred a controversy in the tranquil Alpine republic after announcing that he will serve meals cooked with human breast milk.
Women will receive just over £3 (US$5.4) for 14 ounces of their milk Photo: GETTY The owner of the Storchen restaurant in the exclusive Winterthur resort will improve his menu with local specialities such as meat stew and various soups and sauces containing at least 75 per cent of mother's milk.
"We have all been raised on it. Why should we not include it into our diet?" Hans Locher, who has become Switzerland most controversial restaurant owner, said.
Mr Locher attracted the attention of the leading media of the German-speaking world this week after he posted ads looking for women donors, who will receive just over three pounds for 14 ounces of their milk.
He said: "I first experimented with breast milk when my daughter was born.
"One can cook really delicious things with it. However, it always needs to be mixed with a bit of whipped cream, in order to keep the consistency."
The food control authority in Switzerland was initially confused by the apparent loophole in local legislation regulating the use of human milk and it was not clear whether Mr Locher could actually be banned from serving his specialities.
"Humans as producers of milk are simply not envisaged in the legislation.
"They are not on the list of approved species such as cows and sheep, but they are also not on the list of the banned species such as apes and primates," Rolf Etter of the Zurich food control laboratory said.
be careful if you have environmental allergies
my son has severe environmental allergies and we were told to never hang out his laundry as pollen can attach itself to the clothing and make his symptoms worse. We are also to run an air conditoner, not use fans and never open the windows to help cut down on allergens. So much for frugality in our home!!! :(
oh but yes, they were very careful with screening all the applicants for the puppies. nm
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Be very careful about credit card payments
I just paid off my Visa to the tune of over 7,000.00. This was what was posted but did not take into consideration the interest charges put on- I got a bill for $1.50 so I thought ok will send that in, I was a day late- (no excuse, just overlooked) and they had put my interest- get this from a low 10 to 117.16 for that month- now what would happen if I owed a REALLY BIG amount- I would never get that paid- how it worked out was I owe them now $15.59 which I think will pay before time. Just be aware, folks! These folks are ruthless....
I occasionally have those too - sort of warnings to be careful and such (nm)
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Be careful of the cycle. He is in the gift mode.
I think if you go on the net to Harbor House Orange County, Florida you will see the cycle. Please go there and read up. But do erase the history and cookies that go there. So he does not find out. I believe the cycle of abuse chart is there as well. Be careful...
Be careful using it with a frozen casserole. I bought
the casserole. It said to bake it on a cookie sheet, so I pulled out my stone. The stone broke into 3 pieces during cooking, so I learned never to do that again. I have 2, one is black because it has been used so much, but I love them. I just don't put anything frozen solid on them anymore, including biscuits. I am probably paranoid, but after the first one I have broke like that, I feel it is just better safe than sorry.
Be careful if you have a tendency to anxiety/panic. Wellbutrin
people who suffer with anxiety/panic.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
I believe my kids would still believe . .
had I not got totally busted by my 10-year-old son. My 7-year-old still believes. I always asked as my kids if they believe and when they said yes, I said that that is all that is important. My son caught me playing the EB last Easter. He said to me yesterday, "Come on, a giant bunny hopping around the country bringing easter baskets? How long did you expect me to fall for that?" I about split a gut laughing!!! However, both older children know how important it is to let the 7YO believe, we all watched Polar Express last night and they still were mesmerized!!!
I think a LOT of men are like that with kids
Maybe because since such a high % of marriages end in divorce, some of them keep a distance there. After all, when divorces happen, who gets the kids? Also, women tend to take charge when it comes to the kids and men tend to allow it. I truly believe that kids do not always strengthen a marriage but often the opposite. I have seen statistics stating that more couples with children get divorced than those who don't have any. Interesting, huh? JMO
That's why I won't have kids.
I have totally turned off the need/want to have kids, because I know my husband could never handle it. I don't want to be a single parent...especially a married single parent, know what I mean? It's an incredible commitment and they don't stay portable and nonverbal for long.
What do your kids
What do your kids call you and your spouse? Would you mind if they changed it, as in Mom instead of Mommy, as they got older? My kids call me Mom. If they call me Ma......I correct them, I don't LIKE it!! My son's GF calls me Mommy or Mom, I don't mind. My DIL calls me by my first name, I don't mind that either. I have a stepson, he also calls me Mom.
I do but only to keep an eye on my kids. NM
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Hello......if you want your kids to know...
about STDs and how not to get pregnant, YOU teach them. Why should there have to be programs about that at all? If you want them to have condoms, you buy them, don't ask the school nurse to hand them out. As to the genius of a President...at least he is trying. The one before him was hardly an advertisement for wise choices where sex is concerned ala black dress and use of cigars in a way that NO one ever intended...and committed felony perjury while a sitting President. Oh, but, heck....who cares, right?? Geeeezzz. Gimme a break.
Hello, yourself. If I had kids, I would...sm
Teach them those things. And if you're questioning why there s/b sex ed programs in school at all, why do you seem to be defending the current abstinence-only ones? They're worse than nothing at all because they give inadequate and downright *false* information. How is not having all the facts (or having the wrong "facts") ever a good thing? Just doesn't make any sense to me. If you want Bush to get credit because "at least he's trying" well, that seems like a pretty low standard for the president of our country.
Now as far as Clinton, I never said I was a fan. You're assuming an awful lot there. I don't even want to get into that.
I was one of four kids (sm)
and I was always wishing that my twin sister and I could have parents of our own. Living with mean older siblings was no fun!
Once again, your kids are still not that old
but when my son married, completely absorbed into not only his wifes life (which I am the first to say she comes first) but also her family and I basically just lost a son. Just swallowed up by her side and you would not know he really had a mother anymore. Quit trying on that end some time ago.
Especially with little kids
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Buy them, but keep away from little kids, sm
When my daughter was 2 or 3, she got her hands on one of the poppies in the back seat and must have pulled it apart and put the plastic middle up her nose. We didn't know in the beginning what was there, but after a visit to her pediatrician who couldn't get at it, a trip to the emergency room, a 5 hour wait for an ENT guy with the correct equipment to retrieve it, we discovered it was the middle of the poppy. Since then, whenever I see them selling the poppies, I tell them to warn parents with little kids to keep the poppies away from the kids.
I don't even have kids, and I
think that's coooooolllld.
It's really not nice to try to be scientific or philosophical with somebody who is going through a loss and expresses sorrow.
Did Jesus tell Lazarus' family, "Hey, dont worry about it; we'll all see him in heaven soon!" No, he took pity on them in their sorrow. That's how He is. Let's try to mirror Him, not philosophists and scientists when it comes to people who are hurting.
Probably more the kids
Love my marriage and don’t mind the divorces until I got it right. The kids are ok as long as infant, toddlers and then they grow up. Not my cup of tea anymore.
Kids going out
I have no problem with it, but there's always upwards of 10 children and at least 3 adults to supervise out all the time, but I would never let my youngest go out alone under any circumstances. We have a very quiet neighborhood, but you never know.
Some men have kids, but then
continue to spend as if they are still single. I can't believe how often I see this. They complain when the wife buys clothes, but when he buys something it has an engine and it's a big, dangerous toy!
That's why I can see why some women might want to hide money. Of course not all men are like that.
I used to buy my kids
those paint-by-numbers kits. Kept them occupied for a short time. Also go to a dollar store and load up on some new toys and books without spending a fortune.
She has kids as well
That was the deal - we were taking both of our kids to do something fun together.
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