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I was the same age when I became active - sm
and slept with my boyfriend. My mom always thought it was my college boyfriend and I never corrected that assumption. I think I just did it because the hormones were raging more than anything, your daughter is most likely going through the same thing. My mom also asked me to wait until I got married, I told her pointblank that was not going to happen (I was 14 during that conversation but already a horny girl); plus I wanted to live with my future husband to hopefully avoid divorce (so far so good on that, and yes I did live with my DH for about 8 months before we got married). I also went out with plenty of losers. My parents were smart about it, as you appear to be doing, though demanding he get a checkup and HIV test may be a bit too far, plus he will just tell you to jump in a lake probably. From the sounds of it you would not have been happy if the guy was a freshman at Harvard. You knew she'd have sex sometime and assumed she would wait, big mistake. If that is what you did, great, or if you wish you had and did not and regreted it, so be it, you cannot live through your daughter. The only thing I have asked of my kids is to wait until after they graduate high school (that is what I did as the guys had very big mouths and have to brag); now if they don't that is their business and they will have to live with the consequences/rep they get, whatever. I hope they heed my advice but I won't freak out if they don't. As for taking her to the ob/gyn, that is a great idea though. They say to start at about 16 I think anyway, whether or not sexually active. I took myself when I was 17 and still in high school to get on the pill (did not ask parents/mom on that, did it on my own; drove over state lines to do it too). I had the hots for my on and off boyfriend and thought on prom night we'd "do it". Never happened, but that is fine. There is probably a lot she does that you don't know about no matter how close you are. I was very close to my mom but believe me she did not know everything. Eventually she will wise up about the boyfriend, especially if she has plans to do to college. Just try to chill out some and take it easy. Good luck.
Not too much, but I would have been more active.
I've actually done pretty much everything that I've wanted to do to this point. But I wish I had been more active and kept the weight off all along rather than struggling to lose 70 pounds in my 40s. I should have been out riding my bike, hiking on trails, the things I love to do now.
The one thing that I did at age 45, I think I would have done sooner in life. I had a breast reduction and went from a DDD/E cup to a C. Now being active is much easier, because I'm not carrying around the big girls lashed to my shoulders. LOL
Feel good jars...
My son gave this to me years ago, and it is the most touching gift I've ever received.
Cut some wide strips of colorful paper, and have the kids write something about why they love the parents on each one (I love it when you read to me, I love your hugs, etc.)
Put those strips inside a small Mason/canning jar.
Replace the removable flat part of the lid with a square piece of pretty fabric and then use the "ring" part to screw it on.
Tie a ribbon around the jar with a card attached that says:
When you're feeling blue,
And you don't know what to do,
You don't have to look far,
Just open this jar,
And see how much I love you!
Made me feel good anyway - sm
I can see where the girl gets it though. Really pathetic.
They moved in a couple houses down about 2 years ago and I started locking my front door not long after.
All the neighbors had a BBQ party one night not long after they moved and that is when we all got a taste of how their house is run. The husband seems like a nice guy and I actually pity the poor man.
We are in the front yard of another neighbor and the girl comes storming up to her mom whining about not having something, think it was about a water gun or something. Anyway, the mom looks at dad and I am NOT kidding... she said, "Dale, what are you going to do about this?"
She wanted him to drop everything and race to get her a bigger one... AND HE DID! The girl was what.. 13 then? Give me a break!
Not long after, the girl started coming over unannounced, uninvited, and would just walk right in and make herself at home. Go through the fridge, turn on the television, you name it.
Thought, okay, the kid is rude. Then her mom came over one day did one of these tricks of opening up the door without knocking and saying "Knock Knock! ANYONE HOME?" As she is walking into my kitchen in the BACK of the house. She started doing this often enough that I started keeping the door locked.
She also will stand out in your yard and, while she's talking to you, her little precious dog poops. She simply says, Oops! but leaves the POOP right where it lands!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr Not a feel good movie...
Identity...seen it hundreds of times. I dumped Vince Vaughn for John once I saw this movie.
You are right! I feel really good today
for the first time in a really, really long time! I suggest it to anyone, except put it on your schedule first so you don't miss anything good. LOL. :)
Feel Good Story
I wanted to share a feel good story with you from our local paper. Have a great Monday and Wonderful Week
OMAHA, Neb. -- Drivers who saw $2,500 in cash blow from a motorcyclist's open pocket Thursday pulled over, collected 24 of the hundred-dollar bills and waited for his return as others tracked him down.
The unlikely payback had the motorcyclist feeling "blessed," and, perhaps more importantly, able to pay his bills.
Anthony Burres was headed south on 132nd Street between Dodge and Pacific streets when the bills began to fly.
"I didn't have my side hip-pocket zipped up and my wallet fell out, and it's like $2,500 in cash just flying all over the street," Burres said.
Burres got to Center Street before realizing he was being chased.
His headphones made him oblivious to his expensive mile.
A witness finally got his attention at the intersection of 132 and Center streets. They headed back to the scene.
"I finally get back here and it's like four lanes of traffic of cars stopped just dead in the street, picking up money, and I'm like, 'Aw man, no way,'" Burres said.
But it was real. Burres got $2,400 back.
Eight to 10 people handed him the money.
He was down one bill.
He's not missing the pocketed $100.
"I can still pay my bills. That's real good for me," Burres said.
He said the first person to stop probably pocketed the cash. But he said that's OK -- that person probably needed the cash.
Omaha Hearld
Is your hubby active?
What I mean is he involved in outside interests clubs,volunteer ,maybe a hobby? I know a lot of yall here are still working fulltime, but there will come that day when you and hubby will be together all day side by side!! just wish mine would find an outside interest but he finds something wrong with any suggestion so I have quit saying anything he loves to stay at home.
For my grandmother, who is still active but
on a limited income I give her all occasion cards and stamps. She has told my mother many times what a great help they are to her.
If they are active in their community, then why
are you saying in quotations they are showing the children off? I think this speaks a lot for the way you are feeling towards them or her and it seems to me maybe she loves them and wants to let people know her grandchildren also. As a child I had to go spend time at my great aunt and uncle's house and they did not even have a television, only farm books, absolutely nothing for kids- we were not told we would do cookies. We went and said nothing- we were children but a little bit older than yours now. Why do you not send them a care gift for there, things they might enjoy doing on their own so their grandparents might also get time with them?
You are lucky, and so is he! It makes me feel good...sm
to see there are happy couples out there.
Wow!! You should feel very good about that!! That is a wonderful accomplishment! nm
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My son is 15 and just recently became sexually active... SM
Some of you may remember my posting a few weeks back about him. Anyway, I just found out that he has been having sex with his girlfriend. And get this! She is the same age as him, but was by far not a virgin when they started going together. I have always, always, ALWAYS try to remain calm and encourage my son to talk to me no matter how uncomfortable I may feel. And let me tell you, I feel the same as you -- sick to my stomach. When I found out he was having sex, I felt like someone punched me in the gut! I raised him in church, taught him to wait for marriage for sex, that sex is best shared with someone you are in love with, sex should not be had casually. Didn't matter. Before I found out that he was sexually active, I had the "sex talk" with him again just to reiterate a few of the finer points and I talked about waiting for marriage or at the very least, love. He actually laughed at me and said "mom, I don't know anyone - boy or girl - that is waiting until they get married."
How I found out that my son was having sex was I was going through his room because I had reason to believe he was smoking pot. I found two joints and a box of condoms in one of his dresser drawers. Here's how I handled it. I confronted him with the pot and grounded his behind for a month. He also had to take a drug test which was negative (still baffles me, I guess I caught him before he tried it). With the condoms, I simply said "I'm going to give these back to you because I appreciate the fact that if you are having sex, you are at least being smart about it. Please don't do anything stupid."
I left it at that until I had another opening and then I told him how girls get pregnant sometimes on purpose, sometimes out of ignorance of birth controls. I've talked about STDs and HIV and how not only can unprotected sex will make him a father, a responsibility he is not near ready for, but it can also be an eventual death sentence. Every time we talk and I feel like I have an opening, I talk about safe sex and our moral and religious beliefs on sex.
I figure that is all I can do. I can't follow him around every day, on every date. And the truth is, I didn't wait until I was married. My mom said I would go to heck for having premarital sex and hellfire and eternal damnation didn't stop me from having sex.
The only advice I can give you is meet it head on. Don't act hysterical. Just approach straight-forward. She's having sex. It doesn't matter how you feel about it now. She's having it. Now your best course of action is to make sure she's smart and she protects herself. We live in a world where we have to balance our morality with practicality. It sucks, but that's the way it is.
Anyway, your not alone sister! Little comfort, I know.
I buy petite for my 5' 3" frame, but both the arm and leg lengths are still too long. I have to roll the elastic waist over 1 or 2 times or else the waist band is touching my bra.
As for the arm length, it does come in handy when it's cold out. Just pull the sleeves over my hands. No need for gloves. LOL
My father was 6 feet tall but my mom was only 5 feet tall and weighed a whopping 96 pounds. She would wear petite small and still had to hem her slacks. I always wanted to be 5 feet 7 inches when in high school, but my wish wasn't granted.
My 14 yo wants clothes but..
I don't dare pick them out myself because she would hate them. She goes shopping (with her older sister) at the mall and puts clothes on hold and several different stores. I go later in the day,with her list of stores, and pick out what I like best, wrap them and put them under the tree. She gets what she really wants, but doesn't know exactly what she is getting. Works well for us.
teen clothes
For boys (my younest son is almost 16) - American eagle is hugely popular around here. My son also likes Abercrombie but they are so ridiculously expensive. Dockers shorts - lots of good shorts at Kohl's if you have one near you. Also if he has a favorite band/bands - order some of their graphic T shirts online, let him express his personality. Kids that age love those kind of T shirts.
School clothes
Since I'm returning to school next week, I went to Kohl's to use a gift certificate I've had since Christmas. My excuse for buying clothes is that I'm going to be a college girl now, and school means clothes shopping, right?
I'm down to a size 10, and many things actually looked nice. Of course I was trying to follow suggestions from "What Not To Wear," which is a show that does give good guidelines. I even found a nice looking pair of jeans. One shirt I put on was adorable ... but more appropriate for a 20-something than a 40-something. It's hard to say exactly why, maybe the puffy sleeves. But I splurged and got 10 pieces, so that was really fun. Poor DH had to break out the charge card, but hey, at least it was Kohl's, where you get a lot for your money. Plus we had the gift card.
The nurse at our health dept said the bug lives many many days on objects - even clothing.
And yes, you can, if you have a reduced immune system, or even just a little scratch or something -- you can catch MRSA from someone who had a sore who tried on the clothing before you.
You can try on a pair of slacks and if you have a skin opening, you are set to get it.
So many people who come in where I work, think they have a pimple and so many are in the gluteal, buttocks region -- never in the mucosal part of the vaginal/labia area -- have never seen the bug go there interestingly enough -- but in the crease of the buttocks or even on the buttocks......or on the legs, arms, even the face.
People think they have pimple or a bug bite.
And they spread it through a family by sharing towels etc
lol...those are my work clothes too...
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Clothes lines
We have fixed our own dryer half a dozen times, so we have a back up clothes line. One is in the house and one on the back porch. Unmentionables stay in the house. Wait for the reaction when they use that first scratchy towel for real snobbery!
Yeah, I have to run out and get the clothes - sm
off if he is cutting the grass, or if they are still wet I tell him he has to wait and do it later or the next day. My other problem is the dogs, my lab loves to rub herself through the clothes hanging low enough, usually the towels, yuk.
I have seen clothes that were like size....sm
20-something. I thought any store that carries plus sizes would carry up to very large sizes. At least that is what I thought. Maybe I am wrong. comfy clothes
For me it's cotton pajama pants and my oversized Big Dog T shirts and slippers. If I'm planning on going out and running errands or if I'm working at my itty bitty outside job that day then I dress in "real people" clothes, but if I have a long day of sitting and typing ahead of me, comfort is the key.
I live alone. I might be more inclined to pretty myself up if I had hubby coming home at the end of the day, but my cats don't care what I look like as long as the food bowl stays filled.
mine don't. I had a dog once that I tried to put a sweater on but I lost.
My kids mostly got clothes, which they really needed sm
My son't (17) fav gift was a 20.00 indoor remote control helicopter. He has had so much fun with it. When my daughter (14) was shopping for a cousin she saw a Doodle Bear and went on and on about how much she loved hers when she was younger. DH got her one (I didn't even know about it) and that was was her fav. gift.
Wear your clothes more than once before washing or
I wear jeans, khakis, and dress shirts at least 2 or 3 times before I wash them. They key with dress shirts is wearing an undershirt. Some of you may think it’s gross, but your clothes will not fade as quickly and you’ll spend less on detergent and dry-cleaning bills. I love my clothes line
Nothing like hanging out sheets on a windy day, besides that it saves energy. Aren't we all supposed to be doing our bit to save energy??
Can You Wear Cheap Clothes?
and they look good on you?
I was just thinking about my deceased mother and she sometimes would say about someone "I wish I could wear cheap clothes like her!" Ironically - one of the best fitting/looking blazers my mom ever bought was from Walmat and was on a clearance rack for $7.99. (orig price wasn't all that much higher)
It sounds like a catty insult/put down, but my sister says it too about her friend, and it's not said with any kind of malice - she just wishes she could buy cheaper clothing that fits well and looks good too and save the money.
favorite work clothes
My SpongeBob PJ pants or soft flannel PJ pants and a T-shirt (or sweat pants if I feel like getting "dressed").
Favorite clothes for work
Sleep pants or sweat pants and a sweatshirt in the winter and light weight sleep pants, shorts and a t-shirt in the summer.
designer clothes/shoes
I, for one, cannot tell designer shoes or clothes unless the designer's label is on the product. I, however, do know ugly when I see it and those shoes are fugly!
clothes, shoes, purses, etc...........
Believe me, a lot of women do this.
Do you buy always expensive stuff?
Or are you reasonable?
Do you have a daughter that could wear those?
If not, instead of giving them away to charity, send them to me, as a gift, I would wear them!
I am 5Ƌ", size Misses 12-14.
Shoes 7-1/2.
LMAO !
I got tons of clothes and toys. I always hit Walmart,
Toys-R-Us and JC Pennys for those things. I also went to Pac Sun and got me some jeans (2 for less than the price of 1). I never go for electronics. I figure what you are trying to save for 1 item, you loose by missing out on all the other small things. I did get gaming things though, basically any electronics I do not have to stand in line for, like Walmart has you do. For instance, if you bought a PS2 game at Toys-R-Us, you get a wireless controller for 5 bucks, normally 20. I got a game and the controller for 10 bucks.
I was not out buying designer clothes or stuff for myself - sm
in my case it was "we", mainly him, spent way more than we make. Everytime one of his cards got a large balance (he never looked at the statements and I pay the bills) I would tranfer it over to one of my cards, which again he never looked at, and I had a P.O. Box for--so in my case it was very, very easy to do, and with paperless statements today even easier. We had a lot of things happen in our life over the past 4 years which made the money/credit card issue much worse, easily added $40K onto it (at $89K now)--family death, serious child illness--still dealing with that some--, job loss on my part, private school tuition ($12K a year---no longer go there for the last 2 years), inability to pay bills and heavily borrowed on cards----d-u-m-b I know. So don't be so quick to judge, it is not always so black and white. Yes I did get a few things I should not have, but I know during some of this time I was depressed though not horribly so but enough so as to buy a few things I never should have, but for 95% of it it was my DH never denying himself anything (though he would have if he'd known, and now he is --granted not too happy about it---one tiny concession he has made is only 9 beers a day, down from 12, so maybe he can get 3 days out of a case of beer instead of 2.) So my days of robbing Peter to pay Paul are over. We plan to have an open book when it comes to finances once his are paid off, and mine are enrolled with a debt management plan--- then only use his cards for gas, and work stuff basically--I won't have any as they will all get destroyed and cancelled in the DMP, and will use my debit card for everything --which I do now anyway, so it won't be a huge change for me. I don't think she is lamenting, just realizing what a horrid mess she has to deal with, it is hard, and I have to deal with my DHs comments for years to come, he did a few zingers last night. I will be okay though and have to pay the piper, it is worth it not having to go through a nasty divorce and custody fight as I know it would not have been pretty.
Lots of clothes lines here that look like umbrellas sm
without the fabric on top. Here is one from http://www.clotheslineshop.com/. They also have indoor ones and retractable ones. Never knew before Macys has nice slection of clothes 14+.
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Well, if someone didn't buy their shoes/clothes, employees
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I'll take outside clothes line any day over dryer
I've been beggin hubby to put a clothes line in since the 80s. The natural air drying smell is nothing to be compared with an inside dryer. Alas, he doesn't see my point. He thinks I don't have time to hang clothes out....but I did in the 70s and now there's only 2 of us. Once and done, not 3 loads in the dryer.
Downey fabric softener should help with the stiffness? I wouldn't know since I have to use a dryer, and even DH likes rough towels, not soft, so why does he complain about outside lines? Don't ask me ....oh, wiat! Could it be because I pay the utilities? LOL
I've been beggin hubby to put a clothes line in since the 80s. The natural air drying smell is nothing to be compared with an inside dryer. Alas, he doesn't see my point. He thinks I don't have time to hang clothes out....but I did in the 70s and now there's only 2 of us. Once and done, not 3 loads in the dryer.
Downey fabric softener should help with the stiffness? I wouldn't know since I have to use a dryer, and even DH likes rough towels, not soft, so why does he complain about outside lines? Don't ask me ....oh, wait! Could it be because I pay the utilities? LOL
Scenario: 15-year-old finished growing 2 years ago, stable sizes. 8-year-old growing like a weed, can't wear anything from last winter.
It's getting cool now in my state and I need to get the 8-year-old some long sleeved shirts for school. The 15-year-old thinks they should also get the same amount of money to spend on clothes - even though they have plenty to wear in their closet and state they have nothing in particular they want and make money doing neighborhood chores as well as chores around the house. Also before school began both kids were given $100 to buy their school supplies and clothes. The 8-year-old spent the clothing portion on pants and new sneakers, the teenager spent it on various clothing items.
Would you:
1. Do it even though they don't need it because it wouldn't be fair to spend more money on one child than another.
2. Tell them that you're only getting the younger child clothes because they have no long sleeved shirts that fit, whereas the teenager does, and that they are welcome to spend their own money on extra clothes they want.
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I would love to see a photo of that! I love kitties. I have a big fat fluffy one of my own, but she is not one to be dressed up.
