If you don't "go overboard"
Posted By: BTDT on 2008-10-17
In Reply to: I need advice. I think my16y son is smoking weed... - StressedMom
you may be burying your child. He is being totally selfish and irresponsible, like most teenagers, and needs to be shown that is wrong. You need to let his father or your husband handle this. He needs to deal with someone he knows is serious and will not back down. You don't need to protect him from punishments, you need to protect him from himself. Honestly, I know you love him, but if you don't have the backbone for something this serious then let someone who does deal with it. Will he say horrible things to you, you bet. Will he mean them, at the time sure. Do you want him alive and not in jail in 10 years to apologize, I bet you do.
I took the door off my daughters bedroom, I did daily searches. She had nothing that was sacred and no privacy because she had lost that right in my home. She was not allowed on the internet for the last 3 years she lived here. Things like that are not a God given right as these kids would like to think. But it IS my God given right/responsibility to try to teach them right from wrong, to have rules and to enforce them and to keep them safe from themselves if need be. I know you love your son, but if you really love him then you need to be willing to step away if that is what is best for him. To many teenagers these days don't take responsibility for their actions and to many adults do not hold them accountable in fear of hurting their feelings.
Ask yourself what kind of adult you want him to be. Who is going to teach him to be that adult? Stand up and fight momma, that's your responsibility as his parent. And guess what, my daughter is on her own and in college now, and I'm the first one she comes to for advice!
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That is a little overboard. Smoking is not
illegal. I would think CPS would tell her to stop wasting their time.
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