If you aren't planning on more children, I would have the surgery.
Posted By: just me on 2007-02-05
In Reply to: Still trying to decide whether to have a hysterectomy. See message - Just me again
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the only thing is.. even if they aren't his biological children,
he still treated them as his own.. you don't always have to be blood kin to feel like its your own.... if they love those kids like their own, then why bother testing.. other than the mothers trying to get money, but I'm sure he would have left them money or something anyway..
Thanks, but I planning on being
right in the ocean with them or my husband will be. We've been to the beaches in Florida and have never let the children go out alone. But thanks for the reminder. Glad to hear your situation turned out okay.
thank you so much..i am planning to ask the mgr for new apt...sm
I have lived in apartments all my live and have never experienced anything as noxious as this lady's smoke, and I have lived above smokers for years and years but this is extreme. Thank you all so much for your comments, since my DH does not care to exert himself, it is all on me, and so I will ask for another apt. It's just a shame that they can't help with the expenses. If that doesn't work, maybe something private. Thanks again. I sincerely appreciate your great advice.
Exactly what to you mean by not planning
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I am terrible about no pre-planning
I often go to the grocery store 3 or 4 times a week. I love to watch the cooking channel when I have time. Robin Miller has a show that usually shows how to cook a couple of times a week and take the leftovers and use for another meal. She now has out a cookbook so that might be a great place to start.
Not if you are planning on baking
Wax paper will melt wax into your foods if you are baking. That being said, if you are making a cake you can butter the pan, both sides of the wax paper, and place the wax paper on the bottom of the pan wax side down, putting your batter on top. You can also use wax paper to steam. If you are planning on baking using direct oven heat (where the paper will be exposed directly to the enviornment around it) I would not suggest it.
If you think that one little hour or less of planning
These teachers don't get anything done on their planning period, because they're too busy calling parents who won't respond, trying to actually FIND a parent, talking to a student who is obviously having problems at home which is affecting their performance at school. They don't get paid to be a mentor, surrogate mom, social worker, assistance program, etc., but most good teachers do this becaue they genuinely care for their kids. That "planning period" is a joke!
Are you planning the party for the day your son
If not, then wait for the wedding date, and then decide on the graduation party. Believe me, I know where you're coming from.
BWT....I am planning on quitting......sm
in January and a couple of other posters and I are forming a support group. I promise we would never get tired of you! Won't you join us? Maybe the 7th time is a charm!!!!
Planning an overnight bus trip to NYC...
bags after we check out of our hotel on the 2nd day? I don't want to have to carry my luggage around all day. Surely others have run into this problem. Anyone have any ideas?? Thanks a bunch!!!
Most teachers have at least one planning period when they
can grade papers. If their job requires work-related hours away from school, they are given comp time.
I was planning on making a flower bed there
with several good-sized bushes such as hydrangea and/or forsythia. Hopefully that would take care of the problem, especially since we don't plan to get any other pets (we're mid-50s, want to travel, plus I don't think I can go through this pain again).
Please start planning your escape...sm
I am joining in your children's pleas to get out of this situation. I found this website:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm
Please take a look at it, and then call the number they give for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. I am assuming/hoping they would know how to guide you. NO ONE should have to live like you are. Best of luck to you and your children.
I am planning as we speak to move in the next . . .
1-2 years. I have lived and traveled all over and have been in Georgia for almost 20 years. I hate this backwards state!! I am originally from Virginia and that's where I want to live out the rest of my life. It is the best and truly God's country.
Planning a trip to New York City and
was looking for suggestions on a nice hotel to stay in and what are some of the best sites to see. Will only be there for four days at the end of May and want to cram as much in as possible.
Okay, planning a trip to see some snow (first in 10 years). Here's what I need! sm
Where can I go just north of Atlanta, GA, to see a good amount of snow that isn't too far? I have no clue! I'm thinking around mid Dec. Want to take the kids. With or without hubby. I'm not looking to snow ski, just take them to see snow for the first time in their lives. NC? TN? I have no idea! 
Would this have made you mad - husband planning trip
My husband has a habit of making plans and then telling me where I am expected to be without discussing it with me first. This drives me crazy and I have asked him many times to stop. He also makes lots of plans for himself for weekend and sometimes 3 or 4 day trips and just e-mails me a note to put it on my calendar, without asking if I mind. He does this all the time.
Yesterday he came home from work and announced that "Joe and I are planning a family trip for this summer, so start saving your money." I said, oh is Joe your wife now?? Do you think you could ask me if I want to go there before you tell me to save my money?" So he got really angry and started yelling at me that I never understand anything. I told him I like to be treated as an equal in the marriage and that I would not plan a trip for him without discussing it with him. It is a HUGE trip, to California, and we live in NC. I would have been happy if he came home and suggested it to see what I thought..but I was angry that he planned it out that way. He wants us to go with a family that I have never met. My kids are elementary age and their kids are in high school. The two men would be in conferences all day so this other lady and her kids and me and my kids are expected to hang out together. He is very furious with me for not being receptive to this whole plan. Should I have not been mad?
Planning on using mine for chicken tonight - We love it!
We use it a couple times a week!
I am planning several long weekends this summer for mini-vacations.
We are going to drive up to the Omaha Zoo for a weekend. We live in rural Missouri north of Kansas City, so it's about a three or four hour drive.
Then, we have a family reunion in southern Missouri and I'm planning a 4-day weekend for that so we can spend some time in the Ozarks.
Then, we will go into Kansas City to Worlds of Fun and Oceans of Fun.
Then, I'm planning a four-day weekend in Branson.
So I guess we are going to explore our state too!
Plus we have a public pool in our town that the kids spend a lot of time at. Then there is girl scout camp for my daughter. My son will be getting a job this summer as he's 16 now and mom can't afford gas for my car and his car and to pay for his dates all of the time.
As you can see I try to keep my kids as busy as possible! There is nothing worse than bored children when you're trying to work!
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Maybe learn some life planning skills before bringing blessings into the world that you can't aff
and not very responsible or mature.
before surgery
i've been made aware of a procedure that may help some avoid such surgery -- nonsurgical spinal decompression. I looked it up for a neighbor, and there's a lot out there -- i read the Kansas City and San Diego data -- some pretty impressive results from what i understand.
try:
www.therunningdoctor.com/back_pain_drx_treatment_2.htm
Probably best surgery I ever did.
I was 41 when I told my physician I wanted to have a hysterectomy. It was in the 80s and I had adenomyosis, terrible pains during the cycle but fine the rest of the month. I put off getting because of work and after I had done, could have kicked myself for a) hurting every month bent over, b) nonstop bleeding, c) not wanting to take time for something I needed to have done. My doctor never approached me on the subject. I retained my ovaries but have never had the first hot flash and that was 20 years ago. Completely liberating for me.
Have the surgery!
The attacks are terrible and my surgery experience wasn't bad. I will admit I hurt pretty bad for several hours afterwards, but they controlled that before I went home. I didn't even have to take any pain medicine after the day of surgery. The incisions weren't bad at all.
anyone have gum surgery?
Has anyone every had gum surgery for receding gums? I grind my teeth and also pick at them (nervous habit I guess, since my teens, now 37yo) and now at the point where I need at least 2 but probably 3 or 4 teeth (gums) done at the upper molars. Had a consult a year ago and he said I should not wait a year to have it done on the 2 teeth, but guess what...and this is over $1000 each tooth - I believe they called it a frenectomy, where they take skin from the roof of your mouth and reattach it at the gumline. My teeth are actually pretty good altohugh I may have developed a tiny shadow (of decay?) on the exposed roots that I recently noticed. My gums and they are starting to bother me. Trying to decide...Behind on utilites always, work part-time, husband does not rake in the big bucks, don't even own a house so I would rather spend a couple thousand on working towards that.. The problem is that it's half up front and the other half can only be spread out into three monthly payments, so it's kind of steep when put that way. If you had it done how was the recovery from it?? Someone give me some fabulous wisdom I am aiming towards giving my dentist a call this week to schedule a cleaning and then scheduling the procedure in September when the kids go back to school.?????
Surgery
I guess I missed the part about surgery somewhere.....but either way.... you have to do what you feel best for you....regardless of what you have to do to reach your goal....Trust me I am behind you whatever you trying to do regarding the weight factor....if it works for you....it works for me.....just trying to give a moral support....
CTS but no surgery
I had CTS a few years back, went to a neurologist and after doing an EMG, he injected my wrists with steroids. Used a bunny splint for awhile at night but have really not had any problems since. This was probably 10-12 years ago. The EMG and injections hurt, but much better than surgery.
I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
Nausea after surgery.
My mother had surgery for a rectocele three weeks ago. Everything went fine during surgery and she was released from the hospital a few days later. A week after her surgery she started to feel nauseous and the feeling has not gone away since. It was two weeks ago yesterday since this started. She has not vomited but feels like she is going to. She can hardly eat anything except soup and crackers. She saw her doctor last week for a two week check up and he presribed Prilosec and another medication (can't remember the name) but they did not work. She has also tried some over the counter medications suggested by her pharmacist such as Dramamine and Cola syrup and nothing is working. Has anyone had this problem or know of someone who has? I heard that sometimes anesthesia can cause this and it's just a matter of time before it goes away. Would appreciate any suggestions.
Nausea after surgery
I would definitely have your mom rechecked again as well. My friend's mom had her gallbladder removed and was feeling nauseous where she could hardly eat. Her surgeon brushed it off as a postoperative symptomtom. It turned out that her small bowel had dropped into her surgical wound bed and caused a major infection. Poor women had to be opened up again.
Depression after surgery
My Daddy went through the same thing after he had heart surgery. He would not go to a psychiatrist or counselor. We spoke with his primary care physician who put him on Paxil which helped tremendously. Ask your PCP or cardiologist if it would be possible to start him on an antidepressant to see if that may make a diffence.
Good luck and take care.
Personally I'd have the surgery
I know it's a scary situation to be in and a big decision to make but I would do everything I could to take away the doubt that it might some day come back. Of course there are no guarantees but I'd put the odds in my favor.
Thank you so much. I am scheduled for surgery on 2/27. sm
Your post hit it right on the head. When I thought about the possibility that I could develop cancer and have it spread elsewhere in the future, that is what really made my decision for me. I did not want the surgery, but I wanted cancer even less. Although I am aware that cancer can develop anywhere at anytime, I also know that I can prevent this particular kind just knowing the potential risk and preventing it before it can happen.
Thanks so much for the support. It really helps to hear from others who have gone through the same thing. I hope I am as lucky as you after it is done as far as symptoms and feeling good, etc. Thanks again.
husband had this surgery and I have CTS...sm
If after the surgery you or anyone continues the same behavior, work patterns - the CTS can very well return. Ya just gotta know this ahead of time. My ex is a chef, had the surgery bilaterally when married, but still remained a chef...hence, he now has the return of CTS.
I need the surgery too but surgeon friend of mine said a long, long time ago, don't operate on your hands or feet until you really have to, as they will never be the same.
I had some hand surgery 25 years ago for removal of things inside the hands and truly, my hands have never been the same...so I believe it is true. Until I give up this biz, I won't have carpal tunnel releases.
I also have a friend who is a chiropractor and he believes chiropractic helps CTS....I'd try that and/or acupuncture first before I would have the surgery.
just my 3 cents is all.........
My surgery went okay but after about 1 year
You have to be emotionally ready. I gained all but about 20 pounds of my weight back.
...hold off on surgery. nm
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i just had bunion surgery
Anyone have this and how long did it take for you to be able to step on your foot. You ever get back into real shoes?
Thanks!
Anyone who has had LASIK eye surgery
I'm thinking about having it done. I'm nearsighted, in my 30s and have worn glasses regularly since about 24 or 25. My eyesight isn't too bad without them. I generally wear contact lenses and I'm just getting tired of the routine/expense.
So, has anyone out there had LASIK eye surgery and what was your experience? Would you do it again? I'd really appreciate it if you would share the cost of the procedure. My insurance doesn't cover it.
Actually, she didn't have the surgery
She takes hormones to get facial hair and cut her boobs off but she does not have man parts - unless she did have the surgery right after she had the last baby.
She is definitely still 100% woman - not a man by any defintion other than her own.
After I had arthroscopic surgery
The incision in my belly button got infected, but even then there really wasn't an odor. I tried to keep it dry and put neosporin on it. Odd, I think maybe it couldn't hurt to get it looked at. Maybe there is a fungus in there that a cream could treat.
kidney surgery
I am facing kidney surgery in the very near future to cut out a urethral stricture from my single kidney (congenital). My doctor informed me this is a relatively common procedure but that it is not a surgery one can just bounce right back from. I'm just curious if anyone can tell me whether you've had this surgery or know someone who has, and know their recovery rate and prognosis. He also told me there is a 2% to 3% chance this could not take and the surgery might have to be repeated. My doctor told me one month after the surgery I will have to have a second surgery to remove a stent that he will temporarily place. He said I will be in the hospital overnight (for the initial surgery) and then probably won't feel like doing my regular activities for at least two weeks. Thanks for any information.
Oh dear. SD is having surgery Friday. SM
She already has had thyroid cancer with metastatic nodes, which she survived at 18. Very traumatic.
Now I'm nervous, because I was afraid of throat swelling and this surgeon sounds much too cocky.
I'm sure she will be fine. Just worrying. She is very sweet and I think of her as my own daughter.
This is very common for men after this type of surgery....sm
I would see this a lot when I worked for a group of cardiovascular surgeons. Make an appointment for your husband & yourself with his surgeon so that they can first off assure him that this is normal. Some hospitals have post-CABG support groups and if your hospital has this, go as that will help him. Men especially have a hard time post-CABG because the male ego is "I can do anything and won't get sick" and it crushes their ego to have their heart become diseased. Continue to try to get him involved in things without nagging. The doctor may also place him on an antidepressant short-term if they feel it is indicated. Good luck!
Cont: your pe'ts surgery.
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Carpal tunnel surgery
Who has had it? Did it work? I'm dropping things all over the place, never used to be clumsy. Also having tingling in my fingers and tops of my hands - goes away but is intermittent. I do the hand and finger stretches, but the dropping things is getting very bad.
Would love to hear from anyone who has had similar symptoms. Could be my self diagnosis is wrong. TIA
i also work for 2 PS..and it's a difficult surgery
and my plastic surgeons dictate the risks in detail of a brachioplasty and they also have their patients speak with other patients who have had the surgery....I have always wanted to have upper arm lifts but after working for these particular 2 docs (among many others) for 11+ years, I think not!! I would also think a *re-do* would leave even more scars/dents.......
I know the doggie had surgery, went personally
to the animal clinic and talked with the veterinarian and others there, told them to contact me. I would seek out attention for an injured animal whether it comes to my front door or on the street. Heavens only knows if the guy takes the medicine? Druggies might do about anything but I appreciate the information you have passed along. I explained some months ago unable to financially care for the dog anymore - I had things I wanted to do in renovations at my own home- and they would have to take care of it so it has been some months since I last bought the medicine. Having said that, got email here about a week ago and have not answered- she was coming across as ole woe doggie. Well, what about woe me? I told her- I would rather not lose her friendship but I had thought about calling on the dog before the son turned the animal over to his mother. Thanks again!
Gastric bypass surgery~~Anyone out there
Do tell!! The good and the bad!
My daughter was about to have major surgery
2 years ago and the surgeon always made me feel like we were keeping him from something more important. After waiting in the waiting for at least an hour at every appointment, it was discouraging to have him rush in and out in 10 minutes, considering the procedure she was going to have. Anyway, at our last appointment before the surgery, we had a PA who actually spent time with us, explaining the surgery in detail and answering all our questions. I was thrilled.
I have also had my share of not great PAs, but this guy wasn't one of them.
Had lapband surgery on Monday and
To anybody out there that has had or is thinking about having lapband, the first three days are very hard but they get much easier as far as the pain goes. Now, it's a matter of learning what I can and cannot eat.
IMO, it is very much worth the hard work before, during and after the surgery that goes into this whole life changing process. Do not let ANYBODY discourage you if this is the path of weight loss that you choose for yourself.
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