If you are that concerned about a potential love interest
Posted By: you can always do background checks - SM on 2007-02-16
In Reply to: internet love scams - see former post
check out abika.com. There are a million ways to find information on someone - for a price. There is no such thing as protected privacy anymore. Remember, though, saavy suitors can find the same information about your mom in the same way. She doesn't have to know you are doing it either. They have one section where all you need is their screen name from one of maybe 3 or 4 of the major dating sites to start a search.
I don't know the answer about the SS benefits.
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What questions should I ask a potential new PCP's office? sm
We have an HMO, and I really need to stop procrastinating and find a primary care doctor closer to where my husband and I live now. (We've moved about 1-1/2 hours away from where we used to live.)
We rarely have to go to the doctor, but I do take daily prescription medications. We've had our current PCP for about the last 10 years, so it's been a long time since I had to pick a new doctor.
I've narrowed it down to about 5 doctors in the area here and plan to call and ask them some questions before contacting my insurance co. to make the change (which takes a long time to take effect, so it's not something you want to do a bunch of times if you can help it.)
The first thing I'll ask is if they are still taking new patients. (Obviously need to ask them that question!)
After that, I'll ask what their hours are and things like that, but does anyone have any suggestions for me as far as other questions to ask, or any other advice?
TIA, guys. I know you'll have some great ideas and things I might not think of. 
If you have any interest in
plants and gardening, I notice that the nursery where I work utilizes volunteers for certain things. You might see if there are any garden nurseries or arboretums in your area that do the same. The fresh air and outside work is fun when you get to work with plants.
interest-only payment
We'll just be paying "interest only" for the house, so that would be around $2700 monthly. Do you think our combined income would be enough for this? If we don't get approved by a finance institution, someone will co-sign for us to get the house.
I know about the no interest loans
I had 2 - one where I moved from previously and still owned and rented that home out and my present home. We got rid of those as soon as humanly possible- those sound good but the interest soon shoots through the roof- this is why all the repossessions going on now. These are only a stepping stone- not for you to keep for years on- you will lose it all. We did not lose but then again we could afford to play around a little- does not sound like you can and you have your hands full.
Of interest to Pet Lovers
Wanted to share a link for an email from my friend in Australia....
You all piqued my interest so I did some research
I had no idea what a french press was, how it's used, or nothin'. I found this site with a picture narrative and even detail on what kind of a grinder to get. Way to much work for me--I can barely operate my Mr. Coffee correctly, never mind one of these bad boys. For you coffee afficionado's though, this looks incredibly fascinating and delicious!
http://www.coffeegeek.com/guides/presspot
and why do you read posts you have no interest in?
Perhaps no life? Grow up!
isn't the interest on that pretty high?
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I lost interest - read why
I don't know what it was about it. I absolutely loved the show when it first began. Then the next season it got weirder and kept getting more and more weird. One time I was watching it and all of a sudden everyone was old. I couldn't figure out what it was I missed. I understand that Christian is the father of the boy, who married the girl that Christian was having sex with (the sexy model that Christian fixed from some horrible accident she was in). She ended up being a religious wack, they had a baby, were into drugs big time, mother turned lesbian, assistant in OR turned lesbian. Then not Christian but other main character (whose wife turned lesbian) the lesbian wife took off to another state with the daughter and their baby who had a horrible deformity. They had a "small person" caretaker (what he did to add to the story I don't know). The druggee son who had a gay relationship became a doctor? Whoooo-boy, I just got too confused that I lost interest. It reminded me of how I feel when I watch the show "Lost" - lost. I do like all the actors and actresses though. Have seen them in other shows/movies. They are good but I just don't understand the story anymore.
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Point of interest-use older eggs for hardboiled,
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Pay off highest interest rate debt first, then the next, and onto the next. The house can wait. Do
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Negotiate lower interest rates on your credit cards
It’s worth a shot, and some credit card companies might do it if you’ve been a faithful customer or you threaten to balance transfer to another card.Buy a texting plan for your cell phone. Texting has become unbelievably popular. I have no idea why, because it seems like a pain in the butt, but it’s typically 15 cents for every message you send and receive. This adds up, so better off paying $5 to $10 a month for the add-on plan if you’re addicted to texting.
As far as I am concerned, that was the
She was a terrible mother, a drug addict and general white trash who screwed her way into some money and fame. I think that putting her son on that reality show was akin to abuse and the daughter might now have a chance at a normal life, money or no. Everyone on the news is acting like she was Mother Theresa, when in truth she made all of her own problems and problems for everyone around her. I have no sympathy for anyone involved, but do hope the best for her daughter. As far as those 2 screwballs who claim to be the father, they both probably see $$$ signs. The baby should go to an actual normal and loving home to be raised as a normal child! I am sick of hearing what a great gal she was, because she was not and her being dead does not change that!
Very concerned about you....sm
There is nothing "cool" about an eating disorder! You may want to lose weight, but that is not the way to go nor would it get you the attention you want. I think you definitely need to seek some help. Why don't you talk with your family doctor to start.
I think she is concerned because she is trying to get - sm
pregnant, and if her periods are irregular it will make that much more difficult.
No one will ever by more concerned about your/your
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If you are really concerned,
which I would certainly be, you could call Patient Relations at the hospital and set up a meeting to discuss things. That is a huge mistake and according to HIPAA I would think it should be reported and documented, not necessarily by you but the staff. It's not as if you are trying to get someone "in trouble" but you could tell them you are concerned and want to make sure the opposite doesn't happen. What if someone would have authorized comfort measures for your father instead of real treatment? That is potentially a very serious matter that I think the hospital would want to know about, if they don't already.
And I don’t consider you concerned....
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Should I be concerned sm
My 9 y/o son tells me that a boy on his bus (we'll call him Joe) who my son doesn't like him because of picking on kids i think, had been suspended from school for pulling a knife on someone. This boy is in the 5th grade. I asked the bus driver about this and she said yes he did do this but "Joe" wasn't the instigator it was the other boy who said to "Joe" that he was going to kill him and I don't know what else this other boy said. So this other boy was suspended for the rest of the school year. Now, should I be concerned that the school didn't let us know anything about this incident, or am I overreacting? I don't know the whole story, but this "Joe" rides the bus with my kids and supposedly pulls a knife on someone. That worries me. So I just don't know if I should say something or not. I'm glad the school suspended the boy for the rest of the school year. It's just kind of scary, this is elementary we are talking about and it's K through 6th grade. The bus drive said they are supposed to be "hush hush" about it. Obviously it got out somehow because my son told me about it.
Thanks for listening and any input you might have.
If you are concerned about not seeing GC
look into grandparent's rights now. Lawyers do not have to cost a lot of money either. Search for legal aid and your county online. From what I understand GP rights are pretty cut and dry, usually 1 weekend a month, and your son's visitation has nothing to do with your rights as a GP.
I'm more concerned about
the bussing issue and the younger kids being exposed to the older kids. My kids have learned so much. I'm not saying they don't watch TV, but I monitor what they're watching. My kids watch primarily Disney and Nick. My younger ones certainly didn't know about sex until they changed the bussing issue.
While childcare is an issue for a lot of other parents, fortunately for me I work from home. I actually don't mind sleeping in an extra hour or 2. My concern in this regard is the fact that they're tacking on all these extra days at the end of the year when it's hot and we don't have central air for these kids. I know that we didn't have A/C when I was a kid, but the weather has changed a lot since then. We actually had to dismiss early last year because of the heat.
I really think that this superintendent has too much power and is making changes that the parents are not in agreement with. I know there is a school board election, but I don't know much more, like when the elections are, etc. What's the timeline for school board members, i.e. how long do they sit and when are they elected? Do they have to be re-elected or do they get to stay on until they decide to leave? Is there a parent advocate to help mediate some of these situations? I don't usually get too involved in the small-town politics, but I think it might be time to at least go to the meetings and see what's going on. I don't want to wait until it's too late and then sit back and complain because I didn't do anything.
Thanks for responding!
I would be concerned but
I have stayed there numerous times in the past and never had a problem. They have an emergency number to call if there is a problem but I've never had a problem. The only reason I am concerned now is because my fiance is concerned - he's never been and thinks it must be a dump if they don't have a 24-hour desk clerk. I have always found it to be clean and well maintained. It is a small, family owned hotel, the price is excellent but there are drawbacks - no 24 hour desk clerk being one of them. To me it is worth it, but I'm not sure the fiance is going to think so. I hope this vacation doesn't cause us problems. He left the planning to me and was quite happy when I told him the price of the room.
I'm only miserable as far as he is concerned....sm
because he is drunk 99% of the time I get to see him. It's a Merry go round we can't seem to get off. Every day ends for me with a drunk SOB picking a fight and every morning starts for him with me being PO'd at him for whatever he did the night before. The rest of my life is actually great. I have great kids, a career I love, lots of family. There's potential for wonderful life for me and the kids if I could just remove the daily alcoholic part.
Trust me, I've supported DH for 15 years. Took him to marriage counselors, begged, pleaded, tried to be understanding. This last year we risked our financial well-being to support his dream. His end of the deal was he'd have something to work for and wouldn't drink anymore. He's still drinking, and we're still waiting to see the outcome of his dream. Luckily, he and his partner just refinanced under the new corporation and we are able to pay back all the personal funds he borrowed. I've tried it all. Give him some time to go out with the guys, do activities he wants, take the vacations he wants. Doesn't matter how much I support him. DH is a taker, and he will continue to take until I literally have no more to give financially, emotionally, or physically.
It's high time I lead by example and teach my pre-teen daughters that women deserve respect, honesty, common courtesy, and contributions from their partner that contribute to their well being and well being of their family. My biggest fear is my daughter's are just going to repeat the cycle because it is all they have ever known. I am totally at peace with the fact that I have done all I can to support my husband and help him overcome his addiction. Bottom line, can't help those that don't want to help themselves, and I will not sacrifice my children to keep trying.
Oh, I would suppose they would not be concerned but
if they had a touch of this (if this is what is going on with me) the pain is almost unbearable. I did take 1000 mg of ibuprofen yesterday along with Hydrocodone, nothing helped, in agony really. I am thinking possibly my fibromyalgia has converted over to this now. I could not get in to see my physician today- know if this is what is going on not life threatening- only can cause so much horrific pain hard to make it through a day. I hear sitting exacerbates- great for a transcriptionist, huh?
It's not the noise I'd be concerned about
Is she wearing a helmet that fits? There are daily accidents with children on ATVs. I'm sure she's probably not going fast, but an accident can happen even at 5 mph. If she should happen to flip the ATV, which can happen on an incline at any speed, your daughter could be killed. I don't mean to sound so grim, but it's something to be aware of.
We have an ATV. My 3 boys do ride with their dad and do wear helmets, but it's something I wish I'd never allowed to start. Every time they get on, I feel like I have to hold my breath until they're off.
You're more concerned about how much it cost
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But you are more concerned about her feelings than the life of your cats
Sounds like you care more for her dog and her feelings than your cats. Sorry if your feelings are hurt for people getting upset with you but that is a lot less than what your cats felt. There is no suggestion you can give her as it is apparent that she will not take them. Plain and simple -- it will not stop and if you get more cats you are asking for it. So either accept the situation as it and beware that it may next be you or your child or your dog or do something about and that is getting rid of the dog or keeping it in a fenced situation.
Because it seems as though you are more concerned about her feelings than the life of an animal
Since you no longer have any cats there should be no problem until they attack a member of your family and then we can go through all of this again. Why are her dogs more important than your cats -- because she treats them like children -- come on get realistic. Not only were your cats providing a service for your family they were older and had been there longer and deserve better treatment and loyality than what you are giving them. Again, since you no longer have cats and do not expect to get any more why do you need any solutions until these dogs do it to someone elses animals that will take action against them or your SIL. And putting them in a 8 x 12 foot run is not that bad -- lots better then letting then "run at large". Again I am just going by what your attitude --not much concern about the death of two cats but really concerned about hurting someone's feelings. Good luck.
I'm concerned that you were typing & weren't watching your 6 yr old.
Glad to hear that it was not a spider bite. I was concerned
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I'm so happy it wasn't spider bite. Been concerned about you.
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I'm getting concerned. I've had a muscle spasm under my left eye
At first it was just an annoyance even though it was constant, now it's really worrying me because it does it non stop. Any thoughts? Thanks
Write an anonymous letter. Type it up if you are that concerned, although I sm
am a big fan of minding my own business. You need to talk to her first instead of about her like this. Tell her your concerns. Be real and up front. Say, I don't respect you for this because you seem to be able to do such and such and I should turn you in. Don't be scared to do this. But if you are afraid, then write a letter since you say you know the insurance person and secretary.
I'm so concerned. Last night around 3 in the morning I rolled over in bed and felt so dizzy. sm
Fell back asleep, didn't think much about it. A little bit lethargic today. Took a nap after a long day (mom of 3 kids - 33 year old) and when I was in bed it happened again (severe vertigo) whenever I rolled my head from side to side.
Woke up nauseated. Didn't throw up. I don't feel weak anywhere. Just dizzy. Looked it up. Sounds like BPPV or Meniere's disease? I have no idea! I have to be healthy for my boys and myself! I have NEVER had ear problems in my life. I've never even had an ear infection before. This is so strange and concerning to me. I can't see doc until some time this week. Does anyone have vertigo, sudden onset, who can share a little with me? Help. 
I think they start to become concerned when femur length is two standard deviations below normal
which equals about 5 weeks or 6 weeks behind in length. And you said you were told something like 2 or 3 weeks behind. I wouldn't worry. You may just be having a small baby who may be a short person or maybe your dates are a little off. There are so many variables in pregnancy.
Both my kids measured below the standard for femur length on ultrasound (about 2 weeks behind), but I'm 5 feet 2 inches and my ex-husband is 5 feet 4 inches, so my kids weren't going to be big. My son always measured in the 5th percentile and was always of the smallest kid in his class. Now at age 14, he's taller than his dad and is probably going to reach about 5 feet 9 inches! My daughter is still in kindergarten and she is the smallest in her class and measures in the 5th percentile. I've had doctors say things like "we need to watch his/her growth closely" blah, blah, blah. I'm little, my ex is little, and consequently, my kids were little.
Best advice, DON'T WORRY! When you're pregnant there's a tendency to worry about every little thing! I would suggest talking to the genetics doctor and going from there. Do your own research and have questions ready when you go.
Good Luck!
Anyone else going to Cancun for Spring Break and concerned about current safety concerns
We're all set to go to Cancun for Spring Break and then we hear all of this on the news about people being careful in Mexico because of the drug cartel activities and killings etc. Does this even involve Cancun or is it just the border places. The Spring Breakers are being warned about going so it makes me wonder if it is just the borders as most Spring Breakers do not go to the border towns. Does anyone have anymore information. I have a good friend who met her husband in Mexico, has crossed the borders etc and she said going to Mexico isnt worth risking your life because they hate Americans. Yikes.. I don't know whether to go or not or if I'm just being paranoid now.
I LOVE love love shallots! I use them in everything that calls for an onion and/or garlic. Mmmmmm. n
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Give 'em a swish in the sink. If concerned about color running, try with 1 stem or leaf first. Or
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American Idol - Love, love, love Adam!!!
I think he'll make it til the end! At least I hope so!
My niece had a Yorkie, the love of her life! We all loved her so. Lots of love in store for you.
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Love movie "A Christmas Story" when dogs eat the turkey and they go out for Chinese. We love d
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She's sweet. I think she's gorgeous. Love her hair. Love her sm
smile. I wish I looked that great! I don't even come close, so who am I do judge? I admire beauty greatly in other women...I envy them!
sweet....love the heart charm, he's got love.
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God bless you on your path, all love begins with self-love, so you are really on your way.....sm
We should have less time putting needless labels on things, paying attention to dividing lines, and pratice more love, understanding, and humiility....we will all have things to answer for, no one is perfect, but I believe we are all precious and loved by the Lord, who knows all hearts, and has infinitely more compassion and mercy than ANY of us can comprehend. Be happy and take care of yourself, sexuality is such a small part of who we are in this world, but you have to be happy and at peace.
I love the animal channel, really love it and
my sweetie and I both watch but I absolutely, even if I know nature and the balance of, want to see small animals being killed and eaten and so forth. I know it happens but I either change the station or pick up the paper and read or find another way so I don’t watch. Also watch Discovery, love animals and love those shows!
I love you! hahaha I love your response! You can come over here sm
and kick my butt the next time I "allow" my husband to make me feel crap for whatever reason - which there seems to be many - he wouldn't complain if I made more money than him because his lazy behind wants to stay home and do nothing all day except to play golf. He tells me all the time, "when are you going to own your MT business so I can golf all day."
But, he is very mean, also. He hurts my feelings constantly and doesn't even care. He makes me drive around in his truck with bald tires and I don't like doing that for fear of a blow out and he'll just tell me, "well, don't go anywhere then." We have the money in the bank to get new tires, but he won't get them.
I love your comment, though!
And for all of you who will say, "well, leave the jerk!" It isn't that easy. We have 3 boys and I would be homeless. I only make 300 every 2 weeks MTing. We have a lovely home with a lot of space and besides him living here, the kids and I LOVE it and love each other so much.
Well, I LOVE a challenge too, Would love to debate this one day with you! sm
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Seriously, I was a staunch atheist for 20+ years. It's funny, though. I, too, believe that we are all electrical energies and that energy doesn't "die" and so, theoretically, where does your "electricity" go when you die, i.e., your spirit? I believe that "energy" within us is our spirit life - and that must go somewhere, right? It doesn't just go into the groun - which is what I thought for so long.
Anyways, when I learned about our "energy" and how it must go somewhere, I was really testing the waters of Christianity up to that point. After hearing about that, I was convinced that there must be an afterlife. I believe we go either of 2 places.
Anyways, I love ALL people of all religions, regardless of what I "think" or "believe." I don't think any less of you because of your beliefs! If I were to believe in a God who forgave me and loved me in my mut and mire, who am I to judge and criticize those who think differently of me?
I've always liked you no matter what your philosophy on life was....
Love people who love dogs.
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I love the dressing and I love lemon pie..sm
My mom's lemon pie that is. I also love this dessert called Texas Delight or some people call it different things but is is layers of chocolate pudding and cream cheese and whipped cream. The food is my favorite part besides the watching my son open presents on x-mas.
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