If you're not proud of something you did, definitely don't tell them.
Posted By: SM on 2008-01-30
In Reply to: How much do you tell your kids about your youth? - trose
Unless it may help to teach them a lesson about something. I believed what I was told, that my mother was a virgin until she married, LOL, and NEVER got drunk and was a wonderful student and it goes on. I am very grateful that she was most likely not completely honest about a lot of things as it probably helped me to be a better person and also respect her more as a person. These are your children, they are not your friends or your siblings. There are certain things you do not share with your children.
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Been there, done that...not proud of it
I have faced a situation like this myself. It was wonderful when it all started. Innocent. He told me everything I wanted to hear, and I am sure it was the same for him. No sexual encounters, however, we got caught. Emails were found. It has been 3-1/2 years since it all went down and I am still struggling to regain the trust my husband once had in me. It definitely was not worth it. A large part of the fun was sneaking and hiding, makes you feel young again. You are going to do what you want to do, no matter what others say. You are going to lose everything you have worked for in your life...for a man who broke your heart so many years ago.
you are welcome; be proud of him
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Proud of that
post. My judgment with you was correct. You are the type we are encouraged to find here on this board. This is for camaraderie and to connect. We have done that. Good for us! Keep em' comin'. They'll get tired of us and bug the neighbors or something.
Way to go Son!!!! Know how proud you and he must be. nm
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Very proud as is he
He even wore his medal and ribbons to school today to show all his friends. :-)
If you did the best you can I am proud of you
Grandpa told me that when helping with homework and tests.
Very proud of you...
and glad you came around and saw how it can hurt the little ones. It's not easy, but sometimes we do just have to keep our mouths shut.
You are not too proud and this is sm
One: You should be proud of what you have done for animals. We are stewards of animals. Some of us take this to the ultimate and become vegans so as not exploit animals. Others give money. Others open their homes to many pets. Others help out in shelters. Without any judgment of what is best...ANIMALS NEED ALL THAT HELP. You are part of that help.
Two: Being "proud" about this would indicate you are doing it for some sort of personal gain. Personal gain would not include, to my mind, being remembered publicly for doing good. When this takes place, and your will is enacted, you won't be here anymore, but your legacy and care will be. Why not have the recognition and encourage others to do as you have done? NOTHING wrong with it at all.
BRAVO for doing something so generous and kind.
Congrats... you should be proud
of her and of yourselves for helping her as much as you could. I did the same thing with my DIL, looked at it as an longterm invest in my grandchild's future, the sacrifice of all of you is definitely worth it. I was as proud as any mom when she passed her boards for LPN. My DIL is back in school for her R.N. now, so we continue to help with the babysitting, etc. Wouldn't trade the time with my 2 year-old grandson for anything, even though most days I feel really OLD by the time his daddy picks him up each night. Congrats again to her!
Just show them. Be proud of what you have.
That's my opinion, anyway. :) Don't be worried about how you look to others; most of them are probably all in a tizzy about what others think about them, too, and you don't really care what they look like, right?
I would think that your aunt would be proud that
a man who was not a child's biological father would take her, love her and raise as his child, grieve when passes away and refers to her as his daughter. My sister and brother-in-law married when my sister's youngest child was 18 months old. That child is now almost 20 and refers to him as "Dad." Her biological father is alive but the relationship is strained because she had a child out of wedlock. The stepfather, however, loves the child that she had and refers to him as his grandson. 
I was so proud of my 14yr old
when I told her Paris was out of jail. She just said "So!" I hope she always feels that way.
The proud hunter! :-D
Takes a lot of work to bag a wabbit! So cute!
....tell him you are proud of his talents
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You have every reason to be proud of yourself - sm
Have your name printed for all to see. It is a wonderful thing that you are doing. So many animals, so much need, and your generosity is going to be not only helpful but so appreciated. I applaud you.
Congratulations -- You should be very proud of yourself
for being able to accomplish that.
let's just say that's one more reason i'm proud
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You should definitely feel proud....and sm
you can also stay close. I know it must be the hardest thing ever to do. My daughter is almost 9 and I am already dreading the day she will move out. We are very close like you and yours. But I have many adult friends who call and talk to their mother every single day and stay very close to them. You can be one of those too. I know it has to be hard, but you should be so proud that you raised her to be such a courageous and strong young woman. She is this way because of the strong foundation and sense of security that you have given her. Good job Mom! And your job as her mom will never be over. We always need our moms no matter how old we get or how far away we are. I think sons sometimes become more distant but daughters who are close to their moms usually stay that way.
Diverse and proud.
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How proud her parents must be to have such a pathetic...
loser for a child. However, from what I have read about her parents, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree! I am always amazed when those afforded all the advantages of life at such an early age choose to spiral downward so quickly and frequently. I am so glad my own daughters are grown; with the group of young celebutards that are out there as role models for girls today, its no wonder teenage girls (and a lot of preteens) that I see today look and act so trampy!
I'm impressed with bravery of so many. Really proud to be
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I'd stay away...I'm not too proud to "lose!"
You are responsible to you and your kids. Your kids count on you to protect them from your anal chocolate stepdad. Your mother and brother are adults; they can arrange to see you all on different terms, like in your own town without the stepdad.
This long of a drive will be no good of a trip for anyone when your kids can be expected to be yelled at for being kids and you have to pick up the pieces. I vote it's not worth it.
Proud mommy moment
My oldest son was in the Special Olympics today and came in first in cross-country skiing and snowshoeing :-) I think the whole Special Olympics is awesome! 
Great news, and you must be SO proud!! NM
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Yes, big Texas accent & proud of it.
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What a good story! You must be very proud.
He's a good writer for so young. Hope he keeps it up!
Fellow workers, you are gonna be proud of me!
I just sent email to a national morning program, has a guy and girl on there. I was watching the other morning, a wife and son on explaining about how her husband suffered extensively with pain, unable to get medications because, you know, some call it drug seeking? Well, come to find out through son being tested, this father had some sort of syndrome (sorry, do not remember the name) and finally died having suffered for years, unable to live a decent life, bedridden. On the panel was the wife, son, a physician and another person The wife started to say something and was cut off immediately but the lady host saying "Well, are you a physician?" The wife said no and the host said "Well, let the doctor speak then." I wrote this host this morning to let her know IF she worked in the field she would know physicians make plenty of mistakes- we clean them up all the time, right? I said people who do not know tend to hold physicians up as gods but if you worked in this field you would certainly know better. I tried to get Megace for hubby 1 time because not eating, lost appetite, starving actually and was told by physician would not help. I switched doctors, got the prescription and hubby regained appetite. Having typed on that for aid in TB patients as well as human immunovirus patients in regaining appetites, I knew better. I feel a whole lot better about myself right now!!
Not proud of this one - Mike Tyson was a few years behind me in HS
I agree this war is a joke, and I would not be proud of my kid being a part of it.
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I am on foodstamps, not proud, but without my kids would starve
My husband is a plumber and I a MT. There is no work for him and he has even tried our local Wendys and that was low for him. We have 3 kids, all before this mess started. I had to crawl my prideful butt to human resources and get help for my family. It is just food stamps, but I am so glad for them. We would literally starve right now without them. It makes us feel human to have warm food. Maybe that family had the majority of their kids before their situation now. Maybe all her kids are just accidents. The wonderful GOVERNMENT would rather pay to have the children then to pay for birth control or tubal ligation. Who knows. Don't be so harsh!!!! Have you never needed help? Maybe those people need help whether mental, medical, or maybe they need help to get into a situation to get out of government help.
i'm proud of my worn-off letters -- confuses intruders
i've purchased many keyboards in my day (as have we all), and i just love it when folks come over and see my E, S, T and R are missing, if not more. when you get a new keyboard and read the box, believe it or not, they are listed as having a life-expectancy of 10 million Keystrokes -- doesn't take us long to burn thru that! right now, i've been using this microsoft ergonomic and all letters still in place (bummer). however, microsoft had some nerve moving the keys all around like they did --- just crazy to my fingers....
My lab/great dane mix is Walter- loves to sit proud and tall in my jeep with the top down and put hi
nm
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
you're welcome. nm
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I see what you're saying...but
heaven forbid, they break up and one of them dies, wouldn't you want the same thing. If she were to die, wouldn't she want her husband to have the same choice she is wanting??? I guess I'm just concerned with pushing this on the husband and he doesn't want to do it. I hope it all works out though. This is a hard decision to make.
You're welcome!
I hope you can come up with something, I've "been there and done that".
Should be you're not, not your not
and actually in the minority as I do work a full 8 hour day, no chasing after kids, walking the dogs, doing housework so you got it exactly right, in the minority as opposed to a lot I read about on here.
Aww, sorry you're going through that...sm
My husband can get into moods also, but I honestly won't allow him to talk to me like that. In every relationship I've ever been in, I wouldn't allow it. In the beginning when I was pregnant with our second child, I wrote him a long letter telling him I needed more help and would not accept anything less. I was so stressed out with working at home and taking care of a 2-year-old and being pregnant. That was it! Ever since then, I swear he does more than me! If he talks to me in a certain way, I demand an apology and I get it, not always right then, but a little later. He knows I won't take it. We've been together for 15 years now, and that is a big thing in keeping us strong. He doesn't take my crap, either:-) He's still my best friend so it's worth it to make it work. Stand up to him and make him respect you! I say that with much care.
Because you're mom, LOL.
Moms just know these things.
We're all in this together ...
I think. It's always reassuring for me to know that other people are dealing with the same stuff I am.
She was furious when she found out I had gone through her purse, but too bad. You live in my house, you live by my rules, sweetheart.
Another thing that gets me is where she was getting the stinkin' things anyway. She works in a restaurant where her coworkers smoke but I hope they would know better to get them for a minor. As far as I know, she hasn't started up again.
you're welcome--sm
a lot of physicians are almost insistent on someone taking the synthroid, and it makes me wonder how much stock they have purchased with the manufacturer. They always try to say we don't need the T3 that is included in the Armour, but I know I feel a whole lot better with taking it. I didn't even know I had a thyroid problem until I went to a doc with flu like symptoms and wanting to sleep 14 hours a day. I saw a doc from India in an urgent care clinic, who I had never seen before. I was hardly in the door yet and he said *how long have you had that goiter?* I was stunned. I had seen so many doc's in between and none of them ever picked up on this. I was on synthroid for five years, and never really felt much difference. I read up on thyroid problems from all sorts of web sites and decided to try the armour. Unfortunately my doc at that time would not prescribe it for me. HE did not believe it in. *hmmmm*. I had to go to an endocrinologist, as well, and still had to BEG to try it. He reluctantly gave it to me and it took a while to get it up to the level that would even out my TSH levels, but I am now at 120 mg and seem to be holding. I do feel better, but as I said earlier, I still battle with weight loss/gain. but every body is different. stick to your guns, get what you want, and check back in three months or so and let me know how you are feeling/doing. email me if you wish.
If that's what they're doing ...
it's fine with me. I thought it was interesting, but different that we suddenly focused on 2 characters I didn't remember. But there they were in scenes from the past that I did remember, LOL.
No, we're not out there saying come on
But by nature cats do roam. We have a big field in our back yard and he only goes out early in the morning and goes through the brush. He comes up on them when they fly up and he will jump straight up after them. I have gotten many away from him simply because the first thing he does is bring them to the back door, but when he meows to be let in, they fly away. My husband and I certainly aren't thrilled about it, especially during the springtime, but cats do go after birds and the big old hawks flying around our house could easily scoop up our tiny little female kitty, and I suppose that would make it even?
You're right
Trying to leave while he is there, especially in the middle of an argument, is a gesture, not a serious attempt at leaving. All it does is make him angry and more vigilant.
And you're right that even the best organization can't guarantee complete safety. But they can offer shelter, advice, compassion, and some safety. It's better than trying to do it on your own.
I'm sorry if you have been in this situation before. No one should have to go through that. But unfortunately, many, many women do, every day.
Maybe you're right about his
tummy hurting. You can give dogs Pepcid; ask if you can give something like that to your cat to try.
Are you aware of any weird low-cal foods your cats like? Like cooked vegetables? If so, maybe that would help. Or offer grass to chew in the house.
I'd go to one of those holistic places and see if they have suggestions. They might even have aromatherapy for cats, HA!
I agree it's hard to correct a cat's bratty behavior. Next time consider a dog, LOL.
Tell us what they're about, or if there's another
author you could compare them too. Are they romances, mysteries, stories about moms or what?
you're welcome............sm
there's a lot to them to explain and I will supply one of 1000s of links...but to me it's like a person is damned if they do, damned if they don't living with one of these types....
here's the link :)
http://www.ptypes.com/passive-aggpd.html
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